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  DON'T HURT THE HOLY SPIRIT
  by Vlad Savchuk
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Summary: This sermon emphasizes the importance of not grieving the Holy
Spirit by examining how toxic emotions, harsh speech, lying, and lack of
kindness can grieve the Spirit. It highlights the need to cultivate a
heart of forgiveness, grace-filled speech, and kindness to align with
the nature of the Holy Spirit, who desires to rest in us when we exhibit
these qualities.

Topics: "Grieving the Holy Spirit", "Cultivating Kindness and Forgiveness"
Scripture References: Ephesians 4:30, Ephesians 4:29, Matthew 3:16, Colossians 4:6, Ephesians 4:32

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This sermon emphasizes the importance of not grieving the Holy Spirit by
examining how toxic emotions, harsh speech, lying, and lack of kindness
can grieve the Spirit. It highlights the need to cultivate a heart of
forgiveness, grace-filled speech, and kindness to align with the nature
of the Holy Spirit, who desires to rest in us when we exhibit these
qualities.

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Let's go to Ephesians chapter 4 and verse 30. I want to speak today
about grieving the Holy Spirit or not to grieve the Holy Spirit. How not
to grieve the Holy Spirit? Ephesians chapter 4 and verse 30 and it says
the following And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God by whom you were
sealed for the day of redemption Let all bitterness, wrath, anger,
clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you with all malice And be
kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another even as God
in Christ forgiven you The very idea we see in here where the Bible says
do not grieve the Holy Spirit The word grieve in this text means simply
to cause grief to grieve to be in heaviness, to be sorrowful, to affect
somebody with sadness, to cause grief and to throw somebody into sorrow
The word grief in a simple English is where we get our word getting your
feelings hurt the very idea if I could reread this do not get the Holy
Spirit's feelings hurt That right away tells us something about the Holy
Spirit that he is not a ghost in the sense a spirit That doesn't have a
personality in the sense of force in the sense of a dove in the sense of
a wind or oil But he is a person that you can grieve, but if you can
make somebody hurt you can also make somebody happy Right every married
husband every married wife Everyone who has parents If you can make
somebody hurt you can also make somebody pleased You can also make
somebody be very excited by certain things that you do The Holy Spirit
is a divine person who lives within us And we as Christians have the
ability to have a relationship with him And we have the ability to cause
him deep heartbreak It was actually Katherine Kuhlman said the very
famous words that sometimes are used she says, please don't grieve the
Holy Spirit He is all that I have In one of the other services, she said
actually that is one thing that I am so afraid of I am afraid lest I
grieve the Holy Spirit For when the Holy Spirit is lifted from me, I am
the most ordinary person that has ever lived Now three things I want you
to notice about the grieving the Holy Spirit Number one and that is when
we grieve the Holy Spirit, we actually break his heart Secondly when we
grieve the Holy Spirit, we don't lose the Holy Spirit The Bible in here
does not say If you grieve the Holy Spirit you lose being sealed by the
Spirit.

In fact, it says When you grieve the whole do not grieve the Holy Spirit
by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption In a practical
relationship example if you are in a relationship with somebody and you
break their heart It doesn't mean you lose the relationship. It simply
means your relationship now Is still there But the intimacy the
closeness of that relationship is broken When you grieve the Holy Spirit
you don't lose your salvation, but you lose the joy of your salvation
When you grieve the Holy Spirit the Holy Spirit doesn't leave you He
stays there the same way if you hurt your husband with your word or you
hurt your wife with your word. They don't divorce you They will still be
in the same house with you probably sleep in the same bed, but you will
feel million miles away from them What does happen when we grieve the
Holy Spirit is we lose a sense that we are pleasing to God We also leave
lose peace We become quickly and very fast irritably Irritably, we
become irritated very quickly.

