Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. (Eph. 5:25)
What does a Christian wife desire in her husband? Her first concern should be with his spiritual life, not with his physical appearance.
He should be a man of God, one who seeks first the kingdom of God and his righteousness. His objective is to serve the Lord and to be active in the local fellowship. In the home he should maintain a family altar, and be an example of the believer.
This man takes his proper place as head of the house, but he is not a tyrant.
He loves his wife and thereby wins her subjection rather than demanding it. He is respectful to her, treating her like a lady at all times. He is faithful, understanding, longsuffering, kind, thoughtful, considerate and joyful.
The ideal husband is a good provider, one who is diligent in business. But money is not his first priority. He is not covetous or greedy.
He is one who loves his children, trains them, spends time with them, plans social activities for them, is a good example for them and gives each one individual attention.
He is a lover of hospitality. His home is open to the Lords servants, to all Christians and to the unsaved as well.
He keeps lines of communication open with his wife and family. He understands and accepts their limitations and can laugh goodnaturedly at their blunders. He shares with them on a social and intellectual basis. When he does or says something wrong, he is quick to admit his mistake and apologize. He is always open to suggestions from the family. It is highly desirable that he be able to keep on top when his wife is down.
Other desirable traits are that he be clean and well-groomed, unselfish, honest, gentle, dependable, loyal, generous and appreciative. He should have a good sense of humor and be neither grouchy nor complaining.
Few if any men embody all these virtues and it is unrealistic to expect them all. A wife should be grateful for those which she does find and lovingly help her husband to develop others.
SI Moderator - Greg Gordon