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Kindness in Christian preaching highlights compassionate, selfless acts reflecting God's love, encouraging believers to treat others with gentleness and mercy. Illustrations often depict simple gestures, everyday opportunities, and unexpected generosity, emphasizing that kindness transforms lives and communities (Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:12). These stories inspire a Christlike heart that seeks to bless others without expectation.

Do You Care?

1 Samuel 20:15

You shall not cut off your kindness from my house forever. -- 1 Samuel 20:15

It's one thing to tell a friend you care. It's quite another to show it.

When David and Jonathan made a pact of friendship (1 Sam. 18:1-4), neither of them knew to what extent Jonathan would have to go to show his care for David. But it didn't matter. Undaunted by danger, Jonathan courageously acted to save David's life (20:1-23).

When we develop close friendships, we may also be called on to demonstrate by our actions that we care. The acrostic C-A-R-E can help us remember four key elements of friendship.

Challenge your friend to grow spiritually. A good friend knows the importance of turning the conversation toward matters of faith.

Affirm your friend's value. A phone call or a note can let your friend know how important he or she is and can keep your friendship strong.

Respect the feelings and wishes of your friend. No one wants a friend with whom ideas, dreams, and concerns fall on deaf ears. A good friend is a great sounding board.

Encourage your friend through compliments and by doing good deeds. Your friend will feel better after having been in your presence.

Do you have a friend you should care for today? -- JDB

THINKING IT OVER

Read Proverbs 27:17. What does it mean for friends to “sharpen” each other as iron sharpens iron? Do any of your friendships sharpen you?

See a friend in need? Be a friend in deed.

from Our Daily Bread, January 20, 1999 via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database kindness

Compliment the Uncomplimented

Go out of your way to compliment those people who serve others but are not usually treated with a great deal of respect. From the waitperson to the skycap, from the hotel doorman to, well, any service person - aside from tipping or a quick thank you, do you refer to them as sir or ma'am? Do you acknowledge them with kindness? Do you genuinely think of them as important and significant and does it show? Yes, it makes a definite difference to their self- esteem. It also reflects how far they'll go out of their way to make sure you are happy. And you never know when that will come in handy.

An excellent illustration of WINNING WITHOUT INTIMIDATION by complimenting the uncomplimented showcases the abilities of the great former quarterback and now highly successful entrepreneur, Fran Tarkenton. As a quarterback, and a small one at only 5'10", Fran was always the target of the huge, tough, often merciless defensive linemen. Linemen can be mean to quarterbacks. They're supposed to be. That's their job. On top of that, they know they don't earn the kind of money most quarterbacks earn and they certainly don't enjoy the same adulation and glory. Those 320-pound guys can be downright rough on the Fran Tarkentons of the world.

But Fran is a master at dealing with people. He is now, and certainly was back then. According to his former teammate, Ahmad Rashad, after a rough hit, Fran would acknowledge his attacker by saying something like, "Great day for football, isn't it?" or "Man, that was quite a hit."

These guys weren't exactly used to quarterbacks actually talking to them in more than four-letter words - and they certainly weren't used to being treated as human beings. Before long, they weren't quite as aggressive, mean and nasty with Fran. Sure, they'd still hit him, but they wouldn't rough him up as they did other quarterbacks. He took the anger out of them and probably added years to his Hall of Fame career.

Wow, that's when WINNING WITHOUT INTIMIDATION really comes in handy - when your life depends upon it!

Of course, most of us aren't professional quarterbacks, or otherwise chased by wild-eyed, maniacal, and just plain nasty 320-pound men even for non-athletic reasons ... I hope. So, let's go back to how we treat those who are generally not treated with a great deal of respect by other people. This also applies to anyone who may not seem to be in a position to do something for us. Maybe they are the one in need. As mentioned earlier, do you think of them as important and significant human beings? Do you genuinely feel that way on the inside so that your feelings radiate on the outside? Yes, it does makes a definite difference to them, and does almost ensure they'll go out of their way to make sure you are happy. No, that's not the "reason" you treat them well ... just the "result."

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Bob Burg is author of "Winning Without Intimidation"

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The Sandwich Man

What would you do if you wanted to make a difference in the world, leave a mark or put a deposit on a ticket into heaven? Would you think big and pick the flashiest or most grandiose of acts? Or would you quietly persevere every day, doing one personal deed at a time?

Michael Christiano, a New York City court officer, rises every morning at 4 a.m., in good and bad weather, workday or holiday, and walks into his sandwich shop. No, he doesn’t own a deli, it’s really his personal kitchen. In it are the fixings of his famous sandwiches, famous only to those who desperately need them to stave off hunger for the day. By 5:50 a.m., he’s making the rounds of the makeshift homeless shelters on Centre and Lafayette Streets, near New York’s City Hall. In a short time, he gives out 200 sandwiches to as many homeless people as he can, before beginning his work day in the courthouse.

It started 20 years ago with a cup of coffee and a roll for a homeless man named John. Day after day, Michael brought John sandwiches, tea, clothes, and when it was really cold, a resting place in his car while he worked. In the beginning, Michael just wanted to do a good deed.

But one day a voice in his head compelled him to do more. On this cold, winter morning, he asked John if he would like to get cleaned up. It was an empty offer, because Michael was sure John would refuse. Unexpectedly, John said, “Are you gonna wash me?”

Michael heard an inner voice say, Put your money where your mouth is. Looking at this poor man, covered in ragged and smelly clothes, unkempt, hairy and wild looking, Michael was afraid. But he also knew that he was looking at a big test of his commitment. So he helped John upstairs to the locker room of the courthouse to begin the work.

John’s body was a mass of cuts and sores, the result of years of pain and neglect. His right hand had been amputated, and Michael pushed through his own fears and revulsion. He helped John wash, cut his hair, shaved him and shared breakfast with him. “It was at that moment,” Michael remembers, “that I knew I had a calling, and I believed that I had it within me to do anything.”

With the idea for his sandwiches born, Michael began his calling. He receives no corporate sponsorship, saying, “I’m not looking for an act of charity that goes in the record books or gets media attention. I just want to do good, day by day, in my small way. Sometimes it comes out of my pocket, sometimes I get help. But this is really something that I can do, one day and one person at a time.

“There are days when it’s snowing,” he says, “and I have a hard time leaving my warm bed and the comfort of my family to go downtown with sandwiches. But then that voice in me starts chattering, and I get to it.”

And get to it he does. Michael has made 200 sandwiches every day for the past 20 years. “When I give out sandwiches,” Michael explains, “I don’t simply lay them on a table for folks to pick up. I look everyone in the eye, shake their hands, and I offer them my wishes for a good and hopeful day. Each person is important to me. I don’t see them as ‘the homeless,’ but as people who need food, an encouraging smile and some positive human contact.

“Once Mayor Koch turned up to make the rounds with me. He didn’t invite the media, it was just us,” says Michael. But of all Michael’s memories, working side by side with the Mayor was not as important as working next to someone else…

A man had disappeared from the ranks of the sandwich takers, and Michael thought about him from time to time. He hoped the man had moved on to more comfortable conditions. One day, the man showed up, transformed, greeting Michael clean, warmly clothed, shaven and carrying sandwiches of his own to hand out. Michael’s daily dose of fresh food, warm handshakes, eye contact and well wishes had given this man the hope and encouragement he so desperately needed. Being seen every day as a person, not as a category, had turned this man’s life around.

The moment needed no dialogue. The two men worked silently, side by side, handing out their sandwiches. It was another day on the streets of New York, but a day with just a little more hope.

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A Lesson From A Terrapin

One brother said that during his childhood in the country, he once found a terrapin. When he started to examine it, the terrapin pulled in its head and closed its shell like a vice. This displeased the boy, and he picked up something and tried to pry it open. His uncle saw all this and said: "No, that is not the way! You may kill it, but you will not get it open."

The uncle took the terrapin into the house and set it on the hearth.

It was not but a few minutes until it began to get warm. Then the terrapin pushed out its head, then its feet, and began crawling.

"Terrapins are like that," the uncle said, "and people, too. You cannot force them into anything. But if you first warm them up with some real kindness, more than likely they will do what you want them to do."