We lose sense of direction. We lose sense of Consolation from the Holy
Spirit our whole inside world goes into a turmoil and it goes into a
chaos on the inside And of course we quickly blame it on our spouse we
blame it on other people But in reality if we quiet down and be very
honest We find out that us and the Holy Spirit are not on the same
frequency Us and the Holy Spirit are no longer enjoying the sweetness of
that fellowship and the sweetness of the presence the danger of living
And grieving the Holy Spirit is this the last thing that it will do is
it will expose you to the demonic In the same verse where Paul says do
not grieve in the same reference where Paul says do not grieve the Holy
Spirit in verse 27 so three verses above Paul says do not give place to
the devil And three verses down he says don't grieve the Holy Spirit as
you grieve the Holy Spirit if you don't repent and you don't quickly fix
that You're opening the door to the demonic to come and take advantage
of your vulnerable Hurt broken place that you are in with God and the
demons Smell and they are attracted to people that grieve the Holy
Spirit I'm, not saying you get a demon. I'm saying you potentially can
get a demon If you live in a state Of the Holy Spirit being grieved by
you This happens in relationship as well The bible says do not let son
go down under anger so we don't give place to the devil if you stay
angry overnight You stay angry the second day you stay angry the third
day you begin to develop thoughts in your mind about the person that
you're angry I wish them dead They're so wrong.

They get on my nerves all the time. That's it I will never have a
relationship with them again. And if it's your spouse you begin to think
man, why did I even marry them? That person was right.

I made a mistake about that Why because when you allow anger when you
allow all of that frustration when your heart is hurt And it's not being
processed correctly it exposes and it attracts all kinds of demonic
rodents demonic spirits Living your life living our life With ungrieved
Holy Spirit is the greatest guarantee. You will not be demonically
harassed Living your life where the Holy Spirit is not grieved by you Is
the greatest protection the demons will not have access to you They will
yell they will bark But they will not bite you because the Holy Spirit
is pleased and he is your greatest defense mechanism When the Holy
Spirit is not grieved what we experience is clarity of thought What we
experience is stillness and peace in the midst of the most chaotic most
difficult and most challenging situations in our life When the Holy
Spirit is not grieved we have access To divine wisdom divine strength
and divine guidance When the Holy Spirit is not grieved you are a person
Not just someone who has a big bank account. You actually have a debit
card and a pin code to use it When the Holy Spirit is grieved what
begins to happen? Imagine yourself my David my friend David Deager used
this example Imagine yourself having a bank account where you have a
million dollars But you don't have a debit card to access that So while
you're rich You also cannot use any of your riches why because your
debit card is lost And what you have to do is you have to go through the
process of getting the debit card again When the Holy Spirit is grieved
It's not that you no longer have the Holy Spirit and you no longer have
the access You do but that contact point with the access is broken The
heart gets worse with time as it gets more sick as it gets more hurt
It's more offended and all of these things will happen in other words
What i'm trying to say is this let's live our life in such a way where
the Holy Spirit Is ungrieved Would you know if you grieved him? Would
you know If he's pleased to even grieve the Holy Spirit you have to have
some kind of a closeness with him You have to have some kind of a
nearness to him to even know That he is grieved This doesn't belong to
people who don't have any kind of connection to the Holy Spirit And some
of us live our life without even knowing is the Holy Spirit pleased Or
he is not and our desire that everyone at hungry gen watching our
ministry Will develop closer relationship with the Holy Spirit where we
live our life and we know if he's pleased Or he is not and when he is
not pleased we do everything in our strength To reconnect to restore and
to renew that fellowship and to renew that relationship because our very
life on this earth Depends on it Amen If you've been with somebody if
you've been married You probably can already know them.

I've been married to my wife for 13 years. She's watching the stream
right now I know When she's not happy She doesn't have to say anything
you smell it in the air There's this vibe everything changes in the room
the room gets colder um And she and you know and and women there could
be a little bit deceptive sometimes. How are you doing fine? This is
when you know, nothing is fine You know i'm doing okay And when you have
a relationship with somebody and you love them And you are close to them
You pick up on those things very quickly And then of course you do
whatever it takes in your power You right away start thinking.

What did I do? What did I not do? What did I say? What did I not say in
the last 24 hours? Let's extend it to 72 hours No, this it couldn't be
something that i've done before that it has to be in the last 72 hours
Maybe in the last three hours. So you examine your heart quickly like
man. I'm clean.

