I have an eighteen year old daughter who is planning to go to college about an hour away from where we live. It is a four year state university. She is majoring in pre-med because she wants to be a doctor and always has since she was about nine or ten. She has now found out that she is assigned to a co-ed dorm although she applied early and requested a female only dorm.

She has a friend from high school that is going to room with her and they were both disappointed about the news. We spoke with the housing office and was told that there were no other rooms available and that she would have to wait until the spring for new room assignments.

Question: Would it be inappropriate for her to live in a co-ed dorm as a Christian young women. Should my husband and I try to intervene or decide about changing colleges?

Has anyone else dealt with this problem before?

Personally, I am having my doubts, but I don't want her to feel that we are forbidding her from attending a college of her choosing.

Any advice will be appreciated.

Dee

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Sandra Miller

Amen, Ginnyrose.

I would rather have my son/daughter at a Christ-Centered college 10 hours away, than a secular university around the corner. A secular university has no regard for the Spiritual growth of young people, and that should be our main concern! :) Also, these next few years are when most young people choose their spouse. There are many reasons to prefer a Christian College.

You may want to pray about your daughter switching to Pensacola Christian College in the fall. It's not too late! My son will be attending there and majoring in Criminal Justice. We have friends that attended there and are now in the Secret Service. They do offer pre-med also. It's very, very affordable too! It's only about $7,000 per year including room and board.

We just came back from touring PCC and were very impressed with the academics, the pastor, his wife, the staff, standards, safety measures, etc. My son is very excited about attending and so are we. If you have any questions, I would be happy to help in any way I can. You could check out their website also.

I will be praying for you! :)

Lorijean

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Lori Jean Mooney

Dee,

It's about too late to change universities at this date. If you feel a need, you can take a drive and go to the informational desk (or building) and ask about the location of their Christian organizations there (i.e. Baptist Union, etc). They all have some type of house for gatherings and prayer within a half mile (walking distance) of the university itself. Or you can call and get the same information. Visit the ones you want to and talk to the leaders there and share your dilemma. Ask where they live, [b]if they or any Christian students who have rented whole houses who might have a room available, etc.[/b]

I think you might be surprised and your daughter will be able to stay at the university she wants too.

Fear not, this has not taken God by surprise like it has you guys; He knew this would happen. Since He knows, He will either provide another place for her to stay or she will have to stay in the dorm. I would take comfort that if He knows, she will be a great light to those who need a light and salt!

I believe different than most on SI, I don't have a problem with secular colleges or universities; in fact they made my faith stronger! I believe we are salt to be shaken out. How can salt be salt if we are always around other salted people who doesn't need our salt? (i.e. Christian universities). We will lose our savor if we are never used and besides, that is our calling, to be shaken out; not to stay in hidden with all the salt shakers! But just so you know, that's just my two cents worth!

God bless you and I believe it's gonna work out! :):)

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Lisa

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Sandra Miller

You really should put this before the LORD if you haven't already and really seek Him for the answers. Your going to get a variety of answers here, and it just may be that God would have her go to that college, who knows. As Parents you want the best for your children, but God's best maybe that college. God knows how to protect His children and she may be a light there, again, who knows.

I pray that the answer comes soon, as you wait on Him.

Thank you everyone for your words of advice and encouragement. We had not yet decided on which way to go concerning this although we are praying fervently and waiting for the Lord's leading.

Please continue to pray for us and I will update you on what we were led to do.

Dear Sister:

It is unconscienable to give your daughter to the sodomites and God haters at the university you speak of.

For all of these years, your daughter has been under the covering and protection of your Husband. And now you are ready to send her to a godless colledge, full of godless young men and women who were not raised in a Christian home, who were not raised and taught under the authority of a Christian Father and Mother.

If it was me, I would find a 2 year community college for the first two years close to home, and let her continue to live at home, and attend there. Over the next 2 years I would be looking for a university that supported Christian values and beliefs for her to continue her education.

Paul Washer has a great mp3 sermon on this very issue. If I can find it, I will post it to this thread.

God bless,

Walter

Dear Walter,

That is excellent advice and well put. I agree 100%

white stone

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Janice