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Personal responsibility in Christian preaching emphasizes the individual's duty to make choices that align with God's will, highlighting that spiritual growth depends on one's own decisions and actions (Galatians 6:5). Illustrations often use the metaphor of making a move in a game or taking a step forward, underscoring that others can guide but not decide for us.

Someone Else's Fault

2 Samuel 12:13

Years ago there was a cowboy hero - and a young boy who thought he was a big deal. The boy was me. And my parents bought me this plate with my hero's picture on it - and an inscription that said, “That-a boy! You cleaned your plate.” I wanted his approval. So I just kept cleaning my plate ... and filling it so I could clean it again. By the time I was in high school, I was 210 pounds. And whose fault was it that I was so heavy? I've told many people - it was the fault of my cowboy hero, of course. At least, I wish I could have blamed him.

I'm Ron Hutchcraft, and I want to have A Word With You today about “Someone Else's Fault.”

I've always been joking when I blamed my “clean your plate” hero for my teenage weight problems. But it's no joke that blaming someone else is, for most of us, one of our favorite ways to account for something in our life that shouldn't be there - whether it's a bad attitude, a bad habit, a bad situation, a bad relationship.

This attempt to dodge the responsibility for our actions is nothing new. Centuries ago, the prophet Nathan was sent by God to confront King David with his sins of adultery and conspiracy to commit murder. David had slept with Bathsheba, the wife of one of his most loyal soldiers, and then arranged for that man's death in battle. When David learned that Bathsheba was pregnant, well, he knew that he had a serious problem on his hands and he tried to cover it up. But Nathan approached David with the parable of a rich man who had owned many sheep and a poor man who owned one little lamb. When the poor man came for dinner at the rich man's house, the rich man killed the poor man's one little lamb for dinner. Well, David was enraged at this rich man's outrageous crime - and he angrily said, “The man who did this deserves to die!”

Then Nathan said these four chilling words to the king - “You are the man!” And in 2 Samuel 12:13, our word for today from the Word of God, “David said to Nathan, 'I have sinned against the Lord.'“ That moment of painful honesty was the beginning of David's deep repentance and the restoration of his shattered relationship with God. It took a while, but David finally accepted the responsibility for what he had done. And the healing began that moment.

That's how it will begin for someone who's listening right now. As you look at that bad situation, the mess, the problems, you have two choices: blame someone else or accept your part of the responsibility ... for that broken or strained relationship, for the negativity, for the conflict, the mess, or the trouble. Many of us hide from taking responsibility for our situation with a “victim” copout.

Maybe you've honestly been hurt or wronged. You can't do anything about the other person taking responsibility for what they've done. But you can accept the responsibility for the way you've handled it, for the wrong things you may have tried to excuse by the wrong things someone else did. Those who have been victims - and those who've been victimizers - never get free until they realize that they are now the victims of their own choices, not someone else's.

There is an old spiritual that goes something like this, “Not my brother, not my sister, but it's me, O Lord, standing in the need of prayer.” That's a great place to start - looking in the mirror, asking, “Lord, what do I need to change?” Taking responsibility - that's the price of healing ... it's the price of greatness.

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Copyright © Ron Hutchcraft Ministries, Inc., PO Box 400, Harrison, AR 72602. Used by permission. Written by Ron Hutchcraft. "Practical Answers to Real Life Issues"

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from A Word With You by Ron Hutchcraft #4191 · Ron Hutchcraft via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database personal responsibility

Big Macs and Big Money: Making the World Safe For Poor Nutrition

A young woman I'll call Susie Smith has a weight problem: She's five feet, six inches and weighs 270 pounds. Why does she weigh twice her healthy weight? Genetics? Poor nutrition? Lack of exercise?

No! McDonald's. Smith claims that she is obese because “her regular diet included an Egg McMuffin for breakfast and a Big Mac meal for dinner.” And that is why she and other overweight people are suing McDonald's.

Their complaint may sound ridiculous, but it points to a serious problem: the increasing amorality of the law.

Chris Rangel, a physician who also runs a website devoted to medicine and public policy, doubts Smith's description of her eating habits. He writes, “There is just no physical way for [her] to reach ... 270 pounds ... by eating an Egg McMuffin for breakfast and a Big Mac for dinner.” Basic nutritional guidelines lead Rangel to estimate that Smith is probably consuming close to three times the calories she alleges in her complaint.

But even if Rangel is right, it won't matter -- at least not in today's courts. Historically, even if you assumed that fast food like McDonalds' caused obesity, plaintiffs like Smith could get nothing in court. That's because of legal doctrines known as assumption of risk and contributory negligence. If a plaintiff knew the risks and acted anyway, or if she, through her own negligence, contributed to her injuries, she was barred from recovering damages.

For many years these doctrines allowed tobacco companies to prevail in court. Everyone who smoked after 1964 when warnings appeared on packs of cigarettes knew the dangers and risks associated with smoking. This changed, however, when lawyers went outside the Anglo-American legal tradition and borrowed a concept from our therapeutic culture: addiction.

John Banzhaf, who played a key role in tobacco litigation, told USA TODAY that the concept of addiction was “a breakthrough” that led to their success in court. Portraying plaintiffs as addicts allowed juries to disregard questions of individual self-control and assumption of risk. Instead, they held the corporations responsible.

What's more, the concept of “addiction” is so elastic that it can cover almost any activity we find pleasurable. Thus, it was only a matter of time before it was applied to other areas where defendants have deep pockets -- like the food industry. In January, a federal judge dismissed the original lawsuit against McDonald's. However, he carefully explained why and then gave the plaintiffs thirty days to amend their complaints, which they did.

Even if the case is dismissed again, it is probably only a matter of time before someone gets to trial. Fast-food companies stand to become the Big Tobacco of the new millennium.

While this may please Banzhaf and the woman we call “Susie Smith,” it should concern the rest of us. Our confidence in the law stems, in large measure, from the belief that law is about justice and is grounded in objective morality. Because of this, we know what is expected of us, and, just as important, we know when we have fallen short.

But when slippery ideas like “addiction” overrule common sense and prudence, confidence and certainty erode and, with them, confidence in the rule of law itself.

FURTHER READING AND INFORMATION

Jonathan Wald, “Lawyers revise obesity lawsuit against McDonald's,” CNN, 21 February 2003. http://www.cnn.com/2003/LAW/02/21/obesity.lawsuit/

Chris Rangel, “The attack on the Big Mac is back!”, blog posted on February 23, 2003. http://rangelmd.com/2003_02_01_archive.html#90363693

Sally Satel, “Fast food 'addiction' feeds only lawyers,” USA TODAY, 11 March 2003. http://www.usatoday.com/news/opinion/editorials/2003-03-11-satel_x.htm

Bruce Horovitz, “Obesity suit against McDonald's dismissed,” USA TODAY, 22 January 2003. http://www.usatoday.com/money/industries/food/2003-01-22-mcdonalds-lawsuit_x.htm

“McDonald's targeted in obesity lawsuit,” BBC NEWS, 22 November 2002. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/americas/2502431.stm

Julia Sommerfeld, “Fat suits: Who's to blame for flab?”, MSNBC, 2 August 2002. http://www.msnbc.com/news/788799.asp

Bruce Bartlett, “Targeting 'Big Food,'“ National Center for Policy Analysis, 3 April 2002. http://www.ncpa.org/edo/bb/2002/bb040302.html

Visit Overlawyered.com's page titled “What happened to personal responsibility?” for more commentary and links on frivolous lawsuits. http://overlawyered.com/topics/responsib.html

Roberto Rivera, “Beyond Freedom and Dignity: Under the Arches,” BREAKPOINT ONLINE, 15 August 2002. http://www.breakpoint.org/Breakpoint/ChannelRoot/ColumnsGroup/RobertoRivera/Beyond+Freedom+and+Dignity.htm

BreakPoint Commentary No. 020822, “'It's Not My Fault': A Nation of Victims.” http://www.breakpoint.org/Breakpoint/ChannelRoot/FeaturesGroup/BreakPointCommentaries/Its+Not+My+Fault.htm

J. Budziszewski, WRITTEN ON THE HEART: THE CASE FOR NATURAL LAW (InterVarsity, 1997).

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Copyright (c) 2003 Prison Fellowship Ministries. Reprinted with permission. "BreakPoint with Chuck Colson" is a radio ministry of Prison Fellowship Ministries.

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from BreakPoint Commentary · Charles Colson via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database personal responsibility

The Answer In the Mirror

Proverbs 16:2

No, no, our “word for today” is not from a cartoon - but I do occasionally see something enlightening in a little comic strip called “Family Circus.” For example, there was this one where the house is a total disaster - and Mom walks in. The look on her face tells you that Mt. Vesuvius is about to blow. She has one and only one question - “Who did this?” Well, Dad and the children are all innocent, of course. Apparently, the house must have just exploded and made itself a mess. But when Mom presses the question for who should be held responsible, one of the kids cleverly replies: “It was the ghost of 'not me'!”

I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about “The Answer in the Mirror.”

That ghost of “not me” really gets around. There are a lot of folks who see almost every problem, every conflict, every mistake that way. Whoever is at fault, it certainly isn't me! Sadly, those folks continue to be the common denominator in one problem after another because they simply cannot see, or admit, their blame for anything. That's what destroys marriages, and children, and friendships, working relationships, churches - you name it. Mature people, on the other hand, are those who can look in the mirror and honestly see their part of the blame.

Our word for today from the Word of God - Proverbs 16:2 - provides this insight: “All a man's ways seem innocent to him...” Man, that is so true! “They did it! They caused the problem. I'm a victim! It's their fault.” Never me. Always them. We have this amazing - and perverted - ability to see ourselves as usually being in the right, of bearing little or no blame for the problem, of seeing our own complete innocence and someone else's complete guilt. If you are to any degree like that, I can almost guarantee you are leaving behind you your own personal “trail of tears.”

That verse in Proverbs 16 says, “All a man's ways seem” - notice - “seem” - “innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the Lord.” See, when God looks at the situation, He sees what's really going on inside us and holding us responsible for the part that we have done wrong. I'm happy to repent for other people's sins. I need to be quick to repent of my sins.

Sadly, those who tend to see the fault as being in the other person find themselves trapped in a repetitious cycle of friction, unhappiness, self-pity, negativity, destructive talk, anger, hurt, and a constant state of what I call “un-peace.” It's a lousy way to live. You live that way until you finally see the trail of brokenness behind you and you realize that you were a common denominator in all or most of that unhappiness. That's when you stop blaming others and you finally experience what Jesus promised - “You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free” (John 8:32). And the truth is, the man or woman in the mirror has been wrong, has shared the blame, has apologies to give, as well as some forgiving.

I saw a simple but profound little sentence on a church sign recently. It said: “God, I have a problem. It's me.” That kind of prayer is the only place some of us are ever going to find any healing, any happiness, any peace. Not “I have a problem - it's them,” but “it's me.” That admission can save a marriage, a relationship with a child, the unity of a church or a ministry, or a relationship that's too valuable to lose.

It's not my brother, not my sister, but it really is me, O Lord, standin' in the need of prayer! The answer is in the mirror ... and then on your knees.

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Copyright © Ron Hutchcraft Ministries, Inc., PO Box 400, Harrison, AR 72602. Used by permission. Written by Ron Hutchcraft. "Practical Answers to Real Life Issues"

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from A Word With You by Ron Hutchcraft #4369 · Ron Hutchcraft via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Trapped Within Her Will

In 2001 Wanda Hudson, now 44, of Mobile, Alabama, lost her home to foreclosure and the creditor tossed her possessions “into the street,” according to her lawyer. Hudson rented a self-storage unit at Parkway Storage, just two miles from her house, to store her belongings.

On November 7, 2001, Hudson paid for another month's rent on her 300 square foot storage unit. Later that night she was inside. In making his rounds, Parkway Storage's manager noticed the door was unlocked and slightly open. He locked it up and moved on. Hudson was still inside.

Most people would yell and scream, pound on the door, and demand to be let out. But Hudson didn't do that. Incredibly, she made virtually no attempt to let anyone know she was trapped. She subsisted on juice and canned foods that she had stored in the unit.

Parkway Storage's attorney Bert Taylor said another storage customer whose unit was two spaces away went to her own storage space almost “every single day,” yet never heard a thing. “There was no yelling, no screaming, no beating on the doors, no nothing,” he said. “No one knew she was in there.” And she was there for a long, long time.

It wasn't until January 9, 2002, 63 days after she was locked inside, when someone heard noises -- not yelling or banging, just “noises” -- inside the locked unit and notified the storage company. The door was opened and Hudson, who is normally a “plump” 150 pounds, was in horrific condition: she weighed only 85 pounds and her doctor says she was in “advanced starvation, unusual to find in medical circumstances in America today.” Her fingernails, normally several inches long, were said to be a foot in length. The smell inside was so bad that fire department rescue personnel donned gas masks before going in. Hudson was so disoriented she hadn't realized she had missed Thanksgiving and Christmas.

She says she cried for help but no one visiting the storage facility heard anything. She says she had been living with her sister but her sister never filed a missing persons report.

Sad indeed, but someone must be held responsible, right? Well, someone else, anyway: Hudson and her lawyer says Parkway Storage is solely responsible for her plight and sued the company for $10 million in Mobile County Circuit Court, claiming negligence. The jury, however, was clearly bothered by Hudson not doing more to free herself: in addition to awarding her “only” one percent of the suit's begged-for amount, or $100,000, they asked the judge questions about a person's “own responsibility for his or her predicament” before they made their decision.

[Holwick:] Many who are trapped in sin are there because of their own decisions. In such a situation it is not up to others to rescue us if we don't want to be rescued. Deliverance requires a decision on our part.

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SOURCES:

1) “Woman Sues DIP Storage Facility over Bizarre Ordeal”, Mobile Register, 26 September 2003 http://StellaAwards.com/cgi-bin/redirect3.pl?41a

2) “Woman Seeks $10 Million in Storage Facility Ordeal”, Mobile Register, 27 September 2003 http://StellaAwards.com/cgi-bin/redirect3.pl?41b

3) “Locked-up Woman Awarded $100,000”, Mobile Register, 30 September 2003 http://StellaAwards.com/cgi-bin/redirect3.pl?41c

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from True Stella Awards #41, www.stellaawards.com · Randy Cassingham, adapted by Rev. David Holwick via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database personal responsibilitydeliverance

One For All, and All For One

Job 5:17

Mike Strank, one of the famous Iwo Jima flagraisers, was brought up by a strict Czechoslovakian father in the mining districts of Pennsylvania. Vasil abided by a strict Old World value system. Discipline was paramount. When one of the boys had misbehaved, the mother would report it to Vasil upon his return home at night, and he would wake up a few hours later, along with the boys, to administer punishment.

Vasil insisted on a special rule for this punishment: No matter which boy had committed the offense, all three would be disciplined equally. In this way, Vasil thought, he could transfer the burden of discipline from himself to the boys; make them see that they had a shared interest in the good behavior of each.

Vasil probably did not know that he had intuited one the fundamental principles of military training; in particular, Marine training. Roughly fifty percent of procedure in a Marine basic-training program is about disconnecting the young American boy from his concept of himself as a unique individual, a lone operator. He is remolded into an integer in a team. Share responsibility - an abiding sense of the unit - is essential to survival in combat. Thus, if a recruit should faint from exhaustion during a forced march, the rest of this unit is trained to run in circles around his body until he comes to. Equal discipline.

