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When we think of those we know who live holy lives, we generally donÂ’t think of children. Perhaps it is because we have generally accepted the passage from Proverbs 22:15, which states: Â“Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.Â” We naturally assume that all children will be prone to foolishness and disobedience until they reach adulthood and begin to demonstrate responsible behavior born of years of corrective training at the hands of their parents.
Perhaps a different mindset is in order. What if parents, by their godly example, set the bar of their expectations higher? Perhaps adults expect less of children because they expect less from themselves. What if families were to begin living like Jesus Christ each and every day, in every encounterÂ–every word, action and thought? What if we were to take seriously Proverbs 20:11, which asserts, Â“Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure and rightÂ”? One could assume from this verse that God thinks children have the capacity to live holy lives. If God has this expectation, why shouldnÂ’t we?
Children need two important things: example and opportunity. If holy living is not demonstrated to them, we cannot expect that they will grow up with a desire to be holy. Likewise, children need instruction based on the word of God, as well as opportunities to grow and walk in holy behavior, knowing that their lives will be pleasing to Christ.
*A note of caution: children will still act like children. Therefore, they should NOT be expected to act like Â“holy adultsÂ” --just holy children. They should be lovingly challenged and encouraged to be a living example of Christ on this earth, but parents must realize that this is a process that will take timeÂ–as with any of us! As children mature, they will learn to take seriously Leviticus 20:7: Â“Consecrate yourselves and be holy, because I am the LORD your God.Â”
The Lord has always expected parents to teach their children His ways: Â“Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheadsÂ” (Deut. 6:4-9).
It is not easy to be an example of holiness in an age where the ways of the world have such a profound influence on young and old alike. Perhaps the exhortation from Paul to young Timothy can give some guidelines as we seek to raise up a godly generation of young people to honor Christ: Â“DonÂ’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purityÂ” (1Tim. 4:12). Paul was expecting Timothy to live an exemplary life Â– to walk in such a way that he would not be looked down upon by his elders, because the example he was setting for others was Christ-like. Can you imagine encouraging our young people today to set examples in these areas: speech, life, love, faith and purity? God desires this to be the rule rather than the exception. LetÂ’s look more closely at some practical ways, based in Scripture, that we can raise a holy generation:
1. PRAY ATTRIBUTES OF HOLINESS INTO YOUR CHILDÂ’S LIFE.
Prayer is the most powerful and effective way to raise a holy child. Perhaps 1 Timothy 4:12 (quoted above) would be a good place to start. Pray that your children will set a good example for others of Christ-like behavior even though they are young. Pray that they will be holy in their:
...Lord, I pray that my child will speak the truth from his/her heart and have no slander on his/her tongue. Help him/her to cast no slur on others. (Psa. 15:2, 3)
...Father, help my child to love a pure heart, and may his/her speech always be gracious to everyone. (Prov. 22:11)
...Almighty One, please watch over my childÂ’s ways and keep his/her tongue from sin. Guard his/her mouth and tongue from evil, and keep him/her from speaking lies. (Psa. 39:1a; Prov. 21:23; Psa. 34:13)
...Gracious Lord, help my childÂ’s lips to overflow with praise as You teach him/her Your decrees. May his/her tongue continually sing of Your Word, for all of Your commands are righteous! (Psa. 119:171-172)
...Father of Life, help my child to obey his/her parents, for this is right. May he/she obey us because it pleases You, and so that he/she will enjoy long life on the earth! (Eph. 6:3; Col. 3:20)
...Lord, I pray that my childÂ’s walk will be blameless, and that he/she will only do what is righteous. Help him/her to love his/her neighbor, to honor and fear You, and to keep his/her word, even when it hurts. May he/she make every effort to live in peace with others and to be holy because in Your own purpose and grace you have called us all to a holy life. (Psa. 15:2,3,4; Heb. 12:14; 2 Tim. 1:9)