I'm good This must be something else and then you probe around a little
bit more and then you find out Okay, this is why this person is hurt
This is why this person is not feeling good right now and you do your
best to make the person feel very good Imagine living with the holy
spirit the same way Now, yes He's not easily offended, but he's hyper
sensitive Hyper sensitive Which tells us to know him personally we have
to be aware that he has feelings He has desires and he could quietly
depart and he can quietly lift not that he leaves us But he can be the
bible says in here be hurt by us Now the amazing part is that the holy
spirit is not such a mystery where we don't know what hurts him I cannot
say that about my wife though Women sometimes are a mystery You don't
know what can hurt you can just do exactly the same thing You've been
doing it and one day what you did Is just hurt them and so you
constantly got to be on tiptoes and kind of constantly be a student Of
your person that you are married to to the bible says to in peter. It
says that dwell with them with understanding I'm, like peter that's
impossible I don't I can't understand them That's why the bible requires
the holy spirit to help us obey the bible because it's very difficult
with the holy spirit It's not that difficult because the bible doesn't
hide to us what grieves him In these verses we see three things That
grieve the holy spirit and that's what I want to highlight today In the
summary If you wanted to get all this stuff right away is this it's the
way we live grieves the holy spirit It's not always not reading enough
of the bible As much as not obeying any of it Because so many of us
think yeah, I know the holy spirit is grieved why I should have read 20
chapters instead of 15 Man, I should have fasted five days instead of I
did three But when you really read about the grieving of the holy
spirit, you don't see any of that. You see more on how we live When we
are young and on fire for god and we want to go and fast and pray
Evangelize to everything that moves and we feel like man if I don't do
that enough i'm gonna grieve the spirit No, no, no, if we don't do that
enough we can quench the spirit But that's not what grieves the spirit
What grieves the spirit is not how you minister? It's what could come
out is the how we live And there are three simple things that I want to
highlight from the scripture the first one and that is this when we hold
on to toxic emotions We grieve the holy spirit the bible clearly states
in here Let all bitterness wrath anger clamor Be put away from you toxic
emotions Our emotions i'll mention just three of them Being Holding a
grudge having an offense and holding on to bitterness Sometimes the
closer you get to the lord The more on fire you get the more prayer you
start praying And the more you start purifying your life What i've
noticed about these people myself included is we are prone We might not
be prone to pornography Might not be prone to smoking and drinking We
might not be prone to stealing or robbing a bank But we get prone to
these petty sins called holding a grudge holding on to bitterness and
staying offended A grudge is something if you nurse it It doesn't get
better It gets worse and the reason why many of us love to hold on to a
grudge is because A grudge takes time and energy and we are unsure of
who we are without it We have replayed our personal betrayal and hurt
movies so many times.

We know it by heart The idea of moving on is so terrifying. Whereas
staying miserable is familiar The offender has done nothing to deserve
forgiveness harboring Resentment stops me from getting hurt again, and
nobody can ever get close to me again So it makes sense in our hurt mind
Well, at least i'm not doing any other heavy sins But the bible right
after it says do not grieve the holy spirit It says this do not hold on
to bitterness offense and resentment The closer you get to the lord when
he starts freeing you from the demons of succubus and incubus and
jezebel and leviathan and all of the stuff There's something that we
become prone to because we become sensitive to the holy spirit We become
sensitive to the voice of god is that we become overly sensitive to
people We take ourselves too seriously develop a baby skin Over the
outer shell of our character instead of having a baby skin over the
inner shell of our heart We develop a very thin skin easily offended and
we get hurt very quickly And if you just got on fire for god and you
join a church that you have this high expectation from man They will
love me. This is heaven on earth.