How To Avoid Dumb Mistakes

James 1:5

Sermon. James 1:5

HOW TO AVOID DUMB MISTAKES

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I. What is the dumbest thing you have ever done?

II. Keep it in perspective.

A. Everyone makes mistakes.

B. Don't blow your mistakes out of proportion.

C. Don't ignore them, either.

III. Learn from your mistakes.

A. Mistakes can be educational.

B. Mistakes keep us humble.

IV. Avoid repeating mistakes.

A. Use the wisdom you gain from past failure.

B. Refine your thinking. Proverbs 12:16; 13:16, 14:8,15; 22:3

V. Mistakes remind us of God's grace.

A. He loves failures in spite of themselves.

B. Turn your failures into victory.

from Condensed sermon outline (handout) by Rev. David Holwick · Rev. David Holwick, Serm03zp.pco via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database changepersonal responsibility

The Hand On the Hammer

John 10:17

Hollywood really missed this one. It was a movie no one was willing to distribute; a movie most thought would have a limited audience. But from its midweek opening, Mel Gibson's “The Passion of the Christ” took off like a rocket. Soon it became apparent that this movie portraying the agonizing last twelve hours of Jesus' life would be a blockbuster, whose box office numbers were up there with the record-breakers. But according to Director, Mel Gibson, this movie ultimately wasn't about commercial success. It was, for him, a deeply personal project, portraying what he described as “Christ's wounds that healed my wounds.” The personalness of Jesus' death to him surfaced vividly on the day that they were filming the driving of the nails into Christ's hands. In a not-to-be forgotten moment, the director himself grabbed the mallet and spikes from that actor who was supposed to be nailing Jesus to the cross. The cameras kept rolling, and in the movie it is Mel Gibson's hands we see, wielding the hammer and driving the nails into Jesus' hands.

Well, I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about “The Hand on the Hammer.”

Time Magazine's cover article on “The Passion” asked this question, “Who Killed Jesus?” Well, in one sense, no one killed Jesus. He said, “I lay down My life ... No one takes it from Me, but I lay it down of my own accord” (John 10:17-18). Actually, that makes sense. Who can kill the Son of God? He made the men who put Him on the cross! But Mel Gibson understood something when he drove those nails - that it was his sins that made Jesus' sacrifice necessary. It was my sins. It was your sins, too. In a sense, you and I had our hand on the hammer.

God makes that crystal clear in Isaiah 53:5-6, our word for today from the Word of God. The Bible says, “He was pierced for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon Him, by His wounds we are healed.” So why did the way I've lived my life necessitate this horrific crushing of God's one and only Son? The Bible continues: “We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to his own way; and the Lord has laid on Him (that's Jesus) the iniquity of us all.”

Most of us like to think that we're pretty good people, that we can somehow contribute to our own going to heaven. Romans 3:10 delivers God's verdict on all that goodness - “There is no one righteous, not even one.” We're all under the eternal death penalty for running our own life. So my only hope, your only hope is to look at that cross and say, “Jesus, some of those sins you're pouring out your life for are mine - for all the angry things I've done, the dirty things. You're dying for all my selfishness, my pride, my lust, all the hurtful things I've done.” To put it simply, your only hope of having your sin erased from God's book forever, your only hope of getting into heaven, is to go to Jesus' cross and say, “For me. This is for me!”

Has there ever been a time when you've consciously told Jesus that; when you've abandoned all other spiritual hope and pinned all your hope on Him? If not, you still bear that awful death penalty for your sin. But this very day, you could change that by trusting fully in the one who already paid your penalty. If you're ready to finally make the Savior your Savior, tell Him that today.

This can be the day when every wrong thing you have ever done will be forgiven by God - when you trade a hell you deserve for a heaven you could never deserve. Today you can experience for yourself the love that thought you were worth dying for.

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Copyright © Ron Hutchcraft Ministries, Inc., PO Box 400, Harrison, AR 72602. Used by permission. Written by Ron Hutchcraft. "Practical Answers to Real Life Issues"

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from A Word With You by Ron Hutchcraft #4530 · Ron Hutchcraft via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Plane Stupid

Luke 11:40

When Louis Kadlecek turned 21, he went on a bender, drinking for four days straight. He was familiar with the Brazoria County (Texas) Airport, since that’s where he performed community service after “one of his previous arrests.” He went there, broke into several hangers and stole a plane.

Kadlecek, who had never flown a plane before, loaded it with a case of stolen beer, threw the instruction manual on the seat beside him, and took off. Within a mile he hit twin 100,000-volt power lines. The first one snapped and knocked out electricity to two towns. The second one caught his plane and sent it tail-first into a muddy field.

Louis was pretty loose, and crawled out of the plane unharmed. The airport’s director said, “If stunt pilots tried 1,000 times to do the same thing, they would have been killed 999 times.”

Kadlecek blamed poor airport security for his actions. “If there had even been a tall chain link fence with barbed wire on top of it, I would have just turned around and went on home,” he claimed. The jury didn’t buy it, and he got six years in prison. Apparently he didn’t believe it himself because when the police came for him, he had his toothbrush in hand.

Many of us need fences. The Ten Commandments provides this kind of boundary but it is no guarantee you won’t be stupid. Even fences with barbed wire can be overcome.

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See also http://www.foxnews.com/story/2004/03/05/drunken-pilot-is-plane-stupid/ and http://forums.jetphotos.net/showthread.php?t=14259

Crime and Character Building

John 10:10

For years I have heard on television and read in newspapers that a poor person who could not find a job was, if not expected to turn to crime, at least excused for doing so. Unfortunately, the more this idea is promoted, the more likely it is to occur, especially among those who do not have a strong character base. The facts concerning this issue are interesting, and as a friend of mine was inclined to say, “Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but no one is entitled to the wrong facts.”

I was raised during the Depression, so I was familiar with an occasional knock at the back door by someone asking for something to eat in exchange for some work they could do around the house or garden. Interestingly enough, virtually no one asked for free food -- they wanted to work for it instead. Statistics clearly validate that the crime rate coming out of the Depression was actually lower than it was when we entered the Depression. An article in The Financial Post by David Frum points out that the identical situation occurred in Canada. He said that statistics confirmed that in Canada there was “an overall five percent drop” in criminality between 1992 and 1993. This, despite the fact that 1993 should have seen an increase in crime. Instead, faced with plant closures, job losses and shrinking social services, the Canadians became less inclined to break into houses and steal from the owners.

The reality is people do what they're taught and expected to do. If we will eliminate the concept that poverty breeds crime and more carefully teach that the right way is the best way, we will see further reductions in crime. In many cases an economic belt-tightening is a character-building experience that helps us learn to get along without many of the so-called “necessities of life,” so we emerge from the economic challenges stronger and better prepared to build a more successful future.

from Internet: Messages From the Masters; editor Jim Rohn · Zig Ziglar via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database crimepovertypoor

How About My Brother?

Isaiah 6:8

Telephone etiquette is usually one of the last things children learn - if they ever learn it! In fact, I sometimes kind of cringe when a child answers the phone. You never know is they're going to hang up, or if they're going to yell into the phone, “Hey, Mom!” or if they're just going to put down the phone and forget to tell anyone that you're waiting. Ah, but the daughter of a friend of ours - she is a pleasant exception. The family visited our office a while back, and when they got home, I called and the little girl answered. She's so polite, she's so coherent, she's so competent. I said, “Hey, girl, how would you like to be my secretary?” She must have seen how crazy that job is when they were in our headquarters, because she answered immediately. Oh, not with a yes - not with a no. She just said, “Uh, how about my brother?”

I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about “How About My Brother?”

Our word for today from the Word of God is in Isaiah 6:8. And it's God's question twenty-seven centuries ago. It's His question still today. He says, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?” And Isaiah said, “Here am I. Send me!” See, God has a lot of people who need to be loved out there - need to be listened to, who need to be told about the love that His Son showed by dying their death penalty right on the cross. There's too many people looking for love in all the wrong places, aren't there? Too many people giving up, living self-destructively, hurting themselves, hurting other people. There's too many people going into eternity without a Savior.

Isaiah's answer ought to be ours: “Here am I. Send me!” Instead we say, “Here am I. Send him. I support him. Uh, how about my brother?” See, Moses was told that God was coming down to rescue his suffering nation, and then Moses was going “Great!” And then God says, “I am sending you.” And Moses said, “Oh, please send someone else!” Now, you are not going to have any peace until you say what Isaiah said; you'll have no fulfillment. You can't delegate spiritual responsibility for the people in your world. God is asking you to step up. Your family needs a spiritual leader, Dad. You say, “Well, how about my wife?” No, the buck stops with you, man.

That ministry needs leadership. God's saying, “I want you to do it.” Someone's son or daughter needs to spend their life reaching the lost, and maybe you're saying, “Lord, how about somebody else's son or daughter?” Someone needs to tell the people in your neighborhood about Jesus, the people where you work, where you go to school. You can argue with the Lord, “I'm inadequate, I'm not trained, I'm not ready, there's someone better.” But the Lord of the Universe has put you in the position to make the difference for them. He said to Moses, “Who made mouths?” This isn't something you'll do for Jesus. This is something Jesus will do through you. When God is asking you to step up to spiritual responsibility, He means you!

My young friend who answered the phone didn't want the responsibility I offered her, but she didn't say no. She just tried to pass the buck. Maybe that's what God's been hearing from you. Not a “no” to his work, but not a “yes” either - a “Try somebody else, Lord.” He doesn't want someone else. It's your heart He's knocking on. It's your opportunity to serve the King of Kings. It's your assignment to carry out, and this is your day to say, “Dear Lord, here am I. Send me!”

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Copyright © Ron Hutchcraft Ministries, Inc., PO Box 400, Harrison, AR 72602. Used by permission. Written by Ron Hutchcraft. "Practical Answers to Real Life Issues"

from A Word With You by Ron Hutchcraft #4576 · Ron Hutchcraft via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Bill Cosby's Harsh But Wise Words

The world's most famous father, Bill Cosby, has directed his voice and wisdom toward one of the most troubling aspects of contemporary black life in American society.

According to Cosby, there is a great rift between the advantages available to African Americans through traditional educational paths and the paths that many ultimately choose to take. Cosby notes that many young people are “failing to honor the sacrifices made by those who struggled and died during the civil rights movement.”

With the significance of the civil rights movement being lost on so many young blacks today, their titular leaders have become the few fortunate individuals who choose or are chosen to travel the flashy paths provided by sports –- larger-than-life figures of influence who enjoy the fame and privilege that comes with their profession.

A few more have become titular figures of leadership by their spotlight in the flashy glamour of the entertainment industry.

Young people today seem to be captivated by the lives and accomplishments of sports and entertainment figures who have benefited from the access provided them by the civil rights movement. Yet these same young people generally hold no moral appreciation of the movement.

African American children seem to translate this personality worship into lifestyles barren of focus and positive direction for their own lives and futures.

“They think they're hip,” Cosby said of African Americans who fail to pursue education and whose lives are dominated by a current popular culture that drains it of real day-to-day truth and substance.

“They can't read; they can't write,” Cosby said. “They're laughing and giggling, and they're going nowhere.”

Cosby's comments continue to reverberate since he first voiced them at the 50th anniversary commemoration of the Brown V. Board of Education desegregation decision at Constitution Hall in Washington, D.C., in May.

There, Cosby held African American parents responsible for the current and impending social endangerment of their children's lives and education.

Cosby told the crowd that “the lower economic people are not holding up their end of this deal.” He lamented, for example, that “the racial slurs used by those who used to lynch blacks are now a favorite expression of black children.”

Cosby's strong stand and disapproving tone marshaled criticism from leaders in education and from the nation's oldest civil rights organization, the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP).

One such rebuttal accuses Cosby of relying on age-old stereotypes to define the lives of the African Americans he targeted in his reprimands, that his vast wealth has placed him out of touch with the lives of ordinary African American people. Yet one of Cosby's complaints is that parents who lavish expensive outfits on their children will not invest in educational items for them.

“They are buying things for kids -- $500 sneakers -- and for what?” Cosby said. “But they won't spend $200 for Hooked on Phonics.”

The focus and work of the civil rights movement was disciplined -- soaked in the blood, determination and tears of many martyrs. People of every color and social status in America demanded and cut a more just and humane existence for all who live in the country out of the cloth of segregation and dehumanization. Perhaps because Cosby knows that the possibilities open to every African American are supported by the sacrifice of at least one civil rights martyr, Cosby's anger is completely understandable and justifiable.

Cosby's rallying cry to African Americans is tight, but it is right. Because, unless, when the time comes -- and that time comes quickly in every life -- young African Americans can talk the talk, $500 sneakers will not help them walk the walk when it is time for them to mainstream and enter the real world of real life.

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Terriel R. Byrd, whose column appears monthly in Baptist Press, is associate professor of religion at Palm Beach Atlantic University in West Palm Beach, Florida

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Where the Buck Stops

Luke 15:17

Few times in human history has so much rested on the shoulders of one man. That man was General Dwight Eisenhower, commander of the Allied forces in World War II. The responsibility - planning and leading the massive secret attack against Hitler's hold on Europe. The attack that would come to be known as the D-Day Invasion. It can be said that the fate of the world rested on the outcome of that invasion, launched on five beaches on the southern coast of France. And the ultimate decisions about that invasion rested with Dwight Eisenhower. He had said they only had a plan for victory, and that's what they expected. But after giving the final “go” order and committing so many lives to that battle, he must have had some secret doubts about the outcome. In the back of a military vehicle, General Eisenhower drafted a letter that was only revealed years later. In it, he said something like this: “The invasion has failed. And I take full responsibility for that failure. No blame goes to President Roosevelt, Prime Minister Churchill, or any other commanders. I am fully responsible.” The letter was never needed. The invasion succeeded. But that letter revealed the heart of a truly great leader.

I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about “Where the Buck Stops.”

Taking responsibility. It's a basic trait of a man or woman of character. And it's getting harder and harder to find. Sadly, there may not be any real progress, any real healing in your situation until someone is man or woman enough to take responsibility, and that someone needs to be you.

Unfortunately, we often don't let the buck stop with us. We're better at playing the blame game than taking responsibility. That started in the Garden of Eden when Adam blamed Eve for disobeying God and Eve blamed the serpent. When, in fact, each one was responsible for his or her own sin. Not much has changed over the years, has it? It's my wife's fault, it's my husband's fault, it's my parents' fault, it's my children's fault, it's society's fault, it's because of the people who wronged me, it's because of my boss, my job, my church. Round and round goes the buck, and never is there any healing, never any answers.

It's interesting to see the first place the Prodigal Son of Jesus' parable began to turn his life around. Apparently, he thought the reason his life wasn't what he wanted it to be was his home. So he asked his dad for an early inheritance so he could leave home and do his own thing. Eventually, he blew all that money on partying. Now he thought his problem was no money. Then friends who turned their backs on him when he ran out of money. Next thing you know, he's feeding pigs, and the pigs are probably the problem now. But in Luke 15:17, our word for today from the Word of God, the Bible says, “When he came to himself” he finally was ready to say, “I will ... go back to my father and say to him: 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you.'“ At last, the buck stopped. He's gone down the list of all the people, all the circumstances he could blame his situation on, and he finally came to himself as the reason. And that's when the pieces of his life finally began to come together.

