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Overcoming Worry
Steve Mays

Steve Mays (1950–October 2, 2014) was an American Christian preacher and pastor, best known for his transformative leadership of Calvary Chapel South Bay in Gardena, California, and his national radio ministry, Light of the Word. Born in Los Angeles, California, Mays grew up in a turbulent environment, descending into drug addiction, gang involvement with a motorcycle group in Orange County, and draft evasion during the Vietnam War by destroying his draft papers. His early life was marked by arrests for petty crimes, a gunshot wound to the leg, and erratic behavior—like flooding his parents’ home while high on LSD—until a radical conversion in 1970. Introduced to Calvary Chapel Costa Mesa’s Chuck Smith through a Christian halfway house, Mansion Messiah, he found faith and purpose, emerging as a key figure in the Jesus Movement. Mays began preaching in 1972, becoming senior pastor of Calvary Chapel South Bay in 1980, a role he held for 34 years until his death. Under his leadership, the church grew from a small congregation to over 9,000 weekly attendees, prompting a move in 1998 to an 8-acre, 140,000-square-foot complex with an extension campus for Calvary Chapel Bible College. Known simply as “Pastor Steve,” he preached with raw transparency, drawing from his past to connect with the broken. He authored Overwhelmed by God and Overcoming, hosted Light of the Word on 300+ stations, and developed the South Los Angeles CHP Chaplain Program. Despite chronic pain from numerous surgeries—including a fatal back operation complicated by a blood clot—he saw suffering as a ministry, inspiring others with resilience. Married to Gail, who led the women’s ministry, he had two children, Nathan and Heather, and died at 64 in Rancho Palos Verdes, leaving a legacy of grace and redemption.
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In this sermon, Pastor Steve Mays discusses the hurdles and challenges we face in life, such as worry, discouragement, hostility, and fear. He emphasizes the importance of relying on God's principles to overcome these overwhelming circumstances. Pastor Mays encourages listeners to seek the peace of God, which surpasses understanding, and to trust in His keeping power. He also emphasizes the need to communicate with God, to pour out our hearts and concerns to Him, and to cast our cares upon Him. Ultimately, Pastor Mays reminds us that God cares for us and wants us to give Him everything.
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It's the 2011 Summer of Sermons with Steve Mays. You need to start talking to God. You need to start telling God how you feel. You need to tell God what's going on in your heart. You need to tell God how upset you are about a situation. It won't be a problem for God. The Bible invites us to cast our cares on the Lord. Pastor Steve Mays explains why and how. And God wants you to complain to Him. And God wants you to pour your heart out to Him. God, I don't understand. God wants you to know that He is your strength. He'll sustain you. He'll satisfy you. He'll put the longing in your heart. He'll put the need deep within your life. Light of the world, light of the world. Hope that shines in darkness. A voice that will be heard. Light of the world, light of the world. Hope that shines in darkness. So we'll follow the light of the world. Worry. It's been known to bring some people down mentally, spiritually, and even physically. And what's worse is that statistically more than 85% of things we worry about never even come to pass. Still, we can't seem to get a handle on worry. 1 Peter 5, 7 reminds us that we shouldn't even try, but instead cast all of our worries on Jesus. And during the next few minutes, Pastor Steve explains how and why we should. Here, let's listen. This morning I'd like to teach you on 1 Peter 5, 7. I'd like to deal with one subject. One of the areas I believe that God really wants us to understand. And I pray that as I minister, it would really make sense to you. And it's on that area of overcoming worry. How to overcome that worried spirit. And so in 1 Peter 5, 7, he talks about worrying and anxiety and stress. And we live in a society that is filled with so much stress. And we have to confess that every one of us in some time or another has worried. And the question is, is it sin? Is it sin to worry? And the Bible says absolutely it is sin when I worry. And so I want to challenge you in a very biblical perspective. That if you have this problem of worrying about worrying, then you need to pay attention. Because I believe that God's word is pretty crystal clear. And all of us need to begin to grow. Last week we mentioned David. And how David in one moment of his folly made a horrible mistake. How that he turned Ahithophel against him. And then you remember he committed adultery with Bathsheba. And then he killed Uriah. And he caused the children of Israel to go contrary to his own counsel. And we find there in the life of David that on his public side it was pretty impressive ministry. But in his personal life it was pretty much of a disaster. And sometimes as we read through the Psalms, we see David, as we