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Love in Christian preaching underscores selfless commitment and divine justice, embodying both compassion and discipline to uphold righteousness (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). Illustrations often contrast love's courage to confront harsh realities with selfishness's blindness, highlighting love's role as active and protective care (1 John 4:7-8).

How To Amaze People

John 13:35

By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another. —John 13:35

David Doubilet is a photojournalist whose pictures of a silent underwater world can turn even an ugly, bug-eyed sea creature into a lovely, luminescent work of art. Although he has received many honors for his work, he has also been criticized by environmentalists for not doing more “hard-edge” journalism. They want him to take pictures of dead fish, dirty beaches, and polluted oceans.

But Doubilet believes there’s a better way to get people to care about the environment. Instead of showing the destruction that humans are causing, he shows the beauty God has created.

Some Christians seem to think that the way to improve our spiritual environment is to point out all the evil in the world. But Jesus showed us a better way. Although He never glossed over sin (Matthew 15:18-20), He said to His followers before going to the cross, “By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another” (John 13:35). We are more effective witnesses when we become portraits of the beauty God is creating in us than when we merely paint a bleak picture of human degradation.

“In the end,” says Doubilet, “the best thing one can do is to amaze people.” And what could be more amazing to the world than Christians who truly love one another? —JAL

Oh, what glory in a sunrise—

Golden hues from God above!

More amazing still the beauty

Of a life filled with His love! —D. De Haan

Love is a magnet that draws believers together and unbelievers to Christ.

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Gifts of Love

John 4:7

Reflecting on the gift of love this Valentine’s Day, a warm family memory comes to mind. After dinner one evening, my five-year-old daughter wrote a note that said, “I love you!” She came around the table with a smile, showing each of us her precious message.

Our four-year old daughter didn’t want to be left out, and came around the table softly whispering to each of us, “You are special.”

Our youngest, a three-year-old boy, decided he had to get in on the act. He came around with his own special blessing. In a not so quiet whisper he told each of us, “You can have ice cream any time you want!”

All three children demonstrated love in their own special way. Valentine’s Day is a great time to celebrate the gift of love in our lives.

The greatest gift of love occurred when God looked upon a lost world with compassion and sent His one and only Son into the world as a sacrifice for our sins. That is the very highest definition and demonstration of love.

But that should be no surprise, for God is love. May your Valentine’s Day be a celebration of the gift of divine love that gives life, power, and hope to all our human expressions of love.

“Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.” I John 4:7 KJV

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You Can't See It, But It Is There

John 21:15

According to a story circulating on the Internet, an 11-year-old boy I’ll call Todd was struggling to adjust to the death of his mother. His father had abandoned the family long ago, and Todd was living with an aunt who made it known she resented the responsibility. On several occasions, the boy’s teacher heard the aunt tell Todd, “If it weren’t for my generosity, you would be a homeless orphan.”

The teacher tried hard to make Todd feel valued, and she encouraged his interest in making things. Just before the Christmas break, Todd shyly presented her with a small decorated box.

“It’s beautiful!” the teacher gushed.

Todd replied, “There’s something special inside my mom gave to me before she died. She said it’s the one thing I can give and still have plenty left. It helps you feel better when you’re sad and safe when you’re scared.”

As the teacher started to open the box, Todd warned her, “Oh, you can’t see it.”

“Well, what is it?” she asked kindly.

“It’s love. And you’re the first person since my mom who I love.”

The teacher hugged Todd and whispered in his ear, “I’ll treasure this forever. It’s the best gift I ever got.”

She kept the box on her desk always. Whenever she was sad or scared, she opened it and the love inside never let her down.

Years later, Todd sent her the tassel he wore for his graduation from medical school. It’s been in the box ever since.

In truth, the gift that keeps on giving is not diamonds; it’s love. The more you give away, the more you have left.

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Michael Josephson, Copyright 2006 Josephson Institute of Ethics

Never Too Late: Dante's Divine Comedy

This past summer, 706 years after its predecessors sent him into exile, the city council of Florence, Italy, voted to give Dante Alighieri the city’s highest honor: the golden florin.

This being Italy, there was an argument. A communist councilman said that Dante didn’t need to be “rehabilitated” by the council. He asked whether, if Dante had been executed, the council would have voted to resurrect him!

This, in turn, led the poet’s descendant to refuse the award because the apology was insufficient.

This all-too-human comedy aside, it’s easy to see why Florence would want to claim Dante as her own. Even those who have never read The Divine Comedy quote it in everyday speech: “Abandon all hope, ye who enter here,” “seventh heaven,” and the “lowest circle of hell” are all the products of Dante’s imagination.

