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 Gossip and slander

I want to speak to the general subject of gossip and slander. I think all reasonable Christian men and woman in all areas of Christendom would acknowledge that to gossip, backbite and slander is an offence to a holy God and violates his clearly written word.

However, there is a tactic that has been used by the enemy of our souls many times, and indeed he had the boldness to use it towards the Son of God Himself. It is the tactic of taking the word of God and using it to bring an accusation against a brother or sister in order to silence them when God is clearly bringing something to the light. The tactic is designed to destroy the person God is using to expose the darkness and to silence them and keep the issue in darkness, it is a particularly evil tactic.

It is a particularly effective tool when it is used in conservative circles who have a tendency towards legalism, but I want to give an example where it was used in a very Pentecostal church that I attended for almost 10 years which shall remain nameless, but needless to say it was a very large organization and nationally known.

In this church they had a very good rule, men ministered to men and women ministered to women. It was not hard and fast but it was a general rule that was, for the most part, followed. What was a hard and fast rule was that a man shall never minister to a woman in private. Not in a coffee shop or any place where it is just thee two of them and certainly never in either of their homes. I believe that to be a very good principle.

A women of good standing came forward and shared with the elders that when she knocked on the door of a Christian sister, she saw through the glass, the pastor coming out of the woman's bedroom upstairs fixing himself and the woman followed quickly after doing the same. She was deeply disturbed. She told her husband and they approached the pastor and an excuse was made. Now at the very least, one of the golden rules of the church had been violated, but there was only denials. They then took another with them to him and that failing, they went to the elders who completely rejected the charges against the man who had promoted all of them to their positions.

The very next week came the first of many sermons against the wicked sin of gossip. First by the pastor and followed up by many of the elders. The woman who had brought the charge was almost crushed under the weight of the accusations she now faced and while she had kept the whole thing private, her name was now some-how out there as a gossip and a slanderer. You see how evil and wicked this was? What the Lord was determined to expose, the devil was determined to keep hid through the word of God and the feverish work of men trying to hold on to their reputations and their standing in the church and in the world of Christendom.

Fourteen months later, the pastor ran off with this woman leaving his wife of almost 40 years. It was revealed that the elders had not only covered up this situation, but that there had many situations over a fourteen year period that had always been dismissed and never truly investigated.

We , at all times, must be aware of the schemes and tactics of the enemy who works under the shadow of darkness. He is determined to keep things hidden under the rock and the Lord tells us to bring all things to the light. Each of us must be on guard to make sure we are about the Lord's work, not the enemies. We must follow and pursue truth no matter where it takes us, we must fear God more than we fear man, this is truly the beginning of wisdom and light.............bro Frank

 2014/3/4 9:05
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amazing post!! thanks for sharing this truly it was a blessing to read.

rdg

 2014/3/4 9:32Profile









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I have to say Frank that I am really struggling to understand the meaning of your post. Brother if I had come into the same situation as the sister did when she witnessed that which appeared to be evidence of sexual immorality I would have wept before the Lord. I would have gone to the pastor in private and told him plainly what I had seen and warned him of the terrible day of the Lord.

In the end I would expect that the Lord Himself would have judged that situation and brought it to an end for His own names sake.

Anyone can become the exposition of others lives. It is the easiest thing in the world. If we all took that same position of believing we needed to expose the sin of others we would find that in the end we could destroy almost everyone.

I knew of a pastor who was setting up a young sister in the church to be his mistress, at the same time as his wife was dying of cancer. My friend took a liking to this young sister and she to him. Within a few days this pastor appeared at my friends house. He was invited in by my friend who was unaware of the reality of his life only to find himself looking at a hand gun which was displayed in a very clever way to intimidate him. The next week the pastor was invited back to his house only this time I was there. I openly challenged him, rebuked him and warned him of the consequences of his actions. In the course of the next two weeks my wife was met by this same pastor on the street on no less than three occasions. She had never seen him before and didn't even know who he was.

