Effects of Alcoholism On Families
Effects of alcoholism on families, especially children. Shame, denial, fighting, neglect, hurts. Sidebar on heredity and drinking. Statistics. Personal stories.
Alcohol in Christian preaching often highlights its moral and social consequences, emphasizing the dangers of drunkenness and its impact on families and communities (Ephesians 5:18). Illustrations commonly use vivid images of broken homes, crime statistics, and personal tragedies to warn against excess and promote sobriety as a biblical virtue (Proverbs 20:1).
Effects of alcoholism on families, especially children. Shame, denial, fighting, neglect, hurts. Sidebar on heredity and drinking. Statistics. Personal stories.
Alcohol plays a prominent role in almost every type of crime:
53% of murders
57% of sex crimes
47% of burglaries
60% of assaults
80% of suicides
40% of work-related deaths
50% of work-related injuries
Why people are significant in God's sight, even when they don't feel it. How people deal with feelings of insignificance - drugs, alcohol, sex, etc.
February 88 “I&I” column quoted former Dodger pitching great Don Newcombe on the inconsistency of the sport world piously warning about “drugs” at the same time it is being taken over by the breweries. He rightly referred to alcohol as “the most devastating drug on the face of the earth,” yet just about every sport in America is sponsored by some brand of beer.
Frank Dolson of the “Philadelphia Inquirer” agrees and wrote a scathing editorial. “Tell the truth, didn’t you gag just a little bit when you settled back in your easy chair... and then saw what looked very much like a beer label framing your screen when an announcer intoned, ‘This kickoff is brought to you by Budweiser’?”
“Here we are, in an all-out fight against drugs, one in which every major sport is supposedly taking part, and yet the games they play are being used to promote one of the most devastating drugs of them all. Yes, alcohol is legal. It also can be deadly.”
President Reagan called progress against drug abuse "an untold American success story" at his 1988 State of the Union address. Survey by the Institute of Social Research at the Univ. of Michigan indicated a "sharp drop" in the use of cocaine and other drugs during the previous 12 months. TIME reported that 92%, however, have tried alcohol at least once, 66% had a drink in the last month, and more than a third had been very drunk in the prior two week period. Responses of parents given. Parents should give their kids an excuse to say, "I can't take a drink because there will be [heck] to pay." Kids want to be given limits.
”Ride hard. Die hard.” Legend on the cap of truck driver Larry W. Mount, charged with 27 counts of capital murder after he crashed into a Kentucky school bus carrying Assembly of God church kids home from an outing at King’s Island. He was on wrong side of I-77, was speeding, and had a blood/alcohol level two-and-a-half times the legal limit.
[One’s attitude does materially affect a person and others.]
Debate over whether drugs should be legalized. Would save money on law enforcement and bring in money in taxes, but could lead to higher addiction rates. Alcohol and tobacco responsible for 400,000 deaths a year, while death toll from all illegal drugs was only 3,562 in 1985. Most experts believe legalization would lead to higher addiction rates. One in 5 users becomes an addict. 140 million now use alcohol. 5-6 million use cocaine, 50 million might.
The Center for Science in the Public Interest, a non-profit health advocacy organization, took a survey of students, 8-12, in Wash D.C. and Maryland. They know more about booze (5.2 brands identified) than U.S. Presidents (4.8). One 10-year-old girl could name 14 different alcoholic beverages but only 4 presidents.
Rev. Daniel J. Martin, an SBC pastor from Nashville, introduced a strong resolution against booze at the SBC convention in San Antonio. On the way back to Tennessee, Martin's van was hit from behind and forced off the road by a car, then hit by a pickup truck. The drivers of both the other vehicles had been drinking. Pickup ran over his 2-year-old daughter, Joy, and Martin and wife Patricia were also killed. Three children survived (aged 7-12).
Back in 1985, in a remote region near Essex, Montana, a Burlington-Northern corn-laden train derailed, scattering the grain along the tracks. Most was picked up, but about 400 tons were left to rot (and ferment). In 1986 about a dozen bears (black and grizzly) discovered the intoxicating mash and went on a binge. Railway crews then dumped soil on the corn, but the bears were back after hibernating in 1987, digging down for another bender. Next, wary train crews mixed non-toxic quick lime into the mash, but in 1988 the bears were back again, sniffing around the tracks until they found some untainted corn and another drunken toot resulted.
But they are just dumb, brute beasts. If you drink, what's your excuse?
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A recent Louis Harris poll showed that the generation gap between parents and children is a gaping chasm. Only 36% of the parents said their children had had at least one alcoholic drink, but 66% of the kids claimed they had used alcohol. The gap was wider for cigarette smoking.
Patrick Viola, 22, near Latham NY and Chris Widebech, 21, at Danbury NH were both killed in separate beer bashes when their boozed-up buddies piled empty beer kegs on bonfires – and the kegs exploded. Both were almost decapitated. Accidents caused by a small amount of beer left in kegs which boiled and caused a steam explosion. One group deliberately tried to blow keg up to see what would happen. N.H. State Police Lt. Mark Furlone said, “People do dumb things when they drink.”
A 10-year study by James Schaefer of the University of Minnesota and his team of anthropologists at a Missoula, Montana, bar - along with study of about 2,000 groups ranging in size from one to nine individuals in 65 bars around Minneapolis over a 3-year period - came to the clear conclusion that country-western tunes go with the most boozing. Blaming the lyrics (sad laments about love gone sour, personal freedom, and solace found in the bottle), Schaefer listed songs by Waylon Jenning, Johnny Cash, Jerry Lee Lewis, Merle Haggard, and others as "particularly powerful drinking inducements," songs that "celebrate heavy drinking by making heroes out of drunkards." Cash and Lewis are both professing Christians.
Schaefer, who heads the University of Minn drug and alcohol abuse program, in reporting his findings to the American Anthropological Association at its recent meeting in Phoenix, said their studies found "slower music went with faster drinking," adding, "Hard drinkers prefer listening to slower-paced, wailing, lonesome, self pitying music generally during slow times in the bar."
His conclusion: "No doubt about it, country and western can be a prescription for trouble among people with little self-control." His survey of 89 waitresses and bartenders found that while "the bar staffs in most places were perceptive, they kept serving drinks anyway," even though, in their judgment, 3 out of every 5 of their customers were already drunk.
At a prayer breakfast in Clearwater, Florida, Adolph Coors IV, heir to the fourth largest U.S. brewery, told the audience he was born again and would spend the rest of his life winning souls to Christ. He also said he would abandon the beer business. Later he retracted the statement, recalling that Jesus had turned water into wine. [Sumner questions the logic of it being real wine.]
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Kitty Dukakis enters addiction clinic for alcohol abuse. Article focuses on addiction and its causes. Research may link addiction to personality disorder, but may not. Influences are still not understood. Various drugs are described.
Research by the Anchorage Daily News found that Alaska's frontier is experiencing an epidemic of suicide and violence due to substance abuse. It had been covered up, with obituaries saying they had died of natural causes. In one 16-month period, the small village of Alakanuk (pop: 550) suffered eight suicides, dozens of attempted suicides, two murders and four drownings. In 44 separate stories, the News described the widespread despair and self- destruction: native men 20 to 24 committed suicide at 10 times the national average; alcoholism was rampant; so was the sexual assault of children.
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Jim Gross was a drug dealer in Akron. He described himself as a ong-haired hippie, but then he got saved. He dropped alcohol immediately, and promiscuity. Marijuana was harder. Jim went to read the Bible in the woods and smoke a joint; which made him feel close to God. He put down his Bible to smoke and was feeling very mellow. Half of his joint was left. He didn't want to read the Bible then, but he felt convicted. His Bible opened to Ephesians 5:18 - "Do not get drunk on wine, ... but be filled with the Spirit." This convinced Jim to stop smoking dope.
