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James Butler Stoney (May 13, 1814 – May 1, 1897) was an Irish preacher and Bible teacher whose calling from God within the Plymouth Brethren movement inspired a ministry of deep spiritual insight and gospel proclamation across nearly six decades. Born in Portland, County Tipperary, Ireland, to parents whose details are not widely documented—likely a modest Protestant family—he entered Trinity College, Dublin, at age 15 to study law. Converted in 1831 at age 17 during a cholera outbreak, crying out to God in fear of death, he abandoned law for divinity, though his youth delayed ordination, leading him to the Brethren through J.N. Darby’s influence in 1833. Stoney’s calling from God unfolded as he preached across Great Britain and Ireland, never formally ordained but recognized as a gifted minister by the Brethren. Based in London from 1868 after years in Ireland and Scarborough, his sermons—preserved on SermonIndex.net and in 13 volumes of Ministry by J.B. Stoney—called believers to a heavenly calling and intimacy with Christ, as seen in works like Discipline in the School of God and Letters of J.B. Stoney. Known for his fervent, Spirit-led preaching, he avoided eloquence to emphasize divine power, influencing saints through periodicals like A Voice to the Faithful. Never married, he passed away at age 82 in Wimbledon, London, after a fall in October 1895 sidelined him, dying peacefully while speaking of God, buried in an unmarked grave as per his wishes.
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J.B. Stoney preaches about the beauty and depth of true married life in the Lord, emphasizing that trials in marriage can actually strengthen the bond between couples if they face them together in communion with God. He highlights the importance of seeking spiritual intimacy, confessing faults to one another, and sharing both humblings and thanksgivings before the Lord. Stoney encourages couples to cultivate a relationship where they respect and wait for each other's judgment and feelings in all things, deepening their affection as they draw on God's grace for one another.
Marriage in the Lord
Letter by J. B. Stoney Shall I give you my idea of true married life in the Lord? It surpasses everything human in grace, as it did in nature before the fall. The trials are peculiar, but they are the trials of humanity; but then the married have this advantage, if they really reciprocate their feelings before the Lord, that as they are together in the trial, they are together in His deliverance and help. A trial becomes secondary if you have such sympathy in it as will feed the heart with affection, while the Lord’s deliverance from the trial will be enjoyed together. I admit that in married life you will meet with more trials, because you are more in the casualties of humanity; but when marrieage is in the Lord-if you meet the trials as Christians united together in communion with His mind- I believe the trials will afford fresh occasions for binding you together, as well as for establishing you together in the sense of His mercy and love and discipline. What can be so grateful as to know the depth and power of a heart that loves you? Where can you know it better, or better prove your own love or another’s, than in passing through trials and difficulties together? Love does not like to see me in sorrow, but in sorrow it summons all its resources, and proves its strength, until I am relieved. I believe all this is within the compass of married life if only both seek the Lord together, and have communion and interchange of spiritual exercises together. Seek communion with one another, your very failures will then, like Samson’s lion, be yielding honey; you will find what is of Christ in one another in spite of the failures, for nothing gives us such a sense that another is having to do with God as the simple confession of faults, and this sense will invigorate and give deep reality to your mutual affection. The one who knows me best, and who seeks out of real affection to correct my nature, gains a place in my heart, in my divine nature, that no flatterer could in any degree attain to. Be as two souls unreserved before God as to all that His Spirit is doing with you. Every confession you make to Him, every praise you render to Him, shrink not from communicating it to one another. If either of you feel that you cannot do this, the greatest bond between you, and the spring of it, is gone! You may retain a unity derived from identity of interests, but it is not one established and confirmed by union in the Spirit. If two Christians are by marriage closer in earthly things and not closer in spiritual things, they are like Nazarites who have lost their hair! My one word to you both is, cultivate spiritual intimacy, do not be satisfied with as much Christianity as will ease your consciences; seek to respect and to wait for one another’s judgement and feeling as to things before the Lord; in a word, seek to maintain communion whether it be in humiliation or in praise. Believe me, if you cannot tell one another of your humblings, you will never celebrate together your thanksgivings. What delight it will be to my heart to see you both in fervent love, honestly confiding in one another before the Lord, learning the grace of the Lord in your mutual trials, and deepening in affection as you draw on that grace for one another.
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James Butler Stoney (May 13, 1814 – May 1, 1897) was an Irish preacher and Bible teacher whose calling from God within the Plymouth Brethren movement inspired a ministry of deep spiritual insight and gospel proclamation across nearly six decades. Born in Portland, County Tipperary, Ireland, to parents whose details are not widely documented—likely a modest Protestant family—he entered Trinity College, Dublin, at age 15 to study law. Converted in 1831 at age 17 during a cholera outbreak, crying out to God in fear of death, he abandoned law for divinity, though his youth delayed ordination, leading him to the Brethren through J.N. Darby’s influence in 1833. Stoney’s calling from God unfolded as he preached across Great Britain and Ireland, never formally ordained but recognized as a gifted minister by the Brethren. Based in London from 1868 after years in Ireland and Scarborough, his sermons—preserved on SermonIndex.net and in 13 volumes of Ministry by J.B. Stoney—called believers to a heavenly calling and intimacy with Christ, as seen in works like Discipline in the School of God and Letters of J.B. Stoney. Known for his fervent, Spirit-led preaching, he avoided eloquence to emphasize divine power, influencing saints through periodicals like A Voice to the Faithful. Never married, he passed away at age 82 in Wimbledon, London, after a fall in October 1895 sidelined him, dying peacefully while speaking of God, buried in an unmarked grave as per his wishes.