This is paradise and you find out this is not paradise This is more like
hades People here are like people they have issues and they have
problems and guess what begins to happen We get hurt and when we get
hurt we hold on to a grudge You cannot host the holy ghost and harbor a
grudge You can have the holy spirit and harbor a grudge you can host Him
You can have the holy spirit and hold on to an offense, but you cannot
host the holy spirit and hold on to an offense He's not hosted when you
host somebody you treat them with honor you treat them with respect They
get Attention from you when they come into your house They're hosted
versus somebody who just sneaks in quietly into the into the room and
just sits there The holy spirit wants to be hosted but he cannot be
hosted properly if we harbor things Offense is the second one Offense in
one of the most common words used for offense is scandalon The scandalon
is actually a greek word that describes a trigger of a trap on which
bait is placed When an animal touches the trigger to eat the bait the
trap springs shut and animal is caught When it's used in the moral
context what it means is this scandalon indicates Enticement to conduct
which ruins the person in question Offense is like an automated weapon
Once you pull the trigger it keeps firing Offense is always tied to
pride and control Offense pride and control are the deadly trio The
moment you let offense in and let it stay an offense will always give
you a legitimate Justifiable reasons why you need to feel the same this
way But while you have the reasons to stay and to harbor that offense,
you must understand the dove Is withdrawing Because the holy spirit
cannot be hosted Where somebody is busy harboring something? You can't
harbor an offense You will be offended. I will be offended. Jesus says
in this world offense will come He said make sure that you're not the
one causing the offenses intentionally.

We will be offended We will get hurt We will get our feelings hurt But
what hurts the holy spirit's feelings is when we hold on to our hurt
feelings and we develop theories We begin to switch churches We begin to
gossip about people and we begin to hold on and become these people who
hold on to a grudge Hold on to offense and then the third thing that
becomes from that is this grudge this offense becomes deeply seeded
bitterness Bitterness is different than betrayal betrayal is what people
do to you bitterness is what you do to yourself Bitterness is internal
betrayal is external Betrayal happens anybody can be betrayed bitterness
is optional We can choose to allow that When you're not a christian Or
maybe you're not a believer. It's so easy to fall into that But when you
are a spirit-filled believer, you must understand it breaks the holy
spirit's heart When you hold on to bitterness Now I have not been hurt
So bad in my life to experience this on a very deep level Praying for
somebody just last week Whose wife been cheating and left him And he now
needs to deal with all of this stuff and big tough guy But crying like a
baby And saying I want to accept jesus and I want god to give me a soft
heart and I cannot imagine What it takes for somebody to go through that
I interviewed I think it was this year a woman named frida Frida grew up
in rwanda at the age of six. She realized that she was in the wrong
tribe titsu Because they would make fun of them in school And I think it
was 1994 Is when the president Hutu president was Assassinated and what
they did is they declared a war on this titsu tribe And they killed 1
million titsu in 100 days It was government sponsored Government
provided machetes government provided clubs and guns She was 14 years of
age when they went running with their family They ran to their
grandfather's house And thought they were safe there Now the biggest
problem with this genocide is the people that were killing you were your
neighbors It was not the military It was your neighbors.

So they had such a good relationship with their neighbors. They thought
our neighbors will never do that We borrow sour cream from each other.
We we go to each other's houses.

They'll never do that Until the government declared to wipe out this
particular tribe So they go into the grandparents house at three in the
morning They get caught By their neighbors and other people now to be
killed With the gunshot you had to pay for it So to be shot you actually
had to pay your Assassinators or your killers for that they didn't have
the money And so they brought the whole family and they each one had to
choose a weapon by which they would be killed She's 14 years of age So
she chose a club because she thought the club will be an easier way to
die But before they kill her They first cut her mother's head off And
the rest of the family was buried at three in the morning They beat her
with the club Turns out she didn't die And later next day around three
afternoons. So 10 to 14 hours later somebody dug her out and found out
she still had a pulse And so she recovered losing all of her family She
struggled with stomach ulcers Chronic nightmares. I mean the kind of
trauma that you endure from your childhood Having this be done to you by
your own neighbors that you grew up with the anger that you feel toward
humanity toward god toward everybody She had a difficult time sleeping.

She had Migrant headaches depression and everything but then somebody
takes her to church and at 18 she gives her life to christ She falls in
love with jesus But she still hates the people who did this to her And
then she started to understand that I cannot hate them, but I cannot
stop not hating them And she started to ask the lord for the grace to
release the harboring feelings the harboring hurt frustrations with both
god The Hutu tribes and with other people and she said it took time And
when the lord removed all of that the interesting part happened the
moment the heart became empty of that hurt Her future became brighter
And god supernaturally healed her of every disease Stomach ulcers were
gone. The back pain were gone nightmares. They stopped Depression was
gone and not only she had the strength to do that She had the strength
actually to go to those neighbors Some of them were already in prison
and to offer the forgiveness to them and she said it was so difficult so
hard But he said with god's grace I was able to do that When you release
that towards somebody who did that to you You must understand you are
not setting them free.

