Colossians 3:19
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- Adam Clarke
- Jamieson-Fausset-Brown
- John Gill
- Tyndale
Adam Clarke Bible Commentary
Be not bitter against them - Wherever bitterness is, there love is wanting. And where love is wanting in the married life, there is hell upon earth.
Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Bible Commentary
(Eph 5:22-33.) be not bitter--ill-tempered and provoking. Many who are polite abroad, are rude and bitter at home because they are not afraid to be so there.
John Gill Bible Commentary
Husbands, love your wives,.... See Gill on Eph 5:25. and be not bitter against them; turning love into hatred of their persons; ruling with rigour, and in a tyrannical manner; behaving towards them in a morose, churlish, and ill natured way; giving them either bitter words, or blows, and denying them their affection, care, provision, protection, and assistance, but using them as servants, or worse. All which is barbarous, brutish, and unchristian, and utterly unbecoming the Gospel.
Tyndale Open Study Notes
3:19 The exhortation to wives to submit to their husbands is immediately followed by a command to the husbands to love their wives (see also Eph 5:25-30; 1 Pet 3:7).
Colossians 3:19
Christian Households
18Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.19Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
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Husbands Love Your Wifes!
By Keith Daniel5.6K1:36:02MarriageSacrificial LoveJOB 31:1PRO 15:23PRO 21:23PRO 31:10MAT 5:11MAT 19:51CO 13:4EPH 5:25COL 3:191PE 3:7Keith Daniel emphasizes the biblical command for husbands to love their wives, drawing from Matthew 19:5 and Ephesians 5:25. He highlights the importance of 'cleaving' to one's spouse, which signifies a deep, committed bond that reflects God's design for marriage. Daniel warns against the dangers of bitterness and urges husbands to honor their wives as the 'weaker vessel,' advocating for a sacrificial love that mirrors Christ's love for the church. He shares personal anecdotes and statistics about the fears of children regarding parental divorce, underscoring the need for strong, loving marriages. Ultimately, he calls for a complete surrender to God, which enables husbands to fulfill their roles with grace and integrity.
The Blueprint of Your Home
By Abner Kauffman2.3K1:11:56Home LifeDEU 24:52KI 4:10PRO 14:1MAT 6:33EPH 5:25COL 3:191PE 3:7In this sermon, the speaker emphasizes the importance of studying the Bible to show oneself approved by God. He encourages listeners to not neglect learning about their homes and the responsibilities that come with it. The speaker warns against the dangers of watching inappropriate videos and allowing worldly influences into the home. He also advises husbands to take responsibility for what their families are exposed to and to address any issues or tensions in the household promptly. The sermon highlights the significance of the kitchen as a place where husbands can play a role in creating a godly atmosphere in the home.
Talk on Marriage and Courting
By Keith Daniel1.5K1:23:30GEN 2:24PRO 18:22MAT 19:61CO 13:4EPH 5:25COL 3:191PE 3:71JN 4:71JN 4:19This sermon emphasizes the importance of maintaining love, tenderness, and respect in marriage, highlighting the need for forgiveness, grace, and a renewal of love through God's intervention. It challenges individuals to seek God's help in restoring and strengthening their marriages, urging them to prioritize their relationship with God and their spouse above all else.
Couples Night - Part 6
By Keith Daniel1.4K08:48PRO 15:1PRO 18:21EPH 4:29EPH 5:25COL 3:191PE 3:7This sermon emphasizes the importance of maintaining tenderness and love in marriage, highlighting how a change in tone and lack of honor can erode the foundation of a Christian home. It challenges individuals to reflect on their interactions with their spouses, urging them to speak with kindness and honor, as it reflects their relationship with God and their commitment to love as Christ loved the church.
Couples Night - Part 5
By Keith Daniel1.4K09:13GEN 2:241SA 18:28PRO 21:9MAL 2:16MAT 19:61CO 13:4EPH 5:33COL 3:191PE 3:7This sermon delves into the challenges and dynamics of marriage, drawing examples from historical figures like John Wesley and biblical characters like David and his wife. It explores the impact of a spouse's character on one's faith and the potential struggles faced within Christian marriages, emphasizing the importance of love, respect, and Godly behavior in relationships.
Couples Night - Part 8
By Keith Daniel1.3K08:23PRO 31:101CO 13:4EPH 5:25COL 3:191PE 3:7This sermon emphasizes the importance of maintaining love, tenderness, and honor in marriage, drawing inspiration from the relationship between Sarah and Abraham. It encourages couples to seek forgiveness, restoration, and grace from God to revive their love and commitment to each other, reflecting holiness in their marriage.