saw today, crying out. Oh God, where art thou? How long do I have to search for you? And you find David in this horrible state of insecurity and fear. And constantly worried about where he's at with the Lord. And that's not where God wanted David to be. But because of David's sin. Because of David's shortcomings. He found himself not right with God. And when you're not right with God. And you're not trusting God. Then you're going to have to worry. And you should worry about the world in which you live in. You should worry about all the things that are taking place. But if you know Christ and you love the Lord with all your heart. Then the Bible says that you're not to worry about anything. You're not to be anxious. You're not to be terrified in anything. And Jesus begins to lay this out in a wonderful way. And he said that if you don't come apart, you're going to fall apart. And so we find today concerning this incredible story of David. How he worried about his own position. Because he had sinned against the Lord. And maybe today in our hearts. That we have to confess that we worry way too much. Way too concerned about things. And we're not giving them to God. So you need to give everything you do unto God. And he will guide you and he will lead you. And he will direct you in the ways that he wants you to go. And sometimes we have a ministry in the outside that people look at us. And they see tremendous strength. But if they knew how much we worried about things. About the children. About what's going on. About the finances. About the relationship of marriage. Or being single. Or not being married. Or being widowed. If they knew how much we would worry about things. It would be a whole different thing. And so we find this word worry in a very interesting way. The biblical perspective very simply is that we're not to worry. We're to trust the Lord. And Jesus said, you remember in Matthew 6.25. Therefore I say unto you. Take no thought for your life. That what you shall eat. Or what you shall drink. Or yet for your body what you shall put on. Is not life more than meat. And the body than clothing. In other words, what he is saying. Jesus on the Sermon on the Mount. Is that let me take care of my responsibility. So when you worry. Or when you are filled with anxiety. Or you're fretting. You are pulling the responsibility away from God. And you are now assuming that relationship. Or that responsibility that you have in your own life. God made a commitment to you the day that you came to know him. That he would be your God. And that you would be his people. That he would be the Lord of your life. And that you would be his servants. That he would be the master. And that you would be the slaves. And that you would have no need of anything. That God would take care of you very carefully. That as he knows every sparrow that hits the ground. He knows every hair upon your head. In my case, he is erasing them. And he is putting them out my ears. So I kind of don't understand that personally. But it's kind of like just when you get old. But he knows exactly what's going on. And if I pull back. And I begin to worry about my day. Or about tomorrow. Or about yesterday. That I am basically taking things out of his hand. We see also that Jesus said in John 14 verse 1. Let not your heart be troubled. And in the Greek it means let not your heart be terrified. And he was saying to the disciples. That they were concerned about what was going to happen. And he is saying to them. Don't be troubled. Don't be terrified. Garnish your heart. Protect your heart. Put your heart back upon the Lord. In this world, you are going to have persecution. But in me, greater is he that is in you than he that is in the world. And God is encouraging you. That you would put your heart in Christ. And that you would never allow your heart to become terrified. There are going to be moments. There is going to be fears that are going to pop up. But you need to give those things to God as quick as you can. And then we find very simply. We see that Paul said in Philippians chapter 4 verse 6. Be anxious for nothing. Listen to what he is saying. Be anxious for nothing. But in everything by prayer, supplication, with thanksgiving. Let your requests be known unto God. So we are not to be anxious for anything in our life. Now this is kind of cool. Number 1. We are not to worry about ourselves. Number 2. We are not to be worried about the things going on. Don't let your heart over panic or become filled with anxiety. Don't be terrified. And then here Paul was saying. Don't be anxious for anything. In other words, if that car is yours, it is going to be there. If that wife is going to be yours, she is going to be there. God is going to hold things together until you figure it out. He knows that you are not all there. And so He is going to help you. He is going to put things together. He is going to make sense of your life. But you got to see Him as the master plan of your heart. And then you remember as I mentioned in 1 Peter 5-7. Casting all your cares upon Him because He cares for you. In other words, you are not to hold on to anything in your life. You have not been given the ability to hold on to things. You