You're setting your future free Because what happens when you stay in
that harboring feeling of hurt and shame and guilt and even if what they
did to you was Unthinkable and they deserve to suffer but the person
that's suffering is not them It's usually the person that's holding on
to that Unforgiveness is like drinking rat poison hoping for a rat to
die from it Whoever opts for unforgiveness and revenge should always dig
two graves one for their enemy and one for themselves When we hold on to
those feelings and we all have them What what begins to happen? Is they
push away the intimacy with the holy spirit? And you may still read the
bible you may still go to church But if you are angry If you are holding
on to the previous church how they treated you and you can't release
that The holy spirit cannot be released to flow freely in your life And
I want to invite you today and encourage you today to let go and let god
Because the holy spirit wants to possess you and fill you so powerfully
But he cannot possess a vessel that is filled with toxic emotions These
emotions have to be pure it's not because everything that's done is pure
It's that you're keeping your heart pure for the holy spirit Amen The
second thing I want you to notice not only the bible says let all
bitterness and let wrath and clamor and anger be gone From you, but it
says and evil speaking Be put away from you. The second thing and that
is this the holy spirit is grieved when our speech is morally rotten
Morally rotten if you read few verses before this it says this Verse 29
one verse above the verse and do not believe the holy spirit Let no
corrupt word the word corrupt there is the word that we use for a fruit
that gotten rotten The bible says let no corrupt word proceed from your
mouth But only that which edifies now we live in a christian world
today, especially online There are people that are rising up who are
influencing young people and influencing christians who think cussing Is
cool Some of them even call themselves cussing pastors Their idea of
christian liberty is this we don't want to be legalistic because these
fundamentalists You know made us dress this way take our earrings and
makeup and so they swing to the other side Where pretty much we be like
the world we throw f-bombs We we let all kinds of god or language come
out of our mouth because we're all about christian liberty And I call
that greasy grace That's not biblical definition. What is the first
thing the holy spirit does when he fills you to the overflow you speak
in other tongues If your tongue is not cleansed The holy spirit is
grieved When Isaiah came into the presence of god He vowed woe woe to
you.

Woe woe woe woe woe to everybody until he got to the presence of god And
he says woe to me I'm a man and the first thing he noticed that the
problem was is his tongue wasn't clean And he says god you need to heal
my tongue. You need to cleanse my tongue I want to encourage you today
that the second area that grieves the holy spirit most is what comes out
of our mouth And there are three things that i'm going to highlight one
is cursing the other one is lying and exaggerating and the third one is
being real With your words that actually come out to be harsh Cursing
the bible says when peter denied jesus he cursed and swore That was the
state of somebody walking away from jesus Anybody who allows cursing to
come out of their mouth is a person who already has something broken in
the relationship with god Now if you just became a christian and you
curse like a sailor and honestly your english vocabulary was reduced to
curse words And you're learning kind of how to process that listen
Welcome to the journey of sanctification the founder of kfc says when I
got saved it cost me half of my vocabulary Half of my vocabulary When
welsh revival took place, not only the courts were closed prostitution
stopped the judges didn't have a job But there was one big problem They
had the coal miners coal miners who were digging up coal They had
donkeys that carried this coal in these little places and the donkeys
only responded to curse words So these coal miners get saved and now
they're using normal language and the donkeys do not know what to do So
now some of them struggled to cuss again just to get the donkey moving
So they had to retrain and donkeys are slow They had to retrain donkeys
because donkeys only knew how to respond to the curse language Now I
grew up in a very strong godly healthy home But because I was a teenager
and I was in school and I was influenced I wanted to be cool with my
friends in ukraine and I remember for a week. I tried smoking Yeah
repented of that.