However, he did not get rid of the last half of the joint but stashed it in his garage. Later he dug it out and smoked it but felt very guilty. Cigarettes also took him a long time to give up. He and his wife spent $1,400 a year on cigarettes; he smoked two packs a day. He quit, then started, quit, started. He stored them on top of the air duct in his garage and was always tempted by them. Jim decided he must rid his house of them completely if he would have victory. He smoked one more time, taking two puffs to show someone how dirty the filter became; it almost made him sick to his stomach. To really be a Christian you must give all of yourself to him.
[Talk given to Senior High Baptist Youth Fellowship of the First Baptist Church of West Lafayette, Ohio]]
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Version in Sermons:
C. Example of Jim Gross:
Jim Gross used to be a long-haired hippie.
He was a drug dealer in Akron.
Became saved.
Dropped alcohol immediately, and promiscuity.
Marijuana was harder.
Went to read Bible in woods and smoke a joint; made him feel
close to God.
Put down Bible to smoke, was feeling very mellow.
Had half his joint left.
Didn't want to read Bible then, but felt convicted.
Opened to Ephesians 5:18 - "Do not get drunk on wine, ... but
be filled with the Spirit."
Convinced him to stop smoking dope.
However, he did not get rid of last half of joint but stashed it
in his garage.
Later he smoked it but felt very guilty.
Cigarettes also took him a long time to give up.
He and wife spent $1,400 a year on cigarettes; he smoked
two packs a day.
He quit, then started, quit, started.
He stored them on top of air duct in garage and was tempted by them.
Decided he must rid his house of them completely if he would
have victory.
He found out to really be a Christian and feel the spiritual power
you must give all of yourself to Jesus.
Many animals get drunk on fermented fruit, and others crave human alcohol.
Koalas are addicted to eucalyptus and die without it. Examples of animal
drunkenness are given.
[used 11/14/93]
"The fact that drug use is natural doesn't mean it's good, then, just that
chanting 'no' isn't likely to rid us of it anytime soon. The most
controversial alternative - to haul off and legalize currently controlled
substances - could prove disastrous, given the deadly pharmacopia we've
amassed."
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Great one page article which summarizes statistics on teenage drug and alcohol use. One in 3 will get drunk at least once a month. It is not just pure choice because they often have a family history of substance abuse. Alcoholics are not weak - they have to be strong to cover it up. Alcohol is the leading killer of adolescents, through drunk driving.
Martin Luther boasted that he could easily drink Melancthon under the table. Luther had a beer tankard with the Lord's Prayer on it; Malancthon could get to "Thy Kingdom come" while Luther could chug down to "Thine is the kingdom, the power, and the glory forever, Amen." [or something to that effect]
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My memory was correct in principle but not in particulars. I found this entry in the Google digitized book website, taken from The Century Illustrated Monthly Magazine, 1911, "Martin Luther And His Work," page 727:
“When entertaining some of his colleagues at dinner, Luther called the company’s attention to a large wineglass encircled with three rings. The first, he said, represented the Ten Commandments, the second the Creed, and the third the Lord’s Prayer. Having emptied it at a single draft, he filled it again and passed it to Agricola, something of a fanatic on the subject of faith, who was able to get no further than the Ten Commandments, to Luther’s great amusement.
“Beer and wine he partook of freely, as was the custom of his countrymen, and his table-conversation may often have been less restrained in consequence; but his enemies exaggerated when they accused him of being a hard drinker. While he never criticized the moderate use of wine and beer, he always severely denounced over-indulgence in them, not sparing even his own elector, John Frederick, who with all his piety, was prone to frequent intoxication.”
Sermon in 1 Corinthians series.
1. We live in an age of rampant appetites.
2. Christian view of the body.
a. Body is part of God's plan.
b. Body is united with Jesus.
c. Body is temple of Spirit.
3. Freedom and slavery.
a. Loose freedom leads to slavery.
b. Pornography.
4. Honor God with your body.
The true story of the tragic birth and life of the son of evangelist John Edmund Haggai:
The Lord graciously blessed us with a precious son. He was paralyzed and unable to sit in his wheelchair only with the assistance of full-length body braces. One of the nation's most respected gynecologists and obstetricians brought him into the world. Tragically, this man -- overcome by grief -- sought to find the answer in a bourbon bottle rather than in a blessed Bible. Due to the doctor's intoxication at the time of delivery, he inexcusably bungled his responsibility. Several of the baby's bones were broken. His leg was pulled out at the growing center. Needless abuse -- resulting in hemorrhaging of the brain -- was inflicted upon the little fellow. (Let me pause long enough to say that this is no indictment upon doctors. I thank God for doctors. This man was a tragic exception. He was banned from practice in some hospitals, and he committed suicide.)
During the first year of the little lad's life, eight doctors said he could not possibly survive. For the first two years of his life my wife had to feed him every three hours with a Brecht feeder. It took a half hour to prepare for the feeding and it took another half hour to clean up and put him back to bed. Not once during that time did she ever get out of the house for any diversion whatsoever. Never did she get more than two hours sleep at one time.
My wife, formerly Christine Barker of Bristol, Virginia, had once been acclaimed by some of the nation's leading musicians as one of the outstanding contemporary female vocalists in America. From the time she was 13 she had been popular as a singer - and constantly in the public eye. Hers was the experience of receiving and rejecting some fancy offers with even fancier incomes to marry an aspiring Baptist pastor with no church to pastor!
Then, after five years of marriage, tragedy struck! The whole episode was so unnecessary. Eight of the nation's leading doctors said that our son could not survive. From a life of public service she was now marooned within the walls of our home. Her beautiful voice no longer enraptured public audiences with the story of Jesus, but was not silenced, or at best, muted to the subdued humming of lullabies.
Had it not been from her spiritual maturity whereby she laid hold of the resources of God and lived one day at a time, this heart-rending experience would long since have caused an emotional breakdown.
John Edmund, Jr., our little son, lived more than twenty years. We rejoice that he committed his heart and life to Jesus Christ and gave evidence of a genuine concern for the things of the Lord. I attribute his commitment to Jesus Christ and his wonderful disposition to the sparkling radiance of an emotionally mature, Christ-centered mother who has mastered the discipline of living one day at a time. Never have I -- nor has anyone else -- heard a word of complaint from her. The people who know her concur that at thirty-five years of age and after having been subject to more grief than many people twice her age, she possessed sparkle that would be the envy of any high school senior and the radiance and charm for which any debutante would gladly give a fortune.
Seize today. Live for today. Wring it dry of every opportunity.
"Making your way in the world today takes everything you've got;
Taking a break from all your worries sure would help alot.
Wouldn't you like to get away?
"Sometimes you want to go where everybody knows your name,
And they're always glad you came.
"You want to be where you can see troubles are all the same.
You want to be where everybody knows your name.
"You want to go where people know people are all the same.
You want to go where everybody knows your name."
[theme from the television show CHEERS]
The neighborhood bar is possibly the best counterfeit there is to the fellowship Christ wants to give His church. It's an imitation, dispensing liquor instead of grace, escape rather than reality, but it is a permissive, accepting, and inclusive fellowship. It is unshockable. It is democratic. You can tell people secrets and they usually don't tell others or even want to. The bar flourishes not because most people are alcoholics, but because God has put into the human heart the desire to know and be known, to love and be loved, and so many seek a counterfeit at the price of a few beers.
With all my heart, I believe that Christ wants His church to be ....a fellowship where people can come in and say, "I'm sunk!" "I'm beat!" "I've had it!"
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Version from Wit & Wisdom, May 17, 2007:
An old Marine Corps buddy of mine, to my pleasant surprise, came to know Christ after he was discharged. I say surprise because he cursed loudly, fought hard, chased women, drank heavily, loved war and weapons, and hated chapel services.