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A Grateful Friend

A gentleman had found a shelter for a ragged, homeless boy and was walking down the street with him. He was stopped by another gentleman who, after a short conversation, said, "You are surely not walking through the streets with that dirty boy?" "Why not?" said the gentleman. "He is my friend." Overhearing the first remark the lad was slinking away, but the answer made him the life-long, devoted follower of his new-found friend. God calls us His friends. Can we ever express enough gratitude and honor to Him?

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Kindness Is Not Blind

Alexander Maclaren says, "Kindness does not require us to be blind to facts or to live in fancies, but it does require us to cherish a habit of goodwill, ready to show pity if sorrow appears, and slow to turn away even if hostility appears."

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A Sunday School Teacher's Tact Leads Moody To Christ

F. W. Farrar tells how, when Dwight L. Moody was an ignorant, ragged, shoeless boy in the streets of Chicago, he found his way to a Sunday school by one of those unseen providences that men call chance. He was shy and sensitive and very nervous lest the other boys would laugh at him because he could not find the places in the Bible. The teacher observed his embarrassment, and with gentle, silent tact saved him from his shame by finding the places for him. But for that little nameless act of love and sympathy, a career of memorable beneficence might have been lost to the world.

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Witnessing To My Cleaning Lady

Luke 14:21

A real-life story about witnessing from Onie Kittle, a prayer warrior in New Jersey who is homebound due to a lung condition:

Every Monday Nancy has come to our home from a cleaning service. Thirty-four and single, she is a little rough around the edges in her Harley Davidson jacket. She calls me "On" (pronounced 'Own') and I kind of liked it. From the beginning, she came in with her mouth gaping: at the family fun ... at the daily ministry ... at the books and music ... at the 'Prayer, Care" Lighthouse in the window ... at the way (as she put it) "we always seem to do the right thing."

Following the Thanksgiving break, I asked if she had a nice holiday. She answered, with a tear welling up in her eye, "You know...I don't know about family things like you have. I mean ... I've never had anyone in my whole life tell me they loved me." So saddened by the story I shared it with my husband. Our hearts went out to her.

I prayed for her and sometimes with her and answered her questions ... questions that revealed her lack of foundation for any belief system.

At Christmas our house was full of overnight company and cooking. It really needed our Nancy! That Monday I prayed for her car to run, her back to be in good shape and that I would not get that dreaded phone call, "I can't make it." When she arrived an hour early, I shouted, "Nancy! I prayed you in this morning!" "Yeah?" she said. I reviewed the list of how I'd prayed. Then she got a twinkle in her eye and said, "You do pray for me. Don't you!"

I said, "Of course I do."

She sat down and said, "Can I tell you something?" "It was strange but, I mean..., my mom has never got me anything." "I mean ... anyway, I was jealous of you getting all these new pajamas and gowns and bed sheets ..." I mean, I don't even have a pair of pj's. I wear my brothers old tee shirts." "So, here comes my mom with this big box all wrapped up. With four brand new pairs of pajamas."

I smiled... She smiled... I laughed... She laughed... We held hands and laughed and cried. She "got it." She really saw God in it. I said, "Nancy, that is my all-time favorite story of God's love. He loves you so much." Then she went about her work. Before she left, she sat down again, across the desk from me and just lingered ... I felt God's love hovering over us. I thought, "How wonderful of you Lord, to turn a tear into a twinkle." I was just about to ask her, "Have you ever asked Jesus into your life?" when I felt it was not time. The Lord seemed to impress upon me that He wanted her to ask.

That week I spent some extra, intentional, time in prayer for her. Ed Silvaso, in his book, "That None Should Perish," reminds us to talk to God about men before we talk to men about God.

The following Monday morning, she came up the stairs and into the office and said, "Would you pray for me or with me or what ever you do." "I mean, I notice that you always do the 'right thing'." "I want to start doing the right things." I said, "Nancy, you know you never will be able to - do the right thing - in your own strength." I moved around the desk to sit beside her. The Holy Spirit said, "Anoint her with oil so that the enemy cannot touch her or manifest while you proceed." I asked if she had ever been anointed with oil and would it be okay with her if I did. She agreed. I thanked God for His kindness in Nancy's life. For bringing her into our home to love. For letting her know how much He loved her. For her mother's love to her at Christmas.

Then, I asked, "Nancy, I know that you were born into the Catholic faith as I was born a Baptist. But, you know there came a time when I had to make a decision to follow Christ and receive His salvation personally. Have you ever done that?" Her answers were obvious. "Would you like to," I asked. "Yes," she answered. I asked her to repeat the sinners prayer with me and we asked the Lord to clothe her with His love and righteousness - His rightness - His ability to help her do the 'right thing.'"

Being shut-in is not a time to retire from Christ's commission to make disciples. If we remain in prayer, He will send them in. His fields are ripe for the harvest, let us not give up praying....

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"It's Harvest Time"

Mrs. Onie M. Kittle, Prayer Explosion, Inc.

304 Carriage House Lane, Riverton, NJ 08077

856.786.7233, fax 856.786.1269

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What Stands Like Stone

Job 2:11

Poem by Lindsay (Lionel) Gordon (1833-1870):

"Life is mostly froth and bubbles,

Only two things stand like stone,

Kindness in another's troubles,

Courage in your own."

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Words - Poems

Some words are like buckets that carry lots of things.

Some words are like hornets that leave some nasty stings.

Some words are like music that make us want to sing.

Some words are like messengers that have good news to bring.

Some words are like hammers that beat upon your day.

Some words are like pillows that soften what you say.

So when you open up your mouth and have some words to share,

Be sure those are just the words to show that you really care!

Soft words are pillows for the hurts!!!

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Are You God?

One cold evening during the holiday season, a little boy about six or seven was standing out in front of a store window. The little child had no shoes on and his clothes were mere rags.

A young woman passing by saw the little boy and could read the longing in his pale blue eyes. She took the child by the hand and led him into the store. There she bought him new shoes and a complete suit of warm clothing.

They came back outside into the street and the woman said to the child, “Now you can go home and have a very happy holiday.”

The little boy looked up at her and asked, “are you God, Ma’am?” She smiled down at him and replied, “No son, I’m just one of His children.”

The little boy then said, “I knew you had to be some relation.”

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Touch My Heart

Touch my heart and I’ll touch yours

With a gentle word or two,

For kindness bears the sweetest fruit

That makes our dreams come true.

Touch my life with tenderness

And fill my cup with love.

Share my dreams as I share yours

Beyond the stars above.

Take my hand as I grow old

And lead me when I’m blind.

Show me that you really care

Good Friends are hard to find.

Touch my heart and I’ll touch yours

A little more each day

And then we both find happiness

Somewhere along the way.

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No Small Act of Kindness

The day was Thankful Thursday, our “designated day” of service. It’s a weekly tradition that my two little girls and I began years ago. Thursday has become our day to go out in the world and make a positive contribution. On this particular Thursday, we had no idea exactly what we were going to do, but we knew that something would present itself.

Driving along a busy Houston road, praying for guidance in our quest to fulfill our weekly Act of Kindness, the noon hour appropriately triggered hunger pangs in my two little ones. They wasted no time in letting me know, chanting, “McDonald’s, McDonald’s, McDonald’s” as we drove along. I relented and began searching earnestly for the nearest McDonald’s. Suddenly I realized that almost every intersection I passed through was occupied by a panhandler. And then it hit me! If my two little ones were hungry, then all these panhandlers must be hungry, too. Perfect! Our Act of Kindness had presented itself. We were going to buy lunch for the panhandlers.

After finding a McDonald’s and ordering two Happy Meals for my girls, I ordered an additional 15 lunches and we set out to deliver them. It was exhilarating. We would pull alongside a panhandler, make a contribution, and tell him or her that we hoped things got better. Then we’d say, “Oh, by the way… here’s lunch.” And then we would varoom off to the next intersection.

It was the best way to give. There wasn’t enough time for us to introduce ourselves or explain what we were going to do, nor was there time for them to say anything back to us. The Act of Kindness was anonymous and empowering for each of us, and we loved what we saw in the rear view mirror: a surprised and delighted person holding up his lunch bag and just looking at us as we drove off. It was wonderful!

