My wife called me today and told me that we were going to be meeting with a mediator next week to discuss our divorce.

I have no idea what to do.

This is a painful situation, and I ask you all to pray for our restoration.

There has been no adultery, or abuse, or any Biblical reason for a divorce at all. I am seeing a five year marriage quickly washed down the drain.

Thank you all so much.

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patrick heaviside

Hi roaringlamb...

I weep with you, dear brother! I hurt for you and this untold amount of pain that you must persevere and endure through.

My wife and I will continue to hold this situation in our prayers. We especially pray for God's strength to be revealed in you as you endure this trial. Of course, we are also praying for a miracle. I pray that God does something in the heart of your wife. Remember, "[i]The king's heart is in the hand of the LORD, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will[/i]" (Proverbs 21:1). I am praying for your wife's heart to be turned back to you.

My next-to-oldest sister is going through a similar situation. She has seperated from her husband after several years of marriage. She has a very small child named Elijah. We are praying for restoration of this marriage covenant as well. Please keep them in your prayers.

Brother, if you ever need to talk, feel free to give me a call. I will PM my telephone number to you. I certainly do not have -- nor can I provide -- all of the answers, but I do know the One who does.

Regardless, He is faithful even when this world (and those we love) are faithless. He is beside you even now to comfort you through this pain. His comfort is better than any other.

Matthew 11:28-30

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Christopher

Brother Patrick,

I have one question. How do you view your wife? When you look at her, do you see the beauty of Christ shining forth out of her soul? Do you see her as an extension of yourself? Does your love for her rise from the depths of your spirit? Would you willingly lay down your life for her and endure scorn and shame? Do you accept her into your loving arms for better or worse - whether she has done good or evil? Do you show forth kindness in all of your conversation with her? Do you view her as a treasure - like the diamond that you put on her finger - shining forth with brilliance and beauty - continually delighting in her presence?

No woman in her right mind would walk away from a man that loves her like this, for a desire for such love is what He has instilled into the hearts of man - to draw them unto Himself.

Heartsong,

No, I have not always loved my wife this way, and I take full credit for that. I was arrogant and self centered much of the time.

Yet also because I am not liberal in my theology, it causes much strife.

I have learned to love my wife in this way through much good and needed chastening from my Father. My wife has consistently told me that she knows that I would never leave her or cheat on her.

But I fear the allurements of the world have sucked my wife away from a solid Biblical view of things, and she is under the impression that she can divorce me and though it is not God sanctioned, she can hold her chin up and lean on Christ.(her words, not mine)

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patrick heaviside

praying for you roaringlamb,

I am so sorry to here this! I have been married for around 24 years. We communicate all the time. I love her dearly. We talk about Jesus together all the time. We settle any differences immediately.
We are truly one in Christ. The scripture talks about how the husband is to love his wife. It says to give honor to her as the weaker vessel. We must have much patience in love for our wife.

I will pray that God will show you areas of reconciliation. Don't give up yet my brother. Pray for her, love her, and show kindness to her.

Pray that God will show you what you can do in any area of seeking forgiveness and restoration.

I have to go for now but i will be praying. -rbanks

Sorry to hear about this. I will keep you in prayer. If I could communicate with your wife I would give her this verse:

"..be bound in the bundle of life with the LORD thy God;" 1 Samuel 25:29

Brother Patrick,

I hope you do not mind me picking at this a little . . .

Praying.

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TJ

Brother Patrick,

My marriage was on the brink of disaster, and I did everything that I could to fix it - but nothing worked. In fact, everything that I did and said only made it worse. Finally, in total desperation, I turned to God and said "You fix it - I can't. What ever you want Lord, make it, break it - anything - but just take it off of my shoulders for I can not bear it any longer."

And the tide turned . . .

I will be holding the both of you in prayer.
He can mend it - He can fix anything.

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patrick heaviside