got to let them go. And great people who can do great things for God are those that let go. They delegate. They facilitate. But the moment you begin to hang on. Trying to become the savior of the world. Worrying about your kids. And worried about your marriage. And worried about this. You need to give those things to God. Not to hang on. And then lastly, we see what David said in Psalm 55-22. Cast thy burden upon the Lord and He will sustain thee. He shall never suffer the righteous to be moved. In other words, He will take care of the emptiness. He will bring you to a point of security. And He will sustain your life. So in a nutshell, before we dive in. Very simply, God is saying in a very profound way. According to the word of God. That you are not to worry about your life. That's God's responsibility. Whatever you need, He's going to take care of. Whatever your relationship might be. Or your need of a relationship. God's going to take care of it. As He does the sparrows. He's going to take care of you much more. He said He gave you a son. How much more will He give you all things freely. You're not to be terrified in your heart. God desires that your heart and your mind will be at peace. And if your mind is stayed upon the Lord. You're going to have peace in your heart. And then it says that you're not to be anxious. Not to be worried. Not to fret. In other words, it's going to work out. All things work out according to God's will. And everything is made beautiful in His time. But you've got to give God time. He said to Ruth. You remember through Naomi. Set still, my daughter. Till He has done the work. In other words, you set still. And God will do the work. You are silent. And God will speak. You stand. And God will move. God wants you to know that He's going to do it. And then you need to cast everything upon Him. And then you need to relax and drop everything upon Him. And that's what I want to talk to you about this morning. Three simple things. I think that can really help in this area. In all of our lives. Myself including. Number one. What are we to do? What are we to do with this type of worrying? And then number two. How are we to do it? How are we to do it? And then number three. Why are we to do it? So what are we to do? And then secondly. How are we to do it? And then number three. Why are we to do it? And I want to explain very simply. So number one. What are we to do? What in the world are we to do? And there's two scriptures we want to look at. First of all in 1 Peter 5-7. What are we to do? We are to cast our cares upon Him. Notice in 1 Peter 5-7. He says, Casting all your cares upon Him. For He careth for you. So Peter now begins to give us a picture. Of what Christ was talking about. In Matthew chapter 6. Verses 25-31. And Peter helps us. Gives us an illustration of what we're to do. With the burdens of our life. With the problems. And the word he uses in the Greek. To cast. Is a kind of unique word. It means to pick up and throw at. So in other words. I'm tired of the burden in my life. I'm tired of this pressure. And I want to get rid of it. But I don't know who to give it to. And Jesus is saying through Peter. Give it to me. And Peter is using the word. Cast it. Throw it to me. He says also place it before me. In other words. Place it right before me Steve. And then he says to scatter it. In other words. Throw the burden right at my feet. So that's the exhortation that Peter is saying. Take this problem. Take this anxiety. Take these kids. Take this husband. Take this job. Take this church. And we throw it at your feet. That's a good thing to do. And the reason why. Is because you're not capable. Of carrying this problem. You've lost your joy. You've lost the peace. There's no longer the voice of God. Live in your heart. Because you have been hanging on. For dear life. And God doesn't want you doing that. And somehow we feel. That we have to hang on to this problem. And so we hang on to our kids. And we will not let them go. And because we hang on. We lose our kids. The moment you're willing to let your kids go to God. You're going to get your kids back. And God is a better parent than you are. And God can work inside of their hearts. And God can get down to the very bottom of the issue. We see in the outside. We hear what we hear. But God knows the intent. And the motive of their heart. And when I'm willing to cast my kids before the Lord. Throw this situation before God. Then God begins to work in a wonderful way. And I want you to start casting your sin of the past before God. Lord, I have been carrying this sin. I'm tired of it. Lord, you know what I've done. You have forgiven me. Here is my sin. And I think you need to cast the presence to God. Today, whatever happens in my life. God, I want to give it to you. As my day is, so shall my strength be. And then concerning the future. If the terrorists hit. Things happen. We go to war. God, I got to believe that you're going to help me get through the day for the glory of God. So I want to start throwing the past, the present, and the future to Jesus Christ. And then also I find the second verse in 1 Peter 5, 7. The second one is in Psalm 55, verse 22. He says, not only cast your