The video being recommended is "How to Live a Broken Life" by Nancy DeMoss. Nancy DeMoss is a speaker who travels with Life Action and has a powerful testimony of living a life of brokenness before the Lord. She emphasizes the importance of humility and surrendering to God's will in every area of our lives. Despite coming from a wealthy background, Nancy exemplifies modesty and a genuine heart for God. The video encourages viewers to embrace brokenness as a pathway to experiencing the joy and transformation that comes from a deep relationship with God.

Well, it's a real joy to be here, so we'll get the bookkeeping out of the way in the beginning. Down here in the front, there is some steps to action put together by my brother back here, and if you'd like a look at those, and he can take your order. If you're in counseling, you'll find that a really good counseling tool. He's put together from three different basic organizations, from Neil Anderson. Neil Anderson is a real dear friend of mine, and I did a set of videos with him on children. So if you bought his videos on children, I'm one of the people in there. Johanna Mickelson, The Beautiful Side of Evil, he read that book, and her journey into the occult and her journey out of it was one of the speakers at that conference and so on. But we do have a new book that just came out from our office, Mark Hubeck's book, Raising Lambs Amongst the Wolves. It's about spiritual warfare in children and how you can help your children. Mark is now retired, but Mark was a conservative Baptist pastor that didn't believe in spiritual warfare until one of his own daughters, who is married to a president of a large mission today, but his own daughter came under tremendous attack. He didn't know what was going on, but he knew that it wasn't normal, and that's how Mark got into it many, many years ago. Anyway, Mark has written a book for children, and then my book, Reclaiming Surrendered Ground, and they asked us to do a video with it, some of the families did, on how to use this book as a counseling tool, because basically if you read this book, it's what we do with a counselee in a week's time. So if someone comes for counseling, basically what's in this book is what we do. Not necessarily in this order, this is in a reading order, not necessarily in a counseling order, but that's what we do. So there's a video on how to use that, and then there's also a video we did on counseling children, because we do so much counseling of children that are hurting, and in fact, even here, we had counseling appointments ahead of time, where I've been meeting with people, and basically it's been, not necessarily children, but basically they've been teenagers. One having horrible, intruding thoughts, unbelievable thoughts that were just destroying this girl. It was just bombarding her mind, and she just couldn't stop them, and the more she got upset, the worse they got. All kinds of violence and evil and everything just hitting this girl's mind, and here she has been homeschooled, and the family's conservative, and she loves the Lord, and her mind was just being horribly under attack. Another homeschooled family where the girls do out-of-body experiences, and are communicating with one another through telepathy and all of that. And the people at my booth are saying, well, they didn't look like they were having that much problems, but you can't always tell by looking, you know, you can't always tell what's going on in the inside by the outside. And then we have this workbook that a lot of people have used as Bible studies, that was designed because people asked us to. In fact, all this stuff was because people asked us to do it, because we really don't have time to do this stuff. So that's a workbook. So they're all for sale out there if you want them. We want to talk, focus this time on moms. Doing a lot of homeschool conventions, it's been a real blessing, and go to different states and to do these when we can work them in, and just a lot of conferences that we do. We get a lot of involvement with moms, and I think moms have some very special vulnerabilities and some very, very special needs. And moms, you know, I think a homeschool mom is under a tremendous amount of pressure. I mean, am I right? You know, I mean, you're supposed to, you know, clean the house, and you're supposed to do all this, you know, and some of these are into real natural stuff, you know, and you're supposed to grind your wheat and make your bread, you know what I'm saying, and do all of this stuff. And, you know, it's like super mom, you know, she comes out of the bedroom with her cape on and flies to the house, you know, and does her thing. And I think one of the things, and just sharing from my heart before we get into the word about moms and some of the attacks, but one of the things I think is really important, mom, is learning to change half. I think that's really vital. One of the things that we're finding and is dealing with just literally thousands of homeschool families, and that is that sometimes the kids never get out of school. You know what I'm saying? They're never out of school. And they're saying, you know, if I went to the public school, at least, you know, I'd go leave the house at nine in the morning, and I'd come home at three, but I'd become home, you know, and here I'm in school, and I never get out of school. You know, and here you are the teacher, you're the homeroom mom, and you're the recreation mom, or the playground mom, you know, you're just the principal, you're all of this. When are you mom? You know, when are you just mom? When can you just be mom? And you need to just be mom. Very important, you know, if you don't get through everything, and there's different kinds of moms, and I know there's different personalities, and there's certain moms that are the goal-oriented kind, and I mean, come a flood or whatever, they're going to get it done, and they've got these goals, and they achieve those goals, and there's other moms that just kind of let it happen, you know what I'm saying? In fact, the one that's probably the healthiest is the one that just kind of lets it happen. She doesn't get all uptight about it, I didn't get my goal, I didn't get through all this teaching today, and all this. Just flow with the flow. You know, homeschooling is tremendous, and as we were driving down today, there's all kinds of new attacks on homeschooling. The principal has a meeting in Washington, D.C. this week, and are lobbying to be able to