Despite Dante’s unquestioned greatness, it’s also easy to see why many of us have never read The Divine Comedy. It’s a long poem broken into three sections (The Inferno, Purgatorio, and Paradisio), and it’s filled with allusions to myths and Dante’s contemporaries that make it difficult to keep track of who did what to whom.

That’s a shame because the Comedy is “the supreme literary work, not only of medieval Christendom but of all Christian faith....,” according to Christian writer Ken Boa. It’s only possible rival is another epic poem, Milton’s Paradise Lost.

What’s more, Dante’s “supreme literary work” has inspired other works worth reading. C.S. Lewis’ debt to Dante is especially clear in THE GREAT DIVORCE.

Dante’s famous opening line — ”Midway in our life’s journey, I went astray from the straight road and woke to find myself alone in a dark wood” — sets the stage for what Boa calls a “drama of the soul’s choice.” A drama that explores the wilderness of the soul as it overcomes everything that keeps it from the love of God.

This drama takes the form of a quest. But unlike other medieval quest stories, Dante’s is an internal quest. The hero doesn’t seek external or worldly glory. He seeks the spiritual virtues of faith, hope, and especially love.

The theme of the Comedy is love. When we do not love, love the wrong things, or even love the right things in the wrong ways, the soul becomes diminished. The Comedy is about loving God, the lover of our souls, in the way He should be loved.

To think about Dante solely in terms of the grotesque images of Hell that have spilled over into the popular imagination is to miss the point of Dante’s classic work.

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Copyright (c) 2008 Prison Fellowship Ministries. Reprinted with permission. "BreakPoint with Chuck Colson" is a radio ministry of Prison Fellowship Ministries.

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Love Is the Key To the Fruit of the Spirit

ONE WAY TO LOOK AT THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT

Notice the word *fruit* is singular, yet it lists nine. So there is only one fruit of the Spirit. That fruit is LOVE.

The others...

Joy - love smiling

Peace - love resting

Patience - love waiting

Kindness - love showing itself sensitive to others' feelings

Goodness - love making allowances

Faithfulness - love proving constant

Gentleness - love yielding

Self-control - love triumphing over selfish inclinations

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What Is Love?

John 14:15

After a S.S. class where they studied creation, including Adam & Eve, little Johnny had a pain in his side and said to his mother, “I think I’m going to have a wife.”

What is love? To tackle such a multi-faceted subject in such a short space is like trying to fly a kite with a chain. We used to say that “Love is an itch around the heart that you can’t scratch.” Is it?

Today’s meaning of love is probably polluted by present day values — or lack of them. One way of describing love is that it is an inward reaction that exhibits its results in outward actions. I love my wife, therefore, I react by trying to please her. I love my Lord, therefore, I try to do things and live my life in a way that pleases Him. How do I know what pleases my wife? She tells me. How do I know what pleases God? He tells me in His Word, but I do need to read it to know His expectations.

In John 14:15 (nlt), Jesus said, “If you love me, obey my command- ments. In verse 21, He also says, “Those who obey my command- ments are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them, and I will love them… “ When love is present, it shows! Let’s be good love demonstraters today.

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Humbling Himself

Blessed is the person who can enjoy the small things, the common beauties, the little day- to-day events; sunshine on the fields, birds on the bough, breakfast, dinner, supper, the daily paper on the porch, a friend passing by. So many people who go afield for enjoyment leave it behind them at home. – David Grayson, American writer

“During the 1960 Olympics, defending gold medallist Al Oerter and teammate Rink Babka were expected to take the gold and silver medal in the discus throw. Although Babka was very ill the night before the competition, he beat his teammate in the first four throws. On the fifth throw Oerter stepped into the circle, spun around, and threw the discus farther than any other that day.

“He had snatched victory from defeat and won the gold medal, while Babka had noticed and pointed out a flaw in Oerter’s technique during the fourth throw. A small adjustment was all Oerter needed, and it cost Babka the gold medal. Babka was not the winner that year, but no one could call him a loser.”+

In fact in reality it is easy to see who the real winner was in this situation. It took a great amount of grace, humility and brotherly love to do what Babka did for his friend Oerter that day.

And it took an incredible amount of grace for what Jesus Christ, the Son of God, did for us in giving us his life so you and I could receive an eternal victor’s crown.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, because of what you did for me on the cross of Calvary, help me to so live that I might be ‘as Christ’ in some way to every life I touch. Gratefully in Jesus’ name. Amen.”

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The Essence of Love Is Meeting Needs

John 3:16

”But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” — 1 Timothy 5:8

When love is used as a verb in the Bible, it requires the lover to meet the needs of the one being loved. Love must be given away. God so loved the world that He gave — (John 3:16).

