How to Build a Godly Family

Today we will look at how the Christian family should be in order to be successful and prosperous. When we talk about family, we go back all the way to the book of Genesis, the Garden of Eden. That's where it all begins.

The Lord God, the first thing he instituted on the face of this earth was marriage. The very first thing God instituted on the face of this earth was marriage. And through marriage, his intention was to create a family.

Now why? Because God himself is family. As Christians, we believe that God is the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Well, since God is the Father and he has the Son, therefore this is family.

And the bond between the Father and the Son is the Holy Spirit. So God is family. The first thing he established on earth was family.

And God's intention is for this family to be for him and him only. We see this family in paradise, in the Garden of Eden. The man is in the presence of God, Genesis 2.15. Then the Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to tend, i.e. cultivate and keep it.

So the first thing God created was Adam. And he put Adam in the Garden of Eden in his presence, in his holy presence. And he said to Adam, I want you to look after this garden.

And then we see the woman in Genesis 3, where she was walking alone and that's when Satan came in the form of a serpent and tempted the woman and made her fall. And through the woman made the man, Adam, fall as well. And she was walking alone.

In other words, God is saying to the man that you need to fulfill the woman's needs, otherwise she'll be searching elsewhere for it if there is a gap in her life. Three foundational principles for every family are found in 2 Timothy 1.7. Saint Paul is writing this epistle to his disciple Timothy. He's saying to him in 2 Timothy 1.7, for God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

There are some fathers or parents, they become weak, they start fearing. When they start fearing, they end up running away, escape. They escape to spending too much time on Facebook, drinking, gambling, etc.

This is my escape, God. I can't face reality. I can't face the challenges.

I can't face all these obstacles in life. I'm fearing for myself. I'm fearing for my children.

I'm fearing maybe for my wife. Did you get that one? I'm fearing. So what do I do? I'm scared now.

I'm afraid now. So I'm gonna run away. I'll find a way to make me forget my fears.

I found it. I'll drink until I'm drunk so I can forget all these thoughts that are haunting me non-stop. Drinking is the solution.

Oh, they destroy themselves and the family with them. Gambling is the solution. Destroy themselves and family with them.

Drugs is the solution. Destroy themselves and family with them. So many families, couples I have come across, because of drugs, alcoholism and the rest, they ended up walking away from one another.

Why did you seek gambling? Why did you seek alcoholism? Why did you seek drugs? Because I got scared and I didn't want to admit that I have a fear because I don't wish to be seen a coward, especially the men. I'll hide my fear and cowardness with a scotch on the rock and a white powder in that plastic bag. Saint Paul, 2nd Timothy 1 7. For God has not given us a spirit of fear.

You see God never created a spirit of fear in you. Looks like you ended up fearing, you ended up being weak and scared because you walked away from God. This is your dilemma.

Thus in my power I do not end up being violent if there is no self-control. So many violent people, well that just tells you they have no self-control. So they have power and they abuse it, they become violent because they don't have self-control, because they don't have God in their life.

That's why. So that power does not end up in violence and love does not end up in being slack or feeble. Do you love me? Well, can you do something for me? I'll think about it.

What makes you happy? Can you please text me and tell me what makes you happy so I can do it? Maybe. What kind of love is that? When your love is filled with power, even the microphone went off. When your love is filled with power you surprise your sweetheart.

Plenty of surprises. You go to your sweetheart and say, please come with me, we're going for a little drive. And then she sits in her pajamas in that car because she's thinking it's just a little drive around the block and we're going to come back.

And then you drive, you drive, you drive and you end up in the airport. And then you go to the customs and you say, I'm checking in my wife, no, just kidding. Honey, I just got us two tickets for our anniversary and we're flying as you are in your pajamas.

I have nothing else. Honey, don't worry. I got money, baby.

I'll buy you all the clothing from San Francisco. Powerful, faces challenges, fears nothing. A man that worships God is powerful, all love and self-controlling.

This is why when God created, created the man first, then the woman. When he created, he created the man and he placed the in his presence, not the woman. And he taught the man, not the woman.

And he gave the commandment to the man, not the women. And he said, I will bless your wife, your family through you, not the women. My beloved daughter, don't misunderstand me.

This is God's word. And my son, please do not be offended. This is God's word.

The man that wishes for his family to be blessed, the man that wishes for his family to be healthy and wealthy and in good health and in good spirit, you better be in the presence of Jesus Christ of Nazareth because he is dealing with you, not with your women, not with your children. He is you. He wants you, my son, the man.

He put Adam in his presence, not the women. And when the women ate from the forbidden tree, God was not upset at all. Read the Holy Bible.

The forbidden tree, the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. When Eve ate from it, God didn't say anything. But the moment the man ate, all hell broke loose because my son, you represent Jesus Christ of Nazareth, the man.

And my daughter, you represent the church, the bride, the women to this perfect man. Saint Paul says the church is the body and the man is the head. When the Holy Bible talks about the man being the head, that doesn't mean that you are in control, meaning you're on the show.

And whatever you say goes, and she has no right to say anything because I'm the man and you're not, so you better be quiet. No. By the way, the head here means foundation.

Now my question to you, my son, where is the foundation? Top of the house or under the house? Under the house. So when you are the head, that means you are not at the top, you're at the bottom. Why? Because the head here is the one that carries all the weight.

Without the foundation, there is no house. What carries the entire house is the foundation. This is the head.

The head meaning you are the provider. The head meanings you are the protector. The head meanings you are the one who manages everything.

You provide the safe haven for your body, i.e. the woman, the wife. She needs to know and feel that you are her safety net. She needs to know and feel that you are the one that she can run to anytime, every time, all the time without hesitation, without being, you know, without being sort of kind of resentment toward it or afraid of opening up to you.

You need to make her feel that she can say whatever, whenever, however, because you are the man and she is walking alone, my beloved. See, this is the Holy Spirit talking here, the source of wisdom. The Holy Spirit is not wasting his time, neither our time, to say that the woman was walking alone in the garden.

But there is a biblical truth to this and a theological truth to this. That means the woman was walking alone, meaning there was some sort of an empty, void, gap inside of her. There was something missing in her life and the man had not provided what she was missing.

That's why she was seeking it elsewhere. And the moment she seeks that elsewhere, this is when danger is at hand. When Christ is the foundation, whatever you encounter, the Lord is there for you to help you overcome it.