cares, but cast your burdens. And this is so important. And it's part of the study. And I want you to listen very carefully in the Hebrew. The word cast here means to let go. It means to relax. It means to drop. And what I believe that David is trying to say is that sometimes you don't have the strength to give it to God. And you don't know how to do it. And you are carrying this weight. And the best way I can explain it. Is when a weightlifter picks up the weight. And he understands that he is in trouble. His legs are beginning to buckle. His knees are beginning to come out of the joint. He knows that he's in trouble. What does he do? He lets go. And the weight just rolls off his hand. He doesn't have the ability to throw that to Jesus. He doesn't have the unique understanding to cast it at his feet. The second word means give your burdens to God. In other words, let go. Relax. Let the thing roll off your back. God, these kids, this marriage, this business. Lord, I can't bear it no more. Then let go. And the moment you let go. God is able to pick it up. And no matter how you let go. When you let go. Or how you let go. Doesn't make a difference. He'll pick it up instantly. Before it even reaches your hand. It begins to roll off your hand and your fingers. And God is right there. He picks it up and puts it down. And that's what you need to understand. When you have the ability to cast. Throw it to God. God, this attitude. This mood. This woman who cut in front of me in the store. My wife. Bless her heart. Bless her heart. I'll tell you. She's a great woman. Because I would have killed this woman. Not my wife. This other woman. I would have killed her right there. Because I just know me. I just come from a different background. She. Both of us were hippies. But she really was a flower child. I was kind of a drug addict, you know. But she had that little flower and long hair when I saw her. And she had that big smile. And the tie dyed. And I remember seeing her in 1970. She was all hippie. Bell bottoms. Beads. The whole shot. And all of a sudden, she's a pet mark. The other day she told me this story. And she said she had this cart. And she turned around to grab the bag. And someone took her cart. Now, that to me is like war. I mean, let's go grab that cart. And run over that person in Jesus' name. Pick it up. Slam him. You know. And then ask forgiveness. You know. Take him to court. You know. Whatever. Don't touch my cart. That's sad. But that's me. She. Bless her heart. She says. She walks up to the gal. She says, is that your cart? And the woman says, well, no. Is it yours? It's mine. And then she said, would you like to share our cart together? And she. The woman said, are you about ready to check out? And gal says, I am. She goes, well, would you mind? No. We'll share the cart together. And so she pushed it up. And all of a sudden, she rang it. And then the woman who took the cart. I hope you're not here right now. Had two teenage boys. And those two teenage boys carried that bag of food out to my wife's car. You see how God works that out? I would have been in prison. Gal gets him carrying bags. I mean, that's the difference between us. Wonderful story. So what do you do? You've got to cast it. And God turns it around. And God does the work. And so I need to learn to cast it or drop the burden. Give it to God. Glory. They stole my cart. Here. How can I turn this thing around? For the glory of God. She did it. And I think God honored her for that in a wonderful way. And so the idea of relaxing. So number one, what are we to do? We're to cast the burden and we're to cast the cares. But number two, how are we to do it? And that's important. I can tell you all day, you need to cast it. Okay, Steve, I'll throw it to God. And Steve, I'll drop it right now. But how do I do that? Well, it tells us in Philippians chapter 4, verse 6, exactly what to do. How are we to do it? Paul says in Philippians 4, 6, Be careful or be anxious for nothing. But in all things by prayer. Here it is. This is how you're going to cast your burdens. You're going to cast them in prayer. And supplication with thanksgiving. Let your requests be known unto God. So very simply, he says, by praying, by supplication, and by thanksgiving. And the peace of God which passes all understanding shall keep your heart and your mind through Christ. And all I want to say is this. You need to start talking to God. You need to start telling God how you feel. You need to tell God what's going on in your heart. You need to tell God how upset you are about a situation. You're good at telling everybody else. And you're good at destroying everybody else. But I believe that you need to come to a point that you can look God in the face and say, I am not happy with this whole situation. It won't be a problem for God. Martha said very simply to Jesus, where were you? If I was Jesus, she'd be smoke. That's why I'm not God, you know. All of a sudden, Martha says, where were you? If you would have been here, my brother would have not have died. Jesus said, Martha, Martha, bless your heart. I'm the resurrection and the light. Well, where were you? Martha, where's Lazarus? He's dead. He stinks. Martha, do you