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mchimes
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 Balancing Truth and Love

I have been drinking in the truth on this site for several months now and it has been amazing for my walk and ministry (I'm a worship leader in the United Methodist Church.) Thank you Lord for providing this for your people! I just listened this:

http://64.34.176.235/sermons/SID4451.mp3

It is a deeply personal and humble message from Albert Zehr on letting go of condemnation and judgment to embrace people in love. He maintains that this is Christ's work in us . . . let Him be the head of His body.

I must say that it has convicted me of a trap that I seem to find myself in lately . . . that of possibly expecting too much from my fellow brothers and sisters. The question emerges, in the pusuit of renewal and revival, how do we balance the "obvious" truth with the often "elusive" love?

As many of you know the Methodist church is struggling with many issues that can easily foster a condemning spirit in some of it's more passionate members. I number myself among these and am planning on joining the renewing movement called "The Confessing Movement."

I am a young worship leader who works very closely with a slighty younger pastor. We are both called for this work, but wrestling with differences over the emphasis that should be placed on the dispensing of truth and love, particularly in ministry.

I've thought of leaving the Methodist church, but the Lord has not given me a green light. Moreover, the deeper I get into Wesley and the origins of Methodism, I am convinced that to leave may be to abandon something God is waiting to restore.

So for the experienced out there . . . please share with me your personal struggles (successes and failures) of hitting the "truth/love" balance.

I just finished Ravenhill's "Why revival Tarries" and it was awesome!! I mean it said so much of what I feel and know to be the Truth and I soaked in every word, yet there is something about it that just seems to close to my own fallen nature of combativeness. It's like I "like it" more than I should. Do you know the feeling?

In a way, it seems to want of humility. And I really don't want to say that . . . but there is just something there that doesn't sit right with every part of my spirit. It is interesting that the Lord always puts some other "word" or experience in my path to seemingly "check" or offset the demands of Truth with the grace of love. Today it was Albert Zehr's message.

Your thoughts and prayers would be greatly appreciated.

Blessings,
Mike

 2006/8/6 12:41Profile
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 Re: Balancing Truth and Love

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I just finished Ravenhill's "Why revival Tarries" and it was awesome!! I mean it said so much of what I feel and know to be the Truth and I soaked in every word, yet there is something about it that just seems to close to my own fallen nature of combativeness. It's like I "like it" more than I should. Do you know the feeling?



Great candor there brother. It is kind of the "Rah!" "Rah!" "Yea!" "Yea!" aspect that can catch us off guard, the 'trick' if you will is to take it personaly first... Something about Len that he rarely gave much of a 'wiggle' as Chambers would put it. Recall a message where he was pretty well lighting up on some matters of the church (lack of revival, I believe) and sensing this similar response, he turned tail and stated ... "I am talking about [i]you[/i]"

Ouch.

Definetly the balance in these things.


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 2006/8/6 14:22Profile
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Thanks Mike.

I guess the reason I would go "rah" "rah" is mainly because Ravenhill is validating very strongly something in my spirit that says my church is heading down the wrong road. For me to hold this view as a minority viewpoint in my church makes ministry very difficult at times . . . "only the sick need a doctor" (add irony here!) So when someone else confirms this, it is exciting.

Now is it here that you are saying be careful to apply this to yourself first? (i.e. "I am talking about you!")

Are you saying that, provided one seemingly meets the standard themselves (for holiness, prayer, "unction," etc.) they should judge others by that standard? ("removing the plank in your own eye so you can then help remove the speck in your brother's eye")

I guess I'm wondering where true Love comes in. The analogy of the burning house is often used here . . . "if you really loved your neighbor, wouldn't you tell them that their house is ablaze?" This is to justify that the "loving" thing to do is to be truthful and spare their lives. But in what way can we be said to act out of love?

For instance (to carry the analogy further) there is a big difference in the real motivations behind telling someone "their house is on fire." I can imagine a loved one forcibly removing their relative from the house with dauntless compassion. I can also picture a fireman very professionally (and dispassionately) "rescuing" the "victim." Can the fireman really claim he is acting from love (or duty?)

And sadly, there may exist a 3rd group who will alert those in danger, but, if they are honest, kind of like watching the house burn ("they had it coming"). So they are really just being "humane" rather than "loving." Which is to say they wouldn't want to live with the guilt of having NOT said anything, so they say it on that ground.

How does one know then if "love" is really motivating their actions? Often we cannot display the fruits of the Spirit, even if we are being truthful.