...Gracious God, may my child work hard with his/her own hands as an example to others. May he/she bless those who speak unkindly to him/her, and answer kindly. Help him/her to endure persecution and to conduct himself/herself in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ. (1 Cor. 4:12-13a; Phil. 1:27a)
...Almighty God, may my child love You with all of his/her heart, soul, mind and strength. As You have commanded, may he/she always love his/her neighbor as himself/herself. Help him/her to hate what is evil and cling to what is good. May he/she be devoted to others in brotherly love, honoring them above himself/herself. May he/she owe only one debt Â– the debt to love others. (Mk. 12:30-31; Rom. 12:9-10; 13:8)
...God of Love, help my child to do everything in love: to speak the truth in love, to love his/her enemies and to pray for those who persecute him/her. May he/she be completely humble, gentle and patient Â– bearing with others in love. (1 Cor. 16:14; Matt.5:44-45a; Eph. 4:2; 4:15)
...Father, You are love. May my child live and walk in that love because he/she lives in You. Help him/her to live in obedience to Your command to love. May he/she imitate You, as a dearly loved child, living a life of love just as Christ did! (Eph. 5:1-2; 1 John 4:16b; 2 John 1:6)
...Lord, my child is called to be free. Give him/her the strength not to use that freedom to indulge in sin. Instead, show him/her how to serve others in love. (Gal. 5:13)
...Heavenly Father, help my child to be on his/her guard, to stand firm in the faith, to be a young person of courage, and to be strong. May his/her faith never fail, nor rest on menÂ’s wisdom, but on GodÂ’s power! (1 Cor. 16:13, Luke 22:32, 1 Cor. 2:5)
...Lord, help my child to live by faith and not by sight. I pray that he/she may be worthy of Your calling and that by Your power every good purpose will be fulfilled, and every act will be prompted by faith. I pray this so that the name of Jesus may be glorified through my childÂ’s life. (2 Cor. 5:7; 2 Thess. 1:11-12)
...I pray, Father, that my child may be active in sharing his/her faith, so that he/she will have a full understanding of every good thing he/she has in ChristÂ…. because by one sacrifice He has made perfect forever those who are being made holy. (Phlm. 1:6; Heb. 10:14)
...Dear Father, my son/daughter can keep his/her way pure by living according to Your word. Help him/her to seek You with all of his/her heart, and to hide Your word in his/her heart so that he/she might not sin against You. Would you create in him/her a pure heart and renew a steadfast spirit within him/her? (Psalm 119:9-11; 51:10)
...Lord, help my child to think about things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent and praiseworthy! May he/she be pure just as You are pure, because he/she is Your child. (Phil. 4:8; 1 John 3:3)
...Gracious God, teach my son/daughter to confess his/her sins quickly and regularly, so that You will forgive and purify him/her from all unrighteousness. Help him/her to realize that You have not called him/her to be impure, but to live a holy life. (1 John 1:9; 1 Thess. 4:7)
2. PRAY Â“HOLINESS BLESSINGSÂ” INTO THE LIVES OF YOUR CHILDREN.
Whether your children are young, or older, you can begin to daily pray the blessings of God over them. A blessing is a wonderful benediction to end each day, or an encouraging way to send a child off to school. It is a special gift to give a child in a lunch box, or to do over the phone when you are separated. Pray the blessings of God into your childÂ’s life, and he/she will be impacted far beyond anything you can think or imagine. Here are some examples:
Â“Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with GodÂ’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyoneÂ” (Romans 12:11-18).
Â“For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you and asking God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of lightÂ” (Col. 1:9-12).
Â“Therefore, prepare your minds for action; be self-controlled; set your hope fully on the grace to be given you when Jesus Christ is revealed. As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: Â‘Be holy, because I am holyÂ’Â” (1 Pet. 1:13-16).
Â“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus ChristÂ—to the glory and praise of GodÂ” (Phil. 1:9-11).