A number of months ago, I ran into this fellow, and after we’d talked awhile, he put his hand on my shoulder and said, “You know, Chuck, the only thing I still miss is that old fellowship I used to have with all the guys down at the tavern. I remember how we used to sit around and let our hair down. I can’t find anything like that for Christians. I no longer have a place to admit my faults and talk about my battles -- where somebody won’t preach at me and frown and quote me a verse.”
It wasn’t one month later that in my reading I came across this profound paragraph: “The neighborhood bar is possibly the best counterfeit that there is to the fellowship Christ wants to give his church.
It’s an imitation, dispensing liquor instead of grace, escape rather than reality -- but it is a permissive, accepting, and inclusive fellowship.
It is unshockable.
You can tell people secrets, and they usually don’t tell others or even want to.
The bar flourishes not because most people are alcoholics, but because God has put into the human heart the desire to know and be known, to love and be loved, and so many seek a counterfeit at the price of a few beers.
With all my heart,” this writer concludes, “I believe that Christ wants his church to be unshockable, a fellowship where people can come in and say, ‘I’m sunk, I’m beat, I’ve had it.’ Alcoholics Anonymous has this quality -- our churches too often miss it.”
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LESSONS FROM A TAVERN, Charles Swindoll, Leadership, Vol. 4, no. 1.; secondary source: SermonCentral Weekly Newsletter
Ephesians sermon series: "MAKING THE MOST OF THE MOMENT," Eph 5:15-20.
I. The preciousness of time.
A. Christians must be wise about their use of time. 5:16
B. We live in difficult times, so time can't be taken for granted.
II. Christians must seek God's will. 5:17
A. With time being so short, don't put off seeking for God.
B. True wisdom is the ability to discern what is the will of God,
C. Be concerned about what God wants you to do today.
III. Christians must get high on God, not chemicals. 5:18
A. The Spirit instead of "spirits."
B. Alcohol depresses, the Spirit stimulates.
C. Being filled with the Spirit. 5:18
IV. Seek the Spirit's joy in fellowship and worship. 5:19
A. Fellowship: "To one another."
B. Worship: "To the Lord."
C. The importance of singing.
V. Be grateful to God. 5:20
A. Give thanks always.
B. "Always for everything" - not to be pressed literally. 5:20
VI. Being careful how we live...
A. How are you using the time God has given you?
B. What is the source of joy in your life?
C. What do you have to be thankful for?
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I used to live in Fort Meade, Maryland, which is half an hour from Washington, D.C. It’s a rural area not much different than Coshocton County.
The kids there aren’t much different, either. On the weekends they like to get together. On one particular weekend in the spring of 1979, a bunch of high school students gathered at a friends’ house. All of them drank, and some drank too much. To cap off the evening they decided to go for a ride on a tree-covered road behind the base. 14 of them piled into a pickup truck and took off.
The driver was feeling pretty good, and soon he was going 80-90 MPH. At a hairpin curve he lost control. The pickup left the road and hit an oak tree head on. The first people at the scene were horrified to find bodies hanging from the trees. The impact was so great that initially it could not be determined how many had been in the truck. Out of 14, 10 died that night, and 2 more died within a few weeks. Only one person was able to walk away – the teenage driver. And scattered in the woods, and throughout the truck, were dozens of empty beer cans.
We’ve all heard the statistics- 26,000 alcohol-related deaths on the highways every year. A quarter of a million every decade. 1 out of 2 accidents involve alcohol. Another 25,000 every year die from alcohol-related disease.
For more than ten years something extraordinary has happened in Santiago Yatiepec, Mexico, a village of 2,000 or so. It once was plagued with a murder rate ten times Mexico's average. The extraordinary event? A feast day without drinking, without fistfights, without guns and machetes.
"People used to fight a lot," said Eufronsina Clemente, offering soft drinks in the courtyard of her brick house. "When they drank mescal, the men would go crazy." It was Yaitepec's women who led the fight to ban mescal, distilled form the fermented heart of the maguey, to ban all alcohol, on the feast day and every day of the year.
About 30,000 Chatino live in southern Oaxaca, spread among some 50 communities. Though Catholics, they have never abandoned their traditional beliefs. But Yaitepec seemed to lose its spiritual bearings in the 1950s. Violence overtook the town as people expanded their subsistence farming to add coffee as a cash crop. As farmers jockeyed for bigger parts of the communal land, alcohol fueled their anger.
(A rigid revenge system heightened the problem: The family of a Chatino murder victim traditionally seeks justice by killing not only the murderer but also an adult male member of the murderer's family. Marina Vasquez told of her husband, Adrian Cruz, shot to death 15 years earlier. "He was drinking with his friends, and they began to discuss things they shouldn't have." Four years later, her 21-year-old son, Eusebio, oldest of 11 children, was shot. "I believe the murderers thought my sons were going to avenge their father's death, but it just wasn't so.")
In 1982 Marian Vasquez, Eufronsina Clemente, and dozens of other angry women resolved to ban alcohol and shut the cantinas. "The mescaleros were even getting the police drunk," said Eufronsina. The largest cantina was owned by the town's presidente. When he refused to close, 200 men and women dragged him from his office and for ten days occupied town hall. The prohibitionists soon rallied virtually the entire town. Now anyone caught drunk or with alcohol faces fines and prison, and other Chatino villages have followed suit.
Against the odds the town became sober and peaceful. The loudest noises are not the clamor of cantina loudspeakers but the taps of hammers building new houses, now that people have a little more money. The former presidente has shut down his liquor business. And Marina Vasquez can rely on her surviving sons to farm the family's plot. "I am happy, because my sons don't drink mescal," she said. "If they go out, it's just for a little while, then they come home to sleep."
There have been no murders linked to alcohol since 1981.
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Remember when people thought marijuana would make booze obsolete? Well, it hasn’t happened. In 1980, one in three college students smoked marijuana at least once a month. By 1993, that number was down to one in seven. Cocaine use is also down, from 7% to 0.7% for the same time period.
The bad news is that drinking on college campuses is as heavy as ever. Only 16% of college students claim to be nondrinkers. College students spend $5.5 billion on alcohol each year, more than they spend on books and other beverages combined.
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The measure of manhood is Jesus Christ. Sound crazy? Sissy? Wimpy? That’s what I used to think. But I learned otherwise by seeking fulfillment in other ways.
Striving to find worldly acceptance, I sought to become the image of the rough, tough macho man. At the end of my quest, I felt confused and defeated. I may have looked big, but I was a weak-kneed, spineless jellyfish.
A chubby, slow, uncoordinated youngster, I grew up desperately seeking approval.
Though often jeered for my clumsy, slow-footed ways, my size worked to my advantage when I started putting my efforts into sports. But my red-letter day in elementary school came when I took on the toughest kid in class. I made this bully mad on the playground and he came running full speed at me.
Actually, I didn’t stand up to him. He scared me to death. Trembling, when he swung, I ducked. He missed and his momentum sent him flying over me.
Without realizing what I was doing, in the same motion I stood up and caught him with my shoulder. I tossed him in the air; he landed on his back, got up and slumped off, crying.
Suddenly I was the school hero. Though my success was a complete fluke, I thought, “Hey, look at the acceptance I got through fighting this guy.”
That launched my quest to become a “macho he-man” by building up my body to ultra-tough proportions. I thought being a man meant someone physically intimidating. I wanted to look so tough no one would challenge me to a fight.
It may sound simplistic to trace all my actions to a grade-school fight. But that was the turning point that set me on the path of “bigger means better.”
Years later I arrived at the University of Southern California boasting a 20-inch neck, 20-inch arms and a 54-inch chest. I used my physique to land a job as a bar bouncer, where I brawled regularly.