For you, there's not going to be any healing, any answers, any restoration, any peace until you finally say, “I'm responsible.” Maybe you're not the only one responsible, but only you can fix the part that's you. That may mean a letter you need to write, a call, a visit you need to make, an apology, a confession you need to give, a bitterness or a grudge that you need to release. It's hard, but it's the only way something broken in your life has a chance of getting fixed. And it's for sure the only way you're going to get fixed.

Your pride can make you blind to the problem in the mirror and fill your life with so much unnecessary pain. And the hurt and hassle keep going because you keep passing the buck. Be a man or woman of character and integrity. Step up to your responsibility for the way things are. It's your first big step to finally being free.

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Copyright © Ron Hutchcraft Ministries, Inc., PO Box 400, Harrison, AR 72602. Used by permission. Written by Ron Hutchcraft. "Practical Answers to Real Life Issues"

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Who Dun It?

The following story is fiction (and a very popular email). Dr. Don Harper Mills is real, and he did share the story at an awards dinner, but it was presented as a brain twister. He freely admits he made it up.[1] However, the logic concerning who is responsible is interesting.

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At the 1994 annual awards dinner given for Forensic Science, AAFS President Dr. Don Harper Mills astounded his audience with the legal complications of a bizarre death. Here is the story:

On March 23, 1994, the medical examiner viewed the body of Ronald Opus and concluded that he died from a shotgun wound to the head. Mr. Opus had jumped from the top of a ten-story building intending to commit suicide.

He left a note to the effect indicating his despondency. As he fell past the ninth floor his life was interrupted by a shotgun blast passing through a window, which killed him instantly.

Neither the shooter nor the deceased was aware that a safety net had been installed just below the eighth floor level to protect some building workers and that Ronald Opus would not have been able to complete his suicide the way he had planned.

“Ordinarily,” Dr Mills continued, “someone who sets out to commit suicide and ultimately succeeds, even though the mechanism might not be what he intended, is still defined as committing suicide.” That Mr. Opus was shot on the way to certain death, but probably would not have been successful because of the safety net, caused the medical examiner to feel that he had a homicide on his hands. The room on the ninth floor, where the shotgun blast emanated, was occupied by an elderly man and his wife. They were arguing vigorously and he was threatening her with a shotgun. The man was so upset that when he pulled the trigger he completely missed his wife and the pellets went through the window striking Mr. Opus.

When one intends to kill subject “A” but kills subject “B” in the attempt, one is guilty of the murder of subject “B.”

When confronted with the murder charge the old man and his wife were both adamant and both said that they thought the shotgun was not loaded.

The old man said it was a long-standing habit to threaten his wife with the unloaded shotgun. He had no intention to murder her.

Therefore the killing of Mr. Opus appeared to be an accident; that is, assuming the gun had been accidentally loaded.

The continuing investigation turned up a witness who saw the old couple's son loading the shotgun about six weeks prior to the fatal accident.

It transpired that the old lady had cut off her son's financial support and the son, knowing the propensity of his father to use the shotgun threateningly, loaded the gun with the expectation that his father would shoot his mother.

Since the loader of the gun was aware of this, he was guilty of the murder even though he didn't actually pull the trigger. The case now becomes one of murder on the part of the son for the death of Ronald Opus.

Now comes the exquisite twist.

Further investigation revealed that the son was, in fact, Ronald Opus. He had become increasingly despondent over the failure of his attempt to engineer his mother's murder. This led him to jump off the ten-story building on March 23rd, only to be killed by a shotgun blast passing through the ninth story window. The son had actually murdered himself so the medical examiner closed the case as a suicide.

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A true story from Associated Press, (Reported by Kurt Westervelt)

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1. For more details see http://www.snopes.com/horrors/freakish/opus.htm

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Grieving Grace

Mark 1:40

The Gospel of Mark recollects a scene that makes me cringe every time I hear it. I wish I could say it was the account of Judas' betrayal of Christ, or the description of Jesus sweating blood in the Garden of Gethsemane that. But it is not.

In the first chapter of his testimony of Christ, Mark describes a man with leprosy who comes to the feet of Jesus in great need. On his knees, he begs the Son of God with a statement of certainty, “If you are willing, you can make me clean” (1:40).

Mark's Gospel, the shortest of the four, is largely concerned with getting the message of Christ out without delay. He opens his account with a single-sentence introduction, and his favorite word throughout the book is a Greek word meaning “immediately” or “at once.” The story of the leprous man is no different.

Of this man kneeling at Jesus's feet, Mark reports, “Filled with compassion, Jesus reached out his hand and touched the man. 'I am willing,' he said. 'Be clean!’ Immediately the leprosy left him and he was cured” (1:41-42). Mark conveys a compassionate savior who is among us, reaching out, relevant in our lives. In the Gospel of Mark, the equation is apparent, and spoken with urgency. God is near; if you will seek Him, you will find Him.

But the passage continues. Jesus sends the healed man away, “at once” and “with a strong warning.” “See that you don't tell this to anyone. But go, show yourself to the priest and offer the sacrifices that Moses commanded for your cleansing, as a testimony to them” (1:44). At this point in the account I find myself getting quite self-righteously concerned. How difficult is it for a man who was just healed to respond in gratitude by heeding Jesus' simple instructions? Isn't it the least he can do?

But Mark reports, “Instead he went out and began to talk freely, spreading the news. As a result, Jesus could no longer enter a town openly but stayed outside in lonely places. Yet the people still came to him from everywhere” (1:45).

The chapter concludes with hope, but it is often no match for the discomfort I feel at this point. The story Mark tells hinges on the concepts of action and reaction; the words “at once,” “immediately,” and “as a result” remind us that behavior has consequences. I know we are not islands. I rejoiced when the act of falling at Jesus's feet caused a move of compassion in Christ, and healing in a man that needed it. But I cringe at the thought of my own wrong behavior causing consequences to God. I don't want to think about my ability to grieve the Holy Spirit with my anger, or foolishness, or disobedience. I don't want to think about the times I have gotten in his way, “fixing” the catastrophes He was reaching someone with, turning away from his simple instructions, forcing him to lonelier places.

But yet isn't this the reality of the Cross? I am free to act and react, make choices and affect others. But behavior has consequences; there is a cost. My behavior brought something into the garden that wasn't meant to be there, something God chose to remove by bearing on the Cross the consequence of my sin. There is a cost, but there is a redeemer.

Again and again, the first chapter of Mark requires us to wrestle with the one who has responded on our behalf. How do we respond to the commands of the one who has healed us? How often has Jesus reached out to us with compassion only to find his touch rebuffed in disobedience? How do we grieve him with the choices we make? The words of the great hymn offer a prayer worth remembering.

Oh, to grace how great a debtor

Daily I'm constrained to be!

Let they goodness like a fetter,

Bind my wand'ring heart to Thee

Prone to wander, Lord, I feel it,

Prone to leave the God I love.

Here's my heart, Lord, take and seal it,

Seal it for Thy courts above.

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Copyright © 2005 Ravi Zacharias International Ministries (RZIM). Reprinted with permission. "A Slice of Infinity" is a radio ministry of Ravi Zacharias International Ministries.

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Why You Should Be Nice To Mean People

It is vital to take full responsibility for all of your actions. Every human being must be taught this from the cradle on up, to take full responsibility.

One of my favorite stories illustrates this. Sidney Harris goes down to a newsstand with a friend who wants to buy a paper. The news man who is selling the paper is a crotchety old fellow. Sidney Harris and his friend say, “Hey, Charlie, how are you?”

“I'm fine.”

They say, “Have a nice day.”

He says, “Don't tell me what kind of a day to have. I have other plans.”

When they are leaving, Sidney Harris, who was a columnist here in Chicago until he died, said to his friend, “Excuse me, is that fellow always so mean?”

“Yes,” he said.

“Are you always so nice to him?”

He said, “Of course.”

Sidney Harris said, “Why? Why, if he is always so mean, are you always so nice?”

The friend said, “Because I don't want him to decide how I am going to act. I am an actor, not a re-actor. I take full responsibility for everything I do.”

Sidney Harris walked away saying what I walked away saying, “Oh, that is one of the real biggies in life to learn, isn't it?” To be taught from the very beginning that I am responsible for my happiness, for all of my action and for everything that I do and say. I am responsible. I must decide. I don't put my decisions in anyone's hands.

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Gambler Wants Huge Debt Forgiven

Luke 7:41

In Jesus’ parable of the Two Debtors, a man owes the king ten thousand talents - a huge amount of money. Jesus is obviously using exaggeration to heighten the impact of the story. But in Las Vegas one episode comes near to attaining it. Terrance Watanabe made a fortune with Oriental Trading, the mail order catalog of trinkets and novelties that just about every Vacation Bible School uses. What did Terrance do with his money? Some he gave to charity in his hometown. But a bunch of it he gambled. He likes to gamble. As a matter of fact, he has gambled almost one BILLION dollars. He is only 52 years old.

Sometimes Terrance won but often enough he lost. In a single year he lost $127 million at two Las Vegas casinos owned by Harrah’s Entertainment. He claims they suckered him with free private jet rides, free luxury rooms, cases of alcohol and even pain pills without a prescription. He would get so drunk he would walk into walls and pass out at the tables, but the casino staff would wake him up and keep him gambling. Those who tried to stop him were fired, he says.

Harrah’s says he still owes them more than $14 million. In Jesus’ parable, the gracious king erases the debt and lets the man go. Not Las Vegas. Harrah’s turned the case over to a prosecutor and is asking for restitution and jail time. (In Nevada, the state gets to keep a tithe of the money they collect in such cases.)

Watanabe admits his addictions and says he is willing to fulfill his responsibilities. He just wants a little slack. But shouldn’t the casinos bear some responsibility too?

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Adapted from the article "Gambler Wants Huge Debt Forgiven" by Richard C. Paddock, AOL News; ; December 9, 2009.

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Not Guilty By Reason of Insanity?

The U. S. Supreme Court is set to rule on the constitutionality of insanity-defense laws across the nation. The case, CLARK V. ARIZONA, has to do with a defendant, Eric Michael Clark, who at age seventeen killed an Arizona police officer, supposedly thinking that he was shooting a space alien.

Clark's attorneys argue that they should have been allowed to enter into evidence proof that Clark had been insane at the time of the murder. Their argument for a constitutional right to an insanity defense will put the Court on the record on one of the law's most controversial issues.

Writing in USA TODAY, Professor Jonathan Turley of George Washington University argues that a society which fails to “recognize the difference between a premeditated and delusional act,” is immoral. Turley points to four states, Idaho, Kansas, Montana, and Utah, that have eliminated the insanity defense altogether. Other states have moved to curtail the insanity defense in significant ways.

In recent years, there has been no shortage of notorious defendants claiming an insanity defense. Currently, Lashaun Harris is on trial in San Francisco for the murder of her three children, whom she is charged with throwing into San Francisco Bay last October. According to press reports, Harris told authorities that God wanted her children as a sacrifice.

The nation's conscience was seared by the news that Andrea Yates, a housewife in Houston, had drowned her five children. With regard to all these cases, the public at large is generally ready to concede that those who committed these acts might be mentally impaired or ill, but most Americans believe that mental illness does not eliminate the moral burden of a criminal act.

The idea of the insanity defense has roots that go all the way back to ancient Greece and Rome. Nevertheless, the modern version of an insanity defense emerged from the attempted assassination of the British Prime Minister in 1843. In that case, Daniel M'Naghten shot Edward Drummond, an aide to British Prime Minister Sir Robert Peel. M'Naghten's goal was the assassination of the Prime Minister. Instead, he shot and killed Sir Robert's principal secretary.

Faced with a defendant that appeared to be insane, British courts came up with the so-called “M'Naghten Rules,” intended to identify which defendants are insane, and thus are not to be held as criminally responsible for their actions.

In one form or another, the M'Naghten Rules have found their way into American jurisprudence. Most American jurisdictions allow some form of an insanity defense.

As the rule stipulates, an accused is excused from criminal punishment if “at the time of committing the act, the party accused was laboring under such a defective reason, from disease of the mind, as not to know the nature and quality of the act he was doing, or if he did know it, that he did not know he was doing what was wrong.” As Professor Phillip E. Johnson of the University of California, Berkeley, explains, “Successful defendants under M'Naghten are also generally so incapable of living in normal circumstances that there is no question of granting them freedom.” But that assessment is now clouded by the fact that so many mental patients are now released into the general population. There is very little assurance that an accused found to be not guilty by reason of insanity will be kept from the larger society for any lengthy period of time.

In essence, the M'Naghten Rule opened the door for insanity claims in criminal prosecutions -- especially for violent and heinous acts such as homicide. Nevertheless, the legal elite has pushed the definition far beyond the M'Naghten Rule. The “Model Penal Code of the American Law Institute [ALI],” asserts that “a person is not responsible for criminal conduct if at the time of such conduct as a result of mental disease or defect he lacks substantial capacity either to appreciate the wrongfulness of his conduct or to conform his conduct to the requirements of law.” That last phrase represents a radical expansion of the M'Naghten Rule.

Other jurisdictions have come up with their own definitions and rules. The real question is this -- is the insanity defense itself morally justified?

A shift to more liberal interpretations of the law with respect to insanity defenses came to the attention of the American public when John Hinckley, the young man who shot President Ronald W. Reagan in a brazen assassination attempt was found “not guilty” because of his mental state. According to reports from the trial and investigation, Hinckley had intended to kill the President in order to gain the attention of a movie star.

As Professor Johnson explains: “By traditional standards Hinckley was dead-bang guilty of attempted murder and related crimes. But he came to trial in a federal court in the District of Columbia, in a legal culture that by this time had absorbed not only of the ALI defense but also its spirit. Hinckley, whose parents were both wealthy and devoted to him, had the benefit not only of the ALI standard, and of the testimony of expert witnesses with sterling scientific qualifications, but also the general principle of evidence that the burden of proof rests on the prosecution, not the defense. Thus the federal rule required the prosecutor to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that a demented man, who had attempted to assassinate a president for utterly bizarre reasons, was not insane.”

The American public was outraged at the verdict at the Hinckley trial. Facing such pressure, Congress adopted the Insanity Defense Reform Act of 1984 which tightened the requirements for an insanity defense in the federal courts. The act stipulates that the defense bears the burden to prove that, “at the time of the commission of the acts constituting the defense, the defendant, as a result of a severe mental disease or defect, was unable to appreciate the nature and quality or the wrongfulness of his acts.” The act went on to assert: “Mental disease or defect does not otherwise constitute a defense.”

With the exceptions of Idaho, Kansas, Montana, and Utah, the states and the District of Columbia have their own definitions of legal insanity with respect to those accused of committing criminal acts. As psychologist Stephen Lally explains the general contours of these laws: “If you meet the criteria for insanity, ... you are viewed as not being criminally responsible: In other words, your thinking was too disordered or your actions too impaired to have formed the intention to commit a criminal act, and so it is unfair to inflict punishment on you. This singular exception justifies treating all other defendants as competent and criminally responsible: They rationally chose to commit a crime and should be punished for their actions.”