approve your textbooks and some other things. We just got that on a fax from Washington, D.C. from somebody. I mean, we just got it last night at the Fay's house, and see, we're telling about it today. So, you know, you're under attack. You're not only under attack of the enemy, you're under attack by the system, because they don't like what you're doing, and they want you back into the system, or at least they want to control what you teach at home. So, there's a real paddle going on out there, and so I think another scripture you need to hold on to, and that is, don't be weary in well-doing, because you will reap. It's really, it's really worthwhile. I was just sharing with my buddy here. He was one of my students in Bible college, and he knew my kids when they were younger, and sometimes, you know, we wondered, we were not homeschoolers, because in those days, homeschooling wasn't, you know, missionaries did it on the mission field, but people didn't do it much here, but, you know, as we kept praying, and we were not, we were far from perfect parents, but God saw fit that all of our children accepted Christ, and then out of our four children, three of them wanted to go into full-time Christian ministry, and they went into full, and my other daughter and her husband are very involved in a local church. All of my grandchildren are saved, and my oldest grandchild has just finished her first year of Bible college. So, you know, we just thank God. I mean, that's what we want, and it isn't that we were perfect. We were far from perfect. I mean, just ask my kids. They'll tell you. We were far from perfect, but our heart was, we wanted our kids to walk with the Lord, you know, and we wanted to be very careful, and being a Christian ministry, there's two sides. I know that families can get very critical about Christian leaders, you know, about the church. You have roasted, you know, pastor on Sunday, but my kids are in the pastor's family, and we could have roasted congregation. You know, you can roast the other way. But, you know, kids don't need to, and my son is a youth pastor of a huge church, and he has a full-time assistant working with him, and my son didn't, I was sharing, my son had his first real bad conflict in the church. I'm glad he had it. I mean, he needed to get it, you know, because he's going to go through it, and it was really devastating. It was devastating to his wife, because she didn't grow up in, she grew up in a Christian family, but not one in ministry, and she didn't think people treated people in ministry that way. I mean, she had her, she couldn't believe it. And so when I started sharing some of our war stories, my son couldn't believe it, because we never shared war stories in front of him growing up, because he wasn't part of the problem, part of the solution. So be careful about sharing negative things about Christians or Christianity or whatever in front of your children, because they can pick up on it, and Satan can grab a hold of that, and all of a sudden, when they're old enough, they're out of here. You know what I mean? They just don't want any part of the church, they don't want any part of Christ, they don't want any part of this thing, and they're out of it. So be really careful that you don't become a tool to discourage your kids in walking with the Lord and being a Christian. But moms, I would like you to go to Peter, I think there's some wonderful teachings here in Peter that I'd like to share with you. In fact, we were talking back at, well, they have free coffee and donuts for the speakers, and some of the women were talking, they said, oh, you're going to talk to the moms, and then they found out I'm going to talk to the dads. So dads, you don't want to go in there, because I'm going to be nice on the moms, but I hope to roast a few dads. So you don't want to be roasted, skip the meeting in the small arena, because I really want to come down hard on you, because a lot of the frustration in the family, and a lot of frustrations the moms are having, it's with her husband. You know, because this is a big issue, and she needs help and support. And so I want to hit the dads kind of hard, but I'll be nice on your moms. I'll be real gentle. I just did a mother's seminar, and I was gentle, but then the lady that followed me, she's like Elizabeth Elliott. I mean, she just annihilated the ladies. Well, a lady can annihilate ladies, but a man can't do that. So I won't do that. But I want to, you know, when Jim Voss, most of you don't know who Jim Voss is, probably, unless you are mature like I am. But I was saved through the Navigators at nineteen and a half years of age. I met my first Christian when I was nineteen. And in Los Angeles, Billy Graham had the, you know, you see now he's celebrating, it shows that tent meeting he had. Well, Jim Voss, mom and dad taught at Biola College, and Jim Voss ran off with money, ended up in Leavenworth Prison, got out, got involved with the L.A. Police Department, put wire taps all over, and then he eventually worked for the Mafia, and he would put the wire taps in the Mafia homes, and then the Mafia would hire him to take them out. Anyway, this guy was working for both the police and that, and he was a real mess. And Jim Voss went to the Billy Graham meeting. The next day, he was to fly to St. Louis, and his wife loved the Lord. His wife was just about ready to have their baby. And Billy Graham said something, and I know a lot of evangelists say this, but this isn't Billy Graham's type thing. He just said, there's somebody here tonight that if you don't accept the Lord, this is it. This is your last call from God. And he knew it was him, and he came down and got saved. If he'd gone to St. Louis, the Mafia was waiting for him to kill him and dump him into the river in St. Louis. And so the night before, God gave him his last call. Well, Jim went to his folks. He cleared his conscience, which cost him everything. That's when I came in. I got saved a week later. And they're moving this guy and his wife out of their home in Beverly Hills with a swimming pool into this dump. I mean, they had the kind of furniture that we had when we first got married. I wasn't married at that time. We had early nothing. You guys have a lot of that, you know, kind of early nothing? Well, that's what they had. I mean, here was an apple box and a chair with no back on it around this. And this wife's so happy. I'm going, what's wrong with this woman? You know what I mean? They're moving out of Beverly Hills, moving