I amazed people with my physical stunts. Three times I wrestled bears standing as high as 7 feet, 4 inches and weighing 650 pounds. It was all a show, but my willingness to enter the ring impressed my fraternity brothers. I meant to prove I was the roughest, toughest, most fearless dude on campus. When I got drunk, I would run into 4-by-4 wooden stop signs and knock them over with a loud crack.
Even though I never started, and mainly warmed the bench, I was still one of the few walk-ons to stick with the varsity football team at USC. My willingness to mix it up with future NFL stars like Marcus Allen and Keith Van Horn earned more admiration in my social circles.
Besides persevering in football, my fraternity brought access to two of my primary dreams in life: great parties and lots of sorority sisters. In addition, I was on my way to earning a marketing degree from a dynamic business school.
Despite my physical exploits and campus status, I was bankrupt inside. There was a huge void inside — one only God could fill. My lifestyle covered up the insecurities, fear and failures gnawing at me. I wanted to be a man but didn’t know how. As time passed this void expanded through a steady diet of lust, pornography and immorality. I didn’t realize these things strip a man of purpose and responsibility. They made me feel even weaker.
Ironically, while I was partying away my college years, I called myself a Christian and belonged to a campus ministry. Finally, when USC made it to the Fiesta Bowl my senior year, things began to change. Upset over the hypocrisy and inconsistencies that plagued me, I aimlessly wandered the streets of Phoenix. Fortunately, I later wound up in a Christian gathering. The speaker was former LA Ram and Hall of Fame member Rosey Grier. Seeing through my counterfeit faith, he challenged me to get the sin out of my life.
The night he spoke I felt like laser beams were shooting out of his eyes toward me. The only way to serve God was to quit compromising, he said. The words stung with the force of a wooden stop sign against my nose.
As “fate” had it (there is no such thing, the Lord arranged it), Rosey spoke the following week at USC. He introduced me to my current pastor and an evangelist who spoke that night. As they counseled me, I saw that I had never understood what it means to be a disciple of Jesus Christ. I saw that Jesus was not in control of my life. From studies to athletics, work, social life and family, he must be “Lord of all or not at all.”
That’s when I repented and God’s power changed me. The void in my life vanished. For the very first time, I felt like a whole person. A real man.
This country is staggering through a leadership crisis. The times demand bold men of character who are not afraid to proclaim the Lord in the midst of a wicked, perverted society.
Everywhere, whether in business, politics or education, people are crying out, “Will somebody please take the lead?” Or, as Psalms 94:16b (New American Standard) asks, “Who will take his stand for me against those who do wickedness?”
Men are the foundational strength of any government. From family to workforce to public affairs, as men go, so goes the nation. As TV host Ben Kinchlow says, “Being male is a matter of birth. Being a man is a matter of choice.”
Going against peer pressure. That takes guts. Daring to be a role model by doing what is right in the sight of a holy God. That requires bravery. Courage stands out from the crowd instead of bowing to it.
God has placed in the heart of every man the deep, burning desire to be a hero, a champion and an overcomer. Men want to stand up, do what is right and achieve greatness. That is leadership by example instead of seeking out the latest polling data to make up your mind.
In recent years the world has warred against this type of thought. Critics sneer, “Oh, you just have a big ego and you want to feed it.”
But I’m here to say: God designed you with that ego. Not to exalt yourself or act like a “stud.” It is so he can provoke you to do great exploits for his glory.
Having an ego is natural, since it’s a gift from God. The ideal man is a hero. Women dream of a knight in shining armor who will appear at the right moment and whisk them off to safety.
It’s the same with young children, who are always eager to brag, “My dad can whip your dad” or “No one is as good as my dad.” In today’s divorce-filled climate, there are also the kids who cry, “I just wish I had a dad.”
Strong men, our society needs you!
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Excerpted from “Warriors,” released this month by Broadman & Holman Publishers. Sirotnak is an evangelist based in Anaheim, Calif.; Walker is a free-lance writer in Louisville, Ky.
Copyright (c) 1995 Baptist Press — RNbp5911mrjB5911g6912
Millions of families are torn up by alcohol.
Shani Gray grew up a rough area of Miami. Many of her friends turned to gangs and drugs, but her parents encouraged her to do well in school. For Shani, it's ironic that while her dad was encouraging her to stay on track and resist the temptations around her, he was sinking further into those same temptations.
"He's like the pink flamingos," Shani says. "They start out as white birds, but the stuff they eat turns them pink. Their outside changes because of what's going on inside. That's what happened to my dad. He tried hard to resist all that stuff, but he was in the middle of it. It got to him."
On the day of her graduation, in which she was the top student, she looked out across the audience to see her dad. But he wasn't there. He was off drunk somewhere.
Soon after he abandoned his family. The hardest part of his leaving is the message it gave to Shani. "I looked up to him," she says. "He worked so hard for us and I loved him so much. But he made a choice that said, 'My lifestyle is more important to me than you are.' He was my motivation to keep at it when I wanted to give up on college. Then he gave up on us."
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XTRA ORDINARY PEOPLE: Shani Gray
Where's God When Your Dreams Fall Apart?
By Carla Barnhill
Shani Gray had planned for this moment for a long time.
As she sat on the stage at her high-school graduation, waiting to give her valedictory speech, she felt that all the sacrifices she'd made to excel had been worthwhile.
Even the turmoil of the last few months -- her alcoholic father had left home, and she was fighting a losing battle for scholarship money -- seemed far away as Shani's fellow graduates settled into their seats.
The principal announced Shani's name. As she stepped up to the podium to deliver her speech, Shani looked into the audience for the man who'd promised he'd be there.
But her father was nowhere in sight.
The moment is still fresh in Shani's mind as she sits in the dorm lounge at Taylor University-Fort Wayne, where she is finishing her freshman year.
Sure, she was angry at her dad, and angry that she'd been passed over for some large scholarships. But she was also angry at God.
"I felt like nothing was going the way I'd planned it," she says. "I thought I would always be rewarded for the things I did. But there I was. My dad had left our family. It was looking like I wouldn't be able to afford college. And I felt cheated."
It was, she says now, a humbling experience.
Shani Gray is not a person who needs much humbling. Even though everyone at Taylor -- from the lady in the mailroom to the vice-president of the college -- knows her by name, she doesn't recognize just how special she is.
How special? Just ask the professor who gave her an A in a tough, upper-level theology class. Or her high-school basketball coach who looked to her as the moral center of his team. Or her 6th-grade Sunday school teacher who asked Shani to help teach the class, since she knew the Bible so well.
Or ask just about anyone in Shani's neighborhood back in Miami. They'll tell you it takes someone very special to make it out of a place where many high-school students never even dream of college.
"In my neighborhood, you'd see kids on bikes, kids playing basketball, decent houses," says Shani. "But if you knew where to look, you'd find the drug dealers and gang members. It wasn't as dangerous as some parts of town, but at night, you'd definitely want to be behind your locked door and security system."
That atmosphere carried over to Shani's school, Carol City High. There, the violence of the streets made itself known in battles over dates and sports teams. Shani remembers a day when someone from a rival school's marching band showed up with a gun at Shani's band practice, wanting to shoot the trumpet players for winning a competition.
Violence was part of Shani's everyday life. So was the pressure to fit in at school. And fitting in meant dissing academics.
"There was always pressure to be average," says Shani. "Most kids felt like there was no point in working hard for grades, because teachers, parents, and society told them they weren't going anywhere. They'd see drug dealers making more money than any college professor could make. Most parents couldn't afford college, so unless you were a great athlete, you didn't have much chance of an education beyond high school. They figured, why bother?"