The essence of love is meeting needs, and our most important assignment from God is to meet the needs of those who are closest to us (1 Timothy 5:8). We tend to use the people closest to us instead of meeting their needs. So the busy homemaker is out resolving everybody else’s child-rearing problems but her own. Some pastors are available to everyone but his wife and children. And the executive will work overtime to solve company problems while ignoring needs at home.

Take an inventory of your family’s needs. I’m not talking about the external needs like clothing, education and food. I’m talking about gut-level needs that determine their sense of worth and belonging. When was the last time you hugged your child and told him you loved him? Have you noticed good character qualities in your spouse and pointed them out? If all you ever point out is physical qualities or achievements, your family members will base their worth on how well they perform and look instead of developing character. Do you regularly reinforce good behavior, or do you only notice the poor behavior? When your child does something nice, do you thank him? Does your child know that he is loved and valued from the way you talk to him?

Love can’t be separated from action. Jesus said, “If you love Me, you will keep My commandments” (John 14:15). If you love your family members, follow through with loving words and deeds.

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Without Fear of Judgement

1 John 4:18

VERSE: There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. — 1 John 4:18

THOUGHT: There are many kinds of fear. Some of these are legitimate. Others are imagined. Still others are irrational. Thankfully, as Christians, we don’t have to be afraid of the one crucial event in our life — judgment. God’s love saves us, empowers us, blesses us, works in us, and touches others through us. Most of all, having experienced this love, we can cast fear out of our hearts because we know where we stand with God. He is our loving Father who longs to bring us home!

PRAYER: Holy, majestic, and awesome God, you are mighty in your strength. You are holy beyond comparison. You are righteous and fair in your dealings with your people. Most of all, dear Father, I thank you because you do not deal with me as my sins deserve. No, O God, you deal with me graciously, blessing me with your redeeming and transforming grace. Your love gives me confidence to live for you and to await the day I stand before you. Until that day I offer you my thanks and praise in Jesus’ holy name I pray. Amen.

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Vulnerability of Love

Thomas A Kempis said it this way. “To love is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to be sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully around hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in a casket or coffin or your selfishness. But in that casket — safe, dark, motionless, airless — it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable … The only place outside of Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers … of love is Hell.

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If (On Calvary Love)

John 13:35

IF my attitude be one of fear, not faith, about one who has disappointed me, if I say, “Just as I expected,” if a fall occurs, then I know nothing of Calvary love.

IF I fear to hold another to the highest because it is so much easier to avoid doing so, then I know nothing of Calvary love.

IF I do not give a friend “the benefit of the doubt,” but put the worst construction instead of the best on what is said or done, then I know nothing of Calvary love.

IF I take offense easily, if I am content to continue in a cool unfriendliness, though friendship be possible, then I know nothing of Calvary love

IF I feel injured when another lays to my charge things I know not, forgetting that my Sinless Saviour trod this path to the end, then I know nothing of Calvary love.

IF a sudden jar can cause me to speak an impatient, unloving word, then I know nothing of Calvary love.

IF I say, “Yes, I forgive, but I cannot forget,” as though the God, who twice a day washes all the sands on all the shores of all the world, could not wash such memories from my mind, then I know nothing of Calvary love.

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Scars of Love

Hebrews 4:15

Some years ago on a hot summer day in south Florida a little boy decided to go for a swim in the old swimming hole behind his house. In a hurry to dive into the cool water, he ran out the back door, leaving behind shoes, socks, and shirt as he went. He flew into the water, not realizing that as he swam toward the middle of the lake, an alligator was swimming toward the shore.

His mother–in the house was looking out the window–saw the two as they got closer and closer together. In utter fear, she ran toward the water, yelling to her son as loudly as she could. Hearing her voice, the little boy became alarmed and made a U-turn to swim to his mother. It was too late. Just as he reached her, the alligator reached him. From the dock, the mother grabbed her little boy by the arms just as the alligator snatched his legs. That began an incredible tug-of-war between the two. The alligator was much stronger than the mother, but the mother was much too passionate to let go.

A farmer happened to drive by, heard her screams, raced from his truck, took aim and shot the alligator. Remarkably, after weeks and weeks in the hospital, the little boy survived. His legs were extremely scarred by the vicious attack of the animal. And, on his arms, were deep scratches where his mother’s fingernails dug into his flesh in her effort to hang on to the son she loved.

The newspaper reporter who interviewed the boy after the trauma, asked if he would show him his scars. The boy lifted his pant legs. And then, with obvious pride, he said to the reporter, “But look at my arms. I have great scars on my arms, too. I have them because my Mom wouldn’t let go.”

You and I can identify with that little boy. We have scars, too. No, not from an alligator, or anything quite so dramatic. But, the scars of a painful past. Some of those scars are unsightly and have caused us deep regret. But, some wounds, my friend, are because God has refused to let go.

