I would take her in a group setting only. She should understand this , and really desire it. Often emotional bonds are stronger than you can imagine, and for her sake, you need to stop this. You, are in effect, discipling her, and you were not called to do so ALONE. This is a body work, especially in the cases of young, spiritually immature women. You, and your wife should continue to encourage her, but you should back off the one on one alone times with her completely. Find some mature brothers that will go preach with you. tom
Brothertom wrote: I would take her in a group setting only. She should understand this , and really desire it. Often emotional bonds are stronger than you can imagine, and for her sake, you need to stop this. You, are in effect, discipling her, and you were not called to do so ALONE. This is a body work, especially in the cases of young, spiritually immature women. You, and your wife should continue to encourage her, but you should back off the one on one alone times with her completely. Find some mature brothers that will go preach with you. tom
Not that I feel a need to add to any caution as that has been very well spoken in previous posts. I would simply add that a young woman has MANY things to learn, and there must be a rooting and grounding before she is exposed to the full strength of the adversary. She can be a most WONDERFUL witness to every person she comes into contact with, and learning to share her testimony can begin with those that are closest to her, even by the changes in her life.I believe very strongly that another woman needs to be her main discipler, it is much to easy to develop bonds of emotional ties that regardless of your pure motives can be harmful to her spiritual growth.Women are different learners then men. It takes a mature woman that has shown herself faithful, one who can nuture, teach, admonish, encourage, show her HOW to BE a woman of faith, of obedience, of good character.A sister in Christ
_________________Lori Salyer
I was not intending to make it appear as though I would be ministering often with a lone female. In my view that is unwise. What I sought to convey is whether or not on rare ocassions this would be inappropriate.
by healing2day on 2008/5/13 10:57:49The Pastor has recently dealt with two false accusations against other Ministers which he of course could not get into the specifics with me but he warned against us going out together without a third party.I have no issues with bringing others alone and some have agreed to come when available.I want to maintain a good report so have no problem with this.I have asked our assitant Pastor with our senior Pastor's knowledge what his view is and our assitant Pastor sees no issue with ministering publically with a female if one's spouse is in agreement.I then asked another Minister friend of mine and he also is agreement with this.I know that this issue is not big yet at the same time I don't want to appear as though I'm rebellious and seeking to divide my relationship with my Pastor.
Intens4Him wrote:Quote:by healing2day on 2008/5/13 10:57:49The Pastor has recently dealt with two false accusations against other Ministers which he of course could not get into the specifics with me but he warned against us going out together without a third party.I have no issues with bringing others alone and some have agreed to come when available.I want to maintain a good report so have no problem with this.I have asked our assitant Pastor with our senior Pastor's knowledge what his view is and our assitant Pastor sees no issue with ministering publically with a female if one's spouse is in agreement.I then asked another Minister friend of mine and he also is agreement with this.I know that this issue is not big yet at the same time I don't want to appear as though I'm rebellious and seeking to divide my relationship with my Pastor.Brother,You say you have no problem with this but yet you persist in going over your pastor's head not once but twice and you need to know that you DO look rebellious while you do this.I'm just going to be blunt here... the problem of ministering with a woman alone to me is minor compared to you not submitting to your pastor's authority. That's just my take on it.God bless,