As Professor Johnson argues, the very idea of a criminal prosecution requires the moral understanding that human beings are responsible for their actions. Without this basic understanding, the entire logic of the law collapses. Thus, the very existence of an insanity defense affirms, in its own way, the fact that the vast majority of criminal defendants are assumed to be absolutely responsible for their actions. The supposedly rare exceptions of those deemed to be insane constitutes a counter evidence.

But does the insanity defense make moral sense? In one sense, the finding that an individual is insane might well influence the character or nature of any punishment or sentence meted out after conviction. Nevertheless, it is morally problematic at the very least when individuals are found “not guilty” of acts they have clearly and undeniably committed.

In other words, the problem with the plea “not guilty by reason of insanity” is with the words “not guilty.” It is moral nonsense to argue that a person is not guilty of committing a crime if the evidence clearly indicates that they have done so. From a Christian perspective, there is no Scriptural warrant for assuming that anything described as “insanity” eliminates moral responsibility.

Modern critics of the insanity defense have pointed to such issues as the fact that defendants with sufficient financial means are in a better position to hire “experts” who could argue for the insanity defense. This became an issue of public concern with regard to John Hinckley, but his case is hardly unique in this regard.

At a deeper level, the late Karl Menninger, a well-known psychiatrist, argued that the insanity defense should be abolished because it undermined the notion of individual responsibility. Menninger called for eliminating the insanity defense so that the sense of individual responsibility would once again be honored by the court. Similarly, Menninger warned that the concept of sin had ceased to be meaningful in modern society. Instead, immoral actions were redefined as in terms of social or psychological pathologies, and were increasingly treated as symptoms of illness rather than as signs of depravity.

The law must deal with a seemingly endless array of complications and special circumstances. Nevertheless, the burden of any civilized society is to maintain a rule of law that holds human beings responsible for their actions. Any legal system -- which must by definition include the impact of fallible human beings -- falls short of perfect justice in terms of its execution and administration. Nevertheless, society bears the positive obligation to hold persons accountable for their actions, in terms of both reward and punishment.

In the main, the existence of the insanity defense is a warning that we are all too ready to redefine sin in terms of lesser categories. Furthermore, we appear ready to deny moral responsibility when there is an apparent way out that avoids the need for that judgment.

The administration of justice must combine and balance justice and mercy -- but this makes sense only in a context of clear moral order and authority. Courts must be allowed considerable latitude in the application of penalties, treatments, and other available options. But finding a guilty person “not guilty by reason of insanity” is an act of moral evasion -- and we all know it.

Who Is Responsible For Killer Squirrels?

Marcy Meckler stepped out of Tiffany’s at a mall in Skokie, Illinois, and was attacked by a squirrel. It jumped up and attached itself to her leg, and as she frantically tried to shake it off, she fell and injured herself. The nature of her injuries is not given, but she believes the pain and suffering are worth a minimum of $50,000, which the mall should pay.

You see, the mall was aware of the squirrel, knew it had a tendency to attack people, but had not gotten rid of it. As a matter of fact, some employees were rumored to feed it. Even if the mall had not exterminated the squirrel, it should have warned customers of its dangerous presence.

Randy Cassingham comments: “We share this planet with other living things. If we killed everything else to keep from inconveniencing petty, spoiled brats who spend their days buying bling, the planet would wither and die. So we deal with it if we want to go out in the world.”

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SOURCES:

1) “Mall Sued over Squirrel Attack”, Chicago Sun-Times, 15 August 2006.

2) “Lawsuit: Shopping Center Aided Attacking Squirrel”, Sun-Times News Group Wire, 14 August 2006.

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No "Ifs" About It

Nehemiah 9

The Levites in Nehemiah 9 teach us how to confess. Notice how specific they are: “We did wrong. We did not pay attention to your laws. We did not hear your words,” etc. Some Christians think they are confessing whey they say,

Lord, if I have injured any soul today,

If I have caused some foot to go astray,

If I have walked in my own willful way,

Dear Lord, forgive.

But that is not confession. There is no “if” in true confession. You do not say, “If I did this...” You say, “Lord, I did it. I failed. I turned aside. I forgot your Word. I walked in my own willful way.”

Then God hears, forgives and restores. That is his gracious nature. That is what he wants to do.

from Kerux Sermon #5476: Let Us Bow Before Our Maker · Rev. Ray C. Stedman, Peninsula Bible Church, Palo Alto, California via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database personal responsibility

The Booze Didn't Make You Do It: Recovering Right and Wrong

Luke 11:50

If you ever doubted the complete triumph of the therapeutic culture in America, look no further than this week’s news. Take NASA for example. How did it respond to the sad and bizarre story involving a love triangle and an astronaut charged with murder? It wants to tighten psychological screening procedures for astronauts! Now, I find it hard to imagine more rigorous screenings than those already given to naval aviators and astronauts.

How about sin? It doesn’t take rocket science to figure out what happens when you crowd attractive men and women into a space capsule.

Or take the recent case of San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom. Following his election in 2003, Newsom was considered a rising political star. Times have changed: Now, he’s the butt of late-night comedians’ jokes, and his political future is, at best, uncertain.

A few weeks ago, Newsom confirmed reports that he was involved in an affair with his campaign manager’s wife. He claimed that he was “deeply sorry about that,” but then announced that he was “seeking counseling for alcohol abuse.”

“Upon reflection” he told reporters, “I have come to the conclusion that I will be a better person without alcohol in my life.”

Newsom is hardly alone in his approach to moral failure. If a politician or celebrity is caught up in a scandal, you can pretty much count on their entering rehab soon afterwards. (And these “rehab centers,” by the way, are like little Ritz-Carltons.) This is true even if the behavior that caused the scandal has little, if anything, to do with alcohol or drugs, as in Newsom’s case.

Thus, after being caught on tape spewing anti-Semitic nonsense, Mel Gibson checked into rehab. After his behavior toward underage congressional pages became known, Congressman Mark Foley (R-Florida) — what else? — entered rehab.

In all these instances, the message is the same: The booze made me do it. Even when some personal fault is acknowledged, the unstated assumption is that once the drinking or drug use is dealt with, everything will be okay.

This is a prime example of what sociologist Philip Rieff called “the triumph of the therapeutic.” In his book by that name, Rieff described the emergence of what he called “psychological man.”

“Psychological man,” who was only possible because of Christianity’s declining cultural influence, is the product of a Freudian worldview. It isn’t interested in the good life, but “living well” — that is, with a minimum of emotional and psychological distress. Anything that causes this distress becomes the enemy, including a sense of responsibility and respect for authority.

But what happens when you do something bad, like having an affair with your friend’s wife? Or trying to kill a rival for your lover’s affections? Well, now, you don’t talk about sin because that has been dispensed with in our culture. So you look for an external cause of the behavior like alcohol or mental illness. You do not punish; you provide “treatment” that deals with these external causes.

Nonsense! What we need instead is to recover what therapy replaced: sin and individual responsibility, knowledge of right and wrong and the sense of shame that reinforces it. This might be decidedly politically incorrect, but it’s the only thing that will make “better persons” of us all.

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Copyright (c) 2007 Prison Fellowship Ministries. Reprinted with permission. "BreakPoint with Chuck Colson" is a radio ministry of Prison Fellowship Ministries.

His Apology Led To His Prison Sentence

Ezra 10:1

A man who sexually assaulted a University of Virginia student in 1984 and apologized to her two decades later as part of the Alcoholics Anonymous program was sentenced to 18 months in prison.

William Beebe, 42, wrote Liz Seccuro a letter of apology in 2005 in an attempt to make amends for the assault as part of AA’s recovery program. The program’s ninth step calls on alcoholics to make amends to those they have harmed -- unless doing so would cause further injury. In an exchange of e-mails that ensued, Beebe wrote: “I want to make clear that I’m not intentionally minimizing the fact of having raped you. I did.”

In November 2006 Beebe accepted a deal and pleaded guilty to one count of aggravated sexual battery for his attack on Liz Seccuro. “I’m not trying to excuse my behavior, but I was a different person then,” Beebe said. “I have a purpose, and that gives life meaning. I didn’t have that then.”

Charlottesville Circuit Court Judge Edward Hogshire ordered a 10-year prison sentence with all but 18 months suspended, as long as Beebe performs 500 hours of community service related to issues of sexual assault and alcohol abuse on college campuses. Prosecutors had recommended two years.

After the hearing, Seccuro shared a long hug with her husband. Outside court, she said she thought the sentence was “very fair.”

Seccuro, who says she has forgiven Beebe for assaulting her, said an apology is not a substitute for punishment. The attack changed her life dramatically, she said, and she deserves to finally see justice served.

Several people testifying on Beebe’s behalf Thursday said he is a kind and generous friend who often helped other recovering substance abuse addicts.

“Will didn’t tell me what to do, he showed me,” said William Daniel Griggs Jr. of Richmond, who credited Beebe with helping in his recovery. He also said that Beebe helped care for his sick son several years ago.

Judge Hogshire clearly struggled with the sentence, saying what Seccuro went through was horrific, but that Beebe went on to be a leader in the recovery community.

“Is he remorseful?” the judge asked. “I think so.”

Copyright 2007 The Associated Press.

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Revival Begins With Me

2 Chronicles 7:14

Revival is a verb. Revival is not a noun. It is not a series of meetings, however long or short. Revival is a renewal of zeal in the people of God to love Him fully, to live for Him completely and to lead others to meet Him.

Some of the results of renewed zeal are deeper commitments to the spiritual disciplines of prayer, Bible study, worship, missions and evangelism. When revival occurs, unbelievers are saved and a spirit of anticipation of the movement of God is prevalent in worship. You expect God to move. You long for God to move. You open yourself to be moved.

The recent revival in Jena, Louisiana, is an example. Relationships were restored. Forgiveness of sin occurred. Two pastors I talked to have already baptized as many if not more than was reported in their entire association last year.

It is sad when the norm is nothing. To twist horribly William Carey’s words, some people believe that we should “Expect nothing from God. Attempt nothing for God.” What is worse is when no one is broken over the fact that no one is being saved or transformed. Why is no one weeping over Jerusalem?

The story is told that a student pastor came to British pastor Charles Spurgeon one day and was burdened that no one was being saved when the student pastor preached.

Spurgeon replied, “You don’t really expect someone to be saved every time you preach, do you?”

The pastor replied, “No, not every time.”

Spurgeon then said, “That is exactly the problem.”

We can lament statistics, we can produce reasoned causes for spiritual decline but we cannot deny there is a great need for revival.

I was in a meeting recently when the discussion of low baptisms and a lack of lasting spiritual renewal became the subject. Several ideas of why were voiced. Some stated a prevalence of apathy in the church body toward spiritual matters. Another posited that some pastors and staffs were not leading by example. Others said the problem was a result of cultural shifts in America.

It’s one thing to identify a problem, it’s another thing to find a solution. There are two obvious solutions: One is a corporate and the other is individual.

The corporate solution is that bodies of believers must recognize and repent of the sin of failure to be salt and light in the community where God has planted them. This statement is not directed at the church that is attempting to be salt and light and the community is not responding. After all, William Carey spent seven years in India before one person became convinced of the claims of Christ. It is a statement against complacency.

The Bible says, “If My people who are called by My name humble themselves, pray and seek My face, and turn from their evil ways, then I will hear from heaven, forgive their sin, and heal their land” (2 Chronicles 7:14). Christians quote the verse often, but seldom heed it.

The individual solution is in that Old Testament verse. A collective response is made up of individuals who respond. One New Testament complement of this Old Testament message is found in Romans 12:1-2, “Therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, I urge you to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God; this is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.” Paul deals with the individual so that in subsequent verses he can deal with the collective body of believers. When you surrender your life to the Lord, collectively the church can function as a healthy body of believers, using individual gifts to influence the world for Christ.

I truly believe the answer to the problem is not in “them.” The answer to the problem is in “me.” I can only control what I do. I can’t control my wife, my children, my pastor, my neighbor or anyone else. But, I have complete control of me.

If I humble myself, pray and seek God’s face, and turn from my evil ways, then God will hear from heaven, forgive my sins and heal my land. If I present my body as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God; this is my spiritual worship. If I will not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of my mind, then I may discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God. Nothing will happen in my church collectively, if it doesn’t begin in me individually.

Revival is a verb. It is a verb that needs a subject -- me.

The Delusion of Determinism

The subversion of moral responsibility is one of the most significant developments of recent decades. Though this subversion was originally philosophical, more recent efforts have been based in biology and psychology. Various theorists have argued that our decisions and actions are determined by genetics, environmental factors, or other forces. Now, SCIENTIFIC AMERICAN is out with a report on a study linking determinism and moral responsibility.

The diverse theories of determinism propose that our choices and decisions are not an exercise of the will, but simply the inevitable outcome of factors outside our control. As SCIENTIFIC AMERICAN explains, determinists argue that “everything that happens is determined by what happened before -- our actions are inevitable consequences of the events leading up to the action.”

In other words, free will doesn’t exist. Used in this sense, free will means the exercise of authentic moral choice and agency. We CHOOSE to take one action rather than the other, and must then take responsibility for that choice.

This link between moral choice and moral responsibility is virtually instinctive to humans. As a matter of fact, it is basic to our understanding of what it means to be human. We hold each other responsible for actions and choices. But if all of our choices are illusory -- and everything is merely the “inevitable consequence” of something beyond our control, moral responsibility is an exercise in delusion.

SCIENTIFIC AMERICAN reports on a study performed by psychologists Kathleen Vohs and Jonathan Schooler. The psychologists found that individuals who were told that their moral choices were determined, rather than free, were also more likely to cheat on an experimental examination.

As Shaun Nichols reports:

The Western conception idea of free will seems bound up with our

sense of moral responsibility, guilt for misdeads and pride in

accomplishment. We hold ourselves responsible precisely when we

think that our actions come from free will. In this light, it’s

not surprising that people behave less morally as they become

skeptical of free will. Further, the Vohs and Schooler result

fits with the idea that people will behave less responsibly if

they regard their actions as beyond their control. If I think

that there’s no point in trying to be good, then I’m less likely

to try.

Even if giving up on free will does have these deleterious

effects, one might wonder how far they go. One question is

whether the effects extend across the moral domain. Cheating in

a psychology experiment doesn’t seem too terrible. Presumably

the experiment didn’t also lead to a rash of criminal activity

among those who read the anti-free will passage. Our moral

revulsion at killing and hurting others is likely too strong to

be dismantled by reflections about determinism. It might well

turn out that other kinds of immoral behavior, like cheating in

school, would be affected by the rejection of free will, however.

There are limitations to this kind of research, of course, but the report is both revealing and unsurprising. If we are not responsible for our actions, they why would people do the right thing? The most immediate result of such thinking is the subversion of moral accountability.

Of course, this pattern of thought also renders human existence irrational. How can we understand ourselves, our children, our spouses, our friends, or our neighbors if moral responsibility is undermined by determinism. Our legal system would completely collapse, as would the entire experience of relating to other human beings.

Shaun Nichols explains that “the Western conception of free will seems bound up with our sense of moral responsibility.” That “Western conception” is a product of the Christian inheritance and the biblical worldview. The Bible clearly presents human beings as morally responsible. Christians of virtually all theological traditions -- including Reformed theology, Arminianism, and Catholicism -- affirm moral and spiritual responsibility and the authenticity of the experience of choice.