into this old, old, old house with nothing. But to clear his conscience, it cost him everything. I mean, he lost. And he went before the grand jury because he got the police chief of Los Angeles fired. So he went before the grand jury and told them he had lied about the police chief. And he impacted the life of a fellow by the name of Bill Gothard. Because Bill Gothard was a high school student, heard this guy speak about how he cleared his conscience and what it cost him. And Bill thought it's not worth sinning. You know, if you have to go back and make it right, it'd be better not to make it wrong in the first place. Kind of made sense, you know, to keep his heart right. So he ministered to this young high school student, had no idea how he'd grab ahold of that and make it part of his message of getting your heart right with God and with people, like Paul says, but in Acts that he has. Well, when Jim Voss got saved, he went to his, his, his mom and dad who were still teaching in Biola. And the mom said, Jim, don't forget this. And this was the point of the story. The devil loves a shining mark. The devil loves a shining mark. And when you decided to pull your kids out of the system and you decided to make your home a lighthouse and you decided to protect your children from a lot of the evil, and we talked about strongholds and that kind of stuff. And you decided to do that. You put on a bullseye and the enemy would love for you to stop doing what you're doing. And you'd be amazed. The opposition comes from the wrong people. Isn't that right? I was wounded. What's the scripture say? I was wounded. David said, I was wounded in the house of friends. It comes from Christians. You're homeschooling. You don't look at your kids like there's something wrong with them. Why are you homeschooling? It comes from your parents and other relatives. Why are you doing this? You're going to ruin these kids. They're going to be stunted. They're not going to have any social skills. You've heard all that stuff. What you keep doing is you just keep on keeping on because God has called you to this. This is a ministry that God's called you to. And you're going to keep on keeping on. And you don't have to have the encouragement of people because you know you're doing what's right. And when you do what's right, you will have opposition. Trust me. You will have opposition. When I got involved in this ministry, I was really concerned about it because I knew that people would really attack us. Because my thought of people that do what I do is the kind of people that handle rattlesnakes. You know, those religious people with the rattlesnakes. And I thought, I don't want to be one of those snake handlers. You know, that's just not the way I am. And I knew there would be, and I've had all kinds of terrible opposition. You know, get real nasty letters and stuff. And one nasty letter goes a long ways. So if you're thinking of writing me a nasty letter, pray about it before you send it. But at 1 Peter 3, as he's talking about wives, he's talking here, it's in the context, 1 Peter 3 follows 1 Peter 2 in the sad part of the following there, I believe that it's a wrong chapter division. Now remember, Scripture was not written with chapter divisions. Someone stuck it in. Well, we don't really need it in the small epistles, but if you want to find something in the middle of Isaiah and you don't have a chapter or verse, you're going to do a lot of reading. And so it's a real blessing, but here it doesn't, it's just kind of, if you read 3 without understanding 2, it doesn't fit. It's just because he's taking a theme. And basically what Peter's all about is about Christian suffering. Christians are going to suffer. In 1 Peter 4, verse 19, he says, Wherefore, let them that suffer according to the will of God, commit the keeping of their souls to Him, and well-doing of them to a faithful Creator. So if you've heard the teaching that believers, you know, don't suffer and everything is wonderful, that's teaching about heaven. That's not teaching about here, because Paul said we will suffer. You can suffer according to the will of God, or you can suffer because of sin. He's not talking about suffering because of doing wrong here. He's talking about you are doing right and you're going to suffer. Suffering is part of God's purifying process. That's what he starts out in the first part of Peter, that we go through the flames to purify ourselves. And we go through the flames to be purified. And so as we go through the flames, as gold goes through, the way to purify gold is to heat it up. He talks about Daniel's three friends that went into the fiery furnace, or he says that, Beloved, think not strange, in verse 12, concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened to you. When we go through fiery trials, what do we say? Why us? Don't you say that? I mean, we lived in this beautiful old home. You would have loved it. I mean, it had a sliding ladder with glass, you know, library. I mean, it was an uptown home for a downtown price. It was a beautiful, beautiful restored home. Had five secret things where part of the bookcase slid. And I mean, it was just an unbelievable house. Gorgeous. But it was old and my wife's health is not very good. We are a lot older than what we look, or maybe we're a lot younger than what we look. I don't know. But anyway, we're getting up there. And so my wife has a real hard time climbing the stairs. It was like a three-story house. So we bought a new house, because new houses don't have problems, right? You know, these old houses do. We bought this new house. It is unbelievable. The walls fell down in a rainstorm. This winter, our foundation of the garage is moving towards the street. It's just unbelievable. And there's some things in the basement I'm seeing. I don't know. And it's like, I got to be Peter. You know, why what? You know, what did I do wrong, God? I'm serving you. I'm trying. I'm doing my best I can to help families, you know. And we all go through this stuff, right? And the first thing is, why us? Why do we have to go through this? And he's saying, why not you? If the fire is a purifying process, why not you? We will go through these times. But I think it's interesting. When these Daniel's three friends went through the fiery trial, what was burnt? Only the ropes that bound them. And what is interesting, as those fellows were going through the fires, those outside watching, who did they see? They saw the Lord. There's no indication that the three