We had come to the end of our “route” and there was a small woman standing there, asking for change. We handed her our final contribution and lunch bag, and then immediately made a U-turn to head back in the opposite direction for home. Unfortunately, the light caught us again and we were stopped at the same intersection where this little woman stood. I was embarrassed and didn’t know quite how to behave. I didn’t want her to feel obligated to say or do anything.

She made her way to our car, so I put the window down just as she started to speak. “No one has ever done anything like this for me before,” she said with amazement. I replied, “Well, I’m glad that we were the first.” Feeling uneasy, and wanting to move the conversation along, I asked, “So, when do you think you’ll eat your lunch?”

She just looked at me with her huge, tired brown eyes and said, “Oh honey, I’m not going to eat this lunch.” I was confused, but before I could say anything, she continued. “You see, I have a little girl of my own at home and she just loves McDonald’s, but I can never buy it for her because I just don’t have the money. But you know what… tonight she is going to have McDonald’s!”

I don’t know if the kids noticed the tears in my eyes. So many times I had questioned whether our Acts of Kindness were too small or insignificant to really effect change. Yet in that moment, I recognized the truth of Mother Teresa’s words: “We cannot do great things – only small things with great love.”

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On Making Pancakes

Six year old Brandon decided one Saturday morning to fix his parents pancakes. He found a big bowl and spoon, pulled a chair to the counter, opened the cupboard and pulled out the heavy flour canister, spilling it on the floor.

He scooped some of flour into the bowl with his hands, mixed in most of a cup of milk and added some sugar, leaving a floury trail on the floor which by now had a few tracks left by his kitten.

Brandon was covered with flour and getting frustrated. He wanted this to be something very good for Mom and Dad, but it was getting very bad. He didn’t know what to do next, whether to put it all into the oven or on the stove, (and he didn’t know how the stove worked!).

Suddenly he saw his kitten licking from the bowl of mix and reached to push her away, knocking the egg carton to the floor. Frantically he tried to clean up this monumental mess but slipped on the eggs, getting his pajamas white and sticky.

And just then he saw Dad standing at the door. Big crocodile tears welled up in Brandon’s eyes. All he’d wanted to do was something good, but he’d made a terrible mess. He was sure a scolding was coming, maybe even a spanking.

But his father just watched him.

Then, walking through the mess, he picked up his crying son, hugged him and loved him, getting his own pajamas white and sticky in the process.

That’s how God deals with us. We try to do something good in life, but it turns into a mess. Our marriage gets all sticky or we insult a friend or we can’t stand our job or our health goes sour.

Sometimes we just stand there in tears because we can’t think of anything else to do. That’s when God picks us up and loves us and forgives us, even though some of our mess gets all over Him. But just because we might mess up, we can’t stop trying to “make pancakes,” for God or for others. Sooner or later we’ll get it right, and then they’ll be glad we tried…

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God's Wife

Eternal life is the lifetime of the Almighty.

THOT OF THE DAY (from MikeysFunnies.com)

I am grateful that I am not as judgmental as all those censorious self-righteous people around me.

GOD’S WIFE

A little boy 10 years old was standing before a shoe store on Broadway, barefooted, peering through the window, and shivering with cold. A lady approached the boy and said, “My little fellow, why are you looking so earnestly in that window?” “I was asking God to give a pair of shoes,” was the boy’s reply. The lady took him by the hand and went into the store, and asked the clerk to get half a dozen pair of sock for the boy. She then asked if he could give her a basin of water and a towel he quickly brought them to her. She took the little fellow to the back part of the store and, removing her gloves, knelt down, washed his little feet and dried them with a towel. By this time the clerk had returned with the socks. Placing a pair upon the boy’s feet, she purchased him a pair of shoes, and tying up the remaining pairs of socks,gave them to him. She patted him on the head and said, “No doubt, my little fellow, you feel more comfortable now?” As she turned to go, the astonished lad caught her by the hand, and looking up in her face, with tears in his eyes, answered the question with these words … “Are you God’s wife?

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Forgiveness Is Clever

Ephesians 4:32

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Paul the Apostle (Ephesians 4:32)

Some years ago during a visit to Yellowstone Park one writer observed that the only animal the grizzly bear would share food with was a skunk. It wasn’t that the grizzly wanted to share his food but rather that he chose to. With one swing of his powerful paw he could have crushed the skunk. So why did he allow the skunk to eat with him?

Because he knew the high cost of getting even.

Clever bear!

Undoubtedly he learned the hard way. Strange that we humans often aren’t as smart. Sometimes we carry grudges for years, often repressing them from conscious memory, and end up hurting ourselves more than the ones we would like to get even with. We fail to see how damaging an unforgiving spirit is.

In his book, “None of These Diseases,” Dr. S.I. McMillen says, “Medical science recognizes that emotions such as fear, sorrow, envy, resentment and hatred are responsible for the majority of our sicknesses. Estimates vary from 60 to nearly 100 percent.”

I read about one patient who was told by his doctor. “If you don’t cut out your resentments, I may have to cut out a part of your intestinal tract.”

Fortunately the man took the doctor’s advice. He had been nursing a bitter grudge against a former business partner. He went to see this man, resolved their difference, and forgave him. When he returned to the doctor, his physical condition had cleared up.

Smart man!

The reality is what we fail to forgive keeps us bound to and by the past. Forgiveness sets the hurt person free. That’s why Jesus told Peter we need to forgive seventy times seven; that is, to keep on forgiving so we don’t become bitter and resentful.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to forgive all who have ever hurt me as you forgive me for all I have ever done to hurt others. Gratefully in Jesus’ name.”

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Rock Concert

Even without the torn jeans, he made a scruffy-looking ten-year old. His fifth grade classmates had never seen anyone as poorly dressed and unpolished as Marco. This was his first day of elementary school in a quaint New England town of well-to-do families. Marco’s parents were migrant fruit pickers and his classmates eyed him with suspicion for the first part of the day. Even though they whispered and made comments about his clothes, he didn’t seem to notice.

Then came recess and the kickball game. Marco led off the first inning with a home run, earning him a bit of respect from his wardrobe critics. Next up to kick was Richard, the least athletic and most overweight child in the class. After his second strike (amid the groans of his classmates), Marco edged up to Richard and quietly said, “Forget them, kid. You can do it!” Richard kicked a home run and at that precise moment, something began to change in Marco’s class. Over the next few months, Marco was able to teach the class many new things. Things such as how to tell when fruit was ripe, how to call a wild turkey and, especially, how to treat other people.

By the time Marco’s parents finished their work in the area, the class was preparing to celebrate Christmas. While other students brought the teacher fancy scarves, perfumes and soap, Marco stepped up to the teacher’s desk with a special gift. It was a rock that he delivered into the teacher’s hands which was beautiful and bright. “I polished it up special,” he said.

Years later, the teacher still had Marco’s rock on her desk. At the beginning of each school year, she would tell her class about the gentle boy who taught her and her class not to judge a book by its cover. And that it’s what’s on the inside of others that truly counts.

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Eight Gifts That Don't Cost A Cent

Eight Gifts That Don’t Cost A Cent

1. THE GIFT OF LISTENING… But you must REALLY listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. JUST LISTEN.

2. THE GIFT OF AFFECTION… Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for someone.

3. THE GIFT OF LAUGHTER… Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, “I love to laugh with you.”

4. THE GIFT OF A WRITTEN NOTE… It can be a simple “Thanks for the help” note or a full sonnet. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime, and may even change a life.

5. THE GIFT OF A COMPLIMENT… A simple and sincere, “You look great today,” “You did a super job” (or) “That was a wonderful meal” can make someone’s day.

6. THE GIFT OF A FAVOR… Every day, go out of your way to do something kind for someone you love.

7. THE GIFT OF SOLITUDE… There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others.

8. THE GIFT OF A CHEERFUL DISPOSITION… The easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone. Really, it’s not that hard to say Hello and Thank You.

