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HeartSong
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| | Re: | | Our Lord is in the heart changing business. He can easily change the heart of the mother of your child. He can also fill your heart with such a love for her that you won't know what to do with yourself.
But you must pray believing this to be so. You may have to wait for a period of time, but if you continue to pray, and to patiently wait, knowing that it is His will that you are all together - He WILL provide! However, there may be a period of testing (which you may be going through right now) it may even be that you will not be able to see your daughter for a period of time. If that be the case, will you still believe?
If you feel that you do not believe enough, simply ask the Lord to provide that also.
"And straightway the father of the child cried out, and said with tears, Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief." - Mark 9:24 |
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 2009/1/22 14:48 | Profile |
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| | Re: Child Custody | | I am wondering if it is Gods will that we all be together. I think it might be wrong to assume that. Paul says if you have an unbelieving wife and she wants to go, let her go. This woman wasn't even my wife. |
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| 2009/1/22 21:41 | Profile |
HeartSong
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Paul says if you have an unbelieving wife and she wants to go, let her go.
Yes, just as the Lord will let us go if we do not believe and we choose to go.
You could fast and pray for her salvation, but that is up to you.
Here is the way of the law. You go to court, somebody wins, and somebody loses. Lines are drawn, the war is on. There is always a way around the law so the days are spent looking for a loophole. Revenge becomes a way of life. The child is forgotten as the battle rages on.
My mother made my father miserable all the days of his life, for he loved his girls, and that was always her trump card. What is tragic, is that today the battle continues on in the mind of my father, even though the war has been over for many years.
The real torture comes when the mother marries another man. |
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| 2009/1/23 0:18 | Profile |
| | Re: | | I dont think anyone is telling you to try to get back together and marry this girl. I mean, God may work that miracle, I would never rule that out.
But your immediate question is about your daughter, and I think everyone has focussed on that.
Very good advice from everyone, you should heed it. :-)
Krispy |
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| 2009/1/23 7:30 | |
ginnyrose
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| | Re: | | 123,
I admit that my approach to this issue is rough. Mind if I tell you why? I have worked at a CPC for 15 years and am well acquainted with the mess sin makes in the lives of ungodly people. I also have sat on a grand jury where a case came before us on whether this man should be charged with rape. It was consensual, but the girl was a minor and the law says it is illegal for an adult to have sex with a minor, even if it was consensual. Fair? The DA admits it isn't but this is the law. (The mother of the girl was pushing it.) What could have saved this man tons of grief is if he would have acted like a MAN instead of an immature boy. So now you will have a woman who has emotional scares from her sexual activity with this man; and the man has to sit behind bars for several years. Who is in the the worse prison? I suppose both are, they are just different. Brother, sin is just messy, inflicts pain, sorrow and grief and no one comes out of it unscathed.
Now, from the Biblical viewpoint I would also not advise you to marry this woman unless she has her heart changed by the Holy Spirit. To marry her without this happening will just about guarantee a failure. The only thing you want is access to your daughter. It just may well be you will have to relinquish that desire to the Father and learn from it and then allow Him to work it out if that is His will.
About financial support: as you have mentioned the woman is demanding more monies....it seems to me if you were to make this contribution to her welfare it might be for the best for you if you would have the amount stipulated by the state "so much" and that is all. Else she will come back and beg for more and more and more and rob you. Even in this you will need to seek the LORD's will...don't do anything apart from that lest you mess up again.
God bless you,
ginnyrose
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| 2009/1/23 12:22 | Profile |
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| | Re: | | If anyone on here has been praying for my situation thank you. The mother and I are starting to communicate, which is a new thing.We still have a long ways to go.
Please keep praying.
any new advice is also appreciated |
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| 2009/1/24 16:32 | Profile |
HeartSong
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The mother and I are starting to communicate . . .
Oh, praise the Lord! (make sure you do the same :-) )
Just keep praying, and no matter what happens, just keep on believing.
What a wonderful Saviour we have! |
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| 2009/1/24 17:21 | Profile |
RobertW
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any new advice is also appreciated
Live a life of love and integrity before the child and as much as is possible live peaceably with the mother and others. It will take the wisdom of Solomon and the patience of Job to navigate going forward.
[color=000066]If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
(James 1:5)[/color]
Keep yourself strong in the Lord at all times. You need to stay filled with His Spirit. This will help your spirit and disposition be right during serious trials. It is a long and hard road, but one that God has brought men and women through before.
Try to live a life of moderation and contentment so as not to provoke the other parent to jealousy. Be involved as much as is reasonable with your child, but not so much as to cause friction in the other home. Pay attention and pray for wisdom and guidance when a problem comes up. It is easier to hurt than to heal, so use your words carefully.
Don't mean mouth the other parent. You can disagree, but don't mean mouth them no matter how bad they provoke you. The child will take that to heart. Remember, where there is no tail bearer strife ceases; so don't get bent out of shape over, "He-said and she-said." Sometimes kids don't know they are causing trouble unnecessarily, etc.
Just some thoughts...
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| 2009/1/24 22:09 | Profile |
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| | Re: | | Hey everyone
I am planning to go down and see my daughter next week. Please pray that God would work things out and it would be a good and encouraging visit.
Thank you |
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| 2009/1/28 22:51 | Profile |
HeartSong
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| | Re: | | Prayers are continuing. |
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