fellows in the furnace ever saw Him. It doesn't say in Scripture. And we go through the fire, whether we see Christ or not, but the unsaved watching world need to see Christ in my response to suffering. Because if your commitment to Christ as a family and as an individual doesn't work in suffering, let me tell you, friends, it doesn't work. I don't need it as a non-Christian. If it only... Why do I need to go to your club on Sunday? I go to mine with my stick and little ball. I chase the ball around. Why do I need to go to your club? If what you have doesn't work in the hard time, I don't need to go to your club. I just need to go to mine. And I've already gone through the fires a thousand times. And so, we will go through the fires. And when we go through it, it's amazing, we pray to be godly. Don't we? And then we shovel away all the tools. Now, I usually don't use canned illustrations ever, but this is a canned one, I want you to know. I don't know where I heard it, but I liked it. Some guy went in and this guy was doing General Grant on the and he was chiseling away and the guy was watching him for a while, and then he looked down and he said, where's your plan? What do you mean, plan? He said, well, you know, you're doing this huge thing. Where's the plans you're following? The guy said, I don't have any plans. He said, well, then how do you know what to do? He said, well, I'm chipping away at everything that doesn't look like a horse. And see, that's what God is doing, isn't He? He's chipping away at everything that doesn't look like Jesus, because He wants us to look like Jesus. He wants people to see Christ in us. And we need to be open to let Him chip away. And to chip as our family. All families are set up by Christ. And so there's going to be conflicts and struggles in a family. These conflicts and struggles in a family either can pull a family together or divide a family. Isn't that right? We can all get on the same side of the struggle and pull together. And so it isn't the issue so much as how we respond to the issue. God is not as concerned about what we go through as a family or what you're going through as a mother in that family as He is to your response to what you're going through. Trials have never destroyed anybody. It's my response to trials that have destroyed me. And so Peter is all about this. And he's talking here in chapter 2 about suffering for doing right. Do you know that you are not called to preach? You're not called to be a missionary? You're not called to be a homeschool family? The only calling in the Word of God for believers is to suffer. That's your calling. You say, well, where do you get that? Well, you get it out of 2 Peter. He's talking here about if you do right and you suffer for it, I mean, if you do wrong and you suffer for it and you take it patiently, you ought to. But you do right and you suffer for it And that's the reason I say, God can be glorified. That means the glory of God can come on your life. I love reading Christian biographies. When we got rid of our TV when my son was 4 years old, he was now 30. So that was kind of a while ago. And we got rid of the thing because the reason we got rid of it is because my wife wouldn't watch it, my daughters wouldn't watch it, and the only person watching it was their Christian pastor father. You know, it's kind of convicting when the kids said, we won't watch it because they're saying bad words on it. You know, we were watching really raunchy programs like Lucy and, you know, Bonanza. I mean, that was on at that time. And my kids just wouldn't watch it. So we got rid of the television, but I knew if you take something out, you have to replace it as a whole. And so what we did, we began to buy biographies of great Christians. We have now about, I know, I've counted them, the last time I counted, it's over a thousand of them. And so our kids grew up, and their heroes, you know, wasn't this lady that just announced her lifestyle. But they were Hudson Taylor. You know, Charles Finney. The men and women of God whose lives changed the course of a nation. And so our kids were raised on these people. And so they need... But every single person, if you read the lives of Christians that were ever used of God in any country, missionaries or whatever they were, pastors and whatever, all of them suffered. All of them suffered. And you can see them going through the suffering and follow them through. And those who become bitter, you see their ministry diminishing. And those who will draw from God's grace, because God says when we suffer and we don't draw from His grace, we will become bitter. And if you read my book, you realize that when people come to us under demonic influence, all of them, all of them, we have thousands that come through that know that they are under the influence of demonic spirits. All of them have a road of bitterness. Many of you have read Dr. Anderson's books, Neil Anderson's stuff, he'll tell you the same thing. Bill Gothenburg is up here. He'll say, Bill, as you've helped people to get free from oppression and so on in their life, what was one of the common things you found in their life? It would be bitterness. Paul says when we're bitter, we give Satan an advantage over our life. In 2 Corinthians 2. Well, how can I be very successful as a homeschool parent if I have resentment and bitterness because of the suffering I'm going through and I'm giving Satan the advantage? Doesn't make sense, does it? And the problem with suffering, as we said, is the who. And often for a mom, to be real honest, the person that causes the mom some of the greatest heartache is the fellow she's married to. I know, I mean, I know that's true. And fellows, we don't want to make it hard for our wives. And difficult for them to do the task that God's called them to do. So, as he gets down to verse 3 now, oh, I forgot to read this, where he said, you know, if you take it patiently when you suffer for it, doing right, this is an acceptable God. And then the very next verse says, for here unto were you called. So, we're called to suffer. And to follow the example of Jesus in suffering. And how he dealt with it. And we've got all that in the book and how to deal with bitterness and get rid of it. But let's go down to chapter 3 now as he moves to the application of suffering to people. He says, likewise ye wives. Well, likewise refers to chapter 2. Likewise ye wives, what? What's he talking here to wives? He says, first of all, be in subjection to your own husband. And that's