I know most of you are not mothers but many of you are fathers and/or grandfathers. This article by Nancy Campbell is very wise. I often refrained from using the word "kids" because something in my spirit was not comfortable with that. Yet I would use it sometimes so not to appear too "girlie" or vulnerable. Now this makes perfect sense. I think younger men also have a hard time using the word children instead of kids because they feel it makes them sound weak. Enjoy!
[b]What Does God Call Our Children?[/b]
The most common word for children in society today is the word kids. However, is this a word that God has chosen to call our children? No. We dont see it anywhere in the Bible in relation to children. In fact, if you check the 1928 Websters Dictionary you will not find this word for children. Kids is a modern word that has been added in later years. I have to confess that for a long time, I also used this word. I did not like the word and never felt that it was right, but I succumbed to the trend around me. Oh, how easy it is to do things just because everyone else is doing them, without thinking whether it is actually the best thing to do.
However, there came a time when I was challenged. A number of years ago I read an article about a sheep farmer in New Zealand. This farmer had diversified into raising goats as well as sheep and he noticed an interesting comparison. The ewes remained close to their lambs, watching them while they fed. He noticed however, that the goats would herd their young together in one spot on a knoll of a hill and leave them while they went off to forage for the day. They did not provide the same individual attention which the sheep gave to their offspring.
Inspiration clicked in my mind as I read this, but before I accepted it, I felt I should check out if it was really true. I asked my father who is an authority on sheep. He was the World champion Sheep Shearer in his younger days and has shorn over a million sheep in his life time.
Yes, he said, sheep will never go further than earshot from the little lambs.
I was very challenged. Has kids become the accepted word for children today because we have become a generation of goat mothers? Instead of staying close to their lambs, thousands of mothers are dropping them off at nurseries and day care and going off to fulfill their own careers. This is goat mothering. No wonder we call our children kids!
THE CHARACTER OF GOATS
A lady in Australia, shared with me that she and her husband used to hunt for wild goats for a living in out-back New South Wales. She observed that in the face of danger the nanny goat would leave her little kids unprotected and run from danger to save herself. And yet the sheep, which is a docile animal, will protect its young. While walking around the ewes and lambs with my father in New Zealand a couple of years ago I noticed a little new-born lamb, struggling to its feet for the first time. I crept right up to it to get a picture. The mother ewe was scared of me and ran away a couple of yards, but because of her protective instinct over her lamb, she came right back to guard her baby, even though she was afraid! She was a protecting mother who would not leave her young.
Another thing this lady noticed was that the goats were cowards and would give up easily. When they caught the goats live, they would turn them over onto their backs. She said that the goats did not struggle. Their eight-year-old daughter was able to put her foot on the goats neck and it waited until they came to tie it up.
A farmers wife in New Zealand wrote to me, Over many years we have raised lambs on our land and indeed the sheep are wonderful mothers. This year, for the first time, we had goats and baby kids. One Sunday, as we drove in the front gate we heard a loud bleating and stopped to check. There, on top of a hill were young twin kids, brown and white and no mother anywhere at all. My eight-year-old son was very worried and kept going back to check. After two hours they were cold and getting weaker so we heated bricks, wrapped in newspaper, and went to warm them and prepare to feed these orphans. When we arrived, there to our amazement, was the mother, who was not dead, but had simply gone off to feed. She must have continued this neglect because not long after, the little white kid was taken by a fox. Im sure we dont want to be classified as one of these goat mothers!
This is certainly not the kind of character we want to speak into our children either, is it? Do we really want them to be like kids? We used to have a pet goat when we were children, and although we loved Jilly, she was the biggest problem of our lives. We were always in trouble with neighbors as she would get into their gardens and eat their flowers, vegetables, and trees - and their clothing hanging on the line! We werent very popular! Goats by nature are independent, proud, rebellious, destructive, and yet cowardly in the face of danger.
THE CHARACTER OF SHEEP
God always likens His people to sheep, who by nature are meek and submissive.
So we thy people of thy pasture will give thee thanks forever. (Psalm 79:13)
Give ear, O Shepherd of Israel, thou that leadest Joseph like a flock. (Psalm 80:1)
We are the people of His pasture, and the sheep of His hand. (Psalm 95:7)
All we like sheep have gone astray, we have turned every one to his own way. (Isaiah 53:6)
He called his own sheep by name, and leadeth them out... he goeth before them, and the sheep follow him: for they know his voice. (John 10:1-15)
Even Messiah Himself is likened to a sheep because of His total submission to the Fathers will.
He was oppressed, and he was afflicted, and yet he opened not his mouth: he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openeth not his mouth. (Isaiah 53:7)
Behold, the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world. (John 1:29)
GOD SEPARATES THE SHEEP FROM THE GOATS
The people whom God calls goats are those He separates from His company.
