Consider Grace: imparted enabling. Consider the Word (Christ Jesus) of His grace, which is able to build you up (Acts 20: 32). Ron Bailey gave a message in Greenock (video posted here on SI) that may be of help to you. There is a thread discussing some of this going now (Just who IS responsible).
3 For we ourselves were also once foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving various lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful and hating one another. 4 But when the kindness and the love of God our Savior toward man appeared, 5 not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit, 6 whom He poured out on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior, 7 that having been justified by His grace we should become heirs according to the hope of eternal life.
_________________Alan Taylor