In the midst of your struggle, He’s been there holding on to you. The Scripture teaches that God loves you.

If you have Christ in your life, you have become a child of God. He wants to protect you and provide for you in every way. But sometimes we foolishly wade into dangerous situations. The swimming hole of life is filled with peril – and we forget that the enemy is waiting to attack.

That’s when the tug-of-war begins – and if you have the scars of His love on your arms be very, very grateful.

He did not – and will not – let you go. “For we do not have a High Priest [Jesus] who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Hebrews 4:15-16

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The Sacrificial Heart

Luke 13:34

This past summer, there was a young mother mallard who had her brood. And it was interesting to watch how she took care of all seven of them. When anyone approached the lake, she became immediately aware and would gather her little brood together and hustle them along to hide in the reeds and brush that surrounded the edge of the lake. Once, someone went really close to get a better look, and she flew away. I was surprised by that at first — a mother abandoning her young. But then it became obvious what she was up to: She was offering herself as a decoy. She wanted the intruders to notice and follow her, away form her ducklings. She was willing to sacrifice herself in order to protect her offspring.

Now maybe we can understand the lament and the passion in Jesus’ own voice. It is the cry of a mother who is worried to death about not only Jerusalem, but about all of us. Like a mother, Jesus sees far more clearly than do we, the children, the danger we are in. Like a mother, Jesus knows we tend to over-estimate our powers and are prone to go off on our own, leaving the protective wings, to seek our own excitement and adventure. And like a mother, Jesus chases after us.

Do you see the image? Like a mother, Jesus’ love is so great that his all-consuming passion is to sweep us up into his protective arms. And although there are others in pursuit of him, namely Herod, Jesus, like a mother is persistent. He sticks to what his love compels him to do. He pursues his flock with a passion. His answer to Herod shows that: He has a little work to do in Galilee yet, a few chicks to sweep beneath his wings; and then, he is headed to Jerusalem, where he will, in essence, fly off from his chicks alone and draw God’s judgment to him so that the jaws of death might sink their teeth into his flesh only, and not into his children whom he loves with a mother-hen’s protective passion.

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The Old Mother Hen

Have you ever seen a chicken hawk go after it’s prey? The old mother hen is often aware of the presence of the hawk in time to gather her chicks under her wing. With a furious fuss she squawks till her brood is safe by her side. She fluffs out her wings and protects them with her own body. The chicken hawk dives and the old hen turns her body toward him and cocks a wary eye without moving from her children. The predator comes in again for the kill and the mother spreads her wings even wider. A third time he dives only to be thwarted by the determined self-sacrifice of the mother hen. She is too big to be a target and the chicks are too safe to be seized so he flies away.

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A Brief Sermon For A Wedding

Luke 23:34

I want to begin with a story that I am sure will not happen at this wedding. It did, however, happen at a wedding that a friend of mine took.

The happy couple were posing for their photos outside the church after the service. They had all the usual groups in the pictures: bride and groom, bride and bridesmaids, groom and best man, happy couple with her family, happy couple with his family, bride and groom with his friends, bride and groom with her friends, happy couple with anyone else who didn’t fit any of the categories, and so on.

They went off to their wedding reception, and the photographer went away to work on what he had done. He then came to the evening reception, hoping to sell copies of his photos to the guests.

There was only one problem: behind the bride and groom in every photo was the church noticeboard. It prominently displayed a Bible verse: there, just for the happy couple, were the words of Jesus on the Cross: ‘Father, forgive them, they don’t know what they’re doing.’

Now I suspect you do know what you are doing, or as much as any couple on their wedding day can know. No-one knows for sure, because the future is full of surprises, some of them delightful, others we’d really rather not know about. But you have taken time to test your love and commitment to each other before making your promises today. You have taken your relationship seriously. My wife and I have noticed from a difference how you have matured as a couple, and today, as we celebrate love in the setting of Christian worship, I want us to pause for just a few minutes and think about love from a Christian perspective.

Here are three thoughts for you today:

Firstly, love is unconditional. Somebody once joked that the agenda of the bride on her wedding day is ‘aisle-altar-hymn’ (think about it!). ‘I’ll alter him’ may be necessary, but to go into love on the assumption that love is conditional upon someone changing is quite dangerous. Love becomes carrot and stick. Love becomes something that is policed by ‘good cop, bad cop’. Love eventually gives way to fear and distance.

But the love of God is not like that. There is a beautiful verse in the Bible which says, ‘We love, because he first loved us.’ God’s love for us is seen in him sending Jesus before we ever loved him. It’s unconditional love. He loved us before we responded to him.

