Godly Women Still Exist

In marriage, you better look for a girl that loves Jesus Christ of Nazareth. You know why, my son? Because when you find a fear, a God-fearing woman, never be afraid of her because the Lord who is in her will never teach her to be nasty to you. So the man should not look mainly for the external looks.

Son, my son. Oh, Bishop, look at this gazelle. Man, I hit the jackpot.

Look at her height. Look at the hair. Look at the face.

Look at the eyes. She's stunning, brother. She will give you hell.

Don't get me wrong. The looks are important because you don't want to wake up the first day after honeymoon and call RSPCA. I just wanted to make you laugh.

Please don't get offended. All right. Currently, I have one eye until the Lord gives me the other one, but I still have the red belt in karate.

So don't come. You know why I said that? Because, my son, this will be the first time you will see her without makeup. I thought I married Mariah Carey.

Who's this? Okay. Look, the external looks are important, but they are not the most important. The most important is the internal looks, not the external, because whether we like her or not, time will take away the external looks.

The woman gets married, has few children. Man, see you later. And since she's married someone who has a pain in the neck, she'll age very quickly.

So that good-looking girl at 21, she's not going to be the same at 51. So the external looks are important, but the most important of all is the heart. Is her heart with the Lord or not? This is the first question you ask when you meet a girl for the first time.

Ask her, do you love Jesus? If she says no, don't be a saint and try to convert her. Give it some time, but not too long, because she may convert you, more than likely, because the woman has a lot of influence on the man, more than the man to the woman. That's why King Solomon, through his wisdom, says to the man, find a girl that loves the Lord, because she will take you to heaven with her, not to hell, she will take you to heaven.

Because mom for 30 years tried to make me do one thing, she failed. This woman I met yesterday, she makes me do everything under the sun for her. Wow! I wouldn't even clean my room, I'm cleaning the garden inside and outside the house and on the rooftop as well, because my woman said, you're my man, go and clean the house.

Tarzan, here we come. So she is the most influential in your life. Find the girl that is God fearing, she will make you a saint, for her worth is far above rubies, precious stones.

This is for the girl. He's saying, King Solomon to the girl, find a man that will see you, my daughter, in his eyes more precious than precious stones. And what is more precious than precious stones? First Peter 1 18 to 19, Saint Peter tells us, what is more precious than stones and pearls? First Peter 1 18 to 19, knowing that you were not redeemed, purchased, knowing that you were not redeemed with corruptible things like silver or gold from your aimless conduct received by tradition from your fathers, but with the precious blood of Christ.

So what is more precious than pearls and stones? The blood. We were redeemed by the blood of Christ as of a lamb without blemish and without spot. So what is blood here? Life.

My life is determined by the blood. The blood goes, I die. So what is more precious than pearl and precious stones life? He says, my daughter, look for a man that is willing to put his life on the line for you and look for a girl that loves the Lord, my son.

When you look for a girl that loves the Lord, fear nobody. And when you find a man that is willing to die for you, i.e. sacrifice for you, go for that man. Now, when are we going to understand this concept from the womb of our mother, from those first three years after birth and until the age of 18, I will understand everything my parents taught me and thank God for it because he is the ultimate teacher.

You know, when we said pre-embryonic in the clinical terminology, that's when the baby is born. Embryonic is when the baby is a teenager, fetal when the baby is now an adult and baby when the baby is born in the clinical terminology is when that couple are getting married on their big day, the wedding day. So what happens on the wedding day? The baby is born.

You see, the first time I was a baby, pre-embryonic, I was a baby born. Parents taught me to be nice, to be kind, to be helping, to be this, to be that, all the beautiful things I was taught. When I grew and I became a teenager, I started fathoming what my parents have taught me all these years.

And when I became more mature and adult, I started looking for a partner in marriage. When I looked for a partner in marriage, whatever I was taught, I looked in that girl or for that man. Piece of advice, my son, when you find a girl and your heart starts dancing from within the first time, you go up to her and you approach her and you want to get to know her.

Here's what you need to do. If you haven't found one yet, those who are married, I said it's too late. You go to her and then you get to know her for three months, not more.

And during these three months, normally you need to go back to your spiritual father and update your spiritual father with what has been happening throughout these three months. Don't take it into your own hands. You're playing with fire.