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When "Jesus" Isn't Enough

James 2:16

”Suppose a brother or sister is without clothes and daily food. If one of you says to him, ‘Go, I wish you well; keep warm and well fed,’ but does nothing about his physical needs, what good is it? In the same way, faith by itself, it if is not accompanied by action, is dead” (James 2:16-17, NIV).

I recall an occasion when I was going through a very difficult time of grief and discouragement. I shared this with a friend whose immediate response was, “Are you in the Word, Dick?” — meaning are your reading your Bible every day?

My heart sank and I replied, “Joan, what do you do when you are hungry?

“I get the point,” she answered.

“What I need right now is a friend,” I replied.

Sure I believe in reading the Bible and praying daily, but will this take away our pain when we are hurting and desperately lonely? Not for those of us who have feet of clay.

After Elijah’s incredible victory at Mt. Carmel over the 300 prophets of Baal, Queen Jezebel was so furious, she was determined to have Elijah’s head. Elijah fled to save his life — into the wilderness. He was so depressed he sat under a juniper tree and wanted to die. God sent an angel to minister to him and did the angel say, “Elijah, rise and read your Bible and pray?”

No. The angel said, “Rise and eat!”

Elijah was emotionally, spiritually, and physically exhausted. What he needed was a good meal. Sometimes that’s what we need too when the cares and/or pressures of life have got us down. Or we need a loving hug … or someone just to listen to us, to care, and understand — not to give us advice or try to fix us, but just to be with us and give us their loving presence.

James had it right. True religion is not only to “walk with God” but to understand people’s immediate and felt needs and to minister to them at their point of need — or to be “as Christ” to them.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, when I feel all stressed out, help me to find loving and understanding friends to reach out to. And when my friends reach out to me for loving support when they are hurting, help me to be there for them and give them my loving presence without any kind of compulsion to give them advice or try to fix them. Gratefully in Jesus’ name. Amen.”

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Random Acts of Kindness Are Not So Random

Mark 3:4

Good deeds may not get you into heaven, but they are a pretty good indication of who is faithful among us, a recent study found.

Scientists at the National Opinion Research Center have determined that when it comes to inspiring altruism, nothing matters except faith -- not gender, race, social class, political affiliation or locale.

According to the study, “Altruism in Contemporary America,” Americans on average do 109 altruistic acts each year. But those who attend a place of worship weekly -- church, synagogue mosque or temple -- report doing an average of 128 good deeds a year. People who never attend perform only 96 acts of kindness on average.

In addition to those who attend, people who pray reportedly show more kindness than those who don't. The report said those who pray did three times as many acts of kindness as those who never pray.

Tom Smith, director of the two-year study, said one reason why faith-based acts of kindness proliferate is that the core values of all major world religions incorporate charity-related deeds in their beliefs.

“People who are actively engaged [in a religious community] help others,” Smith said. “What made a difference was attending church and praying more often. If we're actively engaged, we're a part of a religious community, and opportunities to help others come up more often as a member of a congregation.”

Smith said the research team began the study looking for predictors of altruistic acts, things like activity in social services, gender or rural values. The fact that faith supercedes other factors could involve what Smith called “opportunity structure.”

“We expected people in rural areas to have higher values, be more altruistic, but that was not the case,” Smith said. “If you live in a city, opportunities to do good deeds are more likely to turn up.”

For the first-of-its-kind report, Smith and his colleagues evaluated 1,366 people with a list of 15 “good deeds,” asking them how often they performed the acts in the past week, month and year. The deeds included giving food or money to a homeless person, volunteering, giving directions to a stranger, offering a bus or train seat to someone standing, and helping someone find a job.

The most common good deed -- cited by 92.6 percent of respondents -- was spending time talking to someone who felt depressed.

The 15 good deeds studied are commonly used in similar surveys. Researchers shied away from deeds that involve rare occurrences -- saving someone from drowning, for example.

“We tried to pick things ... that weren't rare, things you would have the opportunity to do in daily life,” Smith said.

While men and women were equally altruistic, women were much more likely to feel empathy than men. While 45 percent of women felt disturbed by others' misfortunes, only 25 percent of men reported the same. In fact, Smith said, gender made the only difference when it came to empathy.

Proven Ways To Get Along Better With Everyone

1. Before you say anything to anyone, ask yourself 3 things:

i. Is it true?

ii. Is it kind?

iii. Is it necessary?

2. Make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully.

3. Never miss the opportunity to compliment or say something encouraging to someone.

4. Refuse to talk negatively about others; don’t gossip and don’t listen to gossip.

5. Have a forgiving view of people. Believe that most people are doing the best they can.

6. Keep an open mind; discuss, but don’t argue. (It is possible to disagree without being disagreeable.)

7. Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000 before doing or saying anything that could make matters worse.

8. Let your virtues speak for themselves.

9. If someone criticizes you, see if there is any TRUTH to what he is saying; if so, make changes. If there is no truth to the criticism, ignore it and live so that no one will believe the negative remark.

10. Cultivate your sense of humor; laughter is the shortest distance between two people.

11. Do not seek so much to be consoled, as to console; do not seek so much to be understood, as to understand; do not seek so much to be loved as to love.

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On Valentine's Day

An old man got on a bus one February 14th, carrying a dozen roses. He sat beside a young man. The young man looked at the roses and said,

“Somebody’s going to get a beautiful Valentine’s Day gift.”

“Yes,” said the old man.

A few minutes went by and the old man noticed that his young companion was staring at the roses. “Do you have a girlfriend?” the old man asked.

“I do,” said the young man. “I’m going to see her right now, and I’m going to give her this Valentine’s Day card.”

They rode in silence for another 10 minutes, and then the old man got up to get off the bus. As he stepped out into the aisle, he suddenly placed the roses on the young man’s lap and said, “I think my wife would want you to have these. I’ll tell her that I gave them to you.”

He left the bus quickly. As the bus pulled away, the young man turned to see the old man enter the gates of a cemetery.

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Biblical Principles For Godly Communication

Ephesians 4:25

These biblical principles are essential for godly communication. Christians are not immune to conflicts and good relationships do not happen automatically! (Drawn from Faith Baptist Counseling Ministries in Lafayette, Indiana)

I. BE HONEST - “Wherefore putting away lying” (Eph. 4:25).

“Speaking the truth” in verse 15 is a verb for always speaking the truth! Will you slander your brother? The “in love” avoids the temptation to be brutal. Choose to speak with the other person's best interest in mind. Give care to what is said and how you are saying it.

II. BE CURRENT - “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.” (Eph. 4:26-27)

Put off anger and put on forgiveness. Angrily blowing up attacks others. Failure to solve problems means we are:

1) Guilty of sin.

2) Opening the way to resentment and hatred.

3) Adding fuel to future problems.

4) Endangering your relationship to that person and your fellowship with God

III. BE BUILDING - “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.” (Eph. 4:29-30)

Put off criticism and put on encouragement. Attack problems, not the people. Never by-pass the conflict to tear somebody down!

“Corrupt communication” or “unwholesome words” are rotten and cutting. Abusing your tongue includes pessimism, immaturity, and gossip. It zeroes in on the person's character (Matt. 5:21-22). It tears down or rips apart (Jam. 3:5-12). And it grieves the Holy Spirit (Eph. 5:18).

Edifying communication encourages or builds up. It zeroes in on the conflict. It centers on personal responsibility. It expresses solutions in terms of action. It gives “grace” to those who hear. It has the desire and ability to do God's will.

Who are we to piously misinterpret and judge a person's motives? (Matt. 7:1-5)

IV. BE KIND - “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.” (Eph. 4:31-32)

Put off contention and put on kindness. Or act and don't react! The natural tendency of our Genesis 3 nature is to be on the defensive, to blame-shift, run, or react. We will never solve problems or help anyone grow that way. We through God's Spirit need the maturity to be kind, tender-hearted, and forgiving (vs. 32). Arguments are possible only if each person reacts. No matter how irresponsible the other person is, you must act biblically!

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Servant Evangelism

Ruth 1:8

Definition of Servant Evangelism:

"People often ask me to explain servant evangelism in a nutshell. I'm not very good at putting anything in a nutshell, but this is the definition we use at out church: demonstrating the kindness of God by offering to do some act of humble service with no strings attached."