And I suggest to you that this unconditional love is a healthy model for marriage. While it is right to long for your spouse to change, they are best loved into changing. If they know they are loved regardless, they will want to change. Make no mistake, it’s important to change over the years. If I still loved my wife the way I loved her on our wedding day many years ago, I don’t believe we would still be together. My love for her will always have to grow. And what brings that out the best is that the knowledge that she loves me unconditionally.

Secondly, love is forgiving. When I was a child, a slogan in an advert for a wildly popular film was this: ‘Love means never having to say you’re sorry.’ Do any of the older people here recognise it? It was Love Story.

And wouldn’t it be great if love really were like that? Never having to say you’re sorry.

If only.

But for us frail human beings, love is rarely like that. Rather than ‘Love is never having to say you’re sorry’, I suggest ‘Love is saying you are sorry and hearing you are forgiven.’

Much as today we celebrate the enjoyable side of love with its chemicals and hormones, the fact is those things won’t make a marriage last. What will make a marriage last is the willingness to seek forgiveness, and to forgive. That’s why in the Bible reading Paul says that love ‘keeps no record of wrongs’ (verse 5). It’s easy to keep a record of wrongs. If you’re not careful, you keep a chart, a list, a running tally of all the times you’ve been hurt or offended. I encourage you not to do that. Forgive, because that’s what Jesus does.

I don’t know what the father of the bride is going to say later today, but at my sister’s wedding, when my Dad gave his ‘father of the bride’ speech, he gave one piece of advice to her and my brother-in-law. He had another Bible verse as a motto, the one had he and my Mum have kept close to their hearts: ‘Do not let the sun go down on your anger.’ I commend that to you. Find your ways of resolving your conflicts, forgiving each other – and of then enjoying the making up!

This all means that thirdly and finally, love is sacrificial. What does it mean to forgive? It means to set the other person free by absorbing pain into yourself that should rightly be theirs.

And thus love isn’t quite what we sometimes think it is. How many of you guests today turned up, expecting the bride and groom to say ‘I do’ to each other? But did you notice they didn’t say that? Only one person said ‘I do’ in the service: the father of the bride. At least he didn’t say, ‘Take her, please!’

The bride and groom didn’t say ‘I do’, they said, ‘I will.’ And that’s important. Because ‘I do’ is just in the present tense and it might change in the future. ‘I will’ is a promise for now and for the future. It also recognises that sometimes love will be an act of will rather than a feeling. Sometimes love will be the actions we do in spite of how we feel. Somebody once said, ‘It isn’t true that love will keep your marriage alive. Rather, marriage will keep your love alive.’ It is your commitment of will to keep those promises that will see through the dark tunnels and out into the light at the other end.

But that’s hard to do. And in truth I’ve told you a half-truth in reminding you that the bride and groom said ‘I will.’ What they actually said was, ‘With God’s help I will.’ God is available to help us keep those promises, promises that on occasion will hurt, promises that will mean we make sacrifices.

But the God who promises to help us at these times is one who knows how to show sacrificial love. This the God who forgives – and who does so from the arms of Jesus stretched wide in love on the Cross. Jesus knows sacrificial, forgiving, unconditional love. He has modeled it in dying for us. He is ready to help all those who call on him.

Take the words we read from 1 Corinthians again. Instead of ‘love’, substitute your own name. This is how it would sound for me:

David is patient, David is kind. He does not envy, he does not boast, he is not proud. He does not dishonour others, he is not self-seeking, he is not easily angered, he keeps no record of wrongs. David does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. He always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

I feel rather sheepish reading that, because I am so very far from that picture of love.

But now take out your name or the word ‘love’ and substitute instead ‘Jesus’:

Jesus is patient, Jesus is kind. He does not envy, he does not boast, he is not proud. He does not dishonour others, he is not self-seeking, he is not easily angered, he keeps no record of wrongs. Jesus does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. He always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

That is the Jesus who is available to you this day and every day to make your love for one another and for others grow that will touch others with joy.

May God bless you both.

A Man On A Mission of Redemption

John 13:34

TIME magazine carried a story about a man who is also on a mission of redemption. Along the way this man has survived fifty-three gun battles. His name is Bill Tomes. Tomes roams the streets of the toughest neighborhoods in downtown Chicago. His mission is to share God’s love with the gang members, drug pushers, and prostitutes that he finds there. And fifty-three times so far, Bill Tomes has stepped into the middle of a gang gun battle, but he’s never suffered even a scratch. Bill believes that God called him into this work, and so he trusts that God will protect him, even when the bullets are flying all around him.

Fifteen years ago, Bill was trying to decide what to do with his life. Although he was not a religious man, Bill stopped by a church to pray over his decision. As Bill knelt in the church, he passed out. But as he was losing consciousness, he says he heard God talking to him. The voice gave him only one instruction: “Love. You are forbidden to do anything other than that.”

