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Sree
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If we refuse to be offended, 99% of the battle is over.




I agree. But getting offended is not just a luxury for us Christians that we can either do or not. It is a requirement. Taking offense is a serious sin.

What did Jesus tell us about those who got offended?


Matthew 15:12- …12Then the disciples came to Him and said, “Are You aware that the Pharisees were offended when they heard this?” 13But Jesus replied, “Every plant that My Heavenly Father has not planted will be pulled up by its roots. 14Disregard them! They are blind guides. If a blind man leads a blind man, both will fall into a pit.”…

Whenever we get offended with someone, we are proving our self to be a plant not planted by Heavenly Father.

Brother Zac Poonen always says that 'getting offended with others' is the first and foremost sin we have to overcome. It is like ABCD of Christianity.


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I have heard it taught that not taking offense is a function of love- see 1Cor. 13.

There are a few passages in Proverbs that commends the person who does not give into anger, which is simply the product of an offense.

Facts do not cause offense, but rather our response to facts. For example if I have not talked to a friend in a couple of years but there has been no offense, we can pick up where we left off. But if I am offended because he has not contacted me in a couple of years it would be more difficult to reestablish the relationship.


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I have heard many messages on forgiveness and read many books on the topic. I would say that Dr. Kendall's sermon on Forgiveness is one of the best treatments of the subject! Thanks for posting that one, Mike!
I have come to understand that forgiveness is not two-way, as one author claims. It is one way. Our forgiveness is not conditional on the response of the other. However, reconciliation is two-way. It requires an acceptance of our forgiveness.

We don't want to conflate the two!


I'm not sure about this word "offense"/"offended" when covering the topic of forgiveness. Are we talking about the inability to forgive one who has sinned against us? Or are we talking about an assault to our pride? Or is it something else? Are there not times we should take offense, and we don't? Maybe we're wandering into other matters of Christian thought.


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Diane-

The reason the topic of offense was brought up is because in **every** case (I would argue) where a relationship has been damaged it is because one or both persons have taken offense.

If we can learn not to be so easily offended we are actually showing love to the other person because the Bible warns against those who bring offense.

"The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, and his glory is to overlook a transgression. " Pr. 19:11

The two most important things in Christianity are relationships- relationship to God is of course first but relationship with others is second. We are much more apt to maintain our relationship with others if we refuse to be offended. Again, 1 Cor 13 reinforces this idea.

People who hold grudges are always wanting people to ask for forgiveness. Those who don't couldn't care less.

Which person has more joy?


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...do not say " I love God" Whom you cannot see but you do not love your brother whom you can see...

"Love your neigbour as yourself"

"Do unto other what you would have them do to you"

"Forgive others as God in Christ forgave you"

" Freely you have received now freely give"

Should I go on...? :)

Blessings,


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I have mulled this over for several days. Being "unoffendable" is not in the Bible. Our character, our thoughts, our actions, and everything about us should be conformed to Christ. It is true that if someone hurts your "ego" that the problem may be both people, or only yourself. I know this well. I used to be a bitterly jealous person before Christ did a lot of reconstructive work on my heart, work that He is still finishing today. It is true that if we would drop pride and selfish ambitions that many, many, many things would not even phase us. THAT is biblical. However let's look at these verses:

"Then He said to the disciples, “It is impossible that no offenses should come, but woe to him through whom they do come! It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were thrown into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones. Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a day returns to you, saying, ‘I repent,’ you shall forgive him.”

Look at the Lord's prayer "Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us."

If Jesus had wanted to say "Be unoffendable" then He completely missed the opportunity to do so.

Don't nullify the scriptures by creating a standard that does not exist. It sounds super spiritual to say, "oh just don't have an offendable heart" but that isn't what the Bible teaches. Abortion, sex-trafficking, husbands beating their wives and children to death, mothers drowning their children in the name of God--if this does not offend you then something is wrong with your heart.

Lastly, in regards to a brother: if a brother sins against you, then you are commanded to deal with it. Do it in love, desiring full reconciliation, but it must be addressed. Jesus commanded it. There is no standard higher than His and to pretend like you are not offended, puts enmity in your heart, and you allow your brother to continue to sin against God. If you loved him, you'd address it biblically. That is why Matthew 18 exists. A brother who has sinned against another and refuses to repent should be cast out, for his sake and the churches--hence Hank Hanegraaf's statements.

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There is a difference between righteous anger on behalf of *others* especially innocent or helpless others and taking offense at a wrong directed at you personally.

Jesus said to turn the other cheek, but I know with all my heart that if he had caught a man abusing a child the man would have been in serious trouble.


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If someone sins against you , than you are to rebuke them, If there offence is not serious enough to deserve a rebuke than simply get over it.
If after the rebuke they repent than forgive them. If they refuse to repent after they have been rebuked and if the offence was serious such as the evil that Alexander the coppersmith did to Paul.
Than we are to turn over the recompense for the wrong to the Lord as did Paul concerning the case of Alexander the coppersmith.

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What a lot of people seem to be confusing is the difference in forgiving those whom repent after they have been rebuked.

And that of simply not harboring bitterness against the offender that refuses to repent.

Michael Pearl has an excellant CD pertaining mostly to how victims of molestation and such are to respond to there aggressors.

"The Bible does not teach that Christians are to forgive everyone. In some cases it would be a sin to forgive. See what the Bible says and free yourself from the bondage of modern psycho babble. By Michael Pearl."
http://nogreaterjoy.org/shop/when-forgiveness-is-a-sin-cd








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Colossians 3:13
13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Matthew 6:14-15
14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Luke 17:3-4
3 So watch yourselves. “If your brother or sistersins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. 4 Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying ‘I repent,’ you must forgive them.”

Ephesians 4:31-32
31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

1 John 1:9
9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

Isaiah 43:25-26
25 “I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more. 26 Review the past for me, let us argue the matter together; state the case for your innocence.

Acts 3:19
19 Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord,

Isaiah 1:18
18 “Come now, let us settle the matter,” says the LORD. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.

2 Corinthians 5:17
17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!

Ephesians 1:7
7 In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace

Hebrews 10:17
17 Then he adds: “Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more.”

Daniel 9:9
9 The Lord our God is merciful and forgiving, even though we have rebelled against him;

Colossians 1:13-14
13 For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, 14 in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

Psalm 103:12
12 as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.

Numbers 14:19-21
19 In accordance with your great love, forgive the sin of these people, just as you have pardoned them from the time they left Egypt until now.” 20 The LORD replied, “I have forgiven them, as you asked. 21 Nevertheless, as surely as I live and as surely as the glory of the LORD fills the whole earth,

Micah 7:18-19
18 Who is a God like you, who pardons sin and forgives the transgression of the remnant of his inheritance? You do not stay angry forever but delight to show mercy. 19 You will again have compassion on us; you will tread our sins underfoot and hurl all our iniquities into the depths of the sea.

Matthew 6:9-15
9 “This, then, is how you should pray: “ ‘Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, 10 your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. 11 Give us today our daily bread. 12 And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. 13 And lead us not into temptation,but deliver us from the evil one.’ 14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Mark 11:25
25 And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”

Matthew 26:28
28 This is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins.


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