My neighbor who is a very sweet Christian family is going to file for divorce. I meet with her tomorrow to make a first appeal to change her mind. They have 2 sweet children. I'm clueless what I am going to say. I pray that God gives me the right words and I'm going to search the bible for suitable verses. This is the first time God using me in such delicate matter.
Any suggestion will be greatly appreciated.

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Paula

Christians don't get a divorce.

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Jimmy H

Well, a marriage counselor I definitely am not.

But, I was separated from my wife, and on the way to a divorce. Now, we are back together, and more happy than ever, thanks to God.

My only suggestion, if it even applies to these folks, is GIVE IT TIME. Satan is so deceitful.

Lies like:
This marriage just can't work.
I don't love him/her anymore.
Someone else would understand.

A divorce is worse than a death in the family, I've heard it say. Think of how it will affect the kids.

All this and much more.

Oh yeah, and this one...WWJD

What Would Jesus Do?

I'll pray for them tonight.

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Mark

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Paula

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Cindy

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Mark

If your friend does not want the divorce (ie, one sided) then you should encourage her to push her husband to seek counseling from a conservative CHRISTIAN marriage counselor. Obviously Jesus stated the only condition for divorce is infidelity but if they haven't gone that far then it has a good chance of working out. My parents went through this when i was younger (about 15 years ago) and I know that one had not been faithful to the other but they ended up staying together. It was hard for them but now they are happier than ever. I know many divorced people and none of them are content/happy. Most say in hindsight they wished they would've worked things out. It's tough because we're not in your friend's shoes. Marriage is both heaven and hell. It may be hard to make her realize that things can actually get better but I believe the most important thing you can do for her is to be a caring voice of reason. She may be getting advice from other friends who are divorced. You know misery loves company and I've heard the same miserable divorced people I know to encourage their married friends to go ahead and file for divorce if they aren't happy.

Ravi Zacharias [url=www.rzim.org]Ravi Zacharias Internation Ministries[/url] has made the very true statement that [b]if you will to love someone you can[/b]. In the beginning, love between a man and a woman may be completely physical and romantic (lust) which is the way God made us so we'd be "fruitful". But everyone knows that after the lust dies the commitment part steps in. This is where the [i]will[/i] to love the other person comes in. I'll pray that you are able to help your friend make the right decision and not the easy one.

Ravi's message [i]I Isaac, Take thee Rebekah[/i] is a very good sermon on love, marriage and commitment.
[url=http://resources.christianity.com/ministries/rzim/main/talkInfo.jhtml?id=21409&JServSessionIdroot=9lzzbhj2n1]I Isaac, Take thee Rebekah part 1[/url]
[url=http://resources.christianity.com/ministries/rzim/main/talkInfo.jhtml?id=21410&JServSessionIdroot=9lzzbhj2n1]I Isaac, Take thee Rebekah part 2[/url]

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Matt M.

paula4jc

If you would ask the Holy Spirit to give you the words to touch the folks getting a divorce, He will.

I and my Wife have just prayed for you, we were separated, I handed her divorce papers...
Yet be assured the prayers of a Loving Wife and of our Family brought me back to the saving knowledge of Christ.

So even though other may say it is useless rest assured that our GOD JESUS is more than able to take what the tyrant has stolen.

Isaiah 49:24-25
24 Thus says the LORD:
Can booty be taken from a warrior?
or captives be rescued from a tyrant?
25 Yes, captives can be taken from a warrior,
and booty be rescued from a tyrant;
Those who oppose you I will oppose,
and your sons I will save.

If you are to be used examine yourself and ask the Lord to speak through you. He will give you the words that will not fall to the Ground.

Don't give up, but be respectful and Loving and give the Word of the Lord with Love.

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Michael

Hi Paula,
This is Michael's wife, Era, writing this time.
You were looking for scripture, and I can only give you the words of Jesus himself:

“Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery. Luke 16:18

Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that lwhoever divorces his wife for any reason except 3sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. Matthew 5:31

I pray this helps you.

PS: Thank you for trying to keep this couple together. But, PLEASE don't loose faith if things don't turn out the way you want them to right away. When my marriage was suffering, we had people praying for us everywhere, but I saw no immediate results. But, when I least expected, my husband "came back from the dead" to me. Please, have faith.

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Michael

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Mark Daniel