Sometimes (being honestly) with certain people, I feel like I'm in the third group and I don't like that.

I was studying Finney's Memoirs recently and read that, when he was young, he had great disagreement and struggle with his theology teacher (an old-school Presbyterian.) Writing his recollections down very late in life, he recalled instance after instance of all of the man's personal shortcomings . . . he railed against his theology, training, methods, and even his "calling."

Likewise, Mr. Gale was embarrassed by Finney. After seeing his pupil's first sermon delivery, He said, "I shall be very shamed to have it known that you studied theology with me."

So it was against page after page of this that Finney quickly added in something that shocked me. "Let not the reader from anything I have said suppose that I did not love Mr. Gale, and highly respect him. I did both." What???

He said it, but it just seems so incongruous with all that he had told us before. I was then left to wonder, in what way did Finney "love" Mr. Gale (and highly respect him?)

. . . and in what way do I love those I disagree with.

Mike

 2006/8/6 15:43Profile
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...possibly expecting too much from my fellow brothers and sisters. The question emerges, in the pusuit of renewal and revival, how do we balance the "obvious" truth with the often "elusive" love?



As usual I am busy introspecting over these questions as well.

One thing I submit here is that the world 'balance' may be misinformative to our conversation. I find we too often set up truth and love against each other, like Christian yin and yang, as if they are opposing forces. If we read the old writers of the faith, they held both vitures with singular high esteem. ...no one who fails to act in righteousness belongs to God, nor anyone who does not love his brother. That is to say, God's people can never possess too much truth or too much love all at the same time.

Ever notice how the fire of holiness is often portrayed as the opposite of love? This is the devil's distortion of both holiness and love. Holiness is described by the Beatitudes. Holiness is captured by John when he says Whoever loves his brother remains in the light, and there is nothing in him to cause a fall. The true opposite of love is not hate for sin, but cold indifference and lack of care for anything but one's own impulse.

For me, the real culprit is that love is viewed as a counterbalance to truth, when in reality it is the embodiment of it! When Godly love is absent we can not see the truth about God's worthiness to be glorified. Without love for His laws and ways, we cannot grasp our pitiful need for his salvation, and certainly lack the required inner life that gives us the authority to preach righteousness. Without Godly love we cannot estimate the true corruption of our own souls and emphathize with Christ's heart for other members of the body.

Hatred is the ubiquitous stench of our world. Like many smells, if we live with them too long we soon forget we have an odor as well.

Last week I had a real struggle with a business client. One afternoon I fretted anxiously what kind of Old Testament prayer I should be calling down from heaven to smite my enemy.;-) Yet I found my anger was shutting the door to my prayers...I could sense I was no longer abiding in dear Jesus. How settled I felt when I let my anger go and came before His grace with little agenda but to stay close to Him.

And it was at that point I felt He told me what to do...He told me to treat my client as I would Him! (Not in worship but in service.) Now I don't think there is any business strategy in this, but I find there is fellowship with Jesus in it. Of course I still face the unpleasant mechanics of this piece of business, spending time and labor in ways that peturb and offend me. I trust God can use things that seem unprofitable to us to sanctify us.

Now if I am to treat the 'least of these' in the world to a love I often reserve for God, how much more should I treat the saints of His church!

As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of Faith

Children, let us love not in word or speech but in deed and truth. Now this is how we shall know that we belong to the truth and reassure our hearts before him

God help me abide in the fullness of Christ's love, and never attempt to speak your 'truth' without it.:-)

MC


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My [i]short[/i] opinion is that "balance" is a misleading term; Love and truth are not to be balanced, but we are to speak 100% truth in 100% love. It's not either or, it's both.

Adam


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 Re: Love: leting go

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In a way, it seems to want of humility. And I really don't want to say that . . . but there is just something there that doesn't sit right with every part of my spirit.

Interesting observation. I too read “Why Revival Tarries” and was also deeply impacted. This book gave me a fiery passion for revival. It gave me permission to weep and agonize. But, even more than that: It gave me permission to join in with a hearty “Yeah” and “Amen” – if you know what I mean. Ravenhill has been such a relief for me!