I punished the goats: for the Lord of hosts hath visited His flock... (Zech. 10:3)
When God visits His flock, He will separate the sheep from the goats and punish the goats! The goats and the sheep are in the flock together, but only one belongs to Him - the sheep. We noticed this when we visited Israel a number of times and saw the Bedouin shepherds with their little flock of goats and sheep. They both look alike and from a distance you cant tell the difference.
In the church today the goats and sheep are all in the flock together, but there will come a day when God will visit His flock and He will separate the one from the other.
Now then, my flock, I, the Sovereign Lord, tell you that I will judge each of you and separate the good from the bad, the sheep from the goats. (Ezekiel 34:17)
When the Son of man shall come into His glory, and all the holy angels with Him, then shall He sit upon the throne of His glory: and before Him shall be gathered all nations, and he shall separate them one from another, as a shepherd divideth his sheep from the goats: and he shall set the sheep on His right hand, but the goats on the left... and these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal. (Matthew 25:31-46)
Wow! After realizing all this I decided that I didnt want to be part of the goat company. I didnt want to impose the goat character on my children. Our children should be different from the children of the world, anyway. I therefore made an effort to stop using the word kids. Now, I find that it grates upon me when I hear it.
Thats the negative, what about the positive? If kids is not the kingdom word for our children, what can we call them? How about using the word, children? The most common word of children in the Bible is ben which literally means, the builder of the family name. Thats a name that is worth using, isnt it? Our children need to understand that they are helping to build the family name. This will encourage them to take pride and responsibility in their family. They are part of the team, along with their parents, to build the character and integrity of their family name.
Apart from children, sons and daughters, offspring, lads and lasses, which are all Biblical names, we find many expression of Gods heart for children. These are wonderful expressions you can use when speaking about your children. Lets discover them together, shall we?
GIFTS
Read Genesis 33:5, 48:9, Joshua 24:3, Ruth 4:13b, 1 Chronicles 25:4-6, Psalm 127:3-5. Our children are gifts from the hand of the Lord. They are given to us by God. We can call them our gifts. What we call our children has an amazing impact upon their attitude and their behavior.
I had a lovely revelation recently from Jeremiah 1:5, Before I formed thee in the womb I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations. As I checked the word ordained in my concordance I was amazed to notice that the Hebrew word, nathan is a primary root word meaning to give. God planned Jeremiahs future before he was even conceived! And God gave him as a gift to the nations.
Every child has a gift to the world! Isnt that exciting? Our children are not only a gift from God to us, but a gift to others. Each child God has given you is a gift from God to the world. Who knows which one will be another David, or Paul, or Einstein, or Billy Graham! Or anointed and faithful builders, teachers, store managers, or whatever! And of course, godly mothers and fathers. Praise God, the world will never be the same because of these gifts that you have brought into the world and will bring into the world.
BLESSINGS
I remember a friend of mine with three difficult little children. She often referred to them as her brats. One day God convicted her that these children were blessings from God and that she should acknowledge them as such. She began to call them her blessings. As she changed her vocabulary, her attitude to her children changed. As she changed, her children changed. Instead of being brats, they became the blessings she called them. These children are now fully grown today and are continuing to bring much blessing to their parents.
HERITAGE OF THE LORD Psalm 127:3
FRUIT OF THE WOMB Psalm 127:3
BELOVED FRUIT OF THE WOMB Hosea 9:16
I love the beautiful names God calls our children. Isnt this a lovely one? Not just the fruit of the womb, but the beloved fruit of the womb! The context of this passage is that God was going to destroy the beloved fruit of their womb, because of their continual disobedience. However, it shows how God views children and also how the early Hebrews felt about their children.
Heres what some of the other translations say...
NIV Cherished offspring
RV Beloved children
NAS Precious ones
NEB Dearest offspring
TJB Darlings
NAS Treasures of the womb
REWARDS Psalm 127:3
We feel really special when we have been rewarded, dont we? Imagine how special your children will feel when you call them your rewards.
ARROWS Psalm 128:3
Our task as parents is to polish, sharpen, and prepare arrows to be ready to be sent forth from the bow to his the mark God has planned for our lives. We are arrow polishers. It gives our children a sense of destiny to know they are arrows, being sharpened and prepare for Gods army. This is a great name to call your children. Here are some of the kind of arrows God wants you to prepare for His purposes: Ready (Psalm 21:12); Polished (Isaiah 49:2); Piercing (Numbers 24:8); Scattering (2 Sam 22:15; Psalm 18:14); Sticking fast (Psalm 38:2); Sharp (Psalm 45:5; 120:4); Bright (Jer 51:11); Light giving (Hab. 3:11); Going abroad (Psalm 77:17); Destroying (Psalm 144:6); Hitting the mark (Jer 50:9); Lightning (Psalm 12:14; 144:6); Shooting (Psalm 64:7); Victory (2 Kings 13:14-19).