-- Steve Sjogren, "Conspiracy of Kindness" PP. 17-18.

"Servant Evangelism = deeds of love + words of love + adequate time"

Deeds of Love: "God's love must be communicated from person to person, not just page to person … Deeds of love allow us to sneak into the hearts of those we serve."

Words of Love: "Deeds of kindness get people's attention and often cause them to ask us questions … When we do speak we must be sensitive to the level of receptivity of each person and explain the words of God's love in whatever way the hearer can understand … If we don't follow our actions with words, they will only know that we are nice people, not that God loves them."

Adequate Time: "We need to allow time for deeds and words of love to have their effect on the hearts of people. If we are allowing the Holy Spirit to do His work in His way and in His timing, we must not demand instantaneous results."

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Steve Sjogren, "Conspiracy of Kindness" pp. 22-23

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The Difference

John 15:11

There is a story many years ago of an elementary school teacher. Her name was Mrs. Thompson. And as she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same.

But that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.

Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he didn't play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath.

And Teddy could be unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise. Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners...he is a joy to be around."

His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."

His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."

Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and sometimes sleeps in class."

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy brown paper that he got from a grocery store bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist.

Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to." After the children left she wept.

On that very day, she quit teaching reading, and writing, and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class, and despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets."

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer -- the letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.

The story doesn't end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he'd met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit in the place at the wedding that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom.

Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. And she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together.

They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference."

Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."

If each person on the earth took interest in someone who was discouraged, this world would have been such a better place. Just because we are late in being encouragers, that does not mean that people are without hope. We each have the ability to invest time in someone's life and help make a difference that cannot be erased. (John 15:11-17) (Hebrews 3:12-13)

I encourage you to be caring towards that person that God has laid on your heart. Say a nice word when no one else does and show the love of Christ through your life, and let that person know that you care for them and are praying for them. Simple acts of love like this can make a difference that is life changing. I encourage you to try for yourself and see.

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Do You Give Happiness Or Suffering?

1 Peter 3:8

Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous. — 1 Peter 3:8.

A little thought will show you how vastly your own happiness depends on the way other people bear themselves toward you. The looks and tones at your breakfast-table, the conduct of your fellow-workers or employers, the faithful or unreliable men you deal with, what people say to you on the street, the way the cooking and housework are done, the letters you get, the friends or foes you meet — these things make up very much of the pleasure or misery of your day. Turn the idea around, and remember that just so much are you adding to the pleasure or the misery of other peoples’ days. And this is the half of the matter which you can control. Whether any particular day shall bring to you more of happiness or of suffering is largely beyond your power to determine. Whether each day of your life shall give happiness or suffering rests with yourself. — George S. Merriam.

Make us of one heart and mind;

Courteous, pitiful, and kind;

Lowly, meek, in thought and word,

Altogether like our Lord. — Charles Wesley

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How To Have Good Manners

Galatians 5:16

For the child of God, showing supernatural kindness is a Christ-like characteristic that we can develop only as we walk in the fullness of the Holy Spirit.

Some time ago, my dear wife, Vonette, and I were writing training materials on social etiquette for our co-workers. The materials dealt with how to be a good host or hostess, how to be a witness for Christ as a guest, how to demonstrate gratitude when you are invited to a home, how to write notes of appreciation for hospitality given and how to send small gifts expressing thanks for favors. It was all a part of evangelism strategy in these situations.

As we labored over the work, it suddenly occurred to us that, though the instruction should be given, we could not effectively legislate good manners. We realized that good manners are the by-product of the Spirit-controlled life. If a person is filled with the Spirit and demonstrates the fruit of the Spirit, he will automatically be considerate of others. He will learn to do the right things. He will want to be kind and generous.

I am not against rules and laws, as they are needed. In fact, one of the greatest myths perpetuated in our day is that “you cannot legislate morality.” Nothing could be further from the truth. Most laws of a culture are based on the moral code of that culture, such as laws against murder, rape and theft. In America, our laws were originally based on the Bible, and many still are.

While it is not true that “you cannot legislate morality,” it is true that we cannot force people to be moral. Neither is it true that we can force Christians to always be loving, kind, good mannered, and to demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit. In fact, in our own strength we cannot exhibit that which can only come from the Holy Spirit.

What we can do, however, is to invite the Holy Spirit to continually fill and control us. That way, He will be in control of our everyday relationships, and His fruit will be manifested to others. It will not be because of rules, but because of His presence in us.

“So I advise you to live according to your new life in the Holy Spirit… when you are directed by the Holy Spirit, you are no longer subject to the law” (Galatians 5:16,18, NLT).

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Free Lunches

Henri Nouwen was a man people wanted to know. In his lifetime he taught at the prestigious universities of Harvard and Notre Dame and was a tenured professor at Yale. He was a prolific author and a speaker often in demand. But ironically, the people who wanted to know him most were probably the least interested in his crowning achievements as a writer and a lecturer.

In 1986 Nouwen walked away from his position at Harvard and accepted a position as pastor of the L'Arche community in Toronto, a community where mentally handicapped persons and their assistants live together according to the Gospel. In an interview, Nouwen remarked of his experience with the people of L'Arche, “If they express love for you, then it comes from God. It's not because you accomplished anything. These broken, wounded, and completely unpretentious people forced me to let go of my relevant self — the self that can do things, show things, prove things, build things — and forced me to reclaim that unadorned self in which I am completely vulnerable, open to receive and give love regardless of any accomplishments.”

Interestingly, it was a similar selfless love that caught Nouwen off guard years earlier, piercing the conditional world he had grown accustomed to with the freeing love of God. A director of the L'Arche community had come to visit Nouwen while he was still at Yale. She visited the campus for a few days, cooked him an enjoyable meal, and offered help in simple, practical ways. Nouwen recalls, “I expected this greeting to be followed by a request to give a lecture, write an article, or offer a retreat.” But the visit had no strings attached; she had simply come to care for him in the name of Christ. It was altogether unlike the rules of kindness Nouwen was used to. In a world where there are no free lunches, the simple act stirred deeply in his soul.

The Gospel of Matthew recalls an evening of few words and free meals. With the murder of John the Baptist weighing on his mind, Jesus withdrew to a solitary place, traveling privately by boat. But the crowds followed him on foot from the towns. Seeing this, Jesus was filled with compassion. He didn't send them away, but healed the sick and remained among them.

As evening approached, the disciples came to him and said, “This is a remote place, and it's already getting late. Send the crowds away, so they can go to the villages and buy themselves some food” (14:15). But Jesus replied, “They do not need to go away. You give them something to eat” (14:16).

Jesus's words strike deeply, sharp with accountability: You give them something to eat. The call is personal and practical, piercing our motive-ridden hearts. How am I offering practical love to the crowds around me? Am I heeding Christ's command to serve or sending them away? How often have I fed Christ's sheep with un-free lunches — kindness peppered with conditions and expectation, love given with costs built in. Henri Nouwen was a well-connected, much-loved member of the Christian community, and yet a kind and selfless visit from a fellow Christian took him by surprise. Even as Christians, it is easy to play as if there is no such thing as a free lunch.

Indeed, the disciples met Christ's command with objections much more reasonable than the objections I could come up with. The crowd was large, the place remote, and food sparse. Nonetheless, the instructions lingered. You give them something to eat.

C.S. Lewis once remarked that the hard sayings of Christ are nourishing only to those who find them hard. He has given us the daunting task to feed unconditionally the hungry and broken around us. But so, he has given us himself. His is a love that receives us unadorned and vulnerable, love not merited because of accomplishments but because of desperate need.

“Bring them here to me,” Jesus told the disciples. And with five loaves of bread and two fish he fed five thousand. Matthew reports, “They all ate and were satisfied.”

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Copyright © 2005 Ravi Zacharias International Ministries (RZIM). Reprinted with permission. "A Slice of Infinity" is a radio ministry of Ravi Zacharias International Ministries.

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Kindness Can Make You Cry

Ruth 2:20

Allan Emery, who has not only been successful in business but has devoted much of his time to providing leadership to many Christian organizations, is highly respected as a shrewd, yet kind, man. Credit his father.