More recently, while listening to a sermon of his (for the second time) I sensed something that I did not catch earlier, while I was too busy being glad to “meet” someone who empathized with my concern over the condition of the church. My new impression, however, was different than yours. I sensed that he was deeply grieving over a revival that hadn’t happened. I wondered if there wasn’t a touch of anger and frustration underneath. I felt a need to erect a bit of a “wall”, and not let myself feel guilt and shame for failing the church. (I have a tendency to do that whenever anything is going wrong) That’s not to say that I did not contribute my fair share to the demise; after all, I was steeped in hypocrisy. Nor am I discounting him in any way. I just point out the fact that we, as fellow humans, are vulnerable, and all subjectively affected by our experiences. And that spills over.

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seems too close to my own fallen nature of combativeness. It's like I "like it" more than I should. Do you know the feeling?


Ouch! I think I know what you mean – and it isn’t pretty. I have, at times, felt a longing to feel vindicated. I suspect that there is a corner in us that likes to take up the fight, the cause, hold a cross in front of us, and march forward – bent on conquest. I’ve seen that instinct acted out here at times.

In a sense Ravenhill is risky. But we would never want to leave him out of the picture, as he is vital. But he is only part of the picture. We need the other parts of the picture, or we will lean to far to one side.

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It is interesting that the Lord always puts some other "word" or experience in my path to seemingly "check" or offset the demands of Truth with the grace of love. Today it was Albert Zehr's message.


Oh, the beauty of the Body with all its different parts!

I listened to Albert Zehr’s sermon…..

Here is a pastor who wept. I too wept with him. How could I not? Much of what he said struck a deep chord within me – stuff we never talk about. I can relate to his grief over his past inability to release others to God to LET GO.. I can relate to his pain over his daughter. I know how hard it is. I used to fear that letting go was being permissive, or even lazy. Why, that could ruin the child - and that would make me look bad. (now there’s the real motive behind controlling)

Albert Zehr, in a most tender way, hits a direct blow on our tendency to control others by trying to force our belief and convictions on them – thinking we are helping God. I realize that this malady must be broken in us or we will always get in God’s way, and be a hindrance to the process of revival in the lives of our loved ones, our church-mates, and our society. Zehr helped me see that when I truly love another, I will always free him or her from myself. I will let him have his own journey, and leave him in God’s hands.

Thanks for bringing balance – or rather, thanks for helping to make the picture more complete.

Diane



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 2006/8/6 20:24Profile
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Ah, what a [i]rich[/i] thread this has become!

You all have done well here giving expression and find I could have done a better job or perhaps put it differently;

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My short opinion is that "balance" is a misleading term; Love and truth are not to be balanced, but we are to speak 100% truth in 100% love. It's not either or, it's both.



Much better stated, and that [i]is[/i] balance! Yes?
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For me, the real culprit is that love is viewed as a counterbalance to truth, when in reality it is the embodiment of it!


!

Thanks for the correction. Sometimes I can be thinking of one thing and expressing another. Recall from earlier days here when first coming upon WRT and the duel aspects of "[i]Yeah, me too![/i]" as well as a sense of how seemingly [i]harsh[/i] it all seemed.. At that time a few of us were talking about 'balancing' the difficulty of a 'hard word' with that a bit more ...pleasant(?)
Think that is more where I was heading. But really, this I thought epitomized it perfectly...

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I was studying Finney's Memoirs recently and read that, when he was young, he had great disagreement and struggle with his theology teacher (an old-school Presbyterian.) Writing his recollections down very late in life, he recalled instance after instance of all of the man's personal shortcomings . . . he railed against his theology, training, methods, and even his "calling."

Likewise, Mr. Gale was embarrassed by Finney. After seeing his pupil's first sermon delivery, He said, "I shall be very shamed to have it known that you studied theology with me."

So it was against page after page of this that Finney quickly added in something that shocked me. "Let not the reader from anything I have said suppose that I did not love Mr. Gale, and highly respect him. I did both." What???

He said it, but it just seems so incongruous with all that he had told us before. I was then left to wonder, in what way did Finney "love" Mr. Gale (and highly respect him?)



Exactly as he did. It is a great misconception that traverses across even many a page here. It comes back to either taking or giving it 'personally'. We should fear nothing of our own Brethren nor should it be something where we are compromising anything, the 'walking on egg shells' principle. At the same time there needs be no unduly, unruly attacks on ones character ... The plank in ones own eye is not just a quick check and run; ("I am O.K., I have this right, everyone else is ...") but having come to a place where you realize truly, experientially, just how far short we all are, not as a nice sentiment, but in real time reality. It tends to flaten everything out. I think it leads right on to this next thought;

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I can relate to his grief over his past inability to release others to God to LET GO.. I can relate to his pain over his daughter. I know how hard it is. I used to fear that letting go was being permissive, or even lazy. Why, that could ruin the child - and that would make me look bad. (now there’s the real motive behind controlling)

Albert Zehr, in a most tender way, hits a direct blow on our tendency to control others by trying to force our belief and convictions on them – thinking we are helping God. I realize that this malady must be broken in us or we will always get in God’s way, and be a hindrance to the process of revival in the lives of our loved ones, our church-mates, and our society. Zehr helped me see that when I truly love another, I will always free him or her from myself. I will let him have his own journey, and leave him in God’s hands.