Bill began giving away all his possessions, because they had lost all meaning to him. He also began hanging out in violent, rundown neighborhoods. At first, the local gangs took a vote as to whether Bill should be killed, but once they saw the kind of work he was doing, they decided instead to protect him.

So every day finds Bill Tomes out on the streets of Chicago, offering love and support to anyone who needs it. He hands out friendship and advice, gives people rides to the store, buys them food, bails them out of jail, listens to their problems. He has even comforted the dying. Once Bill came upon a young gang member who had been shot and left to die in the stairwell of an old building. Bill held the young man and told him about God’s love. It may have been the first time that anyone had told this young man that he was precious and loved. And the young man drifted off to a peaceful death in the arms of someone who cared about him.

Bill Tomes is not a timid man. Why? Because he is driven by love the love of Jesus Christ. Bill Tomes is not a timid man. Why? Because he is a man on a mission -- a mission that gives him spiritual power.

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Original article (the magazine hardcopy is dated April 20, 1998, p. 34-37):

"In The Line Of Fire," by Ron Stodghill II of Chicago, Time Magazine, Aug. 24, 2002, .

It’s a chilly night on Chicago’s Near North Side, and Bill Tomes is sitting comfortably in the warm interior of his silver Buick Park Avenue. Playing softly on the stereo is his favorite cassette, Leonard Bernstein and the New York Philharmonic’s Saint-Saens. For a moment, at least, the melody seems to have transported him away from this place he calls the “killing field,” an eerily barren patch of inner-city landscape that glows starkly in his headlights.

Tomes -- or “Brother Bill,” as he has come to be known -- has seen some of his best friends murdered on this field. The victims are not pals from his college days at Notre Dame or buddies from the well-to-do Evanston neighborhood where he grew up. They are mostly the hardened souls of the Gangster Disciples, their Vice Lord rivals and a tally of cross-fire casualties who lived in the wretched Cabrini-Green housing projects* just a mile or so from Chicago’s gleaming downtown.

There is Charles Dorsey, dead at 27; Elbert O’Neal, 24; Aron Buckles, 21; Derrell Ellis, 16; Laquanda Edwards, 15; Laketa Crosby Rodgers, 9; and Dantrell Davis, the youngest, shot to death at 7. Tucked away at home, Brother Bill has a black leather attache case packed with more than 100 obituaries of these, the young and the dead, now gone from his flock.

Fifteen years ago, an extraordinary epiphany drew William Wylie Tomes Jr. to a series of Chicago housing projects, including Cabrini-Green. Since then, as a Roman Catholic lay worker, he has embraced the people of the projects as if they were family and tried to steer them off the path to an early grave. As a consequence, Brother Bill is perhaps the only outsider who can walk freely through the 15 buildings that make up Cabrini-Green or penetrate the paranoid, often vicious circle the gangsters have built around themselves.

“What up, Brother Bill!” a voice booms outside the car. Brother Bill gets out of the car and hugs the boy. “You da man,” the boy says, his shoulders hunched in the cold as he awaits customers for the crack cocaine and heroin he is peddling.

“Naw, Dee, you da man,” Brother Bill belts out in his best street drawl. “Always will be.”

Everyone in Cabrini-Green, it seems, knows Brother Bill, 63. He is a difficult man to overlook, his 5-ft. 11-in., 220-lb. frame clad in a trademark flowing, sky-blue cassock made from hundreds of tattered denim patches. That robe has become an understood symbol of peace and humility in this place with precious little of either. Fifty-three times, by his count, he has waded into gunfire in order to stop it. Fifty-three times, the gunfire has stopped. And 53 times, he has emerged unscathed.

He talks trigger-itching assailants into putting away their guns and going home to their families. He sits beside wounded gangsters who hope to die and persuades them to live. And he insists that there is nothing special about him or his accomplishments. “I’m an ordinary man on an extraordinary mission,” he says.

Inevitably, Brother Bill, whose small stipend of $20,000 is funded by the nonprofit Catholic Charities, has his critics. But not many. Some say he goes too easy on gangsters who recount their murderous acts to him without fear of betrayal, who borrow money from him and never pay him back, who curse, smoke and drink around him as if he were one of them. “He gives all his attention to the wrong people,” gripes a Cabrini resident.

Brother Bill doesn’t subscribe to tough-love theories. He believes that gangsters will not change their ways simply through fear of prison or even the carrot of education or employment -- but only by viewing themselves as under the light of a divine presence. He doesn’t preach; he loves. His vulnerability, his willingness to put his life on the line, his unconditional offering of acceptance and forgiveness and, yes, love are a constant source of astonishment for men and boys weaned on hate and rejection. “I think he’s an angel,” says a 22-year-old Vice Lord. “I really think God sent him here.”