Allan recalls taking an extended train trip as a youngster. One morning in the dining car, he heard his father, himself an important businessman, comment that the porter seemed to be in pain and walked with a limp. The poor man, it turned out, was suffering from an infected ingrown toenail.

Later in the morning, Allan was surprised to see the porter coming from his parent's sleeping car. There was a distressed look on his face, and as he passed by big tears fell from his eyes and cascaded down his cheeks. Going into the men's lounge, the man put his hands over his face and cried. Allen sat down on the bench beside him and at length asked, “Are you crying because your toe hurts?”

“No,” said the man, “it was because of your daddy.”

With great concern, Allen pressed for the story. His parents had returned from breakfast and immediately approached the porter, asking about his toe.

Mr. Emery explained that he wasn't a doctor, but he might be able to help him. He removed the man's shoe and sock, and carefully lanced the infected toe, cleaned it, and carefully bandaged it. “It doesn't hurt at all now,” said the porter through his tears. “It feels fine.”

“Then why are you crying?”

“Well, while he was dressing my toe, your daddy asked me if I loved the Lord Jesus. I told him my mother did but that I did not believe as she did. Then he told me that Jesus loved me and had died for me. As I saw your daddy carefully bandaging my foot, I saw a love that was Jesus' love and I knew I could believe it. We got down on our knees and we prayed and, now, I know that I am important to Jesus and that he loves me.”

With that, the porter burst into tears again. When his sobs subsided, he looked over at Allen and said, “You know, boy, kindness can make you cry.”

Clothed In Kindness

Ruth 2:20

"...you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience." Colossians 3:12 NLT

A doctor once stepped into a taxicab and discovered an unusually friendly driver ... he asked the man why he was so cheerful. “It all started,” he said, “when I heard about a taxi driver who was so kind to a passenger that the man remembered him in his will, leaving him $65,000. I thought I would try it, and maybe somebody might leave me something. But after I tried it, I found it was so much fun being good that I decided I would do it for the fun of it, reward or no reward.”

The world would certainly be a more cheerful place if we all had such good dispositions. Imagine walking down the street and seeing nothing but smiling faces....

Life is not a bed of roses, and most people are too happy to let you know that. That's what we tell ourselves when we want to appease our guilt on those dark and dreary days. I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO'S HAD A BAD DAY, we think. PEOPLE ARE JUST GOING TO HAVE TO UNDERSTAND.

Maybe they do, but how does Jesus feel about it? Kindness should flow out of the life of a Christian. The world has an excuse to be angry, but we don't. Redeemed people should act like they're happy to be redeemed.

This is what separates believers from those who haven't discovered the goodness of Christ. We have a reason to rejoice. We have a standard to uphold. We have a Savior to pattern our life after.

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EMBRACING ETERNITY by Tim LaHaye, Jerry B. Jenkins and Frank M. Martin (Tyndale) p 86

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Fragrance of Christ

Romans 15:14

I … am persuaded … that ye also are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge, able also to admonish one another. — Romans 15:14.

If only we are self-emptied, our every act may emit a sweet odor to God. The smallest as well as the greatest services may, by the power of the Holy Spirit, present the fragrance of Christ. The paying of a visit, the writing of a letter, the public ministry of the Word, giving a cup of cold water to a disciple, giving something to a pauper, yea, the commonplace acts of eating and drinking all may emit the sweet perfume of the name and grace of Jesus. — A. A.

Lo, from vessels, earthen only,

Shining forth in ceaseless grace,

Reaching weary hearts, and lonely,

Beams the light from Jesus’ face.

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Improve Your Looks With A Smile!

Proverbs 17:6

A smile is an inexpensive way to instantly improve your looks! Try it — it’s the cheapest surgery in town.

We have a wonderful little country post office near us. Yesterday as we were mailing packages, I said to the Post Mistress, “The nasty people of this community are going to file a discrimination suit against you because you only hire nice people to work here” — and she does. They are all genuinely nice. It’s a pleasure to go there.

We recently attended a fabulous Christmas concert at Word of Life in Hudson FL. In front of us was a mother with two pretty daughters — about 5 and 9 years old. Near the end, the 5-year old was getting restless, stood up and was rubbing her hand back and forth on the pew in front of her. She happened to bump the lady in front of her who quickly turned around and snarled, “stop it.” Our hearts were crushed for that pretty little girl. Will she grow up with the impression that all old people are nasty? I hope not. How many children get unfortunate first impressions that may stay with them for life?

I hope that little girl has a loving grandma — grandma’s are “special.” In Proverbs 17:6 (niv) we read, “Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children.” Whether your grandchildren or someone else’s — be nice! You may influence a child for life.

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Just A Kind Word

2 Peter 1:5

And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith … kindness. — 2 Peter 1:5, 7.

“Friend” said an old writer, “when you come to the end of your pilgrimage — as come you must one day — and you can watch the sun go down for the last time, you will think precious little of money, or houses, or land; and any honors or titles you may have picked up along the journey will seem singularly cheap. It is possible you may not recall the great triumphs of your life. Most likely in those last hours, what will comfort you most and warm your heart and make you thankful, will be the memories of little kindnesses you’ve done, and had done to you; the gentle words spoken; the burdens shouldered for others, the friendly bits of conversation by the way. Consider this.”

She carried a burden — hard to bear,

a burden of lonely sorrow and care,

And hadn’t a friend to call her own

in this world of ours, she was quite alone.

But somebody spoke a kindly word

and the troubled soul, grew glad as she heard,

And went her way with a happy smile,

someone had made her day worthwhile.

It was only a little thing you say.

You are right perhaps, but at close of day,

Someone will hear the Lord’s “Well Done,”

and be glad at heart, at the set of sun. — L. G. Heard

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Helping or Hindering

A small boy was visiting his grandparents on their farm. In the orchard he noticed a locust coming out of his shell. So he thought he would assist the locust. When telling how he helped the locust, his grandparents said he hurt the locust and did more harm than good, since it is God's plan the locust works out of the shell himself. Sometimes we can do more help by leaving people alone, and letting them work out their own problems.

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Easy to Hurt Others

We are so related to each other that we are continually leaving impressions on those we touch. It is easier to do harm than good to other lives. There is a quality in the human soul which makes it take more readily and retain more permanently touches of sin than touches of holiness. Among the ruins of some old temple there was found a slab which bore very faintly and dimly the image of the king, and in deep and clear indentations the print of a dog's foot. The king's beauty was less clear than the marks of the animal's tread. So human lives are apt to take less readily and deeply, to retain less indelibly, the touches of spiritual beauty, and more clearly and permanently the marks and impressions of evil. It needs, therefore, in us infinite carefulness and watchfulness, as we walk ever amid other lives, lest by some word, or look, or act, or influence of ours we hurt them irreparably.

-J. R. Miller

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"Mister, Are You There?"

A New York Sunday-school superintendent urged his teachers to bring new children with them the next Sunday, and as he walked down Sixth Avenue attempted himself to win a street boy. "Will you go to Sunday School?" he said, and in the vernacular of the street the boy said, "Nope." The superintendent said: "We have picture papers for every boy," and he would not come. "We have music, we have everything to make you have a good time," and the boy steadily refused. Disappointed, the superintendent turned away and, when he had gone a short distance, he heard the patter of little feet behind him and, turning back he saw the boy. He said with an earnest, eager look: "Mister, are you there?" and the superintendent said, "Yes, I am there." "Well," he said, "next Sunday I'll be there." And he was. Sunday School papers, music, and other attractions of school were simply the first mile, the spirit of the superintendent was the second mile, and was an influence the boy could not shake off.

-J. Wilbur Chapman

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Power of Kindness

A good lady, living in a large city, was passing a saloon just as the keeper was thrusting a young man into the street. He was very pale, and his haggard face and wild eyes told that he was very far gone on the road to ruin, as with profane speech he brandished his clenched fists, threatening to be revenged upon the man that had ill-used him. He was so excited and blinded with passion that he did not see the lady who stood very near to him, until she laid her hand upon his arm, and asked, in a gentle, loving voice, what was the matter. At the first kind word the young man started as though a heavy blow had struck him, and turned quickly around, more pale than before, and trembling from head to foot. He surveyed the lady from head to foot, and then, with a sigh of relief, he said: "I thought it was my mother's voice; it sounded strangely like it. But her voice has been hushed in death for many years."