Maintaing a Christian Walk
By George Verwer1.3K1:15:54Christian WalkEPH 5:18COL 3:16COL 3:19In this sermon, the speaker discusses the challenges that arise when experiencing revival and the fullness of the Holy Spirit. He emphasizes the importance of not making book sales the main focus, but rather prioritizing the growth of individuals in the Word and their understanding of repentance. The speaker also addresses the issue of confession during revival, cautioning against sharing explicit details of personal struggles in mixed company. He concludes by highlighting the need for maintaining balance in the midst of revival and avoiding extremism.
Couples Night - Part 7
By Keith Daniel1.3K09:14COL 3:19This sermon emphasizes the importance of how we speak to and treat our spouses, highlighting the impact it has on our credibility as preachers and the lasting damage unkind words can cause. It draws lessons from the story of Abraham and Sarah, showcasing their love and respect for each other even in old age, as a model for marital relationships and the beauty of walking with God.
Twenty Years of Family Life
By George Verwer1.1K58:49Family LifeMarriage PrinciplesGEN 2:24PRO 22:6MAL 2:16MAT 19:61CO 13:4EPH 5:25COL 3:191TH 5:17HEB 13:41PE 4:8George Verwer reflects on the 20 years of family life within Operation Mobilization (OM), emphasizing the importance of prioritizing family, discipline, and real love in maintaining strong marriages. He acknowledges the challenges of divorce and separation faced by many, even within the church, and highlights the miraculous success of OM in fostering lasting relationships among its members. Verwer shares insights on the necessity of prayer, submission, and open communication in marriage, while also addressing the dangers of extremism and hyper-idealism. He encourages couples to embrace the principles of commitment and discipline, recognizing that true love is an act of the will rather than merely a feeling. Ultimately, he praises God for the blessings experienced in family life over the past two decades.
Church Live Re-Visited: Session Seven - Part 2
By Ron Bailey1.0K24:37GEN 2:23PRO 18:22MAT 19:6MRK 10:91CO 7:21CO 7:9EPH 5:31COL 3:19HEB 13:4This sermon delves into the significance of the phrase 'bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh' in Genesis chapter 2, highlighting how it symbolizes family and belonging rather than ownership. It explores the mutuality of marriage as intended by God, emphasizing the shared sense of belonging between a husband and wife. The sermon also touches on the historical and cultural aspects of marriage, discussing the concept of sexual immorality and the importance of understanding one's own will before seeking God's will.
Anger Destroys Families
By Shane Idleman91604:11EPH 5:25COL 3:19JAS 1:19This sermon addresses the critical roles of men in leading, guarding, and sacrificing for their families. It highlights the dangers of passivity and anger, emphasizing the need for men to step up, repent of destructive behaviors, and take responsibility for their actions. The message calls for a return to challenging and convicting truths, urging men to seek repentance, ask for forgiveness, and actively lead their families in a Godly manner.
On Eagles' Wings Pt 455
By Don Courville28728:47Radio ShowPSA 51:5PSA 119:105PRO 4:23MAT 6:21JHN 8:11ROM 10:13COL 3:19In this sermon, the speaker discusses the importance of rebuilding one's life after going through a tragedy. He emphasizes that our lives are a message, and when we experience the grace of God, it becomes a testimony of His power. The first step in building a life message is to deal with guilt, as it can hinder our spiritual growth and relationships. The speaker also highlights the need to conquer bitterness and invest in the life of our partner. Overall, the sermon provides seven goals for rebuilding one's life, including seeking after God, understanding the true picture of marriage, and rebuilding the original marriage when possible.
A Marriage Made for Ministry
By Jack Hayford01CO 13:4EPH 5:2EPH 5:25COL 3:191PE 3:7Jack Hayford preaches on the importance of husbands loving their wives as Christ loved the church, emphasizing the commitment to serve one another and grow through all circumstances. Through their 50-year marriage, Jack and Anna Hayford have exemplified sacrificial love, nurturing each other to fulfill their potential in the Lord and extending that love to impact countless lives through their ministry. By prioritizing their marriage and learning to die to self, Jack and Anna have discovered the key to effective ministry and unity, inspiring others to build lasting relationships and ministries on a foundation of true love.
Fathers - Families Would Rather "See" a Sermon
By Shane Idleman0PRO 3:5EPH 5:25COL 3:19JAS 1:221PE 3:7Shane Idleman delivers a powerful sermon calling for genuine leadership among men, emphasizing the need for humility, prayer, and spiritual leadership in the family. He challenges men to prioritize their roles as protectors, leaders, and spiritual guides in their homes, highlighting the detrimental effects of neglecting these responsibilities. Idleman urges men to confront their weaknesses, repent, and actively lead their families in a Godly manner, emphasizing the importance of living out their faith through actions rather than words.