not easy. See, there are two things in the Bible that I think are unnatural. It is unnatural for a man to love his wife because men love themselves. And it's unnatural for a woman to submit to her husband. And you can say, well, how do you know that? I don't believe God ever commands us to do what is natural. Right? I mean, if it's natural, he doesn't command us to do it. He commands a husband to what? Love your wives. In Ephesians, he commands wives to what? Submit to their husbands because it's just not natural. Me, obey him. Someone wrote a book on that. Remember that? Me obey this guy. Are you kidding? Live with him. You know, he's not perfect. Oh, really? Probably his wife isn't either. She may be a little more perfect, but you know, we're all what? People in process, aren't we? It says the Scripture will perfect that which concerns me. So we're all in a process. You know, when we're not around anymore, then we know that the perfection was done. You know, God took us. I mean, the only guy I know that was really perfected was, oh, what's his name? You know, that walked in this and then left his sandals. Who was it? Enoch. Yeah, Enoch. And I think they left his sandals. You know, and I think when the rapture takes place, either we're going to put holes in the ceiling or our shoes are going to be left on the floor or something. I was teaching at CEF and I mentioned that and when the Lord comes and takes us home, wherever you believe that's going to happen, maybe you don't believe it's going to happen, but wherever you believe it's going to happen, I said, well, I believe he's going to leave the shoes. So we had one kid that always came late to class every day. So what we did is we all took our shoes off, mine was up at the pulpit, and then they had their shoes off and we all walked out of the room and the guy walked in with a bunch of shoes, you know. He slept in and missed it all. So he says, and that means to get under. The SGB, rank under. Get under your husband. And then he goes on and he says that if any husband obeys not the word, that they may without the word be won by the life or the conversation of the wife. When I was teaching in this Bible college, there was a very, very squeaky squeaky, squeaky, squeaky independent Baptist church that fought. And our school was really squeaky. Wasn't it Mark? Yeah, it really was. And so, but they weren't sure that I should speak for the women's group in that church. You know, maybe I wasn't squeaky enough. You know, I wasn't straight and conservative enough to speak. So they allowed me to come and I knew I had to get them. I just knew it. I came to the church, the huge church in Kansas City, and all of these ladies were in the church. And just, you have to understand, this is where they're coming from. Some of you won't struggle what they struggle with, but this was, I knew it would be the struggle. So I got up there and I said, oh, I'm so thankful you asked me to come and all this kind of thing. And then, I don't know how I got into it, but I just, when was the last time they had a woman evangelist in their church? And I mean, you should have looked. The look on their faces was like, what in the world is he saying? And I said, did I say something wrong? I mean, you don't have... Women don't preach in your church? They're giving their purses, picking up their Bibles. I mean, we're having the big exit here in a minute. I'm doing the Moses thing. I'm driving them out of Egypt, you know. So they're gathering their things up and the woman who had me come, I know she was so embarrassed. You know, how in the world did this guy show up at our independent Baptist church? And I said, oh, you mean that if you had a woman evangelist that your husbands wouldn't come and hear her? And the lady said, no. And then I said, well, they probably wouldn't want to be married to one either. And that's what it's saying here, isn't it? It's saying, wives be careful. The natural tendency of a wife is to preach at her husband. Now, I was going to have the girl from The Harp. I went down to see The Harp. There's some real neat friends there. The Cannons are real good friends of mine. If you haven't looked at their curriculum, you ought to look at it. Inga Cannon and them, they're really good friends. The people at Camp Joyelle, Miguel was going around a little, you know, a little motorized thing. Man, they got a story. Doris Altman, her story is unbelievable. We talked about a woman that suffered. This woman could go blind today, right here. That's why she doesn't need to be blind. She plays the piano and has to have swing. Have you ever seen Doris do it? In a church where they're at, she would crawl on the floor because she can't walk. She'd get up on the organ and play the organ and sing. And this woman has suffered as I have known very few people have ever suffered. And look at the joy the Lord himself. You look at her, you would not know the pain of what she's gone through. Really, really, I mean, lady. Well, I wanted to see them. And then I heard there's people that make harps. I just had to go there this morning. I just had to go see those harps. And she played for me. And I was going to have her play it on the platform while I spoke. You know, it would be kind of nice for the mother. Soothing as I get hard on mothers. You know, she could play louder. So guys, I'll tell you. You know, buy your wife a harp so she can harp on that instead of on you. You know. See, you knew you would get some choice jewels. You know, quotable quotes. But I'll tell you why. What you do is you get your husband to turn you off. You know, they just don't... Did you hear what I said? They just turn it off because they're just constantly, constantly, constantly. And she's saying if he doesn't obey the Word, if you've got a husband, it's not committed to this book. It's not committed to at least try to take this book. I mean, the Word of God is true whether I do anything with it or not. But God wants it to be lived out through my life. He wants it to become true to me and true in my life. And if your husband right now is struggling and is not doing what he ought to do and being in the Word, then why don't preach out? Pray. In my book, this one here, there is a tremendous story in this book of a woman whose husband passed her son. They're very... The husband has graduate, graduate, graduate degrees. Very well known, very skilled in his profession. Financially, they do very, very well. I've been in their home. But her husband began to pull away from