Outline on self-image themes, mostly from Christianity Today magazine.
I. Somewhere along the line, we lose our positive self-image.
A. Many people are disappointed in themselves.
1) Some even hate themselves.
2) Most criminals have poor self-image.
a) Their hatred is expressed in violent acts.CT 11/8/85 p37
B. Especially true among young people.
1) Rash of suicides, drug use, alcoholism.
2) Communicates: "I'm not worth much."
C. Reasons for poor self-image:
1) I'm not as good-looking, smart, rich ... as everyone else.
a) Either compare selves to average or cream.
2) Not reaching personal goals.
3) Memory of guilt & shame from past failure.
II. Human potential movement.
A. Stresses the positive possibilities within each person.
1) What you want to be, you can be!
B. Positive-thinking preachers like Peale and Schuller appeal to
this approach to life. CT 8/10/84, p.15
1) Main problem of people is low self-image.
2) Stressing sin makes sinners feel even less worthy.
3) The good news of Jesus is that we are infinitely valuable
to him.
a) Jesus wants to save us from a low self-image, give us a
positive one.
III. The positives and negatives of self-image. CT, 4/22/88, p26
A. Benefits of positive self-image:
1) They are generally less depressed.
2) They are freer of certain ailments and drug abuse.
3) They are more independent of peer pressure.
4) They are more persistent when facing tough tasks.
a) The key is not positive self-talk ("I think I can, I
think I can") but actual mastery experience -
tackling realistic goals and achieving them.
B. Downside of positive view of self: CT 4/22/88, p26
1) If we aim too high and fail, we blame ourselves.
2) We live too much in the future rather than the present.
3) Excessive optimism leads to complacency about evil.
4) Biblical command to deny self. (?? here?)
IV. The world's view of self-acceptance. CT, 11/8/85, p28
A. Learn to accept yourself, but outside of moral, absolute norms.
1) This is emphasis in secular psychology and counseling.
2) Bible: we must accept our "acceptable" self.
a) We must repent over our unacceptable self.
B. You only answer to yourself, not other people or God.
V. God's Word and self-image.
A. Good self-image in garden of Eden.
B. Two-fold tarnish by Fall.
1) Inflated self-image. (become like God)
2) Poor self-image. (they felt shame at nakedness)
C. Positive -
1) We are created in God's own image.
2) We have worth in his eyes.
a) More valuable than sparrows, donkeys...
b) He makes us worthy for the Kingdom.
c) Our worth is a gift from him.
1> Valued for who we are.
D. Negative -
1) Don't think more highly of yourself than you should.
2) Accurate appraisal of shortcomings essential.
VI. How to build a better self-image.
A. Remind self of God's love for you.
1) He gave up highest value (Jesus) for your sake.
B. Follow God's instructions for reforming your life.
1) Repentance - get rid of factors that pull you down.
a) As we look at our sins we will feel low self-image,
but God's forgiveness will lift us up. 1 Pet 5:5
CT 11/8/85 p37
2) Love - by loving others, love returns to us.
a) Invest in other people.
b) Payback - makes us feel more worthwhile.
VII. Reversal of the Fall. CT 11/8/85 p37
A. God enables us to renounce sinful pride, the first perversion of
self-image.
1) He helps us cultivate true humility.
a) Honest awareness of our strengths, weaknesses. Rom 12:3
2) A readiness to consider others better than self. Phil 2:3
3) Recognition that all our gifts and talents come from God.
1 Cor 4:7
4) A willingness to use our gifts in the service of God and
others.
B. Renewal by the Holy Spirit corrects our low self-image.
1) God justifies us.
a) He forgives and forgets all our sins.
2) God sanctifies us.
a) Look on yourself as a "new man", not a "new and old man".
Col 3:9-10
1> The new self is "being renewed" so we aren't yet
perfect.
2> However, look on self as being "new".
b) Life in the Spirit.
1> We are in the Spirit, not slaves of the flesh.Rom 8:9
c) We are new creatures. 2 Cor 5:17
1> This is a present condition, as well as future.
2> "The Christian life involves not just believing
something about Christ, but also believing
something about ourselves... Our faith in Christ
must include believing that we are what the Bible
says we are."
VIII. Implications. CT 11/8/85 p37
A. Christians should have a self-image that is primarily positive.
1) Doesn't mean "feeling good about ourselves" on the basis of
our own achievements, good looks, or virtuous behavior.
(Pride)
2) Our self-image involves looking at ourselves in the light of
God's loving work of forgiveness and renewal.
B. We give God praise for all he has done (and is doing).
1) God can use us, despite our shortcomings.
2) Opposite of pride - we recognize our sin and fallenness.
C. A positive self-image is not an end in itself.
1) It is a means to the end of living for God and others.
2) We should not be preoccupied with ourselves.
D. Check your self-image against God's word.
1) (Airplane pilots have to check instruments.)
IX. Christian view of self-image. 4/22/88, p 28
A. "What we therefore need is neither negative nor positive
thinking, but realistic thinking - thinking characterized
by enough pessimism to trigger concern, enough optimism to
provide hope."
B. Genuine Christian humility:
1. Humility is not self-contempt. (This is false humility)
2. It is not straddling between egotistical vanity and
self-hatred.
3. It is not easily obtained.
C. It is possible to realize self-denial without self-rejection,
and self-affirmation without vain self-love.
According to Dennis Voskuil, a Reformed thinker who has written
thoughtfully about Robert Schuller's positive thinking, states
the phenomenon in Christian terms:
The refreshing gospel promise is "not that we have been freed by
Christ to love ourselves, but that we are free from self-obsession.
Not that the cross frees us for the ego trip but that the cross
frees us from the ego trip."
This leaves us free to esteem our special talents and, with equal
honesty, to esteem our neighbor's. Both are gifts.
X. Negative thinking.
A. Spiritual maturity requires that we learn how to live with
unfulfillment.
1) The cup is both half-full and half-empty.
2) The false ideal of the full cup assumes all can and should
be fullness and perfection.
3) This leads to despair and disappointment.
B. The human potential movement glorifies selfishness.
1) "We owe ourselves the very best."
2) "Where there's a will, there's a way."
C. Normal people probably never feel totally "fulfilled."
XI. Self-love or self-denial? CT 4/20/84, p26
A. Neither Moses nor Jesus commands us to love ourselves.
1) Self-love is a sin. 2 Tim 3:1-4
B. Christians must deny the self.
1) Carry cross daily. Crucify the self.
2) But self-denial is only one side of truth.
C. Christians must affirm the self.
1) Jesus taught the value of people.
2) Jesus honored people, especially the dishonorable.
3) Jesus served and died for people.
D. Resolving the paradox.
1) The "self" is complex, a mixture of good and evil.
a) Affirm what we are by creation.
b) Deny what we are by the Fall.
2) We must come to terms with our true self.
a) "My true self is what I am by creation, which Christ
came to redeem. My fallen self is what I am by the
Fall, which Christ came to destroy."
Christianity Today articles on Self-Love and Self-Worth:
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p.54 Nov 6, 1981
p.31 Aug 6, 1982 (out)
p.46 Nov 12, 1982
p.60 July 16, 1982
p.14,16 Aug 10, 1984
p.26 Apr 20, 1984
p.23 Sep 6, 1985
p.30 Apr 5, 1985
p.26,36 Nov 8, 1985
p.26 Apr 22, 1988
Discipleship Journal (articles not used)
Vol 33, page 42.
Vol 35, page 18.
Vol 39, page 38.