01.13. Proverbs 13
Proverbs 13:1
He is an unkind father who never checks the froward inclinations and behavior of his children. And he is a proud and haughty scorner, who receives the rebukes of a father, or of any other wise person, with contempt and aversion. Eli’s sons disregarded the mild admonitions of their father. Their father was punished in them for his excessive lenity — and they were destroyed for their stubborn contempt of advice.
If a wise son will regard the instructions and reproofs of a father, how much more should we be in subjection to the Father of spirits! How fatal is the stubbornness of those who disregard God’s Word!
Proverbs 13:2
Proverbs 13:3
Destruction from God, and sometimes from men — is the punishment of an ungoverned tongue, which in this respect resembles an untamable monster which often destroys its owner. Nabal had almost ruined his whole family by his intemperate railing at David. The harm was indeed prevented by the prudent tongue of Abigail — and yet the remorse of his own mind was one means of bringing him to his latter end.
Why does the wise man insist so much on this subject? Because the tongue is a most unruly member — and yet it is absolutely necessary to bridle it. Who is the man that desires ruin and misery? Let him give a loose rein to his tongue. Who is the man that desires peace and happiness? Let him say nothing that he will repent of having said, ten or a hundred years hence.
Proverbs 13:4
"But the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied." He enjoys inward happiness, for his wishes are confined within the bounds of reason, and the success of his labors is sufficient to satisfy them.
Spiritual sloth is in like manner attended with spiritual poverty. There is no man that would not choose to be eternally happy — but the slothful man will not strive to enter in at the strait gate, or to walk in the narrow way. He has one mighty objection against Heaven, that he cannot make sure of it in a morning dream. But the soul of the diligent Christian prospers, for he adds one grace to another, and is neither barren nor unfruitful. His corruptions are subdued, his graces are lively, his comforts pleasant, his usefulness great — and he has an abundant entrance into the everlasting kingdom!
Proverbs 13:5
Those who hate lying are valuable members of society, and are blessed with that good name which is better than precious ointment. But wicked men are loathsome to God, and come to shame. Whatever respectable qualities they may possess — they are destitute of a principle of truth and honesty. That falsehood which they sometimes use to serve a selfish purpose, is the same thing in their characters as a dead fly in a box of precious ointment, which causes it to send forth a stench. God and men agree in almost nothing but this, that a liar is detestable to both, and therefore he must sooner or later come to disgrace.
Proverbs 13:6
Let us never, to avoid danger, shun the path of duty, or allow ourselves to be allured into that of sin, as though it were the way of rest and safety. What God has joined together — let no man put asunder. what God has put asunder — let no man attempt to join.
Proverbs 13:7
They have spiritual riches, sufficient to satisfy the most enlarged desires — freely offered to them in the gospel. If they desire to be rich, why do they not seek after these true riches, which would fill all their treasures, and make silver and gold to appear as mere dross?
There are others who are rich, and conceal their riches under an appearance of poverty. These are ungrateful to divine providence, which has bestowed on them this talent, not to be hidden in a napkin — but to be laid out in serving God, in the exercises of liberality. They defraud themselves, and the poor, and God also — while they sacrilegiously retain in their chests, what should be employed in his service.
Divine providence makes us either rich or poor, and it is our duty cheerfully to acquiesce in its disposal, and to suit our appearance and way of life to our circumstances, which are appointed for us by infinite wisdom.
If we are poor — let us remember Him who became poor for our sakes, and had nowhere to lay his head, while employed in procuring for us the true riches.
If we are rich — let us be rich in good works, and remember that we are stewards, and must give an account.
These opposite faults, which are in this proverb censured by the wise man, originate in the same cause — an excessive esteem of worldly riches. It is this which makes poor men pretend to have them — and rich men conceal them for the purpose of preserving them more safely.
All men are sensible of the conveniences that attend riches — and the inconveniences that attend poverty. But we should also remember that there are inconveniences that cleave to riches; and that poverty, as the wise man teaches, possesses advantages peculiar to itself.