But Shani believed God had given her brains for a reason. She knew God could use her in the world and that a college education would prepare her for a whatever lay ahead. She also knew the only way she could afford college was through academic scholarships. So she determined she would do whatever it took to be the best in her class.
"I was raised by a whole bunch of people," she says. "My mom and dad, aunts and uncles, neighbors and friends from church. They all made sure I stayed out of trouble. They told me I could excel if I worked at it.
"I remember my dad telling me about his brother, who was very smart. His brother let his talents go to his head and thought he was too good to work for anything. So he ended up on the streets. Dad told me, 'The only way to get anywhere in life is to keep working hard for what you want, no matter what other people tell you.'"
A FAITH OF HER OWN
Shani's extended family provided her with something else that helped her stand apart from the crowd: a strong faith in God.
"I became a Christian when I was 8. But my faith was really just my mom's faith. I believed what she believed. It wasn't until I heard a former gang member talk about how God had changed his life that I thought about my faith. This guy had such a hard life, yet he was full of love for God. My life wasn't perfect either. But even though my dad was an alcoholic, he was there and I knew he and my mom loved me. We always had food on the table, and clothes to wear. Compared to most of my friends, I had it pretty good. What reason did I have for not living 100 percent for Christ? None. That's when my faith became my own."
For Shani, faith means standing for what she believes, no matter what the people around her think.
"Back in Miami, there was constant pressure to do drugs, drink, and have sex. But I believe my actions speak for my faith as much as, if not more than, my words. I mean, to the people in my school, I was Jesus. They were always watching me to see what being a Christian meant. Plus, I had things I wanted to accomplish, and that stuff just gets in the way, so I stayed away from it."
But staying away from the "stuff" didn't mean staying away from non-Christians. "If you don't know any non-Christians," notes Shani, "how can you lead them to Christ?"
"I really tried to be approachable to my non-Christian friends. I didn't judge them, but I was clear about my beliefs. I had a good friend who was struggling with her sexuality. I let her know I didn't agree with the choices she was making, but also that I was there for her if she needed to talk. She did, and I was able to tell her about God and the love he has for her. It's taken awhile, but she's stepped back from the life she was living and is trying to figure out what kind of person God wants her to be."
She continued to excel in the classroom, and by the middle of her senior year, it looked as though her plan was right on course. She had been accepted at Taylor University-Fort Wayne to study criminal justice, she would graduate as class valedictorian, and she would leave Miami knowing she had a bright future.
Then her dad, the man who promised her that her hard work would pay off, moved out.
PINK FLAMINGOS
Shani has only talked to her father a few times in the year since he left. He's been in rehabilitation for drug and alcohol use.
For Shani, it's ironic that while her dad was encouraging her to stay on track and resist the temptations around her, he was sinking further into those same temptations.
"He's like the pink flamingos," Shani says. "They start out as white birds, but the stuff they eat turns them pink. Their outside changes because of what's going on inside. That's what happened to my dad. He tried hard to resist all that stuff, but he was in the middle of it. It got to him."
But the hardest part of his leaving is the message it gave to Shani. "I looked up to him," she says. "He worked so hard for us and I loved him so much. But he made a choice that said, 'My lifestyle is more important to me than you are.' He was my motivation to keep at it when I wanted to give up on college. Then he gave up on us."
THE LAST STRAW (ALMOST)
But graduation was right around the corner and Shani didn't have time to think about her pain. Instead, she focused on her schoolwork and her future in Fort Wayne. Then came another blow.
With Shani at the top of her class, she was certain she'd be rewarded with enough scholarship money for college. But to her surprise and great disappointment, the big awards went to other students. As a result, Shani faced graduation with one scholarship -- worth only $500.
Her college plans were crumbling fast.
Nothing had turned out the way Shani had intended. No dad, no money, no future. As the summer wore on, Shani buried her pain in her frantic schedule. She worked extra shifts at her job, trying to earn as much money as she could in a final effort to get to Taylor. Shani and her mother continued to pray that it would all work out, somehow.
Slowly, the money she needed, and more, came trickling in from small private scholarships, as well as from people who knew the Grays needed help. Shani would make it to Taylor after all.
A PLAN TO TRUST
As she walks toward Taylor's gym to shoot baskets, Shani now knows God had some unexpected surprises in store for her last spring.
"Last June," she says, "I was as angry at God as I've ever been. But I was mad because it looked like my life wasn't going in the direction I had planned. I'd been saying that I trusted God, but I wanted things to go my way, not his. And after all that, God put me right where I'd wanted to be all along. My dad's still gone, but I'm learning to deal with the hurt he caused us. I'm finally letting go of the anger I'd felt since last spring. And I'm a stronger person because of what I've been through. I know now that good things don't just fall in your lap because you follow the rules. God's been with me the whole time, blessing me in ways I never would have thought. Now, I am trusting God with my future and I know it will be alright."
And that's a plan she can trust for the rest of her life.
Copyright (c) 1996 Christianity Today, Inc./CAMPUS LIFE Magazine
May/June 1996, Vol. 54, No. 10, Page 30
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Basically, my life was "American Pie" from the time I was born 24 years ago
until I reached junior high. My parents were Christians who took my older
brother and sister and me to church every Sunday and then to my grandparents'
house to spend the afternoon. I did well in school.
Then, when I was in about seventh grade, I became obsessed with motorcycles
and leather. I started listening to heavy metal music and drinking. I did
my first drugs when I was about 12 years old and progressed to daily use of
cocaine by the time I was 16.
I grew my hair long, had an ear pierced, and bought a motorcycle and leather
jacket. I got the money to support my habit and my motorcycle by doing
landscaping and carpentry and by selling drugs.
Needless to say, I had stopped going to church by then. I substituted worship
of a satanic cult that I followed around the country.
I dropped out of high school during my senior year, but I got a GED and spent
2 semesters at a local community college.
From bad to worse
My college career was halted abruptly in 1990 by a serious motorcycle
accident. As I look back on it, I see that accident as a turning point in my
life - a shift from bad to worse. I lost the use of my legs for 2 months,
and I stayed drunk and high for the entire time.
Although they took care of me after the accident, my parents told me they
had had it with me. My father said I had run from God and was paying the
price; he said I wasn't welcome in their home anymore, so as soon as I was
able, I moved in with a girl I knew. She lived with her mother, and both of
them were alcoholics, so they tolerated my habits.
By then, though, just selling drugs wasn't sufficient to support my drug
habit, so I started stealing. I stole from anybody and everybody.
Eventually I got caught and was sentenced to 8 years in state prison for
burglary. During the 21 years I served before being paroled, I was re-
introduced to God by volunteers from a church in Sussex County. They came
every Sunday night for a Bible study, and the things they said and did made a
big impression in me.
Clean for Two months
Unfortunately, when I was released from prison in 1994, I forgot about God. I
deliberately moved away from old haunts and managed to stay clean for 2
months. But I didn't have any friends in the new place and the only place I
knew to look for friends was a bar. So I started hanging out in bars, and the
next thing I knew, I was high. I also learned a new skill: free-basing
cocaine.
Within 3 months, I was unemployable. I needed a place to live, so I moved in
with a woman who was old enough to be my mother. I wasn't there for long,
however, because 2 months later I was back in jail.
My brother was planning to get married and he had asked me to be his best man,
but when he found out that I had been arrested again, he changed his mind.
That was one of the things that drove me to get help. The other was that I
was a three time offender and a parole violator; I knew that if I went back to
prison I would probably never come out. I was willing to do anything to stay
out of prison.
I don't know where I got the number for the Market Street Mission. I just
knew that I had to make a change or I would spend the rest of my life in
prison. I called Phil Dosier in February of 1995, and my life has not been
the same since.
