By Robbie Guillory:
Robbie is a good friend of ours, a high school
teacher, and a prayer warrior:
Fornication and Adultery: Sex Outside of Marriage
A thought occurred to me. What if we gave newly-married couples the same advice and solutions about sex-outside-of-marriage that we give newly-dating teen couples?
"O.K., we know you're going to have sex outside of marriage, so just use protection; you don't want to get pregnant. You don't want to interrupt your education or jeopardize your careers."
Can't you just see the bride getting that injection under her skin so she can have safe-adultery, or the groom with pocketfuls of condoms for those occasional trysts at the office.
Sound ridiculous? Yet, we prepare teens for "dating" and "sleeping together" by encouraging promiscuity, offering condoms and birth control pills as a solution to the "problem." The message is: "It's not sex outside of marriage that should be prevented, but pregnancy."
So, what prevents married couples from committing adultery? A vow...before God. Is it unreasonable to ask the same of the young dating teens?
Hearing recent news of numerous teen pregnancies and listening to suggested solutions started this mental rumination. The subject of teen pregnancy hits close to home for me in many ways: eleven years of teaching 15 year olds, two oldest grandchildren will be 15 this year, and the experience of raising three teens.
Some say the answer is moral education. Just don't have sex before marriage. Stay pure. Be a virgin. Save yourself for marriage. Use self-control. Taking the moral high ground, in and of itself, will not prevent premarital sex or adultery.
The Bible is not silent on this: lust of the flesh, fornication, adultery, concupiscence, inordinate affection, lust of the eyes, lasciviousness, just to name a few. When are we going to offer solutions from the Bible for our teens? Do they even know what those words mean?
Education. I'm an educator. When will we return to the Bible to educate our children using God's words? When will we tell them that the Holy Spirit will come and take up residence in them when they ask for forgiveness of their sins, believe in their heart that Jesus bore their sins, and accept forgiveness? Then, and only then, will they have the power, grace, and mercy to resist temptation, lust, and sex before marriage.
These precious young teens are having babies. The problem is not the baby. The solution is not protected-sex.
The answer is a loving God who sent His only Son to take upon Himself the sins of us all. The solution is sharing this message, the Gospel, the "good news"...you are forgiven. Take your vows between you and God to stay pure in body, mind, soul, and heart. He will sustain you.
LUST-Strong's Definitions: ἐπιθυμία epithymía, ep-ee-thoo-mee'-ah; from G1937; a longing (especially for what is forbidden):—concupiscence, desire, lust (after).
Flee also youthful lusts: G1939 but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
1 James 1:15
Then when lust G1939 hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death
But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts G1939 thereof.
This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust G1939 of the flesh.
And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. G1939
That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; G1939
Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, G1939 and covetousness, which is idolatry:
As obedient children, not fashioning yourselves according to the former lusts G1939 in your ignorance:
Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, G1939 which war against the soul;
Knowing this first, that there shall come in the last days scoffers, walking after their own lusts, G1939
For all that is in the world, the lust G1939 of the flesh, and the lust G1939 of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.
And the world passeth away, and the lust G1939 thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.
1. illicit sexual intercourse
adultery, fornication, homosexuality, lesbianism, intercourse with animals etc.
sexual intercourse with close relatives; Lev. 18
sexual intercourse with a divorced man or woman; Mk. 10:11,12
2. metaph. the worship of idols
of the defilement of idolatry, as incurred by eating the sacrifices offered to idols
For out of the heart proceed wicked thoughts, murder, adultery, fornication, theft
For from within, out of men's hearts, their evil purposes proceed--fornication, theft, murder, adultery,
Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
1 Corinthians 6:13
Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.
1 Corinthians 6:18
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:
1 Thessalonians 4:3
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: