I read your article, Won by conduct, and I speak in love. But you truly don't understand. I was this wife as I read, for 30 years I was a loving Godly compassionate wife, as God is my witness to this fact. He saw my abuse, he saw how I loving loved him hoping one day he would love me and actually say he loved me, but he continually put me down, and he himself admitted he enjoyed it. He should have been proud of a loving godly wife that would spend 2-6 hours in the word a day and radiated the love of Christ, but he didn't. I came to a place of being utterly depleted, dead, nothing more to give. The bible even say in Proverbs 30:21-23 an "unloved woman" who is married ...It cannot bear up, that was me, I came to a place where I could no longer bare up.
As for John Wesley .... she was the one that left for good, she didn't die. Wesley reported in his journal, I did not forsake her, I did not dimiss her, I will not recall her.
Yes, I do not endorse what so ever her abuse she did towards him, it was wrong and sinful but it also reads that John Wesley preached on the day before and the day after his marriage that he would not be making any adjustment to married life. Molly complained about her husbands lack of sensitivity to her needs she also felt over looked by him and even unloved by him. He wrote his last bitter note to his wife saying If you were to live a thousand years, you could not undo the mischief you have done. He also wrote. Of what importance is your character to mankind? If you were buried just now, or if you had never lived, what loss would it be to the cause of God? Yes she betrayed his confidence, revealed his secrets giving him a thousand treacherous wound and was a throne in his side. It really is sad on both accounts. But he did let her go and he did not go after her.
lexloiz.wordpress.co graceidarajan.blogspot.ca Sadly, believe it or not if my husband came to me and said he was sorry, and that he loved me, I would melt in his arms and forgive him. But that would never happen, he is happier then peach living with his mom and dad they bought a house together he eats at his mothers every day.