believe? Well, yeah. Roll away the tomb. But Lord, he stinks. Martha, I thought you believed. I do, but he still stinks. Martha, roll that thing away. Lazarus, come forth. And he comes forth. You see, God was willing. And I think sometimes we think the power of the story is in the resurrection. It is. But I think the power of the story is that he listened to Martha, griping and complaining and making accusations. But here's the wonderful thing. Martha was talking to Jesus Christ. And God wants you to talk to him. And God wants you to complain to him. And God wants you to pour your heart out to him. And God, I don't understand. We've raised the kids the right way. We've done this. What in the world is going on? And God will speak back. And he'll tell you exactly what you need to hear. And so by prayer, all of a sudden, by supplication, I remember early in my life, God said, pray for this car. And I said, I can't pray for that car. I'm a pastor. I can't pray for carnal things. But we were in 29 palms making $25 a week. God said, pray for this car. Finally, I prayed for that car. Within eight hours, this guy knocked on the door. He said, you've been praying for a car? I said, yeah. He says, here's the keys. Brand new car. He says, there's one condition. In my mind, I thought, yeah, always a condition. I said, what is that? He goes, you need to drive me home. I have no way home. I went, oh God, forgive me. But you know what I learned? Here's what I learned. Ready for this? God's in the car business. God's in the car business. So how many of you bought cars this year? You don't have to raise your hand. You know I'm going to embarrass you. I won't do that. Did you ask God to give you a car before you bought it? No. Well, you have not? Help me out. Because you asked not. You see, you need to learn to talk to God. You need to ask God, Lord, I'm going to go here, here, here. And I'm going to spend your money buying clothes for the kids. God, I need a cell. You can talk to Cheryl. She has great connections, Rob's wife. She knows where all the cells are. God, show me the cells. Lord, I want to get more out of my money. God would love to do that with you. In fact, he'll go shopping with you. He'll have a wonderful time. Then you can start complaining about your weight. I can't fit in. Lord, help me lose weight. Steve, I'd love to help you. You see, we don't let God into our lives. Oh, we love God. We worship God. But we don't have time to talk to God. God, I want you to know that you need to cast. You need to share the burden. And you need to start talking to God in prayer. Lord, here's my kids. God, here's my wife. God, here's my church. God, here's the finances. And I believe that that's so important within your life. And watch what God's going to do. And lastly, this is my favorite. What I said at the very beginning, I love. What are we to do? We're to cast our cares and we're to cast our burdens. And then how are we to do it? We're to begin to talk to God. But this last one, I think, is for me. Why are we to do it? I'm one of these guys that I need to know why. Why do I do it? And here is the answer, I think, for my life. Very simply, go back to verse 7 of chapter 5 of 1 Peter. Number 1, because God cares. He says here in 1 Peter 5, 7, Now I'm going to tell you, point blank, sometimes in your life, you don't like yourself. Sometimes you don't like looking in the mirror. Sometimes you don't like the way you think or the way you're acting. And you're probably right. Your attitude probably really stinks. You're not really friendly. You're really nasty. And you're all selfish. And all these things are going on. But I want you to know that in the midst of all that, God cares. And what He's saying is that if you don't care, I do care. So give me it. Well, Lord, no one wants this. I do. Give it to me. And you begin to look at yourself. And you say, well, no one cares. No one cares in this church. Listen, God does care. And because He cares, I'm willing to give it to Him. And there are moments in my life that I get discouraged. I get depressed. I become overwhelmed. I don't know what to do with my life. Is it time to move? Is it time to stay? What am I to do? And I begin to say, well, I just don't know what to do anymore. The pressure is too great. And then I hear this voice, Stephen, you don't care right now about anything except you. But I care about your future, about what you're doing here. You need to give me back the church. And I give it back to Him. And all of a sudden, He's the one who really cares for my soul. So you know something? When you find a friend that cares, you give him everything. And when Jesus Christ becomes the one who cares, He said, give it to me. I care. Secondly, I find because God sustains. Notice the reason why is because God cares in chapter 5, verse 7. But in Psalm 55, verse 22, the very last portion, In other words, when you're empty. And you're out of the ball game. And there's nothing left in your heart to give. And there's no longer the ability to love your spouse. Or to go that second mile with your kids. Or get up and go back to work again. God wants you to know that He is your strength. He'll sustain you. He'll satisfy you. He'll put the longing in