When I came to prayer about this man the Lord weighed on me the necessity not to speak about this situation with anyone, but to leave the matter in His hands. So in obedience I would not even speak with my friend on the subject either and advised him to be of the same mind.

One night a few days after the Lord constrained me in the way I have said, I was pressed into prayer and found myself praying in such a way that my own prayers caused me to tremble with the fear of the Lord. That was at 01:00 Hrs. At 05:00 Hrs another friend who had no knowledge of any of these events was woken by the Lord. He found himself groaning before the Lord for this pastor and crying out for the Lord's mercy.

At 07:00 Hrs the pastor himself was driving on his way to a local shop to collect his Sunday morning newspaper. Unknown to myself he had been invited by the elders to preach at my own church that morning. His car was hit with such force that it was literally cut into two parts. The pastor found himself sitting in his front seat unharmed but bruised from the physical shock of the impact. Somewhat fearfully he arrived at the church to preach. I was the first person to greet him and I was shocked at his appearance. By this means he was humbled. A young sister was preserved and the Lord's name was lifted up.

Brethren the way to deal with unrighteousness is not to make a public display of it, but to go before the Lord with tears. This is especially true when accusing an elder of the church. Two or three witnesses does not mean one sister looking through a window.

Personally I do not hold to making a public display of anyone regardless of their sins. Let the Law do that which the Law is appointed to do. And let those who are not under the Law do that for which liberty they have been set free.

 2014/3/4 9:43
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Personally I do not hold to making a public display of anyone regardless of their sins. Let the Law do that which the Law is appointed to do. And let those who are not under the Law do that for which liberty they have been set free. --

so let me ask you if the pastor had been abusing the woman you believe she should just keep quiet about it? what if it had been a child should we look the other way and not bring the sin into the light? need some clarity on your post because its sounds like your approach is to just ignore the sin that others are in no matter who it hurts.

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so let me ask you if the pastor had been abusing the woman you believe she should just keep quiet about it? what if it had been a child should we look the other way and not bring the sin into the light? need some clarity on your post because its sounds like your approach is to just ignore the sin that others are in no matter who it hurts. rainydaygirl



The obvious answer to your question is to draw a distinction between sin and a criminal offence.

Sister I am a male. I hear about this subject of child abuse all the time. It is almost always presented in an accusatory sense. It is almost always presented by women and a few men seem to join in the accusations.

If a child has been abused then it is a criminal offence. If a man has a sexual relationship with a woman who is not claiming abuse then it is not a criminal offence in the USA where this account, which Frank has posted, is set. It is sin. So as I said Let the Law do that which the Law is appointed to do. And let those who are not under the Law do that for which liberty they have been set free.

I was sexually abused as a child and I care nothing for the false accusations which I read continuously by the heroes of imagined victims. Either we are in the mind of Christ or we are in some other mind. In the mind of Christ we have obedience to all authority. In the mind of Christ we have the comprehension that the Mercy of God triumphs over His Judgements. In subjection to all authorities we have criminal laws and consequences. In grace we have the blood of Christ and the coming Kingdom of God.

For those who are not able to make the distinction and at the same time recognise their responsibility both to the Law and to Christ then there is no helping it or them.

 2014/3/4 10:39
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I have to say Frank that I am really struggling to understand the meaning of your post. Brother if I had come into the same situation as the sister did when she witnessed that which appeared to be evidence of sexual immorality I would have wept before the Lord. I would have gone to the pastor in private and told him plainly what I had seen and warned him of the terrible day of the Lord.

In the end I would expect that the Lord Himself would have judged that situation and brought it to an end for His own names sake.

Anyone can become the exposition of others lives. It is the easiest thing in the world. If we all took that same position of believing we needed to expose the sin of others we would find that in the end we could destroy almost everyone.



I agree with you brother in this regard. We need to have the fear of the Lord in speaking of any brother who seemingly has been caught in a sin. If we have joy in exposing brethren who have fallen in various ways especially those who are well-known ministers then we need to have a heart-check in our own walk with the Lord. I am very weary and slow to post strong accusations against elders publicly now until I feel it is the Lord wanting me to post it as an ensign and warning to all of us. Secondly and perhaps more importantly is to ensure that the information is 100% correct and not false charges.