Lessons, though, walk at their own pace. And Brother Bill can hardly trumpet a major victory over gang violence. True, Cabrini-Green enjoys more spells of peace than it has in years. And some hard-core gangsters have managed to break away to find jobs and move from the projects. Nonetheless, in a city with an estimated 125 active criminal gangs with as many as 70,000 members, Cabrini-Green remains the most entrenched subculture around of poverty, drug use and gang violence. So much so that the Federal Government has begun, in piecemeal fashion, to simply tear the place down.

But Brother Bill keeps only one stat: souls saved. And he tries to save them with one small act of kindness at a time. When a rusty green Ford sedan pulls up, he senses that Dee has become distracted. A customer has arrived. Dee hugs Brother Bill and walks off. Then he turns around and yells back, “Yo, I need a ride to the courthouse Monday. Can you gimme a lift?”

Brother Bill nods a yes and gets back into his car. Driving off, he turns up the volume of Saint-Saens. As rain and snow come down hard on the windshield and the classical music begins a crescendo, the old Catholic missionary looks suddenly weary. He is still recovering from a recent triple-bypass heart operation, and he’s been told the prognosis is not good. “People think I’m a fool,” he says, “but I love these guys -- all of them. I know that many of them have done some really bad things, even killed people. But no matter what, I won’t turn my back on them.”

Brother Bill is standing with the gang members on their usual gathering spot outside a building in Cabrini-Green, the place where drug users looking for marijuana, crack cocaine or heroin can always find it. The air is frigid but charged with the warm sound of horseplay and laughter.

“The first time I got shot, I cried like a baby,” says Paris, a flamboyant 21-year-old. “And I didn’t care who saw me -- I just cried.”

Pat, another gang member, chimes in: “When that bullet goes into you, it hurts like nothing you’ve ever felt before.” Says another: “It burns like hell -- like fire.”

“Every time I take a bullet, I only have one request,” says another gang member softly. “And that’s for a cigarette. I always smoke when I get shot.”

The group laughs uproariously at memories of their brother sprawled and bleeding on the sidewalk, puffing a Newport. The stories help break the monotony of the gang’s three-hour security shifts, in which they look out for cops and frisk customers entering the building to score.

Brother Bill listens to the stories with mixed amusement and empathy. He knows too well the whistling sound of a bullet that misses. As he listens, he can’t help recalling his life-altering experience 15 years ago -- one that hit him with all the force of all the bullets he has since survived.

“I was trying to decide between two good job offers when I stopped into St. Joseph’s Ukrainian Catholic Church to think things through,” he recounts. “When I knelt down, everything turned fuzzy except the face of Christ on a painting near the altar.” The image at the altar issued to Tomes the first of several direct orders that would haunt him for the next three years:

“Love. You are forbidden to do anything other than that.”

Tomes has told this story, about the first of what became a string of epiphanies, hundreds of times, and always with the same sense of genuine astonishment. Until that moment he had never thought of himself as a particularly religious man. Born in a middle-class home in Akron, Ohio, and raised in Evanston, he stood out as a gifted artist and athlete. He received Jesuit training at Loyola Academy before attending Notre Dame, where he studied English and philosophy and received a bachelor’s degree, then two years later a master’s in counseling and guidance.

Tomes spent the next 15 years working as a counselor for Catholic Charities. He characterizes his life back then as quite ordinary. “I liked to drink with my buddies and date women,” he says. He also had a penchant for material things. In nine trips to Europe, where he interviewed psychiatrists in 18 countries for a planned doctoral dissertation, Tomes built a valuable collection of Russian artifacts. During that time, Tomes never abandoned his own artwork: he has sketched life-size portraits of every Notre Dame football coach from Jesse Harper to the current Bob Davie, each of which hangs today in the Fighting Irish athletic office.

By 1983 Tomes was fresh off a two-year hiatus to pursue his art. He returned to the work force with two lucrative job offers, one as a therapist in a hospital and another as an executive trainee with a major airline.

The question of which job to take led him to the church, where he first heard what he describes as the voice of Christ: “I’ll lead; you follow,” repeated three times. And then: Don’t be afraid; “give all your trust.”

“At the time, I didn’t understand what there was to be afraid of,” he says with a trace of irony. “I do now.”

Over the next few months, Tomes says, he received more messages. One was “You must forgive everyone, everything.” Another was “Judge not, and you will not be judged.”

He picked up a Bible and found this verse staring him in the face: “Take nothing with you for the journey.” Two times the next day, he came across the same passage in different parts of the Bible.