Spiritual Kindergarten
For the first 3 months I just surrendered and listened. It was hard, and I
made mistakes, but some of the guys looked out for me and helped me. I needed
spiritual Kindergarten. My Alcoholics Anonymous sponsor re-introduced me to
God, and the Mission taught me about Jesus. Through Him, I have turned my
life around completely. My life has been put back together.
I completed the New Reality of Recovery program in December of 1995 and am
now employed by the Mission. I am in the leadership program, which allows me
to keep growing spiritual and to help other men who have been in some of the
same places I've been.
I have rebuilt the bridge between myself and my family. I see them at least
once a month. And now I have a new family too. The people at the Mission are
like a second family to me. A family that knows how to help me stay clean and
sober and close to Jesus.
Right now, I'm taking courses at the County College of Morris with the object
of a professional career. I would also like to get the certification I need
to counsel other addicts and to get involved with a prison ministry. I want
to be like those volunteers who came to me when I was in prison. People who
did it for love, not for money.
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[changed to third person for sermon:]
Jack Rue is a Morris County boy.
He describes his life as "American Pie" from the time he was
born 24 years ago until he reached junior high.
His parents were Christians who took his older brother and
sister and him to church every Sunday.
He did well in school.
Then, when Jack was in about seventh grade, he became
obsessed with motorcycles and leather.
He started listening to heavy metal music and drinking.
He did his first drugs when he was about 12 years old and
progressed to daily use of cocaine by the time he was 16.
Jack grew his hair long, had an ear pierced, and bought a
motorcycle and leather jacket.
He got the money to support his habit and his motorcycle
by doing landscaping and carpentry and by selling drugs.
Needless to say, he had stopped going to church by then.
He substituted worship of a satanic cult that he followed
around the country.
He dropped out of high school during his senior year, but
got a GED and spent 2 semesters at a local college.
His college career was halted abruptly in 1990 by a serious
motorcycle accident.
As Jack looks back on it, he sees that accident as a turning
point in his life - a shift from bad to worse.
He lost the use of his legs for 2 months, and he stayed drunk
and high for the entire time.
Although they took care of him after the accident, his parents
told him they had had it with him.
His father told him he had run from God and was paying the
price; he said he wasn't welcome in their home anymore.
As soon as Jack was able, he moved in with a girl he knew.
She lived with her mother, and both of them were alcoholics,
so they tolerated his habits.
By then, though, just selling drugs wasn't sufficient to
support his drug habit, so he started stealing.
He stole from anybody and everybody.
Eventually he got caught and was sentenced to 8 years in state
prison for burglary.
During the 21 months he served before being paroled, he was
re-introduced to God by volunteers from a church in Sussex
County.
They came every Sunday night for a Bible study, and the things
they said and did made a big impression in Jack.
Unfortunately, when he was released from prison in 1994,
he forgot about God.
He deliberately moved away from old haunts and managed to
stay clean for 2 months.
But he didn't have any friends in the new place and the only
place he knew to look for friends was a bar.
So he started hanging out in bars, and the next thing he knew,
he was high.
He also learned a new skill: free-basing cocaine.
Within 3 months, Jack was unemployable.
Two months after that, he was back in jail.
His brother was planning to get married and he had asked Jack
to be his best man, but when he found out Jack had been
arrested again, he changed his mind.
That was one of the things that drove him to get help.
He also knew he was a three-time offender and parole violator;
if he went back to prison he would never come out.
Jack Rue doesn't know where he got the number for the Market
Street Mission.
He just knew that he had to make a change or he would spend
the rest of his life in prison.
Jack called Phil Dosier in February of 1995, and his life
has not been the same since.
The first three months he called his "Spiritual Kindergarten."
He just surrendered and listened.
His Alcoholics Anonymous sponsor re-introduced him to God,
and the Mission taught him about Jesus.
Through Jesus, Jack feels his life has turned around completely.
He has rebuilt the bridge between himself and his family.
He sees them at least once a month.
The people at the Mission are like a second family to him,
one that holds him accountable.
And he's been taking courses at the County College of Morris
with the object of a professional career.
Jack's goal? To get involved with a prison ministry.
He wants to be like those volunteers who came to him when
he was in prison.
B. Most of us haven't sunk as low as Jack Rue.
1) But all of us must descend from our inflated ego.
2) We are nice, but not nice enough for God.
3) At your best, there is a great gap between you and Lord.
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Melissa Vinson, an honors student at Seminole High School in Sanford, Florida, played a game called “Pass-Out” with two other girls. In the board game, players land on squares that read, “Take a drink” or “Go to the bar” and they recite tongue-twisters on “Pink Elephant” cards. In a two hour period, Melissa consumed most of a liter bottle of vodka. Later that night she began to convulse and blacked out on her living room floor. She was pronounced dead at Florida Hospital in Orlando. Medical examiners concluded that possibly a reaction of the vodka to a prescription drug contributed to her death.
Abraham Bininger, a Swiss boy from Zurich, came with his parents to this country on the same ship with John Wesley. His parents died on the trip and were buried at sea. Young Abraham stepped down the gang-plank alone in a strange and bewildering land. A short time later he decided to take the gospel to the natives on the island of St. Thomas but when he got there he learned that it was illegal for anyone but a slave to preach the gospel to the slaves. He wrote to the governor of the island begging to become a slave himself that he might have the freedom to proclaim the gospel. The letter was forwarded to the king of Denmark who was so touched by Bininger’s desire that he sent an edict to allow him to preach the gospel where, when and to whom he chose. [see also HolwickID #11758]
What do those stories have in common? What is the thread weaving them together? The element of choice. Melissa made a choice and it cost her life; Bininger made a choice and it led him to preach the gospel.
The people of Israel needed to make a choice. They were summoned to Joshua and he recited for them the history of God’s dealing with them beginning with Abraham and continuing through the bondage of Egypt, the exodus with its trials and set-backs, and to that very moment. God had blessed them, guided them, protected them, provided for them. Now the ball was in their court. How would they choose in reference to God? Joshua set a clear demand before them, saying in verses 14-15:
“Now, therefore, fear the Lord and serve Him in sincerity and truth; and put away the gods which your fathers served beyond the river and in Egypt, and serve the Lord. And if it is disagreeable in your sight to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves today whom you will serve: whether the gods which your fathers served which were beyond the river, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living; but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”
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Story of Melissa from Albany Democrat-Herald newspaper; Bininger illustration from Paul Lee Tan, “Encyclopedia of 7700 Illustrations.”
One of our young men gave me the following experience. He said, "An
old gentleman and a young man, who was the driver, stopped at
Ringgold, Georgia, to get a lunch. They asked for a certain type of
beer. They were informed the proprietor did not have this brand; so
they left the restaurant and went to another. They gave their order
with the call for this same beer. On being informed that they did not
have it, they left in a rage. The young man angrily said, "We will
have it [calling the brand] if we have to go to hell to get it." They
then drove rapidly away toward Atlanta. In making one of those curves
their car collided with a beer truck loaded with the brand he had
demanded, and there was a fearful wreck and crash. They were both
instantly killed and buried in broken bottles of the beer the young
man had demanded."
He got his beer, and doubtless went to hell in so doing. Some
things God will not stand for.
William Moses Tidwell, "Pointed Illustrations."
You may say that drinking is no more of a sin than over eating. But let me ask you one question, "Would you rather meet a fat driver or a drunk driver on the highway late at night?