Towards brother frank's writing I also agree that we must not be scared ever to speak out against known sin especially in an elder. But perhaps how to do that properly is in question. I would feel to speak to other elders or mature believers in the body first would be the best route. Especially if it was a woman who saw the event instead of her going directly to the pastor by herself. I do believe there is a great sin of slander from God's people's lips to speak evil of all the faults of God's ministers and therefore the enemy is winning a victory were we are biting and devouring one another (Galatians 5:15). But as brother Frank said we should never confuse proper church discipline and bringing sin to light as slander. I believe it just needs to be done in the right way depending on the severity of sin.

Towards Bill Gothard, and news about his falling, I at first was very grieved and reluctant to post the news item. I do not agree with all the teachings of his ministry but did have respect for some things. I have heard recently from one elder brother that these allegations (some of them) could very well possibly be true and there is a seriousness here. I would personally rather post the end result from the ministry and godly men who are weighing this situation. That is the one reason why I was reluctant and still am to a small measure to cast a stone and say that Bill Gothard IS guilty.

This also is the same for me about Yoggi Cho and his embeslment of God's money. At first I was very weary to post anything but did feel God wanted me to as a warning and ensign to saints about the love of money.


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 2014/3/4 11:10Profile









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I don't think men's laws deal with the defrauding of a member of the church by a minister. That is where ecclesiastical jurisdiction rather than civil jurisdication comes into play.

Civil laws that were broken are another matter.

But, if a sister or sisters have been defrauded in the area of their affections and body by a minister, the Church has an obligation from the Lord to deal with it.

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Andrew, I fear you may have mis-read what I wrote. I wrote that she and her husband privately approached the pastor in regard to this issue.He refused to acknowledge his sin. They then went again to him with another brother, in private, he again refused to acknowledge his sin. They finally went to the elders, again in private, they refused to accept what the lady had seen. Only after he ran off with the lady was it finally revealed that the elders had, over many years, had similar private reports made to them in regard to similar issues.

All along the people who had witnessed these issues were honorable and followed the word of God in their dealings with this man, it was he and the elders who publicly berated those who had made the charges, and they did this by preaching sermon after sermon about gossip and back biting. It was simply a technique to control and manipulate people.

I hope no one confuses by post with anything to do with Bill Gothard. I know nothing about this man or his ministry , never read anything about him or know any details of his teachings or indeed any accusations made against him. My post is about truth and the Biblical mandate. This applies to all men as it should do. Follow the Bible, it is a lamp unto our feet, follow it without fear or favor of men and it will guide us by the power of the Holy Spirit............ bro Frank

Mat 18:15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
Mat 18:16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
Mat 18:17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.

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Andrew, I fear you may have mis-read what I wrote. appolus



The balance Frank is as you say. I agree that your account is broader than my reply would indicate.

It is a serious thing when elders either do not know how to act on such private reports or else completely avoid them, especially when there are a number of them. As you said this kind of thing appears to be common. I expect that when any pastor who ends up doing what this particular pastor did, there will be some people in the church who in the end will acknowledge that they had concerns before hand. For me personally I believe in judgement here and now and if possible a judgement in keeping with the principle of whether a sin is an open sin, such as the man in 1 Corinthians chapter five, or a hidden sin which is seen through the glass of uncertainty.

I did think that you had posted in response to another post, but I accept that you didn't. Sorry for that brother.

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No problems brother Andrew. I can also tell you that this man was restored to his wife and finally had victory over those issues, praise the Lord. He never pastored again and he developed cancer several years after he returned to his wife and then he died. The church was never the same and whittled down, changed its name and is but a shadow of its former self. This is surely a case where the cover up ended up being greater and more destructive to the Body, than the actual sin of infidelity was, since there was genuine reconciliation between the man and his wife to the glory of the Lord Jesus..............bro Frank

 2014/3/4 12:41





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