My dad found out that in ukraine and uh Didn't it wasn't good The reason
the real reason I quit is because we were having a test in kiev So that
um, we could come to the united states and I was afraid they'll find it
in my lungs And my dad will not let me come to america And he'll leave
me in ukraine to smoke and I was like no I don't want to go to america.
I don't want to be in ukraine and smoke But there's a problem I
developed as a teenager and it was cussing I don't know how I picked it
up It was a vivid memory in my mind when being influenced in the school
in the ukraine. It was pretty popular to curse So I picked it up and
then I was cussing but then the cussing took over me I remember being so
addicted to cursing where every word I would say outside of Interacting
with teachers was cuss words would walk in the streets and just curse
like a sailor just everything I saw I just cursed and of course I would
come home and put my little pentecostal mask on Zip my lip muzzle my
mouth and tame my tongue But we had this thing that I had to do is milk
a cow And so I was milking a cow And the cow did something very foolish,
you know with this hoof it hit the bucket so all the milk splashed on me
And I gave that cow so much glory I mean I just it was like demons were
manifesting out of me I just just let it have it the cow the cow doesn't
even understand But I just let it have it now at that time.

My dad was walking by a barn My dad is thinking it's the spirit of a
leviathan probably possessing the barn He's thinking it's a demon that
escaped hades and is right now milking a cow So my dad sticks his head
and lo and behold his beautiful wonderful oldest son My dad's like what
was all that? Accident He's like those colorful words do not come out as
accidents. There were many of them for a long time So in ukraine they
had a different method of deliverance for children My dad took me out of
the barn my pants were down He used I don't remember what it was nothing
Bad, I know one thing after that. I never cursed again in my life
Deliverance by power That demon was called like that Amen Parents you
can try that on your kids once in a while when they're young it is in
the bible But if you're struggling with cursing I want to submit to you
To surrender your tongue to god because that grieves the holy spirit If
you say well, I express myself This helps me to express my anger This
grieves the holy spirit the bible says Those who use profane language
lack the vocabulary to express themselves without resorting to gutter
language No, christian should be guilty of such a unbecoming talk Holy
spirit gives us self-control and when I am angry Christ's name should
not be blasphemed And when I am frustrated Unbecoming gutter language
should not be shouldn't be coming out of my mouth you may say but I
think those things Abort those thoughts quickly in your head and don't
give them birth by verbalizing them amen But the other part about our
tongue is lying now lying is something that Is like a snowball effect
The longer it is rolled on the ground the larger it becomes martha
luther said Lying is a deceit Deceit often requires sufficient truth to
make something seem realistic to seem valid to appear true But in
reality, it's not Partial truth is not truth, but a little lie Abraham
sort of so that she said the truth.

My wife is my sister Almost had his wife be pregnant by some other men
Sapphira and ananias came they kind of said the truth. I mean they sold
the house. They did give Money, just not all of it, but they said all of
it.

I mean Kind of rounded the numbers from 50 to 100 drop dead Exaggeration
is not a mistake It's a lie And this happens in churches. This happens
among christians. We flat out Exaggerate or we lie Sometimes I remember
I had a pastor in our church And the next day we went to eat and you
know, he asked me how many people we had so I texted My assistant and
she gave me the number.

It was a very low number I don't know if he felt embarrassed or
something and I didn't round out that number I just said exactly how
many people he had he said no we had 1200 people yesterday And i'm like,
did you count? I was like, how did you see 1200 people? We had three
services and there was no way we fit 1200 people each sanctuary seats
only like 200 people I said we didn't have that and he's pushing on me
and he says no you don't know how to count We had 1200 people. I said, I
don't know where you come from how you guys count but i'm like we count
usually people once I was like, I know that 1200 will make me feel good,
but it's not true Smith Wiggestroth said this he says I have asked the
lord to let me never tell this story Except the way it happened for I
realized that god will never bless exaggeration When you exaggerate when
you present a half-truth you align yourself with the father of lies
Sometimes it's easier To just add something to it to exaggerate
something to it to make yourself appear better But you must understand
the holy spirit's name. Jesus says is the spirit of truth He honors the
truth.

He loves the truth. It's better to look small in the eyes of men But be
right in the eyes of the holy spirit than to look great in the eyes of
men and to grieve the precious holy spirit He's not moved by our
numbers. He's not moved by our records He's not he doesn't care about if
we had a million a hundred a thousand whether you made a million dollars
Or you didn't he doesn't care about her stuff What he honors is the
truth because he's a spirit of truth And what he's allergic to is lies
because that remind him of the devil and the spirit of the enemy And so
I want to encourage each one of us that we pray this prayer that isaiah
prayed lord cleanse my lips Lord help me to say the truth and not
exaggerate help me to say the truth in my workplace Help me to say the
truth to my wife Help me to say the truth to my parents help me to say
the truth to my children and never lie or exaggerate Can somebody say
amen? But the other part about our speech is harsh speech.