As a matter of fact, this capacity and accountability is rooted in the biblical concept of the IMAGO DEI -- the image of God. Our Creator made us as moral creatures and planted within us the capacity of conscience. All this refutes the concept of moral determinism.

In its most modern forms, determinism is a product of naturalism -- the belief that everything must be explained in purely natural terms. Naturalism explains the human mind (including the experience of moral choice) as a matter of chemical reactions in the brain, and nothing more.

Determinism is implied by naturalism and relieves human beings of moral responsibility. There is no moral revolt against the Creator, no Fall, and no need for the Gospel. This subversion of moral responsibility is both a delusion and a trap. And, as the SCIENTIFIC AMERICAN report indicates, even those who say they believe in moral determinism are unable to live consistently with this assumption. We KNOW we are responsible.

Money and Morality: A Two-Front Culture War

Luke 11:3

I’m used to Christians getting blamed for all sorts of things. But I never thought that responsibility for the current economic mess would be laid at our doorstep — yet that is exactly what happened in the pages of the New York Times, and from an unlikely source.

That source was columnist David Brooks, whose work I often commend. In a recent column, Brooks wrote that, in an earlier age, the “Calvinist restraint” created a “counter-vailing stream of sound economic values” that enabled Americans to resist the decadence that usually accompanies prosperity. True.

For most of our history, Brooks argued, we Americans have been “notoriously materialistic,” but we weren’t soft. Hard work and self-denial were part of our national character — actually our Christian heritage.

In recent years, the “sound economic values” have eroded. That’s true, too. Brooks cites examples like government-sponsored lotteries or excessive executive compensation, part of a larger pattern of self-indulgence leading to record levels of personal debt.

Well, if he had stopped there, it would have been fine. But he went on to say that this self-indulgence grew while “the country’s cultural monitors were busy with other things.”

According to Brooks, while Christians “were arguing about sex and the separation of church and state,” they were “oblivious to the large erosion of economic values happening under their feet.”

Reading Brooks you might think that the asset bubble and rampant speculation that led to the economic crisis was unprecedented — but of course it isn’t. America’s economic history is regularly marked by asset bubbles and financial panics.

Brooks writes as if it were unprecedented because it enables him to propose a new culture war. Instead of the obsolete one pitting secular liberals against religious conservatives on matters of sexual morality and religion, he wants a united front against the erosion of economic values.

But the problem, you see, is that values and the character they produce aren’t divisible. People will not exercise restraint in their economic dealings while casting off restraints in their sexual and social ones.

For evidence, we need only to look in Brooks’ best-known book, Bobos in Paradise. The “bourgeois bohemians” Brooks describes are self-indulgent in all their dealings, building enormous houses with enormous kitchens that they seldom cook in, or vacation homes they seldom visit.

When they’re not spending money on their rationalized version of the “good life,” they engage in excessive sexual practices.

Or turn on the television. There, people are indulging every sexual desire in the midst of a consumerist paradise — big homes, expensive cars and fashionable clothes. You can do anything you want.

The “Calvinist restraint” that Brooks cites didn’t preach chastity or thrift; rather it preached chastity and thrift. That’s because it saw both as proceeding from a common source: the Christian understanding of man’s nature and the purpose for which God created him.

If you try to have the one without the other, you will get neither. Far from being obsolete, the old culture war is more relevant than ever. Restoring moral values across the board is essential to rescue a sagging economy as well as renew our nation’s spirit.

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Copyright (c) 2009 Prison Fellowship Ministries. Reprinted with permission. "BreakPoint with Chuck Colson" is a radio ministry of Prison Fellowship Ministries.

Father's Day: The Character Challenge

Galatians 3:28

What makes a good father? In one word, I believe it is character.

Nothing has contributed more to the destructive trends of social poverty, perpetual anxiety, sexual identity, personal insecurity, rage, rebellion, anger and even insanity than failed leadership in the home because of an absent or aloof father.

Earlier this year, I read the book, “Becoming a Leader of Character” by Gen. James Anderson and his son Dave. Their thesis was this: “Most leadership failures are character failures.” This is certainly true in life, but it is especially true in the home and family.

Dwight L. Moody defined character as “what you are in the dark.”

This year we saw national headlines unmask the shame of some of the highest profile celebrities, personalities and success stories. Marriages, families, careers and brands were destroyed once impulsive and indulgent acts were exposed. In the aftermath of these stories, I felt it important to gather a group of men at my church in order to address the topic, The Character Challenge. We examined four essential aspects of character:

1. Responsibility

Each of us has to take responsibility for who we are. We cannot pass this off or blame it on others. As grown men, we have to own our lives, our decisions, our commitment -- our character!

We embrace words like relaxation and recreation, and often resist words like responsibility. But responsibility has everything to do with character.

Other people hold us to accountability; we hold ourselves to responsibility. Responsibility is akin to the four-letter word, DUTY!

Duty is doing what needs to be done without waiting for directions. It is taking responsibility for both the big and small things.

While emotions matter, they cannot and must not dictate what we do every day. Every time we choose duty over delinquency, we pass a test of character. “You have to DO what you want to BE,” as James and Dave Anderson write.

2. Respect

Respect has everything to do with values because we honor, protect and guard what we respect.

Respect begins with God our Creator, and He is our Father through Christ our Lord. It is the knowledge and awareness of this relationship that changes everything about how we live.

With respect for God and as men of character, we respect women. In February, I wrote an article for Baptist Press to husbands and said, “Your wife needs your respect more than roses.” But this is not limited to our wives.

Women deserve our respect as counterparts in God’s creation and co-recipients of His grace in salvation. While I fully subscribe to a complementarian view that God made us different to make us one in His design, I believe we are distinct, but equal.

Galatians 3:28 exhorts us to honor and respect women, and it disallows any place for demeaning, dishonoring or abusing others. Men of character must reject and repent of the all too common misogynistic attitudes and frequent objectification of women.

Our society is filled with multitudes of little girls and women who suffer emotional pain and physical or sexual abuse because they are devalued as human beings and disrespected because of their gender. This is more than an issue of culture; for men, it is an issue of character.

3. Restraint

Restraint applies to both responsibility and respect, and it is the opposite of selfishness. Many character flaws come from selfish impulse and indulgence.

Lives are saved and reputations are forged through selfless acts of sacrifice, while lives and reputations are lost and destroyed by selfish acts of indulgence. Restraint understands that life is not just about us. Unrestrained lives communicate life is all about us.

We need something greater than our own best efforts to overcome our self-driven impulses. Divine intervention and motivation change us from the inside out. Only God can do this through His saving grace and by the indwelling presence of His Holy Spirit.

Character is something we need God to shape in us -- not something we simply squeeze out of ourselves. Character building is what God does in the lives of all who come to Him in Christ. This is what makes the Gospel both powerful and personal.

4. Resilience

Character is forged and seen in endurance. We face the relentless realities of fatigue, frustration and failure while seeking to be faithful to each task. We must be resilient to stay the course as we struggle with endurance.

Character development is hard, but remember this: The road of life is littered by the debris of many men who have been talented and successful but failed because of their flawed character. My charge to men, to fathers, is to step up to The Character Challenge.

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David H. McKinley is pastor-teacher at Warren Baptist Church in Augusta, Georgia.

The Japanese Parents Who Apologise For Their Children

Apologies are common in Japan, indeed it is virtually a cliche about the country. But 2016 has seen some controversial public acts of contrition - notably parents standing up before the public to say sorry for their adult children’s alleged criminal offences.

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Japan’s corporate apology culture is already well known and deeply rooted.

Many people will be aware of the shazai kaiken, or “apology press conferences”, where business chiefs read a profoundly apologetic statement lowering their heads and bowing deeply to their audiences.

But what are less known are the public apologies given by Japanese parents called on to stand up and be accountable for the actions of their children - no matter how old they are.

In late August 2016, actress Atsuko Takahata delivered an emotional apology for her 22-year-old son, who was arrested over an alleged sexual assault. He was released without charge, but before the process even began his mother stood up to tell the public that she must hold partial responsibility for any alleged actions.

It echoed a 2013 apology by TV presenter Mino Monta, who even resigned from his shows when his 31-year-old son was arrested over an attempted theft.

“I feel a moral responsibility as a parent,” Mr Mino said at the press conference.

But this public ritual is by no means confined to celebrities. In July, after the shocking mass stabbing of 19 people at a home for people with mental disabilities in Sagamihara, the offender’s father issued an apology statement at his workplace.

Years earlier, in 2008, when a 25-year-old man killed seven in a crowded Akihabara shopping street his parents made an apology in front of their home.

“Our son has committed a grave crime. We sincerely apologise to those who were killed and injured,” they said.

The press shutters snapped as the parents bowed.

While the parental apology in Japan is of course linked to the psychology of simply taking responsibility, it is also a custom that traces its roots back to the samurai era.

How do you apologise in Japanese?

Known as the Enza rule, the punishment of criminals’ family members took place in 15th and 16th Century Japan. The warrior samurai enforced their lords’ reign over the peasantry by extending punishments to transgressors’ families.

The notion of collective responsibility was extended even further during the Edo period, between the 17th and 19th centuries. Five neighbouring households were grouped into one unit and made responsible for each others' taxes - and crimes.

Penalties were meted out to the entire unit if anyone committed an offence.

Although the law was abolished when the Edo period ended in 1868, its legacy encouraged a mindset of being responsible for “seken”, or “the public”, says sociologist Naoki Sato, professor emeritus at Kyushu Institute of Technology and an expert on seken studies.

He explains that seken is a notion very particular to Japanese society, where people are expected to follow a number of unspoken rules to live in harmony. One of them urges a criminal’s parents to feel responsible for seken even when they did nothing wrong themselves.

He also points out what he says are differences between Japanese and Western parent-child relationships. While parents in Western countries see their children as individuals, Prof Sato says Japanese parents tend to think of their children more like their possessions, and feel that they own their children’s misbehaviour.

Certainly it is rare to hear of parents apologising for the sins of their children globally.

When two students at the University of Oklahoma triggered a storm by reciting a racist chant, one of their parents issued a public apology. It was seen as remarkable enough that at least one commentator wrote an opinion piece asking if parents should apologise more for their children’s actions.

But in Japan the pressure to atone for the sins of your relatives can be so strong that families are sometimes hounded by journalists and vociferously condemned by the public.

In the 2008 Akihabara stabbing case, the criminal’s younger brother was reported to have committed suicide after suffering stress, having been chased by the media even after moving and changing jobs several times.

And Ms Takahata’s apology spurred a debate on whether parents should be held so responsible.

When TV Asahi’s Morning Show asked 50 people on the street about the case, 60% answered “it’s his own problem, not his mother’s”.

A similarly mixed reaction was also found on social media.

“I’m fed up with an apology when someone has not done anything. I want them to either urge their grown-up son to take responsibility or raise him up once again from zero,” said one user on Twitter.

Japanese youth are certainly concerned with taking control of their own lives but the culture of “shazai kaiken” and taking responsibility for seken is still deeply rooted in society.

So you can expect more apologies.

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Famous Japanese apologies

In 1998, popular Japanese actress Yoshiko Mita apologised on behalf of her son when he was held over a drug offence. She also voluntarily stayed off the television for ten months.

Earlier this year actress Reiko Takashima faced reporters on behalf of her husband, Noboru Takachi, who was arrested on a drugs charge. In her apology, she said she bore responsibility for “being his wife”.

Japanese pop star Minami Minegishi shaved off her hair in 2013 as an apology after she was caught spending the night with her boyfriend. Her girl band AKB48 has a strict policy against dating.

Owning It

Job 31:1

A well-known attorney in Pennsylvania pled guilty several years ago to corruption charges. All the details of his case were widely covered in the media. I am not going to mention his name or cite the sources online where you can read about his crime. What I want to do is highlight a letter he submitted to the judge just prior to his sentencing:

“Your Honor, I take full responsibility for my actions and my inactions. When I [got involved with the other guilty parties] I knew instantly that was wrong. I was both scared and selfish and I will forever regret that decision.

“ ... I apologize to my family for the hell I have put them through ....

“Second, I apologize to my partners, my employees and my friends. I am truly sorry ....

“Third, my sincere apologies to [my] clients ....

“To the Court, I apologize for the damage I caused ...

“Last but not least, I apologize to the people of [our] County and ask for their forgiveness .... I am truly sorry ...

“Respectfully submitted, [Name].”(1)

I cited the words used by this attorney for one reason: There is a right way to own our sins, misdeeds and failures -- and it begins with saying that we are responsible and asking for forgiveness.

Others and our sin

There is a general rule that counselors use regarding the acknowledgement of sin: It needs to be confessed and forgiveness sought as far as the circle of damage extends. If one person sins

against another, that’s a small circle of damage. But if a person commits sin at a public level, then confession and forgiveness must be sought as far as the sin was felt.

Of course, it goes without saying that every sin by an individual is first a sin against God. That’s why King David, in his Psalm of confession for the sins of murder, deceit and adultery, said to God, “Against You, You only, have I sinned, and done this evil in Your sight” (Psalm 51:4).

Owning our sin

When taking responsibility for sin, we don’t have to write a confession as the man I cited did. But regardless of how many words we speak, these three words must be spoken: “I have sinned.”

We can’t say, “I was forced to sin,” “I was influenced to sin,” “I was taught to sin” or “I accidentally sinned.” Those blame-shifting words are used when we have not yet arrived at the point of accepting full responsibility for our actions.

I encourage you to read Psalm 51 -- it is a petition for forgiveness. In the psalm, David confesses everything to God after he was confronted by Nathan. He asks God to “create a clean heart” in him once again. Then he makes his confession not as the king of Israel but as a guilty sinner who is acknowledging his sin. As we ask God for forgiveness of our acknowledged sin, we will rediscover the joy of our salvation just as David did.

Overcoming our sin

To overcome sin, it must be confessed. By “overcome,” I mean setting right the thing our sin has tainted. Sometimes the damage cannot be reversed. But to the extent that relationships can be repaired, reparations made and reconciliation enjoyed, owning and overcoming are prerequisites to finding peace and forgiveness.

First, we have to repent of our sin. Like Christ told the church at Ephesus, we must “repent and do the first works” -- the works of righteousness (Revelation 2:5).

Second, we have to acknowledge our sin to God and to any against whom we have sinned, and ask their forgiveness (1 John 1:9)

Third, we need to make reparations where we can. If our actions have caused loss to others, we must restore what they have lost to the best of our ability (Proverbs 6:30-31).

Fourth, we must covenant with God to seek His power to avoid repeating the sin (Job 31:1).

As we move into the new year, may God grant you and me the grace to be responsible to own and overcome every sin so that we can live victoriously for Christ.

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1. “Powell’s Letter to the Judge,” The Times Leader, November 5, 2011; .

An Extreme Dependence On God

Job 38:41

Estelle Walker had unusual beliefs about God’s control of her life. When her lawyer complained to the judge that the woman was refusing to participate in her defense, Estelle passively told the judge, “God will defend me.” That there was even a trial was because Estelle had been directed by prayer to reject a plea bargain.

Four years before, Estelle told the Times Square Church that she needed to escape an alcoholic husband. The church moved her and her five children out of New York to an idyllic cabin on a lake in northern New Jersey. They gave her financial support that ranged from $700 to $1,000 a month. A year later she refused to leave so the church cut off her support and began eviction proceedings.