Proverbs 13:8
"But a poor man hears no threat." Money is sometimes a defense — but the lack of it is a shadow under which poor men live unnoticed by the plunderers. A poor man can travel pleasantly in a road beset by robbers — when he who carries a full purse trembles in every joint. In public calamities, the poor are often allowed to escape without a blow or a threatening — when the riches of others cannot ransom them. When Jerusalem was destroyed by the Chaldeans, the poor were put into more comfortable circumstances than they had before experienced since the days of the good Josiah.
Whatever are the disadvantages of our condition, let us bear them like Christians, still thankfully observing its advantages. Neither riches nor poverty have the power of rendering us either happy or miserable. We are taught that the righteous are truly happy — while misery is the sure portion of the wicked.
Proverbs 13:9
Proverbs 13:10
Pride and selfish ambition made the disciples to dispute among themselves who should be the greatest.
Pride raised the war in Jephtha’s days, between the tribes of Ephraim and Manasseh, in which so much Israelitish blood was spilt, that might have been more usefully shed in taking vengeance upon Israel’s enemies.
Pride darkens the mind to one’s own faults and the virtues of other — and on the contrary, represents one’s own virtues and the faults of others in a very false and aggravated light. It produces contempt of others, and provoking speeches and insolent behavior, and by these means is an endless spring of contentions and harms.
We can never live in peace unless we subdue our own pride, and keep ourselves as free as we can from all connection with proud men.
"But wisdom is found in those who take advice." The proud and contentious are neither well-advised nor wise, for they despise the advice of others, and are enemies to their own peace. The humble will not easily allow themselves to be drawn into contention. If they are insolently treated by others, they consider whether and how far it is lawful and expedient for them to give place to anger. Injuries done to them are like sparks falling upon a rock; and they show themselves to be truly wise when they will abate of their pretensions in point of honor or interest, to preserve peace, and to keep themselves and others from sin and trouble.
How wise was Abraham in consenting that Lot should have his choice of the pasture, though, for a variety of reasons, Abraham might have claimed the right of choosing to himself! But Lot was soon obliged to flee the pleasant fields he had chosen, and Abraham had the promise of all the land.
Proverbs 13:11
Proverbs 13:12
What stings did the hopes of Absalom and Adonijah leave in their minds, when they failed in their attempts to obtain the kingdom of their father!
It is cruel to disappoint the just hopes of others. If we make the eyes of the widow to fail, or keep the poor from their moderate desires — we break that commandment which forbids murder. We must not withhold the wages of the hireling, for this reason, among others — because his heart is set upon it, and be will be filled with uneasiness if he does not receive it. But when the desire comes, the heart is revived and gladdened as with the fruits of a tree of life. But this is not the case if the desire was irregular and unlawful. Amnon enjoyed no pleasure by the gratification of his desire after Tamar, which was followed by remorse and vexation. Desires of lawful things, when they are crowned by enjoyment, impart pleasure to the mind — but that pleasure is for the most part soon followed by weariness. This proverb is verified chiefly in the righteous, whose desire is only good, and whose enjoyments far exceed their most optimistic hopes. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst after righteousness, for they shall be filled with the fruits of the tree of life, which grows in the midst of the paradise of God; and they shall hunger and thirst no more, neither shall the sun light upon them, nor any heat.
Proverbs 13:13
It was an evidence that Esau despised his birthright, when he sold it for a morsel of food. And men reveal a contempt for the Word, when they disregard its precepts, to gain some advantage, and some indulgence for the flesh. A tree may be sound at the heart — and yet have its branches broken by a strong blast — but a tree must be rotten, which is broken with a gale of wind. In like manner, a strong temptation may prevail against a sound and lively Christian. But he is not sound in God’s statutes, who falls before every temptation.
