Yes, we are in agreement. If the man never comes,,,the man Christ Jesus is enough. This is the way it should be with young men, too.
ehh, there are guys out there that haven't bought into the world's system. There are some really fine young men out there that are also determined to do relationships the Lord's way. Here's a shot of me at age 28. I am still a virgin in this picture, but I binged on porn the night before, and you can kind of see the strain in my eyes a little bit.http://www.pbase.com/craig_c/image/135637012
Yes, Endzone you are right. There are some fine young men out there.
Thinking about some of the responses to this thread. I admit i am finding it confusing. why would a young man who has dealt with this issue in Christ and is now a new creation be accountable and therefor not a good prospect for future husband but a young man who is a liar, cheat, prone to anger, pride, selfishness ect be ok??? This is confusing to me, don't we trust that God is capable of truly changing a life and truly capable of helping someone overcome this sin just as HE does any other? Sin is sin, or does this sin hold some more wicked and is somehow more sinful?Am I misunderstanding?
It is not a lack of trusting God and knowing what the new birth can do, it is a lack of trusting man and just plain old wisdom in the face of the overwhelming percentages today. Sin is sin, however, pornography and promiscuity seems to be a real stronghold from what men are testifying to these days.
after much prayer I have decided to change my post. Thank you
Sarah, I don't think most Christian men are out to deceive young Christian girls, but maybe I could be wrong. I just think a lot of people get married before they are ready to. But, you and your husband want to be protective of your daughters, and I understand that. Hopefully they will actually hear from the Lord about who they are suppossed to marry. There are young women who have gone through tough stuff too that may not be really ready to get married. At the church I have gone to for 30 years, there has been a group from Teen Challenge going there for more than 30 years. This particular Teen Challenge is for women. It is a very good program, and there is always a waiting list. This particular Teen Challenge happens to be one of the better ones IMHO. But, I've seen many different women go through it, and it is very restrictive. And here is my point. The track record of these girls after marriage is not very good. A lot of these girls were young and cute, and it doesn't seem to make a whole lot of difference. In fact I was just at a upscale grocery store about a month ago, and I talked with a fellow I knew who married one of these cute young Teen Challenge girls. She was considerably younger than him. Anyway, they had 2 kids, and now they are divorced. He said she was cutting her wrist, etc., but I'm sure he has some blame in it too. Anyway, my point is Christian people who are working through tough strongholds in their life may not be ready for marriage as soon as they think. In this case I'm talking about a group of women. In the case of porn, if a man has truly put it behind him, I think he should seriously consider getting married. I'll tell you though I was a virgin until I was 28. My first "encounter" was with a prostitute. I resented people that told me I should consider dating girls that had a promiscuous past when I was still a virgin. You don't want your daughters to consider marrying a fellow that had a lot of promiscuity in his past. I perfectly understand, and I think it is right that you encourage them not to. There certainly were a couple of good looking guys in my church that were just players over the years. They did not have the girl's best interest in mind.
MaryJane, do you remember the cliche saying, "You don't go looking for a new car in a used car lot?" Haha, that was the saying around the youth groups when I was that age about 30 years ago. Whoever this young man is that you have in mind, The Lord still has a wonderful girl for him in his life if he will submit to the Lord's plan. I know I never would trust myself in any relationship if I didn't hear from the Lord. But maybe most people aren't like me. I don't know.