Three of her children testified that their mother never looked for work or provided for them. Estelle had told them God would provide for them. As they grew weaker and hungrier, she made no effort to feed them. At one point they went 11 days without food. By the time a neighbor called police, an 8-year-old daughter was down to 34 pounds -- the same weight she had been two years earlier.

At the trial, her defense lawyer claimed Estelle was delusional and not responsible for her actions because of her strict religious beliefs that led her to have “an extreme dependence on God.” The prosecutor said the woman was a cunning, evil person who used her religion as excuse to get a rent-free cabin at the expense of her children’s health. She had never asked family or friends to help. The prosecutor concluded, “Instead, she did nothing.”

The jury convicted Estelle Walker of child endangerment. She displayed no emotion when the sentence was read.

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No-Fault Infanticide

Statement by Tanya Denby, convicted in Newport News, Virginia, in August of beating her three-year-old daughter to death by excessive punishment: "I can't see my baby anymore, but she's in a much better place. I'm glad God took her."

And another by Patricia Wells, indicted in April 1998 in Camden, New Jersey, for aggravated manslaughter after six kids (including one of hers) died as the van she was driving (at 70 mph in a 25 mph zone with no license and a .151 blood-alcohol level) crashed: "It was the children's time to go, and God wanted those children."

Smuggling Shoes

Officials at the Harare airport in Zimbabwe stopped a 26-year-old woman after suspicious customs officers saw her butt. The woman, who was not identified, had 14 pounds of marijuana stuffed in her shorts and was arrested on smuggling charges.

Meanwhile, customs officers at Narita Airport in Tokyo, Japan, stopped Juan Yung-chuan, 43, and demanded to look at his shoes. "For someone about 170 centimeters (5.6 feet) tall, he was wearing suspiciously big shoes," a customs spokesman said. Inside was 350 grams of heroin, but Juan says he is innocent. "I was only asked by a Thai man to wear the shoes at Bangkok airport," he claims, "but I had no idea what was inside them." (Reuters, AFP)

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Blame God

Luke 11:50

In his Church & Culture blog, James Emery White shares this: “If all else fails in passing blame, there’s always God.

“The author Philip Yancey writes of being contacted by a television producer after the death of Princess Diana to appear on a show and explain how God could have possibly allowed such a tragic accident. ‘Could it have had something to do with a drunk driver going 90 miles an hour in a narrow tunnel?,’ he asked the producer. ‘How, exactly, was God involved?’

“From this, Yancey reflected on the pervasive nature of the mindset that our actions are actually an indictment of God. Such as when boxer Ray ‘Boom Boom’ Mancini killed a Korean boxer in a match, the athlete said in a press conference, ‘Sometimes I wonder why God does the things He does.’

“In a letter to a Christian family therapist, a young woman told of dating a man and becoming pregnant. She wanted to know why God allowed that to happen to her.

“In her official confession, when South Carolina mother Susan Smith pushed her two sons into a lake to drown, she said that as she did it, she went running after the car as it sped down the ramp screaming, ‘Oh God! Oh God, no! Why did You let this happen!’

“Yancey raises the decisive question by asking, ‘What exactly was the role God played in a boxer pummeling his opponent, a teenager abandoning her virtue, or a mother drowning her children?’ God let us choose, and we did; and our choices have brought continual pain and heartache and destruction. Our self-destructive bent has seemed to know no bounds.”

Sermon: Bad Times and Good People?

Ezekiel 18:1

Sermon on personal responsibility. Ezekiel 18:1-13

BAD TIMES AND GOOD PEOPLE?

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I. Which way is the crime rate going?

A. Our impressions may be wrong.

B. We like to pass the buck.

C. Everybody blames somebody - but we don't have to.

II. Your family doesn't determine your life.

A. Certainly families have an impact on us.

B. Every proverb has a limit.

C. Individuals matter.

D. An example of three generations.

III. Lousy circumstances don't have to determine your life either.

A. It is tempting to use hardship to justify sin or despair.

B. A Christian can rise above any bad situation.

IV. You may criticize others for shirking responsibility, but do you?

A. Jesus loves me - a reminder of values we were given as children.

B. You can rise above where you are now, or where you have been.

V. Your environment has power, but Christ has more power.

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The 'Crews Missile' and Christmas

Luke 15:11

Have you heard about the “Crews missile”?

It was launched by Nick Crews, 67, a retired British Royal Navy submarine commander. But it wasn’t a torpedo aimed at the empire’s enemies; it was an email aimed at his three adult children. It blew up family relations -- and created a furor in England and beyond after his eldest daughter, 40-year-old Emily, released the message to the media.

Fed up with his children’s career failures, divorces and other assorted dysfunctions, angry at the toll their constant crises had taken on his wife and anxious about the future for his grandchildren, Crews let ‘em have it. Here’s an excerpt from his “Dear all three” email:

“Mum and I have been used to taking our own misfortunes on the chin, and making our own effort to bash our little paths through life without being a burden to others. Having done our best -- probably misguidedly -- to provide for our children, we naturally hoped to see them in turn take up their own banners and provide happy and stable homes for their own children. ... [Y]et each of you has contrived to avoid even moderate achievement. Far from your children being able to rely on your provision, they are faced with needing to survive their introduction to life with you as parents. ... none of [whom has] the maturity and sound judgment to make [wise] decisions.”

He closed with this:

“I can now tell you that I for one ... have had enough of being forced to live through the never-ending bad dream of our children’s underachievement and domestic ineptitudes. I want to hear no more from any of you until, if you feel inclined, you have a success or an achievement or a realistic plan for the support and happiness of your children to tell me about. I don’t want to see your mother burdened anymore with your miserable woes. ... I am bitterly, bitterly disappointed. Dad.”

Tough love? Crews has become both a hero and a villain in England since his blunt message became public, setting off a media storm and provoking thousands of responses. Many Britons admire his hard-hitting candor in an age of endless excuse making for personal irresponsibility. Others condemn him as unfeeling and cruel.

“My parents just don’t do tea and sympathy and never have,” reported daughter Emily, who said she was devastated by her father’s words but admitted they contain a lot of truth. Her two younger siblings insist on an apology; 35-year-old brother Fred refuses to speak to Dad until he gets one.

In a subsequent interview with the London Daily Mail, Crews said he “hated having to send [the email] and I have examined my conscience. ... I still mean every word.”

Navy commanders aren’t known for giving gentle feedback. My maternal grandfather was a ship captain, and I’ve heard lots of stories about the rough justice he delivered when his kids went astray. Sometimes it worked; sometimes it backfired. As an occasionally exasperated father, I can sympathize with Crews. As a son who inspired similar fury and despair in the hearts of my own parents more than once, I also sympathize with his children.

But angry tirades about the failings of others don’t work, contends New York Times writer David Brooks in a column about Crews. “People don’t behave badly because they lack information about their shortcomings. They behave badly because they’ve fallen into patterns of destructive behavior from which they’re unable to escape,” Brooks writes. True enough, but he proceeds to serve up warmed-over recommendations about rewarding good behaviors and ignoring bad ones. That doesn’t work in the long run, either, if the darkness inside our hearts doesn’t change.

Why do I bring up this painful family episode so close to Christmas? When I first read about Nick Crews and his anguish over his children, I thought about God, our Father. In many Bible passages, the Lord speaks of His despair and wrath caused by the sins of His people. The Old Testament prophets record a long litany of His bitter disappointments (as Crews might describe them) in His wayward children.

“I have spread out My hands all day long to a rebellious people,” the Lord cried, “who walk in the way which is not good, following their own thoughts, a people who continually provoke Me to My face ...” (Isaiah 65:2-3). But God also promised a sign in that same great book of prophecy: “Behold, a virgin will be with child and bear a son, and she will call His name Immanuel” (Isaiah 7:14b).

Some 600 years before the birth of Christ, a Father whose heart had already been broken countless times was planning an act of love that would go far beyond the imagination of any earthly mind. What if He had washed His hands of us altogether? What if He had told us never to seek Him again until we could redeem our own hopelessly evil selves?

Instead, He came to live among us as a servant and went to the cross to make a way for us to return to Him.

Yes, there will be consequences -- eternal ones -- for every soul that rejects the amazing grace of God offered through His Son. But for now, the offer stands.

Here’s the message of Christmas: A loving Father is still waiting for us to come home.

The Prime Minister's Christian Foundation

British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher once described her understanding of how the Christian faith should influence political philosophy and public policy. Speaking to the General Assembly of the Church of Scotland in May of 1988, Mrs. Thatcher argued that Christians “must not profess the Christian faith and go to church simply because we want social reforms and benefits for a better standard of behaviour; but because we accept the sanctity of life, the responsibility that comes with freedom and the supreme sacrifice of Christ.”

In explaining how the Christian faith should impact politics, she suggested that the Bible does not tell us “exactly what kind of political and social institutions we should have.” As she explained, “On this point, Christians will very often genuinely disagree; though it is a mark of Christian manners that they will do so with courtesy and mutual respect. What is certain, however, is that any set of social and economic arrangements which is not founded on the acceptance of individual responsibility will do nothing but harm.”

In her address, she affirmed “the basic ties of the family, which are at the heart of our society and are the very nursery of civic virtue.” She insisted that the government must respect the family and build its policies on a foundation of family rights and family responsibilities.

“We must recognize that modern society is infinitely more complex than that of Biblical time, and of course new occasions teach new duties.” She was right, of course, and her mature and thoughtful reflections on Christian responsibility should call out the very best of our own thinking and reflection in these times.

We should pause to reflect on Margaret Thatcher’s legacy of leadership and the lessons that simply must not be missed. Standing at the center of her leadership and her legacy is the belief that the integrity of leadership is inevitably tied to the character of the leader and to the power of the leader’s ideas. This is how she lived, and this is how she led -– and this is why we all stand in her debt.

"I Am Not A Monster” — Ariel Castro As Sinner and Sociopath

“I am not a monster. I am a normal person. I am just sick.” Those were among the words Ariel Castro addressed to an Ohio judge as he faced the bar of justice yesterday. Shortly thereafter, Judge Michael J. Russo of the Cuyahoga County Common Pleas Court sentenced Castro to life in prison with no chance of parole, and then added an additional 1,000 years of prison time.

Castro, age 53, had kept three women imprisoned in his Cleveland home for a decade, treating them as sex slaves. All of the women were young when Castro abducted them; two were teenagers. He entered a guilty plea yesterday in order to avoid the death penalty. He eventually pleaded guilty to more than 900 criminal counts, including aggravated murder, rape, and kidnapping, among other crimes. The aggravated murder count was tied to Castro’s brutal beating of one woman when she was pregnant with his child. The unborn child died and the woman miscarried.

The crimes Ariel Castro committed defy the moral imagination. Added to the enormity of his crimes is a lack of remorse. Castro seems to have little moral conscience or sensibility. He is clearly not haunted by the knowledge of what he has done. He even told the judge that, in his own mind, he saw the three women he abducted, assaulted, raped, and imprisoned as part of a happy home.

In his most provocative statement, Castro declared: “I am not a monster. I am a normal person. I am just sick.” Even after admitting that he committed over 900 crimes, including aggravated murder, rape, and assault, he insisted that he is “not a violent person.” He claimed to be the victim of a sexual addiction and exposure to pornography.

So, what is he? How should Christians think of Ariel Castro? Is he just sick? Is he a monster? Could he really be “a normal person”? Well, in the first place, Castro is a sinner. That puts him right within the human race. After the Fall, the “normal” identity for humanity is sinner — that includes every single one of us. And, like every sinner, Ariel Castro’s only hope is Jesus Christ. He needs a Savior.

But, if that is true of all human beings, why are we so repulsed by Ariel Castro and his horrifying crimes? The answer to that requires us to think beyond the category of sinner. Ariel Castro is not only a sinner, he is a violent sociopath. By definition, a sociopath is an individual who lacks a moral understanding of his or her own moral actions. They stand out from the rest of society because their psychopathic personality often leads them to commit horrifying crimes — crimes beyond the imagination, much less the temptation, of most people.

Ariel Castro sees himself as “a normal person” who is “just sick.” He is sick, but he is not normal. Judge Russo spoke directly to Castro at several points in yesterday’s hearing. The judge told Castro that he is not merely sick, he is murderously dangerous and guilty of crimes of great enormity. Even secular observers of the sentencing hearing knew that Ariel Castro is not merely sick. Even though the therapeutic worldview serves as a convenient escape from personal responsibility and moral guilt for many people, Castro’s crimes rendered the therapeutic escape route impossible. He may well be sick. But he is not merely sick. His crimes were evil. Even in this morally confused age, the vast majority of people know that what he did was evil, and nothing less.

It is normal — indeed universal — for human beings to be sinners, but few among us are sociopaths. And for that we must be ever thankful. Christians must thank God for the restraint against evil that he has given humanity. These restraints include the moral law, the human conscience, government, social structures, and the providence of God in human affairs. Without the moral law and the restraining power of the human conscience, we would all become sociopaths — in a hurry. Without government and its responsibility to execute justice, sociopaths would roam freely. Without the providential reign of God in human affairs, sociopaths would rule completely.

The inadequacies of human justice were clear in that Cleveland courtroom yesterday. At age 53, Castro will serve only a tiny fraction of the sentence he received yesterday — life plus 1,000 years. But, given the limitations of human justice, that is about the best a human court can achieve. The plea bargain saved his three victims from being further victimized by testimony in Castro’s trial. And, even though he will serve only a fraction of his total sentence, at least the court declared by the sentence that Castro must never be allowed to return to normal human society.

At the same time, even if Castro could serve his life sentence plus 1,000 years, his punishment would do nothing to restore injuries and years lost to his three victims, Michelle Knight, Amanda Berry, and Gina DeJesus. They do now have the satisfaction of seeing Ariel Castro sent to prison for the rest of his life. As Knight told him in the court session yesterday: “I spent 11 years in hell. Now, your hell is just beginning.”

Not quite. Prison is where sociopaths often belong, and surely Castro fits in that category. But hell is where all sinners are justly headed, but for the salvation that is found only through faith in the Lord Jesus Christ.

We should not be surprised that the secular world confuses sinners and sociopaths, prison and hell. Christians, however, must understand the differences. One need not be a monster, by human definition, to go to hell. The sinfulness of “normal” humanity is quite enough for that. But there are monsters among us, and Ariel Castro’s crimes and his lack of moral understanding put him in that category as well. When called to answer for the kidnapping and imprisonment of the three women, Castro said: “I simply kept them there without them being able to leave.”

So, let’s be thankful that few sinners become sociopaths, but let’s also be honest enough to admit that one need not be a sociopath to be a sinner. Our responsibility as Christians is to keep the categories straight.

The Bible and Health Care

Mark 10:51

At the moment, we’re having a national brouhaha over health care. Perhaps it’s a good time to put the matter of health in biblical perspective.

Consider these 10 facets of the biblical witness:

1. Doctoring is biblical. Jesus honored the medical profession by calling Himself the Great Physician and by inspiring a doctor, Luke, to write much of the New Testament (Luke and Acts). Illness is real and there are physical resources for dealing with it.