He who pours contempt upon a single word of God, however inconsiderable it may appear to him, shall be destroyed by the vengeance of God — for every jot and tittle of the law is enforced by the solemn authority of the Lawgiver. He that despises his authority despises not man but God, and shall have his place among those to whom it will be said, "Behold, you despisers, and wonder, and perish!" On the contrary, he who reverences the authority of the Lord, and earnestly endeavors, by the grace of God, to govern his steps, not by the fashion of the world, or with a view to serve himself — but according to the will of God, shall be rewarded with the gracious acceptance of God, and shall experience all that favor which God through Christ gives to such as fear his name.
Proverbs 13:14
We should value the friendship and counsels of a wise man, as a happy means of promoting our spiritual life and comfort, and of preserving us from the snares of death. We should endeavor to have our minds furnished from the scripture, with that wisdom which will enable us to perform such important services to others. The tongue of a righteous man talks of judgment, because the law of his God is in his heart.
Proverbs 13:15
God has the hearts of all men in his hand, and shows his favor to men of good understanding, by disposing others to favor them, as far as it seems proper to his infinite wisdom. He turned the hearts of the Egyptians to hate his people; but when the set time was come, he gave them favor in the sight of these enemies, so that they enriched them at their own expense. God made Joseph and Daniel to be favored in the season of their captivity. Let us keep ourselves in the love of God, and the respect of men will attend us, should it be necessary for us.
"But the way of transgressors is hard." Their practice is not only offensive to God and grievous to men — but hurtful to themselves. There are many present harmful things which attend sin, so that unrepentant sinners have a Hell here as well as hereafter. They have restless minds, and unsatisfied cravings, and uneasy consciences, to torment them. They draw upon themselves the frowns of providence and the hatred of men, and through manifold tribulations they make their way to everlasting fire. Let sinners be persuaded to enter into the way of life. It is a narrow but a pleasant way, and rest is found in it for the soul.
Proverbs 13:16
Those, on the contrary, who live at random, are constantly rushing into dangers and harms, and are like an ignorant physician, who cannot distinguish between poisonous and medicinal herbs, and may therefore administer a poison instead of a cure.
Fools might be esteemed half wise, if they had sense enough to keep their folly to themselves; but they presume that they are wise, and talk of things of which they know as little as brute beasts, and meddle with things quite above their capacity! Thus they reveal their pride and ignorance, while they imagine that everyone must think them as wise as they think themselves.
Proverbs 13:17
Those servants of Nebuchadnezzar, who cast the three children into the fire by their master’s command, were consumed to death, and none pities them. Unfaithful servants of princes, are to be reckoned among wicked messengers.
Such was Hazael, who indeed obtained his master’s throne by his treachery; but his new dignity led him into crimes, which will cause his name to be abhorred forever. Such also was Haman, whose mischievous designs so signally recoiled upon himself.
Corrupt ministers are wicked messengers, who fall into the ditch, and draw others along with them, to add to their eternal disgrace and torment!
Even common servants who are unfaithful in a little, shall fall into harm, as Paul assures them: He who does wrong, shall be paid back for the wrong done. But a faithful ambassador is an instrument of procuring advantage and comfort to his master and to himself. Such was Mordecai in the king’s court; Paul in the gospel ministry; and Joseph in the house of Potiphar and Pharaoh. Let us undertake no business — but what may be warrantably executed; and having undertaken it, let us perform it faithfully as to the Lord.
Proverbs 13:18
People think it incompatible with their honor, to receive reproof — but the dishonor lies in needing reproof, and not receiving it. He, on the contrary, who regards reproof, and profits by it, shall be honored as a man adorned with humility and meekness, and shall be turned from that course which disgraced him, into that way of life which is attended with true and solid honor.
Proverbs 13:19
Proverbs 13:20
Thomas would have been sooner cured of his unbelief, and recovered from his despondency, had he been present with the rest of the apostles when our Lord first appeared to them. David thought with deeper concern upon his exclusion from the place where the multitude kept the holy days, than his banishment from the royal palace.