The bible says in colossians. It says this that season your speech with
grace And I used to not understand this In our culture today being
vulnerable say it the way it is be real Cells It's very admirable and
trendy The bible doesn't give us permission To say it the way it is I
didn't come on the stage the way I am I put some clothing on And for
that we are grateful Imagine me coming in and say no i'm gonna come in
the way god made me uh Well the way I feel it is the way i'm gonna say
it And that's not my problem that you can't deal with the truth The
bible has a word for that. It says season your speech with salt Some of
us do not like food that doesn't have proper seasoning to it and the
lord gives us a Requirement almost a command for our speech.

We cannot say things the way they are We got we cannot sugarcoat it. We
gotta salt it The world sugarcoats it but the bible says put some salt
put some seasoning in your speech That means that your speech has to
carry a feeling of grace of god in it It cannot be well, it's the way it
is. No, no, no the way it is hurts Give me some grace.

Give me some salt. You are the salt of the earth That means my speech
cannot be just real and raw. My speech has to be seasoned Even if we're
correcting somebody even if we're reproving somebody the bible clearly
states that holy spirit is honored When I do not present someone real,
but I give him something that is seasoned by salt And that is grace.

Can somebody say amen? So for those of you who maybe have a personality
and you're like man I just like to tell people the way it is. They need
they need to get over themselves You also need to understand That the
bible doesn't give you the permission to do that The bible gives us
permission to put some salt in there at least a little bit of salt That
the person doesn't leave that conversation feeling stupid feeling below
or feeling like they're a total loser But they feel that conversation
knowing yeah, this was a bitter truth, but there was some salt in it
There was grace in it. I know that i'm gonna make it.

I know that I messed up, but I'm not a mess I'm a new creation in jesus
christ. I know that i'm not my mistake. I know that i'm not stupid I
know that i'm not slow.

I know that i'm not gonna not gonna make it No, I can make it but I do
have to work on my laziness. I do have to work on that parents We have
to season our speech with salt when we are frustrated with children when
we are frustrated with our spouses We have to season our speech with
salt when we are dealing with our employees when we are dealing with our
co-workers And when we are dealing with volunteers Why because every
person has a value in god's eyes and god does not want them to eat your
raw stuff He wants them to eat stuff that's seasoned Can somebody say
amen? This was worth coming to church fighting with your spouse getting
all the kids just to hear this today Come on somebody amen you're like,
how did you know we fought? I know how sunday mornings go And the last
thing and that is this the bible says we grieve the holy spirit when we
are rude to people It says in ephesians chapter 4 verse 32 that kindness
tender heartness and forgiveness should be our portion It says about
jesus that matthew chapter 3 verse 16 in the net translation He saw the
spirit of god descending like a dove and coming to rest upon him a dove
and a lamb a dove is not a Characteristic of the holy spirit. It's a
description Of the holy spirit a lamb.

Excuse me. It's it's a characteristic of the holy spirit not a
description So is the lamb? It's a characteristic of jesus not a
description of jesus I heard this statement from somebody If you want
the presence of the dove you have to have the nature of the lamb The
reason why the holy spirit not only descended on jesus, but the bible
says he remained on jesus Is because jesus's nature Was not rude He
didn't say Come to me all you who heavy laden and who are troubled i'll
give you rest learn from me And you will see how snappy impatience rude
and harsh I am and you will find rest for your souls Jesus is not rude
Jesus is not snappy Jesus is not impulsive Jesus is not impatient Jesus
is not harsh the scripture says broken bruised read He didn't break What
does that mean? I mean somebody who's already bruised you meet those
people they have a hard day And they vent to you they respond through
their brokenness By maybe being harsh and instead of coming back and
breaking that I say This is what you did You're coming in understanding
this person probably is hurting and instead of coming and reacting you
pull back and say How was your day? What's happening to you? I see
you're flunking your work. I see you're not doing this What is really
happening and then you find out that reed is bruised And the bible says
the nature of jesus is that he doesn't break bruised reeds Meaning he
gets to know people he's kind to people He sees that woman coming at the
heat of the day the samaritan woman and he's kind to her He sees the
blind people.