The Christian Husband
By J.R. Miller0Christian MarriageLove and SacrificePRO 31:10MRK 10:91CO 13:4GAL 5:22EPH 4:2EPH 5:25COL 3:19HEB 13:41PE 3:71JN 4:19J.R. Miller emphasizes the vital role of the husband in a Christian marriage, highlighting that love is the foundation of his duties. He explains that a husband's love should be selfless, gentle, and supportive, mirroring Christ's love for the Church. Miller stresses the importance of honoring and sharing life with one's wife, ensuring that she feels valued and included in all aspects of life. He warns against the dangers of neglecting spiritual companionship, urging husbands to walk alongside their wives in faith. Ultimately, a true Christian husband fosters a nurturing environment that allows both partners to grow in love and faith together.
Taking God's Word Seriously
By Zac Poonen0The Importance of SpeechTaking God's Word SeriouslyISA 66:2MAT 5:4MAT 12:34MAT 12:36COL 3:19JAS 1:26Zac Poonen emphasizes the critical importance of taking God's Word seriously, warning that many believers underestimate the weight of their words and the accountability they will face. He highlights Jesus' teaching that every careless word will be judged, urging believers to cleanse their speech to reflect their faith genuinely. Poonen points out that a lack of control over one's tongue indicates a dead faith, and he challenges listeners to examine their speech against God's standards. He stresses that true spiritual progress comes from mourning over sin and taking every command of God seriously, which leads to comfort and victory through the Holy Spirit. Ultimately, he calls for a deep reverence for God's Word as the foundation for a victorious Christian life.
1 Peter 3:7
By John Gill0MarriageSpiritual LeadershipPRO 18:22MAL 2:141CO 7:3GAL 3:28EPH 5:25COL 3:191TH 4:41TI 5:8HEB 13:41PE 3:7John Gill emphasizes the importance of husbands dwelling with their wives in a manner that honors and respects them, highlighting the need for understanding and fulfilling marital duties according to knowledge of both the Gospel and natural law. He explains that husbands should treat their wives as the 'weaker vessel,' providing care and support, and recognizing their equal status as heirs of grace and eternal life. Gill warns that neglecting these responsibilities can hinder prayers and spiritual unity within the family, urging husbands to foster a loving and respectful environment to ensure their prayers are effective.
Taking God’s Word Seriously
By Zac Poonen0ISA 66:2MAT 5:4MAT 12:34MAT 12:36COL 3:19JAS 1:26Zac Poonen preaches about the importance of taking God's Word seriously, emphasizing the accountability we have for every word we speak and the need to cleanse our speech from backbiting, gossiping, and anger. He highlights that our words reveal the condition of our hearts and that failing to control our tongue makes our religion worthless. Poonen urges believers to take all of God's commands seriously, including those regarding bitterness towards others, and to mourn over their sins, finding strength in the Holy Spirit for a victorious life.
(Secrets of Victory) 3. Taking God's Word Seriously
By Zac Poonen0ISA 66:2MAT 5:4MAT 12:36COL 3:19JAS 1:26Zac Poonen emphasizes the importance of believers taking God's Word seriously, especially in regards to the power of our words and the need to cleanse our speech from backbiting, gossip, and anger. He highlights that our words reflect the condition of our hearts and that failing to control our tongue renders our faith worthless. Poonen challenges believers to mourn over their sins, take every command of God seriously, and develop a deep reverence for God's Word as the foundation for a victorious life.
Job - an Exemplary Man
By Zac Poonen0JOB 1:8MRK 3:21ROM 8:282CO 4:17EPH 5:25COL 3:19REV 12:10Zac Poonen preaches on the story of Job, highlighting how God pointed him out to Satan as a blameless and upright man who feared God and turned away from evil, emphasizing the importance of character over accomplishments or material gain in God's eyes. Job's integrity was tested through loss of family, property, health, and even accusations from his wife and preacher-friends, showcasing his unwavering faith and submission to God's will. Poonen challenges believers to examine their motives for serving God, reminding them that true service may bring material loss but spiritual profit, and that every trial is an opportunity to demonstrate faith and gratitude.
- Adam Clarke
- Jamieson-Fausset-Brown
- John Gill
- Tyndale
Adam Clarke Bible Commentary
Be not bitter against them - Wherever bitterness is, there love is wanting. And where love is wanting in the married life, there is hell upon earth.
Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Bible Commentary
(Eph 5:22-33.) be not bitter--ill-tempered and provoking. Many who are polite abroad, are rude and bitter at home because they are not afraid to be so there.
John Gill Bible Commentary
Husbands, love your wives,.... See Gill on Eph 5:25. and be not bitter against them; turning love into hatred of their persons; ruling with rigour, and in a tyrannical manner; behaving towards them in a morose, churlish, and ill natured way; giving them either bitter words, or blows, and denying them their affection, care, provision, protection, and assistance, but using them as servants, or worse. All which is barbarous, brutish, and unchristian, and utterly unbecoming the Gospel.
Tyndale Open Study Notes
3:19 The exhortation to wives to submit to their husbands is immediately followed by a command to the husbands to love their wives (see also Eph 5:25-30; 1 Pet 3:7).