"But a companion of fools shall be destroyed." Bad company has a still stronger influence than that which is good, because the corruption of human nature readily complies with it. A healthy man cannot communicate health to the sick — but a person infected with the pestilence may communicate the contagion to a thousand. Our Lord safely conversed with sinners, because he was free from all danger of being corrupted; and it may on some occasions be our duty also to mingle with the wicked, that we may use means for reclaiming them. But in ordinary cases, guilt or grief is all that a godly man gets by the company of sinners. Lot chose the neighborhood of Sodom for his dwelling, because it afforded pleasant pasture. He forgot that the Sodomites were perverse sinners — but he soon found that daily griefs were the best things he could expect from such wicked neighbors. The grace of God kept him unstained by their profligacy; but he was obliged to flee for his life, and to leave his pleasant possessions and his plenteous flocks behind him, that he might escape their punishment.
Just so, a church that is become obstinate and incurable in apostasy must be left, for this reason, that we may avoid her sins and plagues.
Proverbs 13:21
Sinners may flee away as on eagles’ wings — but vengeance follows them on the wings of the wind. They may look for safety and deliverance — but their eyes shall fail, and escape shall perish from them, and their hope shall be as the giving up of the spirit. If sinners desire to escape, let them flee to the Savior of sinners, and cut away their transgressions. Let them depart from evil, and do good, while their day of grace continues; for, if they resist the calls of wisdom, their desolation will come like a whirlwind.
"But prosperity is the reward of the righteous." Imperfect as their goodness is, not a single instance of it shall lose its reward. What can be less than giving a cup of water to a thirsty disciple of Christ? Yet even that shall be mentioned at the great day, to the praise of the followers of the Redeemer. God is so abundant in goodness, that he gave a reward to Nebuchadnezzar and to Jehu, for services done to him from a purely selfish principle. Much more will he reward those services that are done from love to his name. Even the children, and the more remote descendants of the godly, have often experienced the overflowing kindness of God to their pious progenitors; for,
Proverbs 13:22
David left an inheritance to his children for seventeen generations, and they were not dispossessed of it, until by intolerable provocations they had extorted punishment from God. But is this always true? It is to be remembered that the proverbs are often to be understood of what generally happens — though not always. But when this sentence is not verified, we may conclude that godly men, by the defects of their goodness, have forfeited this blessing to their children, which was the case with Eli; or that divine wisdom sees some better method, in these instances, of testifying that kindness which God has for them.
It is better to be the son of a poor saint, than of a great king, for every believer will acknowledge, that a single promise in the Bible is far better than a large estate. Parents that are anxious about the state of their families after their own death, if they believe the scriptures, will be more desirous of leaving them an estate in promises, than in land and money. But many do not believe this truth. They fill their brains with projects, and their souls are vexed with anxious cares about obtaining earthly portions to leave to their children. In these labors they may be successful — but in the mean time the thoughts of eternity are banished from their own minds. And when they are inheriting the fruits of their earthly-mindedness, what pleasure can it give them, to think that their children are rioting in the enjoyment of wealth, and probably laying up to themselves treasures of divine vengeance! But their success in worldly pursuits is very doubtful. Their posterity may fail, or be reduced to poverty; for the wealth of the sinner is laid up, not for his posterity — but for the just. Riches are still changing masters, according to the direction of God, who made the wealth of the Egyptians and Canaanites to come into the possession of the Israelites, and who still distributes the gifts of his bounty to those who are godly in his sight.
Proverbs 13:23
Proverbs 13:24
Just so, the early days of childhood are a proper season for correction, because vice has not then obtained deep and firm root in the heart.
Proverbs 13:25
If a righteous man has little, that little is better than the riches of many wicked. The wicked is often reduced to poverty by his own vices, and the judgment of God upon him. But if he has much, he still lacks the blessing of God, which alone can sweeten it, and therefore in the midst of sufficiency, he is in straits.