He sees the lepers and and this is the nature of the lamb. The dove
doesn't descend on a bull The dove will not descend on a goat The dove
is not going to descend on some kind of a wild crazy. This is just the
way I am This is just the way my personality.

Well that personality needs to be transformed Because for the holy
spirit to remain in you there has to be inside of us a pursuit of
kindness tender heartness and forgiveness humility Not being haughty
Kind instead of being harsh being mean and being rude and sometimes the
more successful we get Especially those of us who grew up in a more of a
dominant, you know with being a man simply means being mean And the idea
of being meek is being weak Being meek is not being weak. It's being
strong under control It's controlling your strength. It's controlling
your reactions.

It's controlling your harshness. Why is that? Because the holy spirit is
deeply affected By how we treat people He loves people so much And when
he sees injustice when he sees that somebody goes in and becomes harsh
Loses tenderness in their heart and they can say all the right things
With the wrong attitude they can say all the right things But with the
wrong spirit the bible says it grieves it breaks his heart I want you to
rethink About what grieves the holy spirit's heart. It's not just about
the things that we sometimes think Do I harbor unforgiveness towards
somebody and justify it in my head because they'd never apologized
number two Is my mouth? Something that doesn't glorify christ Do I have
a tendency to lie? Do I have a tendency to exaggerate and do I have a
tendency to tell the way it is without seasoning it with grace? And
number three do I lack tenderness? Do I lack? kindness Do I lack
forgiving spirit toward a human being when I see a bruised reed Do I
break it and say well they should get their act together Or do I portray
and carry and develop and nurture the nature of the lamb? He said Learn
from me for I am gentle and lowly in heart and you will find rest for
your souls What does that mean? being harsh Is hard on your soul Being
gentle is good for your soul Being kind is rest to your soul When you
find the way of the cross when you take the highway instead of the
shortcut What we begin to experience is peace and who gives this rest
who gives this peace? The holy spirit because he rests He can rest and
when he rests we rest When he has a rest inside of my heart i'm at rest
when he doesn't find rest in me because I am rude I am mean i'm snappy.

I call people with names. I cut corners. I always jab.

I punish people You do something wrong to me. I won't respond to you.
I'll let you drink your own medicine and all of that stuff Doesn't give
him rest he doesn't like that He withdraws and when he withdraws his
rest leaves with him and I lack rest i'm right But I can't sleep I'm,
right, but I can't put the relationship together I'm educated But I
don't have peace I have money, but I don't have rest My mind is not
clear though.

My brain IQ is high Why because when the spirit withdraws he take all
the kingdom All of the presence that he carries with him away and we are
left With our human depravity. We are left with a human weakness And we
are left with high positions high ranks and all of that But inside he's
got a scratching our soul and we can't sleep. We can't think there's no
peace in here.

There's no peace in there We break one relationship break second
relationship break third relationship and we can go for deliverance
Until these carpets get stained with our vomit But until we take
responsibility for our reactions and until we repent of our sin Because
some of us blame demons for what our own nasty character is responsible
for Some of us god does not say To always blame demons for everything
the bible teaches us to crucify put away all things put on the new
things And put some stuff away put off put on put away put off things
put on things put away things We have to have a role to play Can
somebody say amen? Then those children don't have to see a therapist
Those relationships can see the light of the day Then the church can
flourish and the bible says they will know you Not because you spoke in
tongues and people cast out demons and because you walked around say but
but i've seen a miracle Jesus says they will know you by the love that
you have and love is kind Love is not supernatural Miracle signs and
wonders. It's kindness We need both the supernatural and our church
focuses on that we love that but at the same time we don't want to be
supernatural jerks We don't want to walk around mean spirited, but god
i'm prophetic empathetic Prophetic empathetic God doesn't want that to
be god wants us to walk in meekness and that's not weakness Can somebody
say amen? Come on somebody I want to rise For watching this sermon if
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