her. Homestiller. And did not get involved with the family. And then began to be cold and cruel and constantly finding faults with, you didn't do this, and how come you didn't do this? You know, that kind of stuff. And it just got worse and worse. And she so desperately wanted to make him change. And so she was going to try and change her husband. You know, and it doesn't work. You know, when my son, I told you, you passed in a church, they built a new church, and they wanted very much to have a sinful isle. Because sinful isles are better for weddings. Right? You know, they're always concerned where the bride's going to walk down the isle. And then, you know, they're really concerned about the platform and the altar and how they're going to have everything all fixed up with flowers, how that's going to look. And then what kind of hymns are they going to sing? And that's what a lot of girls are on their mind when they get married. And it's isle, altar, hymn. So it isn't going to work. Because husbands, we had a little bulldog, a bulldog carrier, ugly dog, I called her Linda, isn't that awful? Beautiful name for an ugly dog. Linda was a chowhound. And so my mother would get so frustrated because she'd put the food for the bull and all you had to do was put your hand on Linda's hindquarters and push her a little bit and she immediately went like this. And we could scoot that dog away from the bull all the way across the kitchen floor because no one was going to make her eat. And yet she wanted to eat more than anything. And so when, you know, you may be married to a Linda, you know, wives, and when you start pushing on his rear end, all he does is back up. And that's what was happening. He was just backing up, backing up, backing up. And so she just committed herself to Christ and admitted that situation to Christ and she said this, what he does or doesn't do as a husband and father is between him and God. I need to be a godly woman. And so she spent five years could Christ really meet the deepest needs of her heart? Was that just a cliche that people say in the church? Or could that really, really happen? And so she focused on becoming a godly woman. And how she did it is in this book. It went out of my prayer letter first and I was going to leave out some prayer letters but I don't have any, they're gone wherever it happened to prayer letters but they're all gone. But she wrote her testimony and the steps of what she did to just become a godly woman and let the Lord meet the deepest needs of her heart because no husband will meet your needs. There's not one, I don't care who he is, can meet the deepest needs of your heart. There's only one person that can do that and who's that? That's the Lord Jesus Christ. And so when the wife's needs are being met by Christ then anything the husband does, she's encouraged. He got up! Dad's up! He's still breathing. Good old prayer boy. And then after she became a godly woman God put pressure on her husband to fly out to Sioux City and to come free in Christ. And he's written a wonderful testimony. And now they are being used as God to set other couples free. And many women have called my office that are so discouraged because of their husbands or what they're not doing I have them call Diane. And Diane just had a mastectomy. And Diane is in chemotherapy. And you would never know when you call her to be a godly wife. And to focus on the Lord and how to get your focus where it belongs and not on a person because people let us down. And she's had a wonderful ministry. What was a very painful experience for her God has opened up a ministry of many women because see I'm not a woman And when I talk to a woman they say well you're a husband how can you understand the pain of a wife? Well I can't, I'm not one. But when you have a wife that's been through it that can come alongside and encourage another woman to go through it and what God did through her and her children are godly children serving the Lord. She didn't become bitter she didn't put her husband down in front of the kids your dad isn't what he should be and all this kind of stuff she just quietly gave it to God. So that's what he's saying here. He's saying let your life convict your husband not your word. Then he says verse 2 while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear whose adorning let it not be the outward adorning of the flattening of hair the wearing of gold or the putting on of apparel Now what he's saying is that he's not saying that these things aren't important but he's saying that that's not where it's at for a woman. Fancy hairdos expensive clothes and very expensive jewelry that's not the sign of a godly woman. In fact one of the things that moms you need to set the example for your daughters and that is modest dress. As they see the mom and how the mom dresses and how the dad approves of the way the mom dresses you're helping your daughter to be modest. And modesty is always in. You know fashions go in and out. My wife says scarves are in again I guess. I don't wear a scarf but scarves go in and scarves go out. Remember when all your suits had three pieces now it's two pieces. So I just took the best I wear my suits so they don't fall apart they glow I mean they have a glow about they're real shiny You know Logan's got the glory of God on that blue suit. So I just save the best so when they come back in I grab it off and stick it back on again. You know they go in and out and he's saying that's not what's there. This never goes out of style and he's saying that's not where it is. We're recommending families, everybody that comes to our counseling center watches a video, only one video. I don't have them watch my videos. It's really difficult for me even to push these but the office said if I didn't push these things don't come back because I'm pushing these things. Because that's just not my style but we're pushing a video and that's Nancy DeMoss' video How to Live a Broken Life A Life of Brokenness She travels with life action If you've seen the wonderful DeMoss they have wonderful the best advertisement against abortion on television that there is Nancy DeMoss Nancy was in the Gotham Homeschool program at 37 years of age Nancy's father's Arthur DeMoss They give away millions of dollars every year You watch that video She spoke to 4,000 campuses and staff members on how to live a life broken before the Lord Nancy DeMoss doesn't wear dangling diamonds which she could She's wearing a very modest dress She looks good She doesn't look like