North Carolina, where a state cop stopped an obviously drunk driver. While he was ticketing the man, there was a multi-car accident on the other side of the divided highway. The highway patrolman told the drunk to wait. The patrolman went across the highway to sort out the accident. After a while the drunk figured he'd waited long enough and he drove on home and told his wife that if anybody asked she should say he had been in bed with the flu all day. Within the hour two state patrolmen appeared at the home of the drunk driver and asked to see him. He came from the bedroom wrapped in a robe and coughing and wheezing. The patrolmen asked if he had been driving that evening and he said he'd been sick in bed. They apologized for bothering him and asked if they could take a look at his car. The wrapped-up drunk escorted them to the garage and inside was-a highway patrol car, the blue lights still flashing. Paul Harvey, For What It's Worth, p. 131.
Is alcoholism a disease? If so:
1) It is the only disease contracted by an act of the will;
2) It is the only disease that requires a license to propagate it;
3) It is the only disease that is bottled and sold;
4) It is the only disease that requires outlets to spread it;
5) It is the only disease that produces a revenue for the government;
6) It is the only disease that provokes crime;
7) It is the only disease that is habit-forming;
8) It is the only disease that is spread by advertising;
9) It is the only disease without a germ or virus cause, and for which
there is no human corrective medicine; and
10) It is the only disease that bars the patient from heaven.
(cf. 1 Cor. 6:9-11)
Taken from the Evangelical Christian, Toronto, Canada, June, 1962.
Authorities now know that approximately one person in sixteen who ever takes a social drink will become an alcoholic! How many of you would get on an airplane if before it took off you knew there was a 1 out of 16 chance that it would crash and destory your life. Actually, the odds for a commerical airliner crashing are closer to 1 out of 1,000,000; but even with those odds some people will not fly. Yet many of these same people will take a drink! - Zig Ziglar
"A man may take to drink because he feels himself to be a failure, but then fail all the more completely because he drinks."
-- George Orwell, quoted in "The Week" magazine, 2/24/06
"Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."
-- Benjamin Franklin, quoted in the London Times, 10/6/06
William Jennings Bryan was visiting Japan and attended a banquet given to the Japanese Admiral of the Navy. When it came time to pay the naval leader tribute by raising a toast, all raised their champagne glasses. There was a gasp of alarm as Bryan, a tee-totaller, raised a glass of water. Someone grasped his arm and whispered to do so would be considered an insult. Bryan responded by saying, “You won your victories on water,” he said, turning to the admiral, “and I drink to your health in water; whenever you win any victories on champagne I shall drink to your health in champagne.”
Years ago, in Northern Ireland, an alcoholic came to Christ and stopped drinking. His old friends at the pub dismissed his conversion as a passing phase. "Give him a month," they said, "and he'll be back on the bottle." But a month went by and he hadn't touched a drop. So they tried to mock him out of his new faith. "Do you believe the part of the Bible where Jesus turned the water into wine?" "Indeed I do," he replied. "Would you ask Him to do that for us?" "He did better than that for me," the new Christian replied. "He turned liquor into furniture and food. Just ask my family."
Two Baptist groups met in Europe, one from America and the other from Germany. At the dinner table several of the American Baptists began to smoke. The German Baptists were aghast. In fact, the Germans were so shocked, they almost dropped their beer.
Collin and a fellow University of Illinois police officer were good friends who shared a disaffection for their employer. They often relaxed after work to gripe about policies and enjoy an unusual game they had invented to relieve their frustrations. They called the game "Sweet Release," "65% Disability," and "Million-Dollar Wound."
On New Year's Eve, Collin's partner handed over his Glock semiautomatic handgun, saying, "Sweet Release." The two men had exchanged their duty weapons in their game on prior occasions, but this night was different.
"I wonder if this is loaded?" With those portentous parting words, Collin stuck the gun in his mouth and played his final round of "Sweet Release."
Investigators interviewed the two men and three women present during the fatal shooting, and all agreed that Collin was his normal, happy self, and did not intend to commit suicide.
Although Collin had been drinking with friends for several hours on the night of the accident, his blood alcohol level at 0.09% was barely over the Illinois legal limit for driving. This level is high enough to dull reflexes, but is not sufficient to seriously impair cognitive function.
The deceased had worked for the Charleston Police Department and the Champaign County sheriff's office before taking a job at the University. But in all his years in law enforcement, he had apparently never fully absorbed the cardinal rule of handling weapons, stated by investigator Jim Rein: "Whether civilian or police officer, the assumption [should be] that every weapon is loaded."
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Two recent studies have bolstered conservatives' claims about abstinence and teenage substance abuse.
A study published in the latest edition of the journal Adolescent & Family Health found that 67 percent of the drop in the single teen pregnancy rate from 1991-95 was due to abstinence, not birth control. This counters a study released by the Alan Guttmacher Institute in 1999 saying that contraception was the major factor in the drop.
Meanwhile, another study has shown the positive impact religion can have on a teen's life. According to the study -- published in the March issue of the journal Psychology of Addictive Behaviors -- teens who consider religion important in their lives are half as likely as other teens to drink heavily or smoke marijuana and cigarettes.
Three researchers at Yeshiva University in New York conducted the substance abuse study.
“These buffering effects could be occurring because religiosity may influence a person's attitudes and values, providing meaning and purpose in life,” researcher Thomas Ashby Wills said in a statement. “It could also help persons to view problems in a different way.
“Besides offering coping techniques, being involved with a religion can also create more healthy social networks than adolescents would have if they got involved with drugs to find social outlets.”
The pregnancy study looked at various data, including the drop in the teen birth rate from 1991-95 (the latest data available) and the increase in abstinent teens during that time. “Teens” were defined as girls age 15-19.
The study utilized data from the National Vital Statistics Records, National Survey of Family Growth and the Alan Guttmacher Institute. The number of pregnancies per 1,000 teen girls decreased from 115.8 in 1991 to 101.1 in 1995, according to the study. At the same time, the number of unmarried teen girls who were abstinent -- defined as never having had sex or not having had sex in the past year -- increased from 53 percent to 56 percent, the study said.
The study was conducted by New Jersey physician Joanna Mohn, University of North Carolina-Greensboro professor Lynne Tingle and Colorado physician Reginald Finger.
“These findings support the significance of the growing movement of teens choosing to abstain from sex,” they wrote. “... [T]his study demonstrates the important role of increased sexual abstinence in reducing the single teen and overall teen pregnancy rates.”
The study of religion's effects on teens followed 1,182 teens in New York City from seventh to 10th grade, utilizing surveys each school year. The importance of religion was determined by asking the teens to rate various statements from “not at all important” to “very important”: “To believe in God”; “To be able to rely on religious teachings when you have a problem”; “To be able to turn to prayer when you're facing a personal problem”; and “To rely on your religious beliefs as a guide for day-to-day living.”
The study did not break the samples down into sub-categories, such as effects of evangelical Christianity.
The research found that teens who consider religion an important part of their lives were half as likely to be involved in “heavy drinking, cigarette smoking and marijuana use.” There was little difference in overall alcohol use, the study said.
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[Original illustration at this number was a duplicate of HolwickID #6284]
A drunk accepted Christ and was wondrously converted and saved. A
"friend" of his saw him a few weeks later and told him that he
had heard that he was now going to church and just wanted to know
if it were true. The former drunk replied, "Yes!"
His friend asked, "Do you mean to tell me that you believe all that stuff in the Bible?" Again the new Christian answered, "Yes!"
"You mean to tell me that you even believe the part about Jesus turning the water into wine?" The man answered, "Yes! Jesus turned the wine in my house into food and clothes and he healed my family. What had been on the verge of destruction Jesus has made whole! If he can do that, he can do anything!"
- Unknown
A rat was being chased by a cat. The rat finally ran into a shed that was full of barrels. One of the barrels he saw had a hole in it. So the rat ran into the hole. The cat was too big to get through the hole. The rat sprawled out of the inside of the empty barrel and gasped for breath. Soon he was rested however and began to sniff around. What was that he smelled? There was some liquid still around the inside rim of the overturned barrel so he began to lap it up. It so happened that this was a rum barrel and as the rat lapped and lapped he began to feel bigger and bigger and stronger and stronger. Finally with his belly full of rum he remembered the cat. So... he crawled back through the hole in the barrel, and sat on the rim and looked around defiantly and said, "Where's that cat!"