This is so very succinct Diane. Slowly this has become a realization, it still has it's tentacle's that reach out and grab back at it, but at least in one case this is something I recognized had to be relinquished. Let me clarify that. By one case I do only mean by way of heart felt ... close to home and therefore ... a daily practicing of. Can see bit's of the results already, for myself a whole lot of excess baggage is shed, a whole different perspective on trusting God is required and to the unnamed person ... Let's just say no longer is there even the subtle manipulation expressed via body language, well, most of the time, still have what Compton termed earlier of that OT mentality for a lack of a better description, wanting to raise it's ire and want of a pound of flesh. Even that gets checked and ... mmmm, there are times when the rationalization and 'justification' go round and round in the ol melon making all kinds of logical, righteous sense and yet the Lord says ...

No.

Will have to listen to this message, thanks for bringing it up Mike and Diane, as well as this discussion.


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 Is "balance" the right term?

I guess the term "balance" isn't the best way to express the "doctrinal" connectivity of truth and love, but I think that it is accurate "practically" given the task of living together and "bearing" with one another. What I mean by this is that "love" doesn't exist in a relational vacuum. Even if I am able determine in my spirit that I am acting from love by speaking the truth at a given moment, it may, however, still prove to be highly offensive and difficult for the person on the other end.

Now I could hold the high ground and maintain my "offensive" reproof was indeed the loving thing to do and that the concerned party will someday come to realize it as they grow in grace, but in the meantime I have strained a real relationship in the Body . . . possible winning a battle to lose the war. An idealized, theoretical love fails here. Isn't observable "love" what Jesus is talking about in John 13:35:

"By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another."

It is in this messy relational sense that I mean "balancing" truth and love . . . I think it is a matter of timing and intensity in our daily relationships.

If I could live my life expressing 100% truth in 100% love, concurrently, wouldn't that make me divine?

Hopefully this will all be easier when we get to heaven :)

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 Re: Is "balance" the right term?

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If I could live my life expressing 100% truth in 100% love, concurrently, wouldn't that make me divine?



Maybe it's a wrong approach. I do wonder if sometimes an over analysis cause's paralysis. I think we all do it to some extent. We do ask very often, "how" which can lead to all kinds of predetermined thinking, creating different scenarios, "what if" type scenarios. Or "in this situation, do thus and so" something often too pragmatic and really what a lot of our day presents as Christian 'principles', a verse for every situation.

Maybe a better word for 'balance' is 'blended', where the dichotomy is unnoticeable and ... natural (spiritually speaking). Oswald Chambers puts a lot of emphasis on this; [i]The culture of the Christian life is to learn to be carefully careless over everything saving our relationship to God[/i]

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It is in this messy relational sense that I mean "balancing" truth and love . . . I think it is a matter of timing and intensity in our daily relationships.



You are getting somewhere here, [i]a matter of timing[/i], a matter of being always prayerful (without ceasing) and keeping one's thought's attentive to the Lord's still small voice in that great give and take that is ours.

Feeling too much like Chatty Kathy these days. :-?


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...I think it is a matter of timing and intensity in our daily relationships.



I can understand this 'rendering' of the issue. Also I appreciated Mike's use of the word 'blending' because at least we're not zig zagging between a false dichotomy in our minds!

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What I mean by this is that "love" doesn't exist in a relational vacuum.



Amen. I must say brother you demonstrate an understanding of this with your original burden...

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Moreover, the deeper I get into Wesley and the origins of Methodism, I am convinced that to leave may be to abandon something God is waiting to restore.



What a simple and unassuming manifestation of what Godly love looks like in relationship to people. Your testimony doesn't rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

For what it's worth, I find your burden very encouraging news for the Methodists. Sometimes we may struggle to articulate the correct expression of Christ in words, but nevertheless He is forming in us!

...and Mike said
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Feeling too much like Chatty Kathy these days.



I always welcome your posts brother!

MC


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