your heart. He'll put the need deep within your life. God, I can't go one more day. Stephen, I know that. But you know something? I care and I'll be your strength. I'll sustain you. I'll fill your cup. Lord, I've been in sin. Steve, I'll fill your cup. Because I love you. And my love is so committed to you that I care for you. And I'll sustain you. And I'll fill you up as your day is. So show your strength to me. And God will get you through that day. And you'll go to bed and think, How did I get through this day? You didn't. He did. He'll sustain you. And lastly, before we close, Is the third thing. Because God keeps. Notice He says here in Philippians 4, 7. And the peace of God, which passes all understanding, Underlying shall keep your heart and your mind. The keeping power of God. And sometimes we want to walk away, don't we? Sometimes we want nothing to do with the pressure. And we have been taught to walk away from things. We don't know how to face issues. We don't know how to deal with problems. And so we run from problems. We will not face situations. And we're so worried that everything is going to turn bad in our life. But let me ask you the question this morning. How in the world can we think this way, If we have a God who cares, And a God that sustains, And a God that will keep you? In other words, what in the world can go wrong? And I read statistics the other day that 85% of the things that you worry about Will never come to pass. It is Satan robbing you of your joy. So here's what I want you to do this morning. I want you to almost make a commitment before God. Father, today, I will learn to cast my cares And let go of my burdens at your feet. You can do that. So God, take everything that is robbing my joy And killing my flesh and destroying my life. God, you take it. Because I'm not capable. I'm losing heart. And then secondly, I want to start talking to you. I want to tell you what's going on in my heart. And then lastly, God, you do care. You will sustain. And you will keep me In the midst of my problems. So no more worry. I'm going to trust you. Pastor Steve Mays, Sharing how we can overcome worry in our lives. You know, the Christian life is sometimes referred to As a race with many hurdles. Hurdles that may seem impossible to clear. The fact is we all have days When we find ourselves tripped up and kissing the dirt. I think you know the hurdles I'm talking about. Hurdles such as worry and discouragement, Hostility and fear. Well, in Steve's series called Overcoming, You'll learn principles that can help you get above And beyond your overwhelming circumstances. The message you just heard is taken from this series. And for just $30, We'll send the entire 12-part study right to your door. Don't let the hurdles of this life bring you down any longer. Ask for the Overcoming series today. Call 800-339-WISE. That's 800-339-WISE. You can also write to us at Light of the Word, Box 300, Torrance, CA 90507. Or place your order online at lightoftheword.org. That's lightoftheword.org. Summer of Sermons continues When Pastor Steve takes us back to the book of Genesis. There he shows why every day is a good day. Praise the Lord. Steve encourages us to put God first in our lives. When we continue here on Light of the Word. Light of the Word. Light of the Word. Hope shines in darkness. So follow the light of the Word.
Overcoming Worry
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Steve Mays (1950–October 2, 2014) was an American Christian preacher and pastor, best known for his transformative leadership of Calvary Chapel South Bay in Gardena, California, and his national radio ministry, Light of the Word. Born in Los Angeles, California, Mays grew up in a turbulent environment, descending into drug addiction, gang involvement with a motorcycle group in Orange County, and draft evasion during the Vietnam War by destroying his draft papers. His early life was marked by arrests for petty crimes, a gunshot wound to the leg, and erratic behavior—like flooding his parents’ home while high on LSD—until a radical conversion in 1970. Introduced to Calvary Chapel Costa Mesa’s Chuck Smith through a Christian halfway house, Mansion Messiah, he found faith and purpose, emerging as a key figure in the Jesus Movement. Mays began preaching in 1972, becoming senior pastor of Calvary Chapel South Bay in 1980, a role he held for 34 years until his death. Under his leadership, the church grew from a small congregation to over 9,000 weekly attendees, prompting a move in 1998 to an 8-acre, 140,000-square-foot complex with an extension campus for Calvary Chapel Bible College. Known simply as “Pastor Steve,” he preached with raw transparency, drawing from his past to connect with the broken. He authored Overwhelmed by God and Overcoming, hosted Light of the Word on 300+ stations, and developed the South Los Angeles CHP Chaplain Program. Despite chronic pain from numerous surgeries—including a fatal back operation complicated by a blood clot—he saw suffering as a ministry, inspiring others with resilience. Married to Gail, who led the women’s ministry, he had two children, Nathan and Heather, and died at 64 in Rancho Palos Verdes, leaving a legacy of grace and redemption.