2. God has graciously placed medical resources in nature. Proverbs 31:6 and 1 Timothy 5:23 speak, respectively, of alcohol as sedative and palliative. These passages anticipate a range of medications available for such purposes, from anesthesia to antibiotics (e.g., aspirin from willow bark and penicillin from mold).

3. Healing was a sign of Jesus’ power and compassion. The Gospels are full of healing accounts, from blind Bartimaeus in Mark 10:51-52 to the centurion’s servant in Matthew 8:2-3. And the prophets continually pressed their hearers to care for genuine victims of circumstance and oppression. Following His example and infused by His Spirit, Christians have been at the forefront of the healing arts throughout church history.

4. Primary responsibility lies with the individual and the family. In 2 Thessalonians 3:10, Paul says, “If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat,” and in 1 Timothy 5:8, “If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” By extension, basic coverage for life’s essentials begins at home, and we should not burden others unless we can’t help it.

5. We are to be stewards of our health. In this connection, 1 Corinthians 6 teaches that our bodies should be regarded as temples of the Holy Spirit; Proverbs 23:2 tells us to “put a knife to our throats” if we tend toward gluttony. Though genes and physical circumstances have much to do with our health, much of it is still under our control.

6. The Bible commends prayer for the sick. James 5 directs those who are ailing to call on the church for intercession. And yes, miracles can happen.

7. Worry is a sin. While careful stewardship of our bodies is our responsibility, anxiety over potential lapses and shortfalls in care should not cripple us. Jesus reminds us of provision for “birds of the air” and “lilies of the field” in Matthew 6, and asks, rhetorically in Luke 12, who can add a day to his life by worry. Furthermore, Paul posts the antidote to anxiety in Philippians 4: prayer saturated with thanksgiving.

8. We’re all dying. This has been the case since Adam’s fall, in Genesis 3, where God said that Adam and his offspring would return “to the dust.” In that sense, medicine is fighting a losing battle, and to presume to eliminate all maladies would be to emulate King Canute, who parked his throne on the seashore and then commanded the tide not to invade his land.

9. There is no substitute for truth. Regarding health care, the economics are complex, the discourse heated, the public policy ramifications enormous and the politics incendiary. The “father of lies” (John 8:44) loves to sow confusion in the midst of the conversation.

10. Those in Christ will inherit eternal health. As it says of the inhabitants of the New Jerusalem in Revelation 21, God “will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there will no longer be any death; there will no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain.” This is the real, extended health care plan.

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This column first appeared at the blog of BibleMesh, a website that teaches the Bible as a unified story pointing to Christ (online at www.biblemesh.com/blog).

Shamgar's Three Rules of Success

Judges 5:6

One of the first characters we meet is a judge who has only two verses connected to his legacy. Yet his story is both interesting and highly implicational for us. His name is Shamgar. From only 42 words we learn that God used an unlikely man to impact an entire nation. The Bible says that Shamgar “killed six hundred men of the Philistines with an ox goad and he also delivered Israel.” Judges 5:6 tells us that he lived in difficult times not unlike the difficulties we face today. Crime and fear gripped the villages and the clogged the routes people traveled.

Shamgar was not a likely candidate for leadership because he did not come from a believing household. His is not a Hebrew name but a Philistine pagan one likely meaning “stranger or drifter.” His father’s name is Anath, which is the name of the Canaanite goddess of sex and war. Shamgar was the product of a racially- and religiously-mixed home. Judges 3:6 reveals that in striking disobedience to God, the Israelites intermarried with the surrounding pagan nations. As a half-Jew, half-pagan man, Shamgar didn’t seem to have the family background to prepare him for the task God called him to do. But remember, there is no partiality with God. He will use anyone who completely trusts Him.

Shamgar was an unlikely candidate for leadership because he was poor. He struck down six hundred Philistines with an ox goad. No fancy spear or sword. No powerful chariot or blazing fast horse. He was just a poor farm boy with an ox goad. God turned Shamgar’s poverty and lack of sophistication into a powerful victory.

So armed with a steadfast faith in God and courageous obedience to God’s will, Shamgar rescued Israel from its enemies and turned a nation back to God. Let me suggest three very practical lessons for success that we can take from Shamgar’s life:

First, start where you are. Shamgar didn’t wait until every condition was perfect to take action. He didn’t wish he was someone else with more talent or resources, nor did he make up an excuse about why he didn’t need to step up to lead. Shamgar didn’t use his mixed family background as reason to bow out of responsibility. Shamgar just started with reality and knew God could take him forward.

Second, use what you have. Shamgar’s solution was creative and innovative because he used what was already in his hand ... an ox goad. What a weird weapon! Recall how God used the staff in Moses’ hand? But first God asked Moses to throw it down. Letting go of what we have and surrendering it to the service of the Lord is a step toward solving most problems we face. Shamgar understood that he would never have a chariot, never wield a forged steel sword or throw a well-balanced spear. What he had was a farm implement that had a sharp point on one end and a small blade for breaking up clods on the other end. Using what he had Shamgar won the victory. God never calls us to use what we don’t have; He calls to use what little we do have to win the victory.

Third, do what you can. If you compare Shamgar with the other judges you will discover that Shamgar didn’t destroy a huge army of the Philistines; nevertheless, he was very effective for the Lord. One of the ways we get ourselves into a defeatist mindset is to compare our output for the Lord to someone else. God does not intend for everyone to have the same scope of ministry. Some are called to cover smaller details while others are called to visualize the big picture. Size is not the measure of success; obedience to do what God call us to do is the truest measure of success.

Shamgar committed all that he had and all that he was to the one true God. God used an ordinary man, an awkward tool, and limited abilities to impact an entire nation. When something is completely given into God’s hand for His use He will cause it to go further than it is supposed to go and do things it is not supposed to do.

So remember Shamgar’s three rules of success: First, start where you are. Second, use what you have. Third, do what you can. Then leave the rest up to God.

Just Because You Did It Doesn't Mean You're Guilty

Isaiah 5:22

The billboard shows a smiling lawyer with a polka dot bow-tie in front of a courthouse with an American flag flying in the background. Bold print proclaims, “Just Because You Did It Doesn’t Mean You’re Guilty”.

Really?

When I look at the message on attorney Larry L. Archie’s Greensboro, North Carolina, billboard, I have to wonder what was in the good lawyer’s mind. Is he making some deep philosophical point that I’m missing? Or does he mean exactly what his words seem to say?

The message of the billboard seems to be that whether or not you have committed a crime doesn’t really matter. The important thing is that a good lawyer (like Mr. Archie) can get you off. So, even if you did it, don’t worry about it. Let’s get together and work on making sure you’re never held accountable for what you did.

Can this really be what Larry Archie meant to communicate? I understand that the purpose of the ad is to drum up business, and Mr. Archie is a criminal defense attorney. And I understand that everyone deserves their day in court, with competent legal representation, whether they actually committed a crime or not.

But have we as a society really come to the place where we are ok with attorneys advertising to criminals that committing crimes isn’t a problem if you have a good lawyer to get you off?

Woe to men ... who justify the wicked for a bribe, and take away justice from the righteous man!

Isaiah 5:22-23 (NKJV)

I’m guessing that nobody pointed out to Larry Archie the moral and ethical ramifications of his message before it was put up on a billboard for all the world to see. Of course, there’s the possibility that he wouldn’t be concerned about such things anyway, but I won’t make that assumption.

Instead, I hope that now that the billboard is up, Mr. Archie will see his message with different eyes, and that billboard won’t stay up. If it does, that will say a lot about Larry L. Archie as a person – and about us as a society.

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One commenter suggested the billboard may not be as slimy as it appears - "Legally, someone could have done some misdeed but not be criminally liable. The best example is someone legally insane committing a homicide. There are other legal defenses such as duress that could be applicable." The blog author doubted this is what the lawyer's billboard was trying to convey.

The Scarlet DNA?

Job 24:15

If comedian Flip Wilson were still with us, maybe he’d be saying, “My genes made me do it.” But it wouldn’t be as funny. Or as accurate.

One of the most acclaimed novels of all time, “Anna Karenina” by Leo Tolstoy, deals with the all-too-human failure of infidelity.

Tolstoy painstakingly draws out the circumstances and consequences of his characters’ failings. And he delves into the interior life of his doomed protagonist. For instance, Tolstoy tells us that the more Anna grew disenchanted with her husband, the larger his ears looked to her.

As it turns out, Tolstoy needn’t have bothered with all this detail. All he needed to do was to wait for science to reduce the conundrum of infidelity to a simple acronym: DNA.

A study published earlier this year in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior analyzed data from nearly 7,400 Finnish twins and siblings “who had been in a monogamous relationship for at least one year.” The study found that nearly 10 percent of men and more than 6 percent of women admitted to cheating.

Researchers also found that “identical twins correlated strongly with one [another] in terms of unfaithfulness, while fraternal twins and siblings did not.” Since identical twins share 100 percent of their DNA, and siblings share only half, they concluded that “the clear finding is that an individual’s genetic makeup in general influences how likely he or she is to cheat.”

The lead researcher, Brendan Zietsch of the University of Queensland, told the Washington Post that “while there may be a clear genetic influence on our tendency to cheat, there is no such thing as a single ‘infidelity gene.’”

I can guarantee you that this is not how this study, or to be more precise, the story about this study, will be understood by the average person. To paraphrase Lady Gaga, we’ll soon be hearing, “I’m not a cheater, I was born this way.”

Christian Jordal, a marriage therapist at Drexel University, is skeptical. He told the Post that “there can be a tremendous amount of ambiguity around why people cheat ... It’s the same sort of mystery of the human heart: How is it that we choose to be attracted to someone? Why do we think or feel the way we do around love and romance? In the same way we don’t always have these answers, we don’t have the answers around infidelity issues.”

He’s right. Nonetheless, the Post reports “Among mental health professionals, the belief that infidelity always arises from an intrinsic flaw within the transgressor — such as a failure to commit or abnormally high sensation-seeking — is largely outdated.”

Of course it’s outdated. After all, what’s labeled these days as pathological isn’t transgressing moral norms, it’s believing that there are such things as moral norms in the first place!

Look, is someone’s behavior partly a function of temperament? Probably. Does heredity influence temperament? In all likelihood. But this is light years away from saying, as the Post headline does, that monogamy and/or infidelity is “programmed” in our genes.

I can hear Chuck Colson shouting “this is scientism run amok!” The mystery and complexity of human behavior, our capacity for good and our propensity to do evil, is reduced to our genetic makeup which in turn regulates some neurotransmitter in our brains.

This is, to coin a phrase, horse hockey. But worst of all, this view of human behavior demeans the human person, reducing us to a-moral automatons doomed to act only according to our genetic software.

But that, my friends is not who we are. Yes, we fail, and fail frequently. But we were made a little lower than the angels, in the very image of God. So while we cry out with Paul in Romans 7, “For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do,” as God’s adopted children, we can also cry out, “Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God — through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

Amen.

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Whether you’re a serial monogamist or have a tendency to stray may be partly programmed into your genes

Meeri Kim | Washington Post | November 6, 2015

Saber-tooth Psychology

Eric Metaxas | BreakPoint.org | November 4, 2015

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from BreakPoint Commentary · Eric Metaxas via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database adultery

The Weight of Too Much “Choice”

John 7:17

Regular listeners to the weekly Breakpoint This Week podcast know that my co-host Maria and I are fans of the reality competition show Alone. Ten wilderness experts are dropped in the middle of nowhere, usually a place that is cold and full of bears, forced to fend for themselves. Whoever stays the longest wins.

In the latest season, a military veteran with strong survival skills and extensive experience overseas seemed poised to win. Instead, he called it quits just a few weeks in. In an interview afterwards, he explained, “When I was in the military and separated from family, I didn’t have a choice. Out here... I had that opportunity to get on the radio or the phone and say, ‘Hey, I’m going to go back to where I’m comfortable.’” In other words, having the choice to go home made staying much harder.

According to conventional wisdom, at least the kind accepted in this cultural moment, the opposite should have been true. More control and more choices are supposed to bring easier and more satisfying lives.

That misconception is, in fact, a feature of life since modernism. For most of human history, humans held no illusions of being masters of their own fate. Writing back in 1976, American sociologist Peter Berger identified what changed, especially for Westerners. Because of the dramatic progress brought by science and technology, humans in the modern period began to believe that the world would eventually be fully understood. And if understood, it could also be mastered, as well.

“What previously was experienced as fate now becomes an arena of choices,” Berger wrote. “In principle, there is the assumption that all human problems can be converted into technical problems ... the world becomes ever more ‘makeable.’”

A mark of our late postmodern era is the obsession with having choices. The higher the stakes, the more acute is the illusion of freedom. Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy described this impulse in his now overturned Planned Parenthood V. Casey decision, when he wrote that “At the heart of liberty is the right to define one’s own concept of existence, of meaning, of the universe, and of the mystery of human life.” In his view, the “freedom of choice” extends to even choosing what is real. Is it any wonder that people now believe that choice extends beyond sexual behavior to sexual identity?

However, if happiness truly comes from the control made possible through infinite choices and the ability to “make the world,” why did the military officer competing on Alone find the opposite to be true? Why did his freedom of choice turn out to be too much of a burden? Why do so many studies show that we are less happy than ever?

The postmodern assertion that we can “make the world” exploits a weakness inherent to our fallen humanness and especially acute today. We struggle to delay gratification. We might fool ourselves into thinking that we can, in fact, define our existence or choose our gender. We may think our decision about whether to stay married or whether to bring an unborn child to birth is based on deep reflections. However, because we can, we tend to choose comfort now at the expense of flourishing later. If we have the option, we call the producers and tap out.

Justice Kennedy was wrong. No matter how many choices we have, we cannot remake the world. Everywhere we turn, we butt up against the limits of creation. According to a Christian worldview, this is actually good news. God created the world with limits: physical and moral laws, bodies, certain geographic locations and times in history, and not other ones. He gives us specific parents and siblings and children, whose specific needs constantly impose limits on our choices.

Even if, in modernity and postmodernity, such limits are anathema, to be resisted and fought against with all the science and technology we can muster, true freedom is found by recognizing and resting in God’s good limits, both physical and moral. If God is good, then the limits He imposes are not burdens. They’re blessings.

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Vicarious Salvation Impossible

One cannot rely on another's faith for salvation; personal faith is required.

There was a man who dreamed that he died and, seeking admission to paradise, was refused. He attempted to excuse his lack of religious faith and fidelity by the old pretext that, while he looked after worldly affairs, his wife went to church for both. “Well,” said the gatekeeper, “she has gone in for both!”

from Cyclopedia of Illustrations for Public Speakers · Robert Scott and William C. Stiles personal responsibility

The Booze Didn't Make You Do It: Recovering Right and Wrong

Luke 11:50

If you ever doubted the complete triumph of the therapeutic culture in America, look no further than this week’s news. Take NASA for example. How did it respond to the sad and bizarre story involving a love triangle and an astronaut charged with murder? It wants to tighten psychological screening procedures for astronauts! Now, I find it hard to imagine more rigorous screenings than those already given to naval aviators and astronauts.

How about sin? It doesn’t take rocket science to figure out what happens when you crowd attractive men and women into a space capsule.

Or take the recent case of San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom. Following his election in 2003, Newsom was considered a rising political star. Times have changed: Now, he’s the butt of late-night comedians’ jokes, and his political future is, at best, uncertain.

