good, we are back 2 the topic and the focus is off of me. what i was attempting 2 say is that children need to be guarded, and they need rules and they need discipline when they break those rules. but it is my opinion that many well-meaning christian parents over protect and over regulate, and when that happens they do not teach their children the grace of god but rather a works based way 2 god. in order 2 please god they learn that he is concerned with their performance. if their performance duznt measure up then god is not happy w/them or maybe they get the impression he duznt luv them if they dont measure up. let me be clear (since people dont seem 2 read all of what I say before they respond 2 me) children DO need 2 learn christian bible behavior. i do not question that. but when they are over protected and pleasing mom and dad is based on how they behave, then they translate that in2 a life of trying 2 measure up in order 2 for god to luv and approve of them. the sick twist is this: they NEVER feel like they r luved by god no matter how r they try. so they walk away from god in frustration. all along they were never truly saved becuz their faith was based up their works and not the finished work of christ. i know this becuz I have lived this. i lived this for 32 years. i pray god i dont do 2 my kids what was dun 2 me. it becomes so engraved in ur psyche only gods spirit can penetrate it.
HayDev wrote :-Well Skeptic, I am sorry if I took what you wrote wrongly.
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