I wanted to see if I could get some opinions of some of you very gifted, knowlegable people. This is a very controversial question, but I have ben studying Timothy and I thought I would bring it before the jury. Is this passage of scripture in I Timothy chapter three saying that a pastor must be a man of one wife(having never been divorced), or(one wife at a time)? What are your thoughts? Personally I believe one wife(having never been divorced), but I am trying to keep an open mind. your brother in Christ J-bird
Personally I believe one wife(having never been divorced).
I believe there is an even more practical context here, that any man should have ONLY one wife - as opposed to several. If this was already established in the man's understanding, since he had become a Chirstian, it showed he was 'getting' God's heart on the matter. It was THIS that qualified him for leadership or formal 'service' within the church. I don't think it's about divorce. And I don't think it's saying that church leader has to be married, either; but if he IS married, then it should be to only ONE WOMAN.
And still today, God is using divorced people, (yes, EVEN divorced women) to bring about his New Covenant Promises. Perhaps it is because many of our divorced brothers and sisters have been on the bottom, broken, and restored. They make good leaders because they have learned that they cannot lean on themselves, and must lean on him
J-bird, I have to take your word for this, that you are only asking because you are trying to keep an open mind.I know we have all posted an opening thread with a question to promote conversation, even though we had a fixed belief, but just wanted to get a topic started. I can understand the many I've seen open that way, but this happens to be a hot topic on this Forum .... as you'd see if you did a search on "remarriage".If you really want my opinion I will give it to you, but that's as far as I'm going with this. IF a man's wife is found to be an non-repentant adultress - he is permitted to divorse her and free to marry again ... and serve The Lord.God would not suffer a man to either live alone for the rest of his days on earth because his wife was an adultress and make him suffer for the rest of his life for her sin and neither would HE remove a man's calling because the man fell in love again, years after he had to leave a non-repentant woman.I don't see this in His Word, and I've read every thread on here about this subject.Many men get saved AFTER they got married and if this woman they are married to is running around on him, he does not have to sleep with her after she's slept with other men and won't stop.Neither is he forced to stay married to her and neither is he forced to stop serving God if he later finds a good Christian woman.Are all sins under the blood or not, should be the question.He has not sinned.
Thank you all for the comments so far. It will definately give me something to think about.The funny thing about this place(SI) is you can almost get a sense of a persons personality and character by the way they post. Anyone else think so?Anyway, I actually had a pastor for about five years who had previously been divorced. Many people had a real prblem with it. like I said, I have my own personal beliefs, but I want to explore all options and try to keep an open mind about this. I've seen God use men greatly that had been divorced in the past in leadership positions in the church. So.........I don't know. thanks again J-birdP.S. Would love to hear other opinions. :-D
J-bird,Are you divorced?
Jesus said if we deny Him he will deny us before the Father. Peter denied Him THREE times with curses, and yet He was forgiven AND restored. I don't think divorce is worse than denial, just my opinion....
No one can control a spouse. Only a spouse can control him or her self. If a spouse is not true to their spouse, is it the other persons fault and or responsibility? If a husband is not a Christian and the wife uses this situation to seek another, she is wrong. Even if she stays and complains about it and carrying such a heavy cross, it is not a heavy cross but a mistake and she is just going to have to live with it, she can make it her ministry to love this husband and submit to Christ, and in the name of her marriage and pray always. Love and make Christ her life, but not by pushing her husband to Christ but by leading him in love and hope of her savior. The husband also the same."Be the husband of one wife." This is heart condition, not a divorce condition. Also not more than one wife in number. In Christ: Phillip
"Be the husband of one wife." This is heart condition, not a divorce condition.