A few weeks ago, Newsom confirmed reports that he was involved in an affair with his campaign manager’s wife. He claimed that he was “deeply sorry about that,” but then announced that he was “seeking counseling for alcohol abuse.”

“Upon reflection” he told reporters, “I have come to the conclusion that I will be a better person without alcohol in my life.”

Newsom is hardly alone in his approach to moral failure. If a politician or celebrity is caught up in a scandal, you can pretty much count on their entering rehab soon afterwards. (And these “rehab centers,” by the way, are like little Ritz-Carltons.) This is true even if the behavior that caused the scandal has little, if anything, to do with alcohol or drugs, as in Newsom’s case.

Thus, after being caught on tape spewing anti-Semitic nonsense, Mel Gibson checked into rehab. After his behavior toward underage congressional pages became known, Congressman Mark Foley (R-Florida) — what else? — entered rehab.

In all these instances, the message is the same: The booze made me do it. Even when some personal fault is acknowledged, the unstated assumption is that once the drinking or drug use is dealt with, everything will be okay.

This is a prime example of what sociologist Philip Rieff called “the triumph of the therapeutic.” In his book by that name, Rieff described the emergence of what he called “psychological man.”

“Psychological man,” who was only possible because of Christianity’s declining cultural influence, is the product of a Freudian worldview. It isn’t interested in the good life, but “living well” — that is, with a minimum of emotional and psychological distress. Anything that causes this distress becomes the enemy, including a sense of responsibility and respect for authority.

But what happens when you do something bad, like having an affair with your friend’s wife? Or trying to kill a rival for your lover’s affections? Well, now, you don’t talk about sin because that has been dispensed with in our culture. So you look for an external cause of the behavior like alcohol or mental illness. You do not punish; you provide “treatment” that deals with these external causes.

Nonsense! What we need instead is to recover what therapy replaced: sin and individual responsibility, knowledge of right and wrong and the sense of shame that reinforces it. This might be decidedly politically incorrect, but it’s the only thing that will make “better persons” of us all.

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Retribution In The Individual

Individual ruin from sin is as certain and awful as the fall of great nations.

What is true of the mass is first true of the atom; what is true of the ocean is first true of the drop. It is easy to see the law of retribution when it is exemplified in the broad effects of national calamity, but not so easy to apprehend its action in the individual fortune. We stand in awe over the shattered greatness and buried splendor of Egypt, Babylon, Judea, Phoenicia, Greece; but the ruin that sin works in the individual destiny is just as certain, and infinitely more awful. If we could once see a soul in ruins, we should never speak again of Nineveh, Memphis, Jerusalem, Tyre, Athens. “Deceive not yourselves.” (Text.)--W. L. WATKINSON, “The Transfigured Sackcloth.”

Owning It

Job 31:1

A well-known attorney in Pennsylvania pled guilty several years ago to corruption charges. All the details of his case were widely covered in the media. I am not going to mention his name or cite the sources online where you can read about his crime. What I want to do is highlight a letter he submitted to the judge just prior to his sentencing:

“Your Honor, I take full responsibility for my actions and my inactions. When I [got involved with the other guilty parties] I knew instantly that was wrong. I was both scared and selfish and I will forever regret that decision.

“ ... I apologize to my family for the hell I have put them through ....

“Second, I apologize to my partners, my employees and my friends. I am truly sorry ....

“Third, my sincere apologies to [my] clients ....

“To the Court, I apologize for the damage I caused ...

“Last but not least, I apologize to the people of [our] County and ask for their forgiveness .... I am truly sorry ...

“Respectfully submitted, [Name].”(1)

I cited the words used by this attorney for one reason: There is a right way to own our sins, misdeeds and failures -- and it begins with saying that we are responsible and asking for forgiveness.

Others and our sin

There is a general rule that counselors use regarding the acknowledgement of sin: It needs to be confessed and forgiveness sought as far as the circle of damage extends. If one person sins

against another, that’s a small circle of damage. But if a person commits sin at a public level, then confession and forgiveness must be sought as far as the sin was felt.

Of course, it goes without saying that every sin by an individual is first a sin against God. That’s why King David, in his Psalm of confession for the sins of murder, deceit and adultery, said to God, “Against You, You only, have I sinned, and done this evil in Your sight” (Psalm 51:4).

Owning our sin

When taking responsibility for sin, we don’t have to write a confession as the man I cited did. But regardless of how many words we speak, these three words must be spoken: “I have sinned.”

We can’t say, “I was forced to sin,” “I was influenced to sin,” “I was taught to sin” or “I accidentally sinned.” Those blame-shifting words are used when we have not yet arrived at the point of accepting full responsibility for our actions.

I encourage you to read Psalm 51 -- it is a petition for forgiveness. In the psalm, David confesses everything to God after he was confronted by Nathan. He asks God to “create a clean heart” in him once again. Then he makes his confession not as the king of Israel but as a guilty sinner who is acknowledging his sin. As we ask God for forgiveness of our acknowledged sin, we will rediscover the joy of our salvation just as David did.

Overcoming our sin

To overcome sin, it must be confessed. By “overcome,” I mean setting right the thing our sin has tainted. Sometimes the damage cannot be reversed. But to the extent that relationships can be repaired, reparations made and reconciliation enjoyed, owning and overcoming are prerequisites to finding peace and forgiveness.

First, we have to repent of our sin. Like Christ told the church at Ephesus, we must “repent and do the first works” -- the works of righteousness (Revelation 2:5).

Second, we have to acknowledge our sin to God and to any against whom we have sinned, and ask their forgiveness (1 John 1:9)

Third, we need to make reparations where we can. If our actions have caused loss to others, we must restore what they have lost to the best of our ability (Proverbs 6:30-31).

Fourth, we must covenant with God to seek His power to avoid repeating the sin (Job 31:1).

As we move into the new year, may God grant you and me the grace to be responsible to own and overcome every sin so that we can live victoriously for Christ.

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1. “Powell’s Letter to the Judge,” The Times Leader, November 5, 2011; .

Influence of Friends

Recently, I saw a cartoon that demonstrated how people don't like to take responsibility. It was a Peanuts cartoon, and it showed Peppermint Patty talking to Charlie Brown. She said, “Guess what, Chuck. The first day of school, and I got sent to the principal's office. It was your fault, Chuck.”

He said, “My fault? How could it be my fault? Why do you say everything is my fault?”

She said, “You're my friend, aren't you, Chuck? You should have been a better influence on me.”

Somehow, we think that someone else is responsible.

from Source not recorded · Rev. Shelton Cole, http://www.sermon.org via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database personal responsibility

Saying Yes To Children

In this day of two-working-parent families ... time constraints make it easier for us to automatically respond with a "no" when our children ask for little things. Solution: In an article published in BETTER FAMILIES, Dr. Kay Kuzma offers some practical approaches we can use. She suggests we can say "yes" on many occasions, and it's more effective because it also teaches valuable lessons.

For example, your child might ask, "Am I going to get to watch my favorite television show tonight?" You have a chance to say, "Yes, as soon as you have dried the dishes and put them away," or "Yes, as soon as you have called Sally and apologized for your behavior this afternoon."

This approach changes you in the child's eyes from being a person who wants to deny him or her a pleasure to a parent who is interested in helping the child perform in a better, more mature way.

Your teenager might ask to use the car to run a few errands. You can say, "Yes, as soon as you wash it and if you will stop by the service station and fill it with gas on your way home." This way you're teaching your child responsibility.

Dr. Kuzma also points out that when a child asks, "May I have dessert?" you can say, "Yes, as soon as you have finished your salad or vegetables." This way you are attaching a small reward to a fulfilled responsibility. The child ends up with the temporary pleasure and some long-term benefits.

Practice Dr. Kuzma's suggestions, and you will have taken a giant step toward raising a positive, courteous, responsible child.

There's No Such Thing As Willpower: ... and We're All the Poorer For It

Job 10:8

Rap star Christopher Rios, better known by his stage name, Heavy Punisher, died at the age of 28. While the exact cause of death has yet to be determined, it is widely assumed that his death was connected to his weight. You see, the reason Rios was called Heavy Punisher was that he weighed nearly 700 pounds.

Now before you say anything about Rios' apparent lack of willpower, you should know that some scientists believe that there is no such thing as willpower -- a view produced by the naturalistic worldview that today dominates science.

In a recent New York Times article, Michael R. Lowe, a clinical psychologist, spoke for many of his colleagues when he called willpower "an explanatory fiction." That is, we believe in willpower because we don't understand how the mind works and what really causes us to act the way we do.

According to Lowe and his colleagues, the truth is that our ability to control our impulses and resist temptation has nothing to do with morality. Instead, temptations are merely the product of chemical reactions in our brains. It's our ability to regulate properly the flow of neurotransmitters, such as Dopamine and Serotonin, that keeps us from eating the entire cheesecake.

Neuro-pharmacologist Christine Duvauchelle recently told Forbes magazine, "we're trying to get away from value judgments about people and pointing to chemical changes in the brain that are almost impossible to resist."

And, in their view, challenging the biological truth about willpower only encourages discrimination against the "Dopamine-impaired."

Well, it's obvious that the obese aren't the only ones who benefit from the deconstruction of willpower. This worldview enables those who continue to smoke -- years after they know the dangers and after they've seen others quit -- to sue tobacco companies. The problem, the say, is Dopamine-impairment. Well, on that basis we can excuse any sin -- "Dopamine deficiency made me do it."

Now, I won't deny that brain chemistry influences the way we behave. But the argument being advanced by Lowe and others ultimately says that not only is willpower a myth, so is free will.

According to their naturalistic view, human beings are reduced from "a little less than angels," as the Psalmist put it, to little more than a collection of mindless chemicals. This is a position you can only hold if you believe that human beings are nothing but a collection of molecules and cells that somehow came together by accident.

Secular humanists embrace naturalism because of their belief that it frees humans from the oppression imposed by religious belief. But they've got it backwards. It is naturalism that debases us. Naturalism inevitably leads to the conclusion that there is nothing special about being human. Naturalism enslaves us by making us the prisoners of our biochemistry. Where's the dignity in that?

In contrast, the biblical view frees us from the limitations of biochemistry. Human beings may have inclinations towards certain kinds of behavior, but they don't have to obey those inclinations.

While it may be tempting for scientists to embrace the notion that willpower is a myth, it's ultimately a ticket to slavery. Only the biblical worldview sets us free to choose what's truly best for us, whether its closing the refrigerator door or taking responsibility for, dare I say it, human sin.

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Copyright (c) 2000 Prison Fellowship Ministries. Reprinted with permission. "BreakPoint with Chuck Colson" is a radio ministry of Prison Fellowship Ministries.

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Reasons Versus Excuses

Distinguishing genuine reasons from excuses teaches honesty and responsibility.

“What is the difference between a poor excuse for being late at school and a real reason for being late? Give an example.” Out come examples of oversleeping or dilly-dallying as contrasted with the unavoidable fact that the cars were blocked. “An excuse is hollow; a real reason is stout and whole.” “An excuse is a method of concealment; a good reason is its own justification.” So write my girls. One delightful girl of twelve explained, “This morning I was late but I had a real reason. When I went up-stairs after breakfast to feed my animals, my favorite guinea-pig, Christopher Columbus, was so sick that he could hardly stand up. I had to stay and make him comfortable, and so I was late to school. But the teacher said it was a good reason.” Echoes of the difference between poor excuses and good reasons resound for several weeks. “To-day I have no reason for being late, only an excuse. I didn’t know what time it was, but then I ought to have found out.”

With older pupils I take up more complicated cases illustrating the tendency of any selfish person to deceive himself or herself. “I am traveling from New Hampshire to Boston with a large number of bundles and am delighted to secure an extra seat on which to deposit them. Gradually the car fills up and all who pass by look wistfully at my seat. If I continue to keep my parcels on it by what arguments can I pretend that it is right?” We bring out together all the half-conscious sophistry that clings like a burr to selfishness. “There may be seats farther on; if they want the seat they can ask for it; it would only crowd any one to sit with me; it is really more comfortable for her to stand.” Every one in the class realizes that these excuses are weak subterfuges; for as one girl said, “Such sputtering people deceive themselves.”--ELLA LYMAN CABOT, “Proceedings of the National Education Association,” 1909.

from Cyclopedia of Illustrations for Public Speakers · Robert Scott and William C. Stiles personal responsibility

You Don't Overcome Addiction Easily

In 2010, Ted Williams was a homeless man with a “golden voice” living on the streets of Columbus, Ohio. But one chance encounter and a YouTube video gone viral launched Williams into overnight superstardom. He had an emotional reunion with his mother and even found work doing a voice-over gig for a Kraft commercial.

But going from homeless to Hollywood is no easy transition. After a fiery altercation with his daughter, Williams was convinced by Dr. Phil to check into rehab after only one week of fame.

But less than two weeks after beginning treatment for drug and alcohol dependency at a center in Texas, Williams left rehab against medical advice. A short time later, he went back in.

When Dr. Phil convinced Williams, 53, to seek professional treatment for his addictions, the overnight star seemed committed to getting help. Although Williams initially denied he’d been drinking, he admitted that the rise to fame had introduced significant stresses into his life and had been a definite challenge.

The Cavaliers basketball team very publicly offered Williams a job doing voice-over work for the Cavs and Quicken Loans Arena. They even offered him a house. All that has been rescinded now.

Life coach and radio host Mel Robbins told PopEater, “Ted Williams may have a golden voice, but he’s also got a rap sheet, a drug addiction, nine children he abandoned and a mother he has been estranged from for 20 years. Does everyone deserve a second chance, sure. But don’t kid yourself -- you can’t overcome a lifetime of bad decisions and mental health issues with a few morning show appearances.”

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Adapted from "‘Golden Voice’ Ted Williams Ditches Rehab," by Rebecca Macatee on America Online, Jan. 24, 2011; and "Cavs Take Back Job Offer from Ted Williams, Homeless Superstar Turned Fameball Flameout," by Vince Grzegorek at www.clevescene.com, May 9, 2011.

Saying Yes To Children

In this day of two-working-parent families ... time constraints make it easier for us to automatically respond with a "no" when our children ask for little things. Solution: In an article published in BETTER FAMILIES, Dr. Kay Kuzma offers some practical approaches we can use. She suggests we can say "yes" on many occasions, and it's more effective because it also teaches valuable lessons.

For example, your child might ask, "Am I going to get to watch my favorite television show tonight?" You have a chance to say, "Yes, as soon as you have dried the dishes and put them away," or "Yes, as soon as you have called Sally and apologized for your behavior this afternoon."

This approach changes you in the child's eyes from being a person who wants to deny him or her a pleasure to a parent who is interested in helping the child perform in a better, more mature way.

Your teenager might ask to use the car to run a few errands. You can say, "Yes, as soon as you wash it and if you will stop by the service station and fill it with gas on your way home." This way you're teaching your child responsibility.

Dr. Kuzma also points out that when a child asks, "May I have dessert?" you can say, "Yes, as soon as you have finished your salad or vegetables." This way you are attaching a small reward to a fulfilled responsibility. The child ends up with the temporary pleasure and some long-term benefits.

Practice Dr. Kuzma's suggestions, and you will have taken a giant step toward raising a positive, courteous, responsible child.

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