So, I was talking to a young woman this morning. She is in her 20s and is smart and good looking young lady. I asked her about her weekend and she told me she spent it with her friend. Oh, I said, not your boyfriend? She kinda struggled with the words to tell me yes, but not really. I asked her what that meant? Well, we have not called ourselves that. I asked her how do you introduce each other and she said as friends. I asked her if she loved him and after some struggling she said yes but you cant say that, you have to wall it in. And I asked her if love could be walled? ( which is where the idea from the poem below came from) Bottom line she said they were friends with benefits. I asked her who that really benefits? I told her she was worth more than that. She is not the first young person I have spoken to who are afraid to commit to a relationship. It seems that the 20 something generation are terribly insecure? Here is the poem .................Can love truly be walledDoes it really matter what a relationship is calledEven if we deny the word for fear of rejectionI think what is really happening is called protectionSo, you have given what you have awayDo you really think he is gonna stay?You love him but you cannot say it aloudYour introduced as a friend when he is with the crowdA friend, really? Is that all it is?Is this what you imagined before your first kissWhen you dreamed of love and being swept off your feetHe can sleep with someone else and he is not even a cheatAnd so love dwells deep within your heartAre you truly close or are you really worlds apartIs he there for the benefits and that's all he really wantsAnd dreams of relationships are nothing more than tauntsAnd so love is real and it never can be walledNo matter if your "only" a friend and that's all your ever calledThis is not your destiny you are called to something higherA commitment, a promise, a ring, is what you should require
Amen brother Frank. Beautifully stated.Commitment is a word this generation, in general, shies away from
_________________William
The tragedy of this generation is that they never experience the unspeakable beauty of true romantic love as fulfilled in godly marriage. When couples have lived in immorality, I doubt whether they can have a proper spiritual intimacy even in marriage without first truly repenting of and renouncing their past sins. The Holy Spirit has inspired me over a period of about forty years to chronicle my heart's feelings about love in a series of sonnets. The first were about yearning for true love, then about discovering it and finally telling about the experience. This is one of my more recent sonnets written for my wife after many years of marriage. Eureka!Happy the man whose heart can safely restIn her sweet love with whom his heart is bound.From God's Own Hand he has a treasure foundBeyond all wealth this vain world could contest.With jealous care he guards this very bestOf earthly joys. Her presence does surroundHim with a gentle peace. 'Tis hallowed ground -That tranquil haven by the twain possessed.Adversity cannot cause it despair.Through woe or weal it constant does remain.Its vibrance is sustained by ceaseless prayer.Its Heavenly Source can never fail or wain.All praise to God Who made this blessing mine!For such pure love as this, my dear, is thine!David