"You had a mother, then," said the lady, "and she loved you?" The young man burst into tears, and sobbed out: "Oh, yes; I had a mother, and she loved me. But since she died all the world has been against me, and I am lost-lost forever."

"No; not lost forever; for God is merciful, and His pitying love can reach the chief of sinners," said the lady. The young man was spellbound; and when, after more kind words, she went on her way, he followed her, until he saw her enter her home, and then he wrote down the name on the doorplate, in his pocketbook, and turned away with a deep purpose in his heart.

Years glided by, and the lady forgot the incident, until it was brought to her recollection by the visit of a noble-looking, well-dressed man, who told her he was the young man whom she had thus addressed, long before, in words of Christian love and hope.

"The earnest expression of 'No, not lost forever,' followed me wherever I went," said he; "and it always seemed that it was the voice of my mother speaking to me from the tomb. I repented of my many transgressions, and resolved to live as Jesus and my mother would be pleased to have me; and by the mercy and grace of God I have been enabled, in some good measure, to do so."

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The Great Teacher

A young pianist was giving concerts in the provinces of Germany, and, to add to her renown, she announced herself as a pupil of the celebrated Liszt. Arriving at a small provincial town, she advertised a concert in the usual way; but what was her astonishment and terror to see in the list of new arrivals at the hotel the name of "M. l'Abbe Liszt!" What was she to do? Her deception would be discovered, and she could never dare to give another concert. In her despair she adopted the wisest course, and went directly to the Abbe himself. Pale, trembling, and deeply agitated, she entered the presence of the great maestro to confess her fraud, and to implore forgiveness. She threw herself at his feet, her face bathed in tears, and related to him the history of her life. Left an orphan when very young, and possessing nothing but her musical gifts, she had ventured to shelter herself under the protection of his great name, and thus to overcome the many obstacles which opposed her. Without that she would have been nothing-nobody. But could he ever forgive her? "Come, come," said the great artist, helping her to rise, "we shall see what we can do. Here is a piano. Let me hear a piece intended for the concert tomorrow." She obeyed, and played, at first timidly then with all the enthusiasm of reviving hope. The maestro stood near her, gave her some advice, suggested some improvements, and when she had finished her piece, said most kindly-"Now, my child, I have given you a music lesson. You are a pupil of Liszt." Before she could recover herself sufficiently to utter a word of acknowledgment, he added, "Are the programs printed?" "Not yet, sir." "Then let them add to your program that you will be assisted by your master, and that the last piece will be played by the Abbe Liszt." Could any reproof be keener than such forgiving kindness-such noble generosity as this? The illustrious musician would no doubt have been questioned, and it would have been impossible for him to speak anything but the truth. But charity is ingenious in covering "a multitude of sins."

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Believe in Them

More lost men and women have been rescued by the thought that somebody believed in them, than by any other human agency. There is nothing that will go so far toward making your class the most giddy or the most unruly class in the school, as to once let them know that they bear such a reputation.

I recall just now a striking instance of this sort. In a certain village the grade of conduct in the public school had fallen so low that the teachers universally agreed that it was beyond them. One after another came with stern visage and artfully laid plans, determined to conquer the belligerents. But all in vain. Finally, there came a teacher, a lover of young people, and a man of such guileless mind that he seemed to have no other thought than that his gentleness would be returned in kind. To their own astonishment, the scholars found that there was something about him that put them on their good behavior when they were in his presence. Still, there were threats as to the daring pieces of mischief they would execute in his absence.

One day, after he had been with them not quite a week, he had occasion to go into one of the other departments.

"You may go on with your studies just as though I were here," he said naturally. They looked at each other in astonishment. No other teacher had ever thought of trusting them out of his sight. They were suspicious. It must be some kind of trap he was setting for them. But they were mistaken. When they found that they had been really left alone, they were silent for a moment from sheer astonishment. Then a boy decided to throw his geography book across the room at the head of one of his schoolmates. But the fun, like the book, fell flat, and looks of disapproval were cast upon him. They seemed to say, "We are not afraid of whippings and scoldings, but a man that believes in us when nobody has told him anything good about us is too much."

That man remained for almost ten years with the school and saw it rise to be an acknowledged model school. He saw those boys and girls develop into a manhood and womanhood that was in every way different from anything of which they gave promise before they came in contact with him.

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Such as You Have

Acts 3:6

Two mechanics, going home one cold night, passed a lame man who had been on the street all day trying, with little success, to sell his poor wares. "Dear me!" said one of them, "how miserable that poor fellow looks. If I had plenty of money, I should like nothing better than to relieve such cases. The first thing I would do would be to get him a good pair of shoes and a comfortable crutch that would make walking less painful for him." In the meantime, his friend had stopped and was talking to the lame man.

"Pretty bad walking, neighbor," he said cheerily. "Take my arm and maybe you can get along better. I am going your way; that is, if you will tell me where you live." He did not stop until he had seen the man safe in the little room and had succeeded in kindling a fire. He filled the cracks around the window with paper, and left the poor man by his steaming kettle, cheered and comforted. He did not say anything about his benevolent desires. He had no money, but he had given freely of what he had. He was like Peter, who said to the man who asked for alms, "Silver and gold have I none, but such as I have, give I unto thee" (Acts 3:6). Too many of us are disposed to be generous with such as we have not.

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The Law of Kindness

It always pays to live up to the law of kindness. One cannot always tell what great results will come in the train of seemingly small deeds that are performed with a desire to be helpful. An engineer of a passenger-train on a Mississippi railroad was driving through a snowstorm, eagerly scanning the track as far as he could see, when, halfway through a deep cut, something appeared lying on the rails. It was a sheep with her two little lambs. His first thought was that he could rush on without any damage to his train; but the sight of the innocent family cowering in the storm touched him, and he pulled the air-brake and sent his fireman ahead. In a few minutes the fireman came back with a terrified face. There had been a landslide, and just beyond the cut the track was covered with rocks. It seemed certain that if the train had gone on at full speed, in the blinding snow, it would have been impossible to stop in time to escape disaster.

In the absolute sense the incident was providential; but circumstantially the passengers on that railway owed their safety, if not their lives, to an engineer who was too tenderhearted to kill a sheep and her lambs. So many men and women who have given their earnest, faithful service to make a safer path for the neighbor's boy, or bring greater happiness to the neighbor's girl, have been thus saving their own dear ones. Unselfish devotion to the good of others is the surest way to take care of ourselves, for this is God's world and not the devil's.

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Who is Your Neighbor?

Mr. Jacob A. Riis, whom President Roosevelt once declared to be the most useful citizen in New York City, tells an interesting story concerning his work among the poor in New York. A while ago he went to visit a friend in a suburban town. On the evening of his arrival, as they sat at his table, the host looked around at his flock of five healthy children and said: "I wish you could find for me in the city some poor family-if possible, a widow with children about the age of these-who would be ours to work and advise with and to help over the rough places when they came along. Then each of mine could have his own friend, and he could get more out of it than he would give, I know. Here they are shut off, as you see, from that. All the neighbors are well-to-do." Mr. Riis promised to try, for he knew the man was right. They were sadly handicapped. The best in them was being starved by the ultra-respectability of their surroundings. So one day he found in a tenement-house on the East Side a brave little woman who was making a noble fight to keep her flock together. The oldest boy was about old enough to go into an office, and his face fairly shone with delight at the prospect that he was soon to "help mamma." She was a custodian, she told Mr. Riis, and worked in a public building a couple of miles away, on the west side of town. Mr. Riis started for his office to telephone to his friend that he had found what he wanted. On the way it struck him that he had forgotten to ask where the widow scrubbed and he went back to find out. "Once or twice," says Mr. Riis, "in my life it has been given to me to see, as it were, the veil rent asunder and the hand of the Almighty working in my sight. This was one of those times. I shall not soon get over the thrill that went through me when I learned that she worked in the Mission Building, at my friend's very door. Just the thickness of it, two inches of wood, separated the two, each in need of the other, and asking vainly, as the years went by, 'Where is the neighbor who will give me a hand?'"

