1 Corinthians 7:9

Who is Paul talking to then....and in 2010?

Or was he addressing people who were already in a courtship?

i believe he is speaking about someone who is not married and is a christian who has an interest towards the opposite sex. The basis i believe for him saying this is that to not fall in fornication and sexual immorality through burning for lust, which could lead to those acts is that you need to marry so you don't sin against the Lord. Fornication is a very sinful act and can hurt the walk of a believer very much.

Bible4life,

Is this across the board? I'm just thinking about getting married without resolving these issues first. I know someone who wants to get married to fulfill that area but I know it's not going to be pretty down the road. If you know what I mean.

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Leonardo Santana

would u marry a non christian

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michelle

@Santana,

I don't think you should marry without resolving that issue. I heard from pastors that addiction to porn or lust does not fade when one gets married. Although everyone who does not have the gift of celibacy does burn with lust, I think there should be some type of change that happens before marriage. Marriage is already hard from what I hear, it seems like a lack of control in this area will make it harder.

@shy1

no, it's about the worst thing you can do when it comes to marriage.

let me rephrase that. not in all instances but it would be rare. God does very rarely use or others to save that person. But that's if that person gets saved.

I don't think God wants us to be unequally yoked.

I would say 99.999999%, it shouldn't be done because it will be hell on earth.

I know it's hard because we are human and if we meet a great match is very hard to do in this world but I seen marriages and people go through too much pain for me to recommend this at all.

I know a girl I grew up with who married a non-believer and he just got up and left her one day when she had a child with him.

I know families torn apart, and parents divorces and broken children result from this.

I really do not recommend this but I hope that you pray to God if you are in this situation about this.

Im a six-seven year old Christian and if there is anything i struggle with most its lust and sexual immorality and lack of self control.
I want to marry because i cant control my lust at times but this is not the soul reason and motivation for choosing someone. Never!
I know when i get married i will see more attractive women afterwards of which i will never have an obligation to be with in a relationship.
I also believe that when im married i maybe touched by some other woman who has qualities about her that my wife does not and i may be tempted to comprimise my marriage.
The other night i gave into lust and sinned and at times i think, 'I should just go and get married and then i wont struggle with lust.' But i think this will not be the case and ill have to exercise more self control than i do as a single young man.
If i make a commitment to marry this will be because i choose to do so and there is much benifits from being married including family and love being reciprocated. Does this mean i am in Gods will? Does God choose the person for us? Or do i just live and trust God and seek him knowing that he will give me all i need in thier own times?

It is wise if you get to know a
woman as a sister and a friend
before you marry. Let GOD lead
in the relationship. Walk in
the Spirit so you will not be
tempted and vulnerable!!

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Martin G. Smith

Stevedude asks
"Or do i just live and trust God and seek him knowing that he will give me all i need in thier own times?"

You came to the right asnswer yourself Steve. The Lord Jesus always hears our true hearts cry.

"Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our profession. For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need. Heb 4:14-16 (KJV)

David

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david

Funny how a man of the world seeks out his wife and do well with her (mind you some don't, but that can be said in the Church as well), and a man in the faith is bound by waiting for the Lord to give him a wife. I rarely see God intervening on man's behalf in satisfying a lustful relationship with porn by giving him a wife.

Paul was referring to men who were not married, who were finding themselves in houses of ill fame and he was telling them, "look, get married, it's better for you be with one woman than to cruise broadway trying to fulfill that burning urge."