"Preacher, talk to my boy about drinking," said an anxious father.
"He came home last night and fell sprawling on the floor, too drunk to
get up. His mother cried the rest of the night; in fact, she has been
crying ever since."
"Why don't you yourself talk to your own boy and urge him to give
up drink?" the preacher questioned.
"Preacher, I can't talk to my son about it because I am to blame. I
wanted him to be a man, and I thought it wouldn't harm him to drink.
When I gave him his first glass of liquor, I didn't dream that he'd
ever become a drunkard. Please speak to my boy. I can't talk to him."
William Moses Tidwell, "Pointed Illustrations."
A bright boy, who had been taught the nature of strong drink and
who had promised to shun it, one day visited a rich uncle, who offered
the boy a glass of wine. He declined. Wishing to see how far the boy
could be tempted, the uncle urged him to drink, and finally offered
him the gift of a watch if he would drink. The boy declined, saying,
"Please do not tempt me. If I keep a teetotaler, I can someday buy a
watch of my Own; but if I drink and take your watch, I may later on
have to pawn it to get bread."
William Moses Tidwell, "Pointed Illustrations."
A poor old Negro was once a hopeless drunkard, and he tried again
and again to get free. Others tried to help him, but he could not get
rid of his drunkenness until he was converted. When he was converted
there was a wonderful change, and someone said, "So you have got the
mastery of the devil at last?" "No," he said, "but I'se got the Master
of the devil!"
William Moses Tidwell, "Pointed Illustrations."
Far worse than the effect of strong drink upon the man himself is
its effect upon his posterity. A writer gives a striking illustration
of this. He says:
A specialist in children's diseases, who has for twelve years been
carefully noticing the difference between twelve families of drinkers
and twelve families of temperate ones, reports that he found the
twelve drinking families produced in those years fifty-seven children
and the temperates sixty-one. Of the drinkers, twenty-five children
died in the first week of life, as against six on the other side.
Among the children of the drinkers were five who were idiots; five, so
stunted in growth as to be really dwarfs; five, when older became
epileptics; one, a boy, had grave chorea, ending in idiocy; five more
were diseased and deformed, and two of the epileptics became by
inheritance drinkers. Ten only of the fifty-seven were normal in body
and mind, On the part of the sixty-one of the temperates two only
showed inherited nervous weakness, while four in later years of
childhood had curable nervous diseases, and fifty were in every way
sound in body and mind. There could scarcely be a more conclusive
demonstration in favor of abstinence from intoxicants on the part of
those who assume the responsibility of parentage.
By J. Wilbur Chapan, "Present Day Parables."
At the recent meeting of the Congress of Criminal Anthropology at
Geneva, Switzerland, Dr. Legrain, physician-in-chief of the asylum of
Ville-Evrard, gave the results of his investigations, which extended
over a period of years and showed how sin, like disease, is
transmitted from drunken father to appetite enslaved son; how in such
soil the seeds of crime and madness develop and ripen in the last
generation into sterile idiocy and the extinction of the race.
First Generation
He traced the course of four generations of drinkers in 215
families. One hundred and sixty-eight families showed unmistakable
symptoms of degeneracy; 63 cases of mild insanity; 88 were mentally
unsound; 45 at times dangerously insane; many of the children were
weaklings and died at an early age, 6 out of 8 in one case, 10 out of
16 in another. These 6 latter who remained, were all feeble-minded and
had epileptic fits and a prey to evil instincts. Thirty-nine families
found convulsions; epilepsy in 52; hysteria in 16; meningitis in 5;
108 families out of the 215 counted one out of every two individuals
victims of periodical alcoholic delirium; 106 families of the 215,
insanity had developed.
Second Generation
Ninety-eight observations gave the following: 54 families had one
or more members who were imbeciles or idiots 23 families there were
those who were morally irresponsible, untimely births, extraordinary
mortality and hereditary diseases caused the children to die in
appalling numbers. At this stage fathers and mothers had become common
drunkards with but eight exceptions. In 42 families he found chronic
cases of convulsions, and epilepsy in 40. In 23 families insanity
exists.
Third Generation
Seven observations, or families, gave him a total of 17 children;
all were mentally unsound and physically stunted; 2 were insane, 4
subject to convulsions, 2 epilepsy, 2 hysteria, 1 meningitis, 3
scrofula.
Summing up the 814 cases found in the 215 families, he found 42.2
percent. were alcoholics, 60.9 percent are degenerates, 13.9 percent
morally irresponsible, 22.7 percent have convulsions, 19 percent are
incurably insane; 174 disappeared from this world before or almost
before having drawn their first breath; 93 cases of tuberculosis,
which bring the total of those who died from hereditary alcoholism up
to one-third.
There is no fifth generation, for the last line is a microcephalous
idiot. Thus Moses was right, as proven by science, when he said, "God
visits the iniquities of the parents unto the third and fourth
generation of them that hate him." There is no fifth.
By J. Wilbur Chapan, "Present Day Parables."
A deeply ingrained culture has developed on American college campuses that promotes the drinking of alcoholic beverages, with thousands of deaths, injuries, sexual assaults and health problems among the results each year, according to a new report.
The study, commissioned by the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, found the following results were true on a yearly average:
• 1,400 college students between the ages of 18 and 24 die from alcohol-related injuries.
• 500,000 students are accidentally injured while under the influence of alcohol.
• More than 600,000 college students are assaulted by other students who have been drinking.
• More than 70,000 students are sexually assaulted or date-raped by people who have been drinking.
• More than 100,000 students say they were too drunk to know if they willingly had sexual relations.
• 2.1 million students drive under the influence of alcohol.
• 31 percent of students qualify for a diagnosis of alcohol abuse and 6 percent for alcohol dependence.
• More than 150,000 students report a health problem related to drinking alcohol.
• About 25 percent say they have academic problems stemming from alcohol use.
“The consequences of excessive drinking are far too common on many college campuses nationwide, and efforts to reduce high-risk drinking and its related problems have largely failed,” task force co-chair Mark Goldman of the University of South Florida said in a written release.
The study, based on data from a variety of sources, reports students who drink the most include first-year students, males, whites, athletes and fraternity and sorority members. Students who drink the least are found at religious schools, two-year institutions, commuter schools and historically black schools, according to the report.
Although recent studies show the percentage of college students who abstain from alcohol has increased from 15 to 19 percent between 1993 and 1999, binge drinking has become a concern, according to the report. About 40 percent of students binge drink. Binge drinking is defined as consuming at least five drinks in a row for men and at least four in a row for women. About 20 percent of students say they have binged more than three times in the last two weeks, according to the report.
The NIAAA report, released April 9, came two weeks after another study revealed there had been a significant increase in binge drinking at schools for women. Between 1993 and 2001, students who binge drink at women’s colleges grew from about 24 to 32 percent, according to a report from the Harvard School of Public Health. There was a 20 percent decrease in abstainers at these schools. There also was a sharp rise in frequent binge drinkers from 5 to 12 percent, the study reported.
The NIAAA report recommended prevention efforts that focus on at-risk students, the student population overall, and the college and surrounding community. Among strategies that are effective or show promise, according to the report, are enforcement of minimum drinking-age laws, limitations on the number of alcohol retail outlets near campus, the expansion of alcohol-free dormitories and the reinstatement of Friday classes and tests.
The report, titled “A Call to Action: Changing the Culture of Drinking at U.S. Colleges,” may be accessed at www.collegedrinkingprevention.gov.
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