early Salvation Army but she also doesn't look like she stepped out of whatever some French whatever which she could have I think her home that she grew up in had 22 bedrooms I think it probably had a kitchen too and a living room Something like that I was in Bob Burns' Do you remember Bazooka Burns? I was in his home His home was so big that the middle part of the home had a movie theater that they could set 300 people in The house was so big and the wings were so big they had complete kitchens in both wings of the house Why would you have to make a trip all through the house to eat over here whatever side of the house you're on The cooks on that side would cook for you I've never been in a house that big I don't know how big Nancy's house was but here she's got a hold of it If you saw Nancy walking around here she would sit She would not stand out with all of the affluence that she could have because she understands this that a godly woman is not in hairdos It's not in expensive clothes It's not in the putting on of expensive apparel If you think beauty comes in a bottle, ladies Gravity is going to catch up with you and you're going to ask the Avon lady, does it come in a gallon size with a roller If this lady smiles her face is going to crack, obviously She's so painted He said, that's not where it's at Let's go on for a moment He said, let it be the hidden man of the heart which is not corruptible These other things are corruptible But what should a woman adorn herself with If these things are not the vital things This is what's vital as far as God is concerned That a woman would adorn herself with a meek and a quiet spirit which in the sight of God is a great Christ Now ladies You're going to have a hard time understanding this when I say it, but I'm going to say it The people I believe who have a greater struggle with anger is not men, it's women See the opposite of a meek spirit is an angry spirit The opposite of a quiet spirit is anxiety and fear Satan knows what the word says Now a woman's anger and a man's anger are really different There are three Greek words for anger One Greek word is just kind of generic There's one Greek word that if you want to translate it in Logan it's Mount St. Helens That's the man's kind of anger It blows up and then the mountain feels so good because it's blown up and let it all out Now it's fine but everybody's devastated by the fallout Dad's got it off his chest but everybody else is devastated That's usually not a woman's anger A woman's anger literally in the Greek means long nose And what it is, it's the charcoal briquette type It's very hard to get started but stays hot after the meat's done You know, the wives do the slow burn Not again Hmm And they do this So the enemy knows this So what is he going to do? Because if a sign that God The qualities that God wants you to demonstrate as a homeschool mom is a meek and a quiet spirit Where's the enemy going to attack you? We don't have to be very dumb, do we? He wants you to be angry He wants you to be upset with the kid Be careful about If you're a perfectionist Be careful about putting it on the kid There's nothing more frustrating than a perfectionist mom If the kid is not one and you're trying to make the kid what he's not or make her what she's not I'm not saying the place needs to be trashy or whatever It's like they never come up No matter what they do it's never quite good enough That is so demotivating Why try? Because I know it's not going to be good enough Rather than encourage them to go better and to be better and to show some approval I grew up never having my father's approval So I know what it means not to have approval And I can't tell you how it affected my life in many negative ways for many, many years until I came to grips with the whole thing And you have a wonderful opportunity of showing approval to these children and not to frustrate them And then the other thing is this quiet spirit which in the sight of God God has a great price The other area where a mom is very vulnerable is with fear and worry If you don't do this And moms are usually right You know Like someone said The mom sees the cracks in the wall and the dad doesn't get concerned until half the roof falls down Oh, I think we ought to do something I've been telling you that for three years Paul said We're not ignorant of Satan's attacks That's what he told us But we are And we need to realize the enemy will attack us in the very areas in which God wants us to build He doesn't want those qualities in our lives Now he goes on about these qualities He said, let it be you know, the hidden man of the heart He said, after the same time of the old time, holy women There are three signs of a holy woman in scripture I hope that you mothers will have the highest praise that your children can give you And that is our daughters said the one person they wanted to be most like was their mom That is as that's the next thing to the well done good and faithful servant in heaven, you know that? That's the next thing you girls can get is I want to be like my mom And if you develop these qualities and work on these qualities because the enemy is going to hinder you from developing these qualities, you need to pray about them If you blow it, you need to ask forgiveness And go on, but holy women in God The very first sign is this They trusted in who? Their husbands Is that what your Bible says? If you haven't got a Bible you're not going to know No, they trusted in God First of all Secondly, they adorned themselves with what? A meek and a quiet spirit These are holy women And thirdly They were in subjection to the pastor, their husband And then they used a woman who was sought after beauty at over 80 years of age In fact, her husband was afraid they would kill him to take her Even as what? Sarah She obeyed Abraham And in my Bible, I have an obeyed underlying, but I have a lineup from obeyed to trust God She trusted God to work through her husband in getting leadership to the family And she was willing to let God put pressure on her husband It's interesting I don't know I keep asking If any of you are really students and love to study get my card and write me this But remember when Esther came into the kingdom of Ahasuerus or whatever his name was She couldn't immediately be his wife because she was a foreigner And she had to go through what? A year of purification rituals Well, I believe that's what happened in Egypt I'm not sure, but I almost think it is There was no way that Pharaoh could take Sarah