So you go out, you talk, exchange words, you go back to your spiritual father, say we had this kind of a conversation. This is what I said. This is what she said.

Or this is what I said. And this is what he said. What do you say, father? Okay, continue.

It's okay. Three months, you should be able to make a very clear decision whether you continue with the relationship or walk away. Because by the three months are up, you will have a good idea if this person speaks your language or not.

You will know them. You will know them. The way you talk and the way they respond, you know.

If you're a church person and all they talk about worldly, what are you doing? You're in a very wrong relationship. You still are there just for the looks. What looks? We need to be wise.

Wise. So after three months, you decide, shall I continue, give it more chance or not? If you say yes, you should be married maximum within 18 months, year and a half, you should be married. This relationship must be sealed, finalized, settled.

When you buy a house, they say there is a settlement date. Well, you're going to put a deposit and wait 10 years. You need to settle within a certain time.

If you don't settle, there are penalties and you may lose the house and the deposit which you put 10%. It's a big hefty penalty. So after a year and a half, if you are still in the relationship, three years, four years, five years, I will ask you this and you better be honest.

Aren't you encountering a lot of problems? 100% yes. You know why? Because after two years and above, every man and his dog will enter and interfere with your relationship because you didn't seal it. Problems will start when you're going to get married.

The in-laws are getting on your back. Come on, our daughter is not cheap. You better settle this matter.

You better marry otherwise we don't want to see your face. Problems. Friends come in, cousins come in, everyone will come in.

And then the more you leave it, the more you're not able to settle the matter. You should be married a year and a half. From the day you've met that person for the first time till the wedding day, it should be not more than 18 months, maximum two years.

After two years, kiss it goodbye. There's a lot of problems. You know why it's a problem? I'll tell you why.

Because you got used to each other outside the marital health. I don't want you now. I'm used to you.

Okay, you're not happy. Okay, see you. And when you say see you after all these years, what happened to the heart? Shattered.

Shattered. Because there's a lot of emotions here. The deposit is lost.

The matter was never settled. So you need to settle. You can't just say, oh, I don't know.

Look, I'll give it another chance. I'll give it another. It's been five years.

What other chance? Like this man, young man, he went to the priest. He said, father, yes, son. I've known this girl for the past four years.

And I don't know, father, tell me, shall I marry her or not? The father kicked him so hard in the back side. And he said, get out of my office. I'm not the one who's marrying her.

It's you. Why are you asking me after four years? Get out of my room. What do you mean, father, shall I marry her? You've been going out with her for four years and you can't decide.

Now you're telling me to decide for you? You don't want to marry her? Don't. You want to marry her, go. But don't ask me after four years.

You should have come from day one. See, in the golden days, when they wanted to go and ask for a hand of a girl for their son, the parents, they will ask two things or two questions. One, who are the parents? Two, who are the friends? One, who are the parents? Two, who are the friends? Because when you find out who the parents are, find out who the friends are, because maybe the parents are good.

But as that person grew older and mixed with people and made friends for themselves, those friends influenced that person and took him the wrong way. When you find who the friends are, you will know exactly what kind of a person you're asking for their hand. You'll know exactly, because you know why? Friendship is chosen using the head.

Relationship in marriage is chosen using the heart, not the head. The first healthiest step to a partner in marriage, your heart must choose that partner, not your head. If you choose your partner in marriage using your head, you will live very tired for the rest of your life in that relationship.

But if your heart chooses them, no, you'll live happy. Because for a marital relationship, it takes the heart to make it happen, then the head. But friendship, you never use the head.

Why? Because you never use the heart, sorry, in friendship. Because you need to choose your friend with your head, unless their way of thinking is like or similar to your way of thinking, you can never be friends. You can never be friends.

The reason why you're friends, because you think alike, not you feel alike. You think alike, that's why you are friends. So friendship requires the intellect.

Relationships in marriage requires the heart first, then the head. And this is why after marriage, prior to marriage, the head is asleep, the heart is awake. So prior to marriage, all the words that come out of you, my son, is you've surpassed Romeo.

Hello, my love. Hello, my darling. What's happening, baby? Every day you call her one name.

One day she is your sunshine. The other she is your flower. The other she is your Rosella, your gazelle, your honey, your sugar bun, your babe, your everything.

After marriage, what? Whatever. Be married to you for a long time. So we need to use the heart first in that relationship, then use the head.