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Anger Destroys Families
Shane Idleman

Shane Idleman (1972 - ). American pastor, author, and speaker born in Southern California. Raised in a Christian home, he drifted from faith in his youth, pursuing a career as a corporate executive in the fitness industry before a dramatic conversion in his late 20s. Leaving business in 1999, he began studying theology independently and entered full-time ministry. In 2009, he founded Westside Christian Fellowship in Lancaster, California, relocating it to Leona Valley in 2018, where he remains lead pastor. Idleman has authored 12 books, including Desperate for More of God (2011) and Help! I’m Addicted (2022), focusing on spiritual revival and overcoming sin. He launched the Westside Christian Radio Network (WCFRadio.org) in 2019 and hosts Regaining Lost Ground, a program addressing faith and culture. His ministry emphasizes biblical truth, repentance, and engagement with issues like abortion and religious liberty. Married to Morgan since 1997, they have four children. In 2020, he organized the Stadium Revival in California, drawing thousands, and his sermons reach millions online via platforms like YouTube and Rumble.
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This sermon addresses the critical roles of men in leading, guarding, and sacrificing for their families. It highlights the dangers of passivity and anger, emphasizing the need for men to step up, repent of destructive behaviors, and take responsibility for their actions. The message calls for a return to challenging and convicting truths, urging men to seek repentance, ask for forgiveness, and actively lead their families in a Godly manner.
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You know, let me just briefly talk to men if I would There's going to be two things that will take you down and your family down and that's passivity Doing nothing and that's anger You will have to fight one of those two You're either passive and accomplishing nothing and leading no one or you're an angry tyrant at home dominating And men we are called to lead our families We are called to guard them we are called to die for them if necessary And to be quite honest with you i'm getting tired of weak passive men who do nothing Or angry tyrants who rule their house with a rod of iron We are the reason that the nation is in the condition. It is and we are Men, it falls directly upon our shoulders It rests Stop blaming god and the government. We are the abomination that is a stench in the nostrils of a righteous. Holy pure god It rests squarely upon our shoulders And you might say man, you're being a little bit hard Well, I was going to read this next weekend and I might do it then but let me just let me have you come into My world for one second tonight and let me just share with you some of the emails I get and you tell me if that's too hard. Let me read what this wife and this mom wrote. I won't watch my kids be physically abused anymore. I won't listen to my girls be called vile, vulgar names. I won't have things smashed or broken in the house. I won't get into a vehicle and listen to him rage. No more spending time together by me scrapbooking and him looking at pornography just a few feet away on the computer. I refuse to stay at home and not attend church because I feel guilty for leaving him alone. I will not worship quietly or secretly again. I never believed in divorce, so I just keep on trying and trying to be more perfect. I can no longer bear it. I'm not dying inside. I have died. Listen, folks, that's the condition of our nation. This man does not need to be coddled and comforted. He needs to be challenged and he needs to be convicted. Some of you men in this room, anger is a problem and you need to repent of it tonight or it will destroy you and it will destroy your family. We've got little kids saying, Daddy, show me how to be a man. And little girls saying, Daddy, show me, hold me. Daddy, I want you to be there. But because of anger and controlling and dominance, it's not happening. You are breaking the spirit of your family and it needs to end tonight. Yeah, this is a hard message and it's time to bring back the hard messages to be quite honest with you. We've been coddling and comforting too long. It's time to start challenging and convicting. Let the Word of God fall. Let the Word of God change the heart. The only hope for you is repentance to say, I was wrong. I've been wrong. Lord, will you forgive me? Go to your spouse, go to your children and say, I've been wrong. Will you forgive me? And take that initial step because that's what's destroying our family, our nation as well. Men are not leading at home. I see it all the time. This is just one example of many, either anger or passivity. He doesn't lead, he doesn't do anything. He doesn't pray. It's a woman who has to initiate Bible study. She has to initiate church. She has to initiate anything spiritually. So either we're dead or we're abusive. And it's time to start finding that middle ground. And it begins with repentance. It begins like Nephilim say with a broken heart, crying out to God and saying, Lord, would you change me tonight?
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Shane Idleman (1972 - ). American pastor, author, and speaker born in Southern California. Raised in a Christian home, he drifted from faith in his youth, pursuing a career as a corporate executive in the fitness industry before a dramatic conversion in his late 20s. Leaving business in 1999, he began studying theology independently and entered full-time ministry. In 2009, he founded Westside Christian Fellowship in Lancaster, California, relocating it to Leona Valley in 2018, where he remains lead pastor. Idleman has authored 12 books, including Desperate for More of God (2011) and Help! I’m Addicted (2022), focusing on spiritual revival and overcoming sin. He launched the Westside Christian Radio Network (WCFRadio.org) in 2019 and hosts Regaining Lost Ground, a program addressing faith and culture. His ministry emphasizes biblical truth, repentance, and engagement with issues like abortion and religious liberty. Married to Morgan since 1997, they have four children. In 2020, he organized the Stadium Revival in California, drawing thousands, and his sermons reach millions online via platforms like YouTube and Rumble.