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Generosity and Benevolence

Many generous men are not benevolent men. There are a great many who live in fragmentary, unconnected kindnesses. They are ready to relieve trouble when it comes to them. When a want is presented to them, they give it a moment's notice, and only a moment's. Everything that touches them receives an instant response, but that is all.

If a little child goes past a piano and strikes it, and returns and strikes it again, and passes it again, and strikes it yet again, it certainly produces musical sounds; but what is the sound of a piano touched by the random finger of a vagrant child, compared with the magnificent sounds of him that has a theme which his broad and multiplex hand is evoking through all the harmonies and progressions of this lordly instrument? There should be intelligence, and connection, and plan, and sequence, and application in our benevolence.

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The Fragrance of Good Deeds

The Mosque of St. Sophia in Constantinople, is always fragrant with the odor of musk, and has been for centuries, though nothing is done to keep it perfumed. The explanation is that when it was built, over one thousand years ago, the stones and bricks were laid in mortar mixed with a solution of musk. If the deeds we do are full of kindness and love, long after we have passed away their fragrance will linger in the world.

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Value of A Kind Word

A man came one day to Lord Shaftesbury, bringing a note from the governor of Manchester jail, saying that the bearer was absolutely incorrigible, and had spent twenty years of his life in prison. Lord Shaftesbury talked kindly to the man, and found certain marks of humanity left in him, and he said; "John Spiers, shall I make a man of you?" "You can try, but you can't do it," was the discouraging reply; "though I'll try too." Lord Shaftesbury placed him in a reformatory for men, where the discipline was severe, but good, and in three days' time went again to see his prot,g,, asking, "Shall we go through with it and save you?" "If you can," was the answer this time; and Lord Shaftesbury placed his hand lovingly on the poor fellow's shoulder, saying, "By God's help we will," and by the conversation that followed John Spiers was completely broken down. Two years after he was met by a friend of Lord Shaftesbury's, clad in good clothing, and filling a trusted, honored situation. "Ah!" he said, "it was all the earl's kinds words that did it. That was new. Why, I'd never had a kind word or a loving look given to me in my life before, or I might have acted very differently."

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The Three Young Travelers

Some months ago, three small children-a boy and two girls aged ten, seven, and four years old respectively, arrived in St. Louis, having traveled all the way from Germany, without any escort or protection beyond a New Testament, and their own innocence and helplessness. Their parents, who had emigrated the previous year from the Fatherland and settled in Missouri, had left them in custody of an aunt, to whom in due time they forwarded a sum of money sufficient to pay the passage and other expenses of the little ones to their new home across the Atlantic. As the children could not speak a word of any other language than German, it is doubtful whether they would ever have reached their destination at all, had not their aunt, with a woman's ready wit, provided them with a passport, addressed not so much to any earthly authority, as to Christian mankind generally. Before taking her leave of the children, the aunt gave the elder girl a New Testament, instructing her to show it to every person who might accost her during her long voyage, and especially to call their attention to the first page of the book. Upon that page the wise and good woman had written the names of the three children, their birthplaces and several ages, and this simple statement: "Their father and mother in America are anxiously awaiting their arrival at Sedalia, Missouri." This was followed by the irresistible appeal-their guide, their safeguard, and their interpreter throughout a journey, over sea and land, of more than four thousand miles. Many were the little acts of kindness shown to the dear little travelers, many the hands held out to help and smooth their journey, by those who read the first page of their New Testament, until they reached their parents in perfect health and safety.

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Kindness in A Rusty Chevy

Shortly after I arrived in the United States, I was invited to speak at a banquet in one of the big Chicago hotels. My wife and I decided to drive down to the "Windy City" together and left ourselves plenty of time to find our way around. As we approached Chicago I noticed we were getting low on gas, but I knew there would be plenty of filling stations. When we suddenly came to a halt in the fast lane of the freeway, in the rush hour, with the rain pouring down, I realized my assumptions about filling stations were wrong, as my tank was empty. I climbed out of my car, to be greeted by a chorus of horns expressing displeasure and expletives filling in the details. There was nothing I could do and less that anyone else was ready to do, so I stood in the rain, and like the sailors on Paul's sinking ship, I "wished for the day."

One particularly dilapidated car drew alongside; the driver rolled down his window. I braced myself for more verbal abuse but was relieved that his English was so bad I couldn't understand it. About fifteen minutes later the same car returned in a mass of traffic and pulled up in front of mine. The driver jumped out and without a word proceeded to replenish my tank from a can. He had seen my plight, gone to a filling station off the freeway, borrowed a can, gotten back on the freeway, fought the traffic, and come to my rescue. When I tried to thank him, he shrugged and said, "You look kinda new around here. Me, I just come from Puerto Rico, Friday. Ain't nobody do nothing for nobody in this city," and with that he was gone. That was generosity, kindness in a rusty Chevy.

-Stuart Briscoe David C. Cook Church Ministries

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Helping Others

It was said of Sir Bartle Frere that he was always helping someone. Lady Frere was going to a railway station to meet her husband with a servant who had never seen him before. "Madam, how shall I know him?" asked the man. "Look for a tall gentleman helping someone," replied Lady Frere, and sure enough the description was sufficient, for Sir Bartle was discovered helping an old lady out of a railway carriage.

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Good Dog!

Proverbs 15:1

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. — Proverbs 15:1.

I once lived where my neighbor’s garden was divided from me only by a very imperfect hedge. He kept a dog, and his dog was a shockingly bad gardener, and did not improve my beds. So, one evening, while I walked alone, I saw this dog doing mischief and, being a long way off, I threw a stick at him, with some earnest advice as to his going home. This dog, instead of going home, picked up my stick, and came to me with it in his mouth, wagging his tail. He dropped the stick at my feet and looked up to me most kindly. What could I do but pat him and call him a good dog, and regret that I had ever spoken roughly to him? — C. H. Spurgeon

Life is too brief

Between the seed time and the golden sheaf,

Between the budding and the falling leaf,

For hate and spite.

In kindness and gentleness our speech

Must carry messages of ;hope, and reach

Those needing light. — alt.

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Handling A Mean Passenger

Luke 6:27

Back in the 1970s I was a flight attendant with Piedmont Airlines. I had to deal with difficult passengers, but one in particular stands out. It was Thanksgiving Eve, and the plane was leaving Roanoke, Virginia, en route to Cincinnati. A man with a large bag got on. The plane was a small with no overhead bins. I told the man he’d have to check his bag. He let loose with a string of curse words, but finally gave in. A Bible passage I’d read that morning leaped to mind, about being kind even to those who mistreat you even when you don’t feel like it.

He continued to badger me. First he demanded a pillow. Then he complained I wasn’t fast enough with his drink. Then his sandwich was soggy. On final approach he rang the call bell one last time. I got to the man’s seat. I was stunned to see tears running down his cheeks. “I’m so sorry,” he said, sobbing. “My mother is ill and I’ve been taking it out on you. Forgive me.”

“May I pray with you?” I asked. Where’d that come from? I’d never prayed with a passenger before. And this one had been so mean.

“Yes,” he answered.

“God,” I prayed, “please, help this man’s mother, and grant him and his family peace.”

I thought about him a year later, when I had to work again on Thanksgiving Eve. Same plane, same trip, same time. I was welcoming passengers when one stopped short. “It’s you! “ he said. ‘You prayed for my mother last year. I told her about it in the hospital. She left intensive care the next day and is doing fine now. In fact, she’s making dinner for us. I can’t wait to tell her I ran into you again!”

Not for a moment did I think my prayers alone healed that woman. I’m sure others were praying for her. But the message was clear: When you’re kind and pray for someone - even if the person is unkind - the sky’s the limit.

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Kay McDonald of Jeffersonville, Pennsylvania; Guideposts, Copyright (c) November 2005, http://www.guideposts.org

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