Â“Therefore, as GodÂ’s chosen people (you might choose to say, Â“as GodÂ’s chosen childÂ…Â”), holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unityÂ” (Col. 3:12-14).
3. BE A HOLY EXAMPLE.
A. Demonstrate holiness to your children in real and tangible ways in your daily walk.
B. Teach them what God expects Â– discuss ways you can live holy lives as a family, and as individuals. Help them, by your example, to learn to recognize and reject anything that doesnÂ’t please and honor God.
C. Keep short accounts with God Â– teach children the importance of confession by not being afraid to say, Â“I blew it! Please forgive me,Â” to your children.
D. Pray and study GodÂ’s Word diligently Â– as an individual, and as a family.
E. Practice holy living as a spiritual discipline daily.
4. GIVE YOUR CHILDREN OPPORTUNITY TO PRACTICE HOLINESS IN EVERY DAY LIFE.
A. Give children the opportunity to recognize character traits which demonstrate holinessÂ–first in others and then in themselves. Help them to recognize the qualities in Jesus that make Him holy so that they can follow His example.
B. Teach children to pray for holy lives.
C. Help children to see the Fruit of holinessÂ– example: if they have made a right choice on the side of holiness rather than sinÂ–what does GodÂ’s Word say? Knowing that God approves of their actions as well as their parents is very rewarding to children.
D. Fasting--teaching children about fasting, and practicing it as a family will reinforce the need for humility before God. Please be careful and reasonable as you introduce fasting to young children. Take medical considerations into account. Missing one meal periodically, or even weekly, to spend time in prayer may be a good beginning for your family.
E. Reverencing GodÂ–Â“Â…Let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates the body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for GodÂ” (2 Cor. 7:1).
5. ADDITIONAL SCRIPTURES TO CONSIDER IN RAISING HOLY CHILDREN.
Â“LORD, who may dwell in your sanctuary? Who may live on the LordÂ’s holy hill?
...He whose walk is blameless
...Who does what is righteous
...Who speaks the truth from his heart
...Who has no slander on his tongue
...Who does his neighbor no wrong
...Who casts no slur on his fellowman
...Who despises a vile man
...Who honors those who fear the Lord
...Who keeps his oath even when it hurts
...Who lends his money without usury
...Who does not accept a bribe against the innocent
He who does these things will never be shaken.Â”
According to Ephesians 5:3-7, among GodÂ’s holy people there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality...any kind of impurity...greed...Â“For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy personÂ–such a man is an idolaterÂ–has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ...Â” (Eph. 5:5).
Obscenity...foolish talk...coarse joking... These things should be replaced with thanksgiving (see Eph. 5:4).
GodÂ’s holy people should Â“Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to GodÂ” (Eph. 5:1-2).
WITHOUT CHRIST: Â“Â…you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of your evil behavior.Â”
WITH CHRIST: Â“Now he has reconciled you by ChristÂ’s physical body through death to present you HOLY IN HIS SIGHT...without blemish...free from accusation...IF you continue in your faith, established and firm...not moved from the hope held out in the gospel.Â”
2 Timothy 2:20-21
Â“If a man cleanses himself from the latter (ignoble purposes), he will be an instrument for noble purposes, made HOLY...useful to the Master...prepared to do any good work.Â”
Holiness makes us family with Jesus! Â“But the One who makes men HOLY and those who are made holy are of the same family. So Jesus is not ashamed to call them brothersÂ” (Hebrews 2:11).
God shapes us into holy people through discipline. Â“Our fathers disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in His HOLINESS. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by itÂ” (Heb. 12:10-11).
It is GodÂ’s will that we be holy. Â“And by that will, we have been made HOLY through the sacrifice of the body of Jesus Christ once for allÂ” (Heb. 10:10).
6. A FINAL EXHORTATION FOR A HOLY GENERATION.
Â“Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe as you hold out the word of lifeÂ…Â” (Phil. 2:14-16a).