A local priest told him those scriptural commands required that he give up his worldly possessions. “I thought he was full of it,” Tomes says. But he kept running across that sentence in other religious volumes. Finally Tomes gave in -- and gave away his televisions, his radios, his Russian artifacts and even his bedroom. “I moved into the basement of a friend’s house and slept on cardboard.”

That year Tomes was asked to take on the role of youth minister for a parish and work with the street gangs in the surrounding projects of Henry Horner Homes and Rockwell Gardens. At the time, the neighborhood was rife with killing between the Vice Lords and Gangster Disciples. On Tomes’ first day in the projects, he was snubbed. Some gangsters threw rocks at him. On his second day, the gang voted in council whether Tomes should be killed, but decided that his intentions were only positive and that he should be protected rather than removed. The gangsters also accepted a couple of Jesuit volunteers, who were along to help Tomes.

It didn’t hurt either that Tomes, only an average hoopster, managed to impress the gangsters on the basketball court. “Once, I shot the ball, and it was clearly going left of the basket, but curved and went straight through the net,” he says. “God was definitely helping me.”

A year after Tomes began working in the West Side projects, his labors caught the attention of Joseph Cardinal Bernardin, Archbishop of Chicago, and he expanded Tomes’ purview to include gangs throughout the city.

The phone calls usually come at night. The voice is always low, distressed, the tone conspiratorial. A Gangster Disciple or Vice Lord assigned to murder informs Brother Bill that warfare is on the horizon, that just moments ago he was instructed to kill a rival gang member. “I don’t wanna shoot nobody, and I don’t wanna die, Brother Bill,” the voice whispers. “Please come over here. Nothing’s gonna happen if you’re here. Help me, man.”

When fighting erupts, Brother Bill has his routine down pat. From his Evanston home, it’s a 35-min. drive to Cabrini. En route, he pulls on his robe and begins prayer. Upon arriving, he walks briskly to the scene, where the shooting has usually already begun. His pale blue robe aflutter, he stands in the center of gang gunfire. He says he can hear the crack of guns from snipers in the buildings as well as see shooters running on the ground or ducking in and out of entryways. But thoughts of his safety never cross his mind. He understands that he can be killed, but he knows this is the core of his work, and he feels an absolute peace. Sometimes gang members scream out angrily, “Get out the way, Brother Bill. Move!”

It doesn’t work. “No, I will not,” Brother Bill tells them, “because I love you.”

Quickly the shots grow sporadic. Early last spring, after gunfire had shattered the windows of dozens of apartments, children ran out onto the balcony chanting, “Brother Bill, make the peace! Brother Bill, make the peace!” He heard, as did the shooters. Three more shots were fired that night, and peace was declared. “It’s like if Brother Bill is willing to take a bullet because he loves you that much, it makes it harder for you to hate the other side,” says Antonio, a 26-year-old gang member. “I think that’s why the shooting stops.”

Several times a year, Brother Bill takes a group of gangsters to Notre Dame, to football and basketball team practices and games. The gang members guest-lecture to students and faculty at the Center for Social Concerns and university workshops. “They treat us like movie stars,” says Paris. “I like going down there and telling them what our life is like and learning about theirs.”

In one case a Gangster Disciple scheduled to execute a rival returned from his dinner with the Fighting Irish basketball team too guilt-stricken to go through with the murder. Others simply take a liking to a life not spent looking over their shoulder. Brother Bill has other gambits too. Realizing that many gangsters spend countless nights holed up in apartments watching sports on television, he recently introduced them to a foreign concept: the sports bar. Initially they turned to Brother Bill to guide them on unfamiliar turf. Nowadays they freely go to Champions near O’Hare Airport and the Alumni Club in downtown Chicago to watch their favorite teams.

Brother Bill has helped a few gangsters on the road to employment -- one now works as a freight-elevator supervisor, another as an electrician -- but most aren’t interested in the regimen of daily employment or in earning a minimum wage, and that’s not how Brother Bill keeps score either. As the outside world rolls on, William Wylie Tomes Jr. continues to cruise the projects in that silver Park Avenue, conducting his nonjudgmental, never-ending search for his people.

And wherever he finds them, his message is the same as it was a decade ago, when he discovered a 21-year-old gang leader bleeding to death in a dark stairwell from four gunshots to the chest. As the faint siren of the paramedics’ vehicle sounded, too far away, Brother Bill spoke softly into the ear of the young man the last words he would hear on this earth:

“God made you. He loves you. He wants you to be with him forever.”

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* "Cabrini–Green" became synonymous with the problems associated with public housing in the United States. It was torn down in 2011 and replaced with mixed housing.

from Sermon "Getting Rid of Fear" by Rev. King Duncan, Kerux Sermon #23149 · Rev. King Duncan via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database violencelove

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