I recently took a mini vacation and reunited with some extended family ( who are Filipinos) in Siesta Key which is a part of Sarasota, Florida. They are an SDA family. The dads family is the extension of that. The mom is my wife's sister. They have 3 kids. 13 and 5 yr old boys and a 4 yr old girl.over 50% of the time they speak in tagalog and will speak to me in english so much of the conversation they have I don't follow so I try to watch body language and try to pick up on words. My mother n law lives with them as well.Reason for this post.... My mother n law has complained that the parents yell at each other and the kids. No reason is given. During this vacation my wife told me on some instances in which dad yelled at his son over stupid stuff. ie calls son up and ask him to turn off the stove and demands it be done before the condo burns down. We were at a few stores during this thing. The dad is very soft spoken so when he speaks I barely hear him.The oldest son also has a girlfriend, of sorts. He was allowed to go to a church with this girl and she told him that ham was good. SDA don't eat pork products. After this was revealed he was told he couldn't see her or go visit this other church again. He has devised ways around that which his parents don't know of according to what my wife told me.I am also told that they yell at the kids alot but I don't know the reason why. I don't know if it is because they yell at each other or not. I told my wife that it is situations like this that really show society that religion sucks! It almost seems like a kind of abuse. Things like this can happen in any church with any thing such as tv, radio, movies, whatever.I have seen families in which the kids are dressed to the max in order that they would put off a 'proper' reputation to others but when at home it becomes a different story. I bring this up just to ask what others think about these situations? The oldest boy's voice is changing as well and he appears to have alot of girl-friends but I wonder as he gets older how his parents are going to deal with him and relationships? I also noticed that when you talk to him he says 'HUH?' alot. My wife says it may be because he isn't used to talk to alot of people because of getting yelled at? He has the Justin Beiber look going with his hair. Very bushy and combed to the front in a slant direction with sideburns. When I look at him he looks more like a Japanese kid than a Filipino kid. He doesn't socialize alot except on facebook and places video games ALOT.Anyway, based on what I put forth, what do you think?
Well, SDA is a cult. Might as well tackle that elephant in the room right off of the bat. They follow the words and works of a proven false prophet Ellen G. White (who denied hell, made multiple absurd predictions about the date(s) of the second coming of Christ, and also said that certain races of people were abominable mixes of humans and animals). They promote/enforce what Paul referred to directly as a "doctrine of demons" (1 Timothy 4:1-5) by their diet. They claim that worshiping on Sunday is the mark of the beast (though I wonder how one can take Sunday on their right arm or forehead?) despite what was said in the Bible to the contrary (Col 2:16, Romans 14:4-6). And are more or less guilty of the entire spirit Paul condemned in Galatians. Etc. Etc. If they're unfamiliar with this (though I doubt it), this most certainly is SDA church doctrine. Even though they may be sincere in their beliefs, they're sincerely wrong, mislead, and deceived to be a part of the Seventh Day Adventist group. Based on that alone, it's probably easy to see where trouble begins from. False religion seems to get all over everything in a family dynamic.Just letting you know in case you're unfamiliar with much of the SDA. They're very much in need of your prayers and testimony, as they are not abiding in the truth that Christ and His apostles delivered and died for. I've listened to some good interviews of former SDA members on YouTube, and I can probably find you the links if you're interested. Toss me an email, my address is in my profile.
I am very familiar with SDA. I have read up on them alot. I have attended some services with my sister n laws family. Both in Miami and even when they were here a few times. I always got a charge out of it because I found it a bit funny.Yet, on the kids side of things, what I am wondering is the treatment going on. I am wondering how much of it is the parenting personality vs the teachings for the SDA. I am kind of thinking it is half and half. My sister n law comes from a Catholic background and I think she only goes along with the SDA for her husbands sake for if she is away from him they will eat some pork, I think.John
______________________________________________________________QUOTE: I am wondering how much of it is the parenting personality vs the teachings for the SDA. ______________________________________________________________The SDA do not have a monopoly on parents yelling at their children. It happens everywhere. The next question might be why do some yell at their children? And the next one - what are the repercussions of it? John, you are right - it will effect a person in how they will respond to other people.