OLIVE PLANTS Psalm 128:3
I wonder why God calls our children olive plants. I think I may have a few ideas:
Olive trees were a symbol of blessing to the Israelites. When they saw the new olive shoots coming up around their olive trees, the knew they were blessed. (Deut 6:11; 8:8)
Olive plants have to be cultivated or they will deteriorate and grow wild. So our children have to be cultivated and trained if they are going to grow up in wisdom and stature.
Olive trees are a symbol of beauty. (Hosea 14:6) The Hebrew word hod used for beauty, although sometimes used for men, is mainly associated with God. It means splendor, majesty, glory, and honor. This time it is used of the olive tree. God wants our children to grow up beautiful like the olive tree, revealing to the world the glory and splendor of God.
Olive trees had a purpose. They were not just ornaments. Our children also have a purpose. Before the foundation of the world God chose them and prepared their destiny. It is our role as parents to help them find that destiny and prepare them to walk in it. In Bible days the olive tree was used for: Building - The two cherubim's within the oracle and the doors into the oracle were made of olive wood. (1 Kings 6:32, 33) The purpose of our olive plants is to help build the kingdom of God.
Light - The oil from the olive tree was used for lighting the lamps in the tabernacle. (Ex 27:20, 21; Lev 24:1-4) Let us pray that our olive shoots will grow up to be lights in the midst of the darkness of this world. There are many who are afraid to have children because they fear to bring them into this evil world. But this is the very purpose God wants us to bring forth the godly seed - to be lights in the midst of the darkness! If we hold back the godly seed, evil will increase.
Holy Anointing Oil - (Ex 30:22-33) Let us pray that our olive plants will grow up to be anointed of God to preach good tidings unto the meek; to bind up the broken-hearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound... (Isaiah 61:11)
Food - The Israelites could hardly survive for food without the olive tree. Even in our countries what could we do without olives, olive oil, and all the things that are made from them? May our children feed many who are broken and starving and need God. (Prov 10:21)
Olive trees live forever. Well, just about. There is a saying in Israel that the olive tree never dies. On a number of occasions we have visited the site of the Garden of Gethsemane which is at the base of the Mount of Olives and looks up to the Golden Gate of the City of Jerusalem. This is the gate that the Bible says our Messiah is going to walk through one day. In this garden, there are a number of very old, gnarled olive trees. The guides tell us that they are two to three thousand years old and they are still alive and growing. Our children are also eternal souls who will live forever. Mothering is an eternal career. It is not a waste of time. It lasts into the eons of eternity.
VIGOROUS GROWING PLANTS Psalm 144:12
POLISHED CORNER STONES Psalm 144:12
What a powerful description for our daughters. The corner stone is the most important stone in the building - it is the pivot, foundation, and plumb-line from which everything is measured. We must raise up our daughters to be mothers and homemakers for motherhood is the foundation of society. It is the greatest career they will ever embark upon. Many daughters today are prepared for other careers instead of motherhood. This brings great confusion. When they get married they face a dilemma. What do I do with this career for which I have been trained? They think it is more important than motherhood, and therefore dont fully embrace their mothering role. Because of this, they never really enjoy it. They have no understanding of their highest calling.
Motherhood is a dignified role. It is not to be degraded. We should raise our daughters to be who they are, daughters of the King of kings, with beauty, regality, and splendor. Other translations of this scripture say:
NAS fashioned as for a palace
TLB of graceful beauty like the pillars of a palace wall.
NIV carved to adorn a palace
SIGNS AND WONDERS Isaiah 8:18
How exciting that our children are signs and wonders for God!
LAMBS Isaiah 40:11
As many mothers change their vocabulary and call their little ones their lambs instead of kids, they notice a new attitude toward their children. They experience a fresh tenderness in caring for their offspring. They become more like the Good Shepherd, who does not leave His young, but carries them in His bosom.
WORK OF GODS HANDS Isaiah 29:23, 24
How important it is for our children to realize they are not a nuisance to our pursuits in life. They should be reminded they are the work of Gods hands and it is our highest privilege in life to teach and train them on Gods behalf.
GODLY SEED Malachi 2:15
The greatest way we can please our Father God is to bring forth and nurture a godly seed. This is what God looks for. And he looks for godly parents to produce this godly seed. The Hebrew word that is used for the godly seed is elohim which is one of the names of God. Isnt that amazing? God wants our children to come forth who are like Him. God wants children who will show who He is to the world. God wants children who are pure and righteous. God wants children who will allow Him to transform them into His image.
GLORY Hosea 9:11
Children are the glory of a nation.
CROWNS Proverbs 17:6
This is a special name for grandchildren
RESTORER OF LIFE Ruth 4:15
NOURISHER OF OLD AGE Ruth 4:15
Of course there are many other special names you can call your children apart from these biblical ones. Each family will have their own pet names, but lets keep to the positive ones. Will you take up this challenge with me? Lets start a revolution and eliminate the word kids from our society!
_________________ Chanin
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