To a group of aspiring high school graduates anxiously waiting to flip their tassels to the other side of their caps, Bill Gates, CEO of Microsoft, offered the following words of mood-dampening wisdom: “Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you find yourself. Do that on your own time.”
His less than cheery list of life's rules, which began notably with, “Life is not fair; get used to it,” offered a plethora of hard-hitting advice and a few other stabs of reality. Gates concluded his list with a final shot of truth for the proud graduating class: “Television is not real life,” he said, “In real life people have to actually leave the coffee shop and go to work.”
Lest we have visions of depressed teenagers walking across the stage to receive their diplomas that night, we should recall that most likely none of them heard a word of the speech anyway. Or if, in between hoping the 20 bobby pins holding their cap in place were not causing permanent scalp damage and visualizing the crowd's gasp as they tripped on the hem of their robe and tumbled into the front row, they did manage to hear a phrase or two, they surely don't remember it now.
It is once again the season of wisdom-filled addresses, Hallmark homilies, and energetic advice giving to people who are not hearing a word of it. Graduation is the occasion, and we are too excited to listen, even if it is Bill Gates.
To be fair, it is not only beaming graduates that exhibit attention difficulties in the midst of life's pomp and circumstance. The only part of the minister's sermon at my wedding that I remember is when he turned to my almost-husband and me and said, “This is the part of the ceremony when I offer you some marital wisdom that you don't hear and won't remember.”
Events like graduation come only so often, and often after much work. Like weddings, they usher in times of change and anticipation and call us to attention to life in new ways. No one blames a graduate for not remembering the commencement address or a bride for forgetting the advice given to her as she anticipates “I do.” When they fail to hear “The 10 Most Important Lessons in Life” or “3 Vital Steps to Marriage in the Real World” we know they have not failed to see all that is important in life, or all that lies before him in the real world. The opposite is usually true — their minds are abounding with all that they see.
But a graduate that receives the day and his future with disinterest, a bride that looks indifferently at the commitment before her and the days ahead of her, is much harder to understand.
We are prone to these times of assessing life — birthdays and baptisms, weddings and graduations; all seem to require careful attention. And we recognize that to be wholly unconcerned with these moments in life is to be something less than life-like. We gaze at the years ahead and look at the years behind and sense the need to say something profound, to speak into what is gone and what is coming. We see the need to find wisdom in these eventful moments, to see a hope and a future. And it is often such occasions that remind us that those who have found wisdom are particularly blessed.
Unlike much of the commencement advice that is spoken and forgotten, the wisdom of God's Word is wisdom that will not fade, nor speak into our lives passively. It is wisdom worth returning to, speaking hope into the future, bringing meaning into days both marked with excitement and scarred with pain. In times of my own restless wandering, it was often specific psalms and proverbs that kept returning to my mind, calling me to see the foolishness of much of the world's advice and back to wisdom itself, calling me to see with my eyes and ears the very One who made them.
As the proverb imparts, “Eyes that see and ears that hear, the Lord made them both” (20:12). In the season of many events and the many seasons of life, may it be his enduring wisdom we seek. As we congratulate jittery brides and excited graduates with words of wisdom, let us remember that the One who made those overwhelmed ears, the One who made our wisdom-seeking eyes, longs that they would be stirred by his presence.
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Copyright © 2004 Ravi Zacharias International Ministries (RZIM). Reprinted with permission. "A Slice of Infinity" is a radio ministry of Ravi Zacharias International Ministries.
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Version from May 18, 2007:
Imagine offering the following words of mood-dampening wisdom to a group of aspiring high school graduates anxiously waiting to flip their tassels to the other side of their caps: “Life is not divided into semesters and you don’t get summers off... While we’re at it, very few jobs are interested in fostering your self-expression or helping you find yourself.(1)
In his less than cheery list of life’s rules, which begins notably with, “Life is not fair. Get used to it,” author Charles Sykes offers a plethora of hard-hitting advice and a few other stabs of reality for hopeful graduates. He sharpens his list with a few shards of truth as well: “Television is not real life... In real life, people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.”
But lest we have visions of depressed teenagers walking across the stage to receive their diplomas at the sound of such reality, we should recall that most likely none of them would hear a word of it anyway. Or if they did manage to hear a phrase or two -- in between hoping the 20 bobby pins holding their caps in place were enough or visualizing the gasp of the crowd if they trip on the hems of their robes -- they surely won’t remember it a year from now.
It is once again the season of wisdom-filled addresses and energetic advice-giving to people who are not hearing a word of it. Graduation is the occasion, and we are too excited to listen, no matter who is giving the advice.
To be fair, it is not only beaming graduates that exhibit attention difficulties in the midst of life’s pomp and circumstance. The only part of the minister’s sermon at my wedding that I remember is when he turned to my almost-husband and me and said, “This is the part of the ceremony when I offer you some marital wisdom that you don’t hear and won’t remember.”
Events like graduation come only so often, and often after much work. Like weddings, they usher in times of change and anticipation and call us to attention to life in new ways. No one blames a graduate for not remembering the commencement address or a bride for forgetting the advice given to her as she anticipates “I do.” When they fail to hear “The 10 Most Important Lessons in Life” or “3 Vital Steps to Marriage in the Real World” we know they have not failed to see all that is important in life, or all that lies before them in the real world. The opposite is usually true; their minds are abounding with all that they see.
On the contrary, a graduate that receives the day and his future with disinterest, a bride that looks indifferently at the commitment before her and the days ahead of her, is much harder to understand.
We are prone to these times of assessing life. Birthdays and baptisms, weddings and graduations -- all seem to require careful attention. And we recognize that to be UNconcerned with these moments in life would be something less than life-like. We gaze at the years ahead and look at the years behind and sense the need to say something profound, to speak into what is gone and what is coming. We see the need to find wisdom in these eventful moments, to see a hope and a future.
Unlike much of the commencement advice that is spoken and forgotten, the wisdom of God’s Word is wisdom that will not fade, nor speak into our lives passively. It is wisdom worth returning to, speaking hope into the future, bringing meaning into days both marked with excitement and scarred with pain. In times of my own restless wandering, it was often specific psalms and proverbs that kept returning to my mind, calling me to see the foolishness of much of the world’s advice and back to wisdom itself, calling me to see with my eyes and ears the very one who made them.
As the proverb imparts, “Eyes that see and ears that hear, the Lord made them both” (20:12). In the season of many events and in the many seasons of life, may it be his enduring wisdom we seek. As we congratulate jittery brides and excited graduates with words of wisdom, might we remember that the one who made those overwhelmed ears, the one who made our wisdom-seeking eyes, longs that they would be stirred by his presence.
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1. Charles Sykes, “Some Rules Kids Won’t Learn in School,” SAN DIEGO UNION TRIBUNE, September 19, 1996.
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Copyright © 2007 Ravi Zacharias International Ministries (RZIM). Reprinted with permission. "A Slice of Infinity" is a radio ministry of Ravi Zacharias International Ministries.
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[Original illustration here was a duplicate in HolwickID 25837-26027]