until she went through all of what she had to go through so he could take her But I mean, Abraham compromised it And he was a dirty rat But I don't see her saying, well, you dirty rat You know, me live with him You know, he wanted me to live Push me off with this guy And that kind of thing Sarah was a holy woman She would have not been immoral Believe me She would have not been immoral Or she wouldn't be called a holy woman if she would have been And I think there was just that time gap of trying to while she was going through the purification thing trying to get himself together and get back into the land or whatever But Sarah obeyed Abraham I mean, Sarah obeyed God I mean, she obeyed Abraham, but she trusted God She called Abraham Lord And the word Lord there simply means boss Now, I don't want you to go home and say, yes boss, no boss That doesn't go too good But it was an attitude I mean, her attitude was God is going to give direction What wives are telling me The wives that have done this You've got to let your husbands fail Did you hear me women? Write it down You've got to let your husbands fail Stop mothering them Stop protecting them You are not the protector of the family That's not your job A husband will learn more by failure than he will from a nagging wife Because a nagging wife is like a dripping faucet That's what scripture says So if a guy tells me he's married to a drip I know she must be a nag It's biblical You can't believe You've got to trust God Can you trust God? Is your husband bigger than God? I mean, if he is, I want to meet him God is big enough And God is patient and slow But God will perfect that what concerns him Don't protect him Just say, God, I release my husband to you And whatever we need to go through I'm willing to go through with him Because what's so interesting Who told Abraham off? Sarah? Or Pharaoh? Pharaoh told him off in no good terms And said, you get out of my land I don't want a guy like you even in this land You get out of here And who did Abraham turn to? Sarah She allowed God to bring reproofs into Abraham's life Which drew the two of them closer together Then for her to start attacking Abraham And they still go through the reproofs And they're more separate And more separate And more separate And it goes, verse 7, likewise the husband That's in a few minutes So wives Be faithful In the task that God has given you As a teacher Model The Christian virtues And character of Christ That you're seeking to instill In the life of the children Don't put your trust In your husband Because when you trust People they will always Let you down Am I right? Haven't people always let you down? They do, that's why we're not to trust people God's never told me to trust any person He says to trust Him God is the only one worthy Of your trust He will not let you down His mercies Are new every morning Put your trust on Him Focus on Him Be an example Of this godly woman Realize that when you begin to Have fear And anxiety Let's say that I want to move this pulpit And I don't know how heavy it is But I asked these two ladies in the front row here To move this pulpit They grab a hold of it to move it And it's so heavy That all of a sudden They get pain in their back Well is pain in your back a bad sign? No Pain in your back Is God's way of telling you That you've lifted up a load That's too heavy for you to what? Carry, you better let go of it I believe That anxiety to your spirit Is as pain To the physical body Philippians 4 says Pray about what? Everything and worry about what? Something I mean the big one No Worry about what? Nothing Well how do I know when to pray? When I start feeling Anxious Anxiety is God's Calling you to prayer He's Letting you know that you've picked up A burden that's too Heavy for you to carry, that's why you're anxious You can't control it And he's saying Mom Give that to me Roll that burden over on me You give your Anxieties to me And I'll give you my peace So when you get anxious The enemy wants you to begin to try to get in there To do something, moms are doers And yet there's nothing you can do That's what makes you anxious Right? What do we do? What do you do when you have a daughter Or a son That's in rebellion And we get sad phone calls Daughter's gone Running the streets I'm amazed at how many families Are willing to take rebellious kids in My son left home, he's 15, where is he? Oh, he's down the street living with his friend You know, his buddy and his parents Somehow It doesn't compute to me, but I get all these calls So I know what's happening What do you do? What do you do when you can see that your daughter's left Your son's left or whatever And you can't do anything You need to pray In fact, what you may need to do And this is a very special time You may need to release That child to Satan You say, well, that's drastic Well, in 1 Corinthians, chapter 5 A man who was living in immorality Was released to the enemy You want to live for the devil? We release you to him For the destruction of the flesh Timeneus and Alexander were released To demons Paul said, release them to Satan That they might learn not to blaspheme Or if you feel that's drastic Release them to God Just say, God I release my son or daughter to you And whatever you need to do Worrying about them is not changing anything I'm just getting sick And I'm not being fit for the rest of the children I'm just releasing that one to you So you may want to Release them to the enemy If you feel that's way too strong Release them to God Whatever you need to do, do it And don't get upset at what God may do Because he may have to take a 4 by 4 To get his attention Or her attention They may have to go through some real pain Before they come back to God But I believe if you train up a child In the way that God wants them to go That when they're old They'll come back That scripture does not say The child will never do wrong Never make wrong choices Or never go away It's not what it says It says when they're old, what? They won't depart If you do not consistently Put truth in the child When they get older They have nothing to draw from, mom And so in all of your teaching Be sure to put scripture in there Because remember when John What's his name? Newton When the ship was going down He was going to die And there's no hope That it's going to sink up here In the English Channel And he was going down As the ship went down He wasn't sure that he